Well it would be nice if the provider (or anyone) would be honest about their status and what they are doing to manage their health, if they are on Prep, etc but it is our responsibility to decide if the risk is worth it and take appropriate precautions. This is not just for HIV but also for any STI.
I have a wonderful guy I see monthly for a massage session followed by play. I have a short (5-6) list of guys that I'd like to meet if we are in the same city which only happens once or twice a year at most.
Typically yes but age isn't always a great indicator. I've had older guys flake or play games on me while younger guys (20s-early 30s) were very professional.
Kind of - my extended family has a condo in one of the Colorado ski towns that I can use anytime if it isn't being already booked by family or Airbnb clients. Since I'm the closet "owner" to the property, if there is an emergency, I'm on the hook to drive over to help resolve it.