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I've seen both ends of the spectrum for sure. Some guys want advanced (to varying degrees) booking and others want a same day booking or even treat it like a "right now" Grindr hookup lol. Similar to @cany10011 I've got a crazy work schedule that shifts constantly. So it can sometimes be both hard for me to accept a providers "hey you free right now/tonight?" inquiry or to book in advanced cause sometimes a future night i think i'm free will become a late work night by the time the day actually comes around. And then the majority of the times i randomly find myself free and i hit up my go to providers for "right now" or tonight, that of course is 8 times out of 10 when they're out of town or already booked or not working that night 🤣. There was one time though when i booked a few days in advanced and the night of i actually was still free to hit that scheduled meet. But the provider canceled on me early the day of. He was honest though and told me one of his longer time/higher paying regulars wanted him for that weekend and so me and another client he was scheduled to see got bumped, i understood that from the financial perspective and i appreciated the honesty so i wasn't too annoyed. And he made it up to me later 😉.

I noticed the answer in that thread, someone said they verified their RM photo back in 2016 using the write down a code RM gives you and take a selfie with it method. It's now 2025... Is the photo verification process RM uses any different now? For example, some hookup/dating apps will have you upload a photo and then have you do like a face scan that they (allegedly) only keep temporarily and compare it against the photo you uploaded to verify you. Has RM upgraded to this? Or still doing the code method? I too still find myself coming across profiles that seem odd, but seeing the photos verified badge helps ease the mind. But still am curious what the current process is so i/we have a better idea of how much trust that should give us when browsing/booking. For example, one profile i was interested in a while ago had photos with their face blurred (no clear/unobstructed face photos in public album, private, or premium), but also had the Photos Verified badge. So i'd be very curious to know how that works.

I think that's because you were viewing while not signed into any account. A client account should still be able to see that public nude. I can see public nudes still, but if i log out of my free client account entirely, then that's when i see what you saw with the nudes all being blurred and i get a prompt to login/subscribe. But if you go in to create an account, you still have the option to just setup a free account. They're basically trying to get a new user to go right to make a paid account, but at least as of right now, if they make a free account they still can see the public nudes, but the new user doesn't know that of course. It's a sneaky tactic to point a new user to the paid tier on initial sign up by making them think nudes all require a Premium account even though they actually don't at the moment. Not to say you shouldn't boycott or do whatever you're going to do, just sharing what i found is happening.

I'm so glad Gen Z have brought back teeth jewelry over the last couple years, but in a more minimal way like this. It's so much cuter stuff like this or like the one small diamond in the middle of the tooth compared to when millennials were doing full on grills in the 2000s. I've seen some current young people with like partial grills in their mouth over like 3 or 4 teeth too, but i think maybe the jewelers who make them just have better style in this era maybe. I don't know. And in general, i'm so glad i found this thread! I thought i was the only one with a thing for nice tongues 🤣. A guy who's only mildly/barely attractive can absolutely get in my pants with a cute smile and flick of the tongue 🫣

I do the same thing particularly for guys who travel a lot but don't live in my city. So i don't want to miss it if they are coming, but like others have said, i turned off the profile tracking. So they don't get a notification that tells them i visited their page. From what i can tell, these guys do not want to be contacted. They may be on a break or not taking new clients at the moment but don't want to delete their profile. Or it also just may be that their RM subscription lapsed and they haven't gotten back online to re-up it yet.

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When you communicated with him, did he refuse to give you any useful information about what services he provides and would basically only communicate in one word answers and emojis? Cause i tried to book with him today and that's all i could get out of him. Was absolutely infuriating.

Interesting... That makes it extra silly then that he's got all that attitude about not unlocking his pics when they aren't even him. Pretty standard catfish behavior.

With reverse image search, I found the Instagram account of the influencer/model/personal trainer who the public pics (except maybe the dick pics) really belong to. So you're saying he's not that guy? If he's handsome and body ridiculous, curious why he needs to use someone else's pics 🤔

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No experience with them, but i too have noticed sometimes stumbling upon a profile that's been around a long time but have never seen before and seems to not have reviews/many profile views. I kind of think it's RMs algorithm. There's the front page that just shows guys who pay to be boosted, but a TON of other profiles that you only see if you specifically search for "Nearby Profiles" or do a more specific search with specific parameters/traits selected. Lot of more hot regular guys and not guys who are the most model looking and already have social media/OnlyFans fame like the front page always is. I've noticed it's rare for those guys to ever have a post about them on this forum and if you're the one to make the first post, there's usually only one or two people who have tried them, if that. Sometimes we have to be the one to take the plunge lol.

Agreed, i have no problem doing a deposit if they're a provider who's fairly reputable/trustworthy and it's needed for them to go book the hotel room I'm meeting them at. I only really even need the first point you listed to be fine doing a deposit. I know one provider i hire whenever he's in my city. He saves money on a hotel by staying with an old friend he knows who lives in my city. So he does not host there. I don't host either, so he and i always get a room somewhere for our meets. Only other reason i can think of is certain providers maybe travel with a lot of personal or expensive belongings (one regular of mine always brings a decent amount of his jewelry for when he dresses up to go out places when he isn't seeing clients) and they don't trust having new clients over in the room with their stuff. My favorite traveling provider always does AirB&B instead of hotel though, so he hosts, has places he can put his personal/valuable stuff, can make sure there's parking for the client, no having to deal with everyone seeing us in a lobby together or dealing with front desk staff, etc. It's a really great way to do it. 1. True, but like you said in the last sentence, in their scenario the money is for things they need. A client wasting (what should be) extra fun money they can afford to spend, or lose if a provider flakes vs a provider losing out on actual needed income from their job (whether they have savings or not) if a client flakes, these are not equal or basically the same thing at all. 2. Yeah that is also true (I'm one of those people too), but again, us missing out on a little fun which isn't necessary for us to support our basic needs is not the same as providers losing income. No matter how you split it, the burden is on the provider more than it is on us. That doesn't mean we can't be annoyed when a provider flakes on us though! It's annoying, but that's all it is. They're the ones losing more when they get flaked on.

I agree with others that the annoyance of dealing with flakes cuts both ways, but to me it's obviously worse for the provider. As when a client flakes on them they are losing money, which they obviously use to pay their bills and rent. A flaking client at the wrong time could mean a missed rent payment or other bill for the provider. For us clients, a flaking provider just means "ugh i got ready to bottom for nothing" (even though you could just go get on Grindr/Sniffies or go wake your husband up) or "ugh, i'm still horny, i guess i just have to get myself off tonight instead". They run a business and we're just having fun. So this is worse for one party than the other, it doesn't cut both ways equally.

Yeah pretty sure i also remember seeing this guy under that name before. Seems to have a lot of reviews on RM but hopefully someone's got some experiences with him and can let us know what's up. He's coming to my town later this month.

You're good! Me too. I actually would love to participate in something like what this profile is offering, but yeah this one seems a liiiiiiittle bit suspicious 😆. I would need someone here to co-sign first.

To be fair, this assumes he's only looking to film with typically attractive guys, and I've definitely seen OnlyFans pages of guys who do what this guy claims he's doing where it's not always that same type of guy on the table. Plenty of normal guys/average joes on OnlyFans with subscribers too. Audiences for people without a chiseled jaw and 6-8 pack abs do exist.

Maybe they've exhausted their local supply of guys 😆

Probably both if i had to guess. Probably also could mean available for hire by porn studios. But i would think the two examples you gave probably happen more often.

It wouldn't bother me personally. I wouldn't be obligated to go say hi or talk to them or workout with them every time I'm there. It's very much a "it's only weird if you make it weird" thing in my opinion.

I feel like it's fairly valid considering so many of the messages they get don't go anywhere or are just people wanting to see their pics or sext basically. I'd be more with you on the "prima donna" vibe thing when it's like them saying how VIP/High Class/Expensive/Premium/etc they are like another comment up thread said. Even then though, prima donna vibe is an annoyance, i don't feel it's a real direct indicator they're bad at what they do or are "avoid at all costs". To me "serious inquiries only" is just them listing their own red flags they have for us clients (usually from experience). They're simply requesting efficiency and follow through in the booking process. A real red flag for this would be like mentioned up thread like the provider taking hours/days to respond to texts or constantly shifting an agreed upon meet around when trying to schedule or negotiate with them. That indicates poor time management skill on their part which also would imply to me they might be late or even miss a scheduled meet if they're constantly moving meets around or over booking themself. Which then would also imply maybe you're not getting them at full energy/capability if they did show up. It's an actual performance/product quality indicator.

When i've hired multiple providers at once. So far it's always been they all got an equal rate based on the rate of the main provider i was in initial contact with. I hired 3 guys for a 6 hand massage before. There was a main guy who i contacted through his solo page which directly mentioned he had 2 friends available for 4 or 6 hand massage he was working with (both of whom also had their own individual ads linked). The total i paid was just the main guys solo rate times 3. I paid the main guy the total and he gave the other two their share, mainly just so i didn't have to do 3 different CashApp transactions. All three of them were doing this while in the same city together. So it seemed which ever of the guys got the initial contact was the one who set the group rate, but i'd guess regardless they were all charging the same solo rate anyway to not undercut each other since they're friends. If i was hiring multiple guys independently of each other, just for simplicity sake, i probably would still offer an equal split. Just whatever the average I'm used to paying is (which in my city is 300-400, so somewhere around there) times 3 or however many i was hiring and they could take it or leave it for one of the slots in the group. I wouldn't bother negotiating separate rates with the individual guys because i would just assume they'd talk with each other and the two getting less would likely want what the guy getting the most was getting. So i feel like why not just skip that part lol. And paying them unevenly wouldn't feel right to me anyway.

Isn't this just a mild annoyance rather than an actual red flag? I feel like half the stuff in this thread are mild annoyances at best and not actual signs of a scammer or bad bedroom experience.

Everyone has different preferences. For example, i think what he's got looks great. "Disfiguring adornments" is really over the top to me lol. I love tattoos personally. Literally the only ones i actively don't like and can be very put off by are face tattoos (and even with those, i can handle a very small one if it's a guy I'm not dating). I've never seen tattoos the way I'm noticing most on here do as being something that are ugly and ruin the body. I really love how tattoos can play with the positive and negative space of the body. Even the old guy in the pic posted above, i personally think he's rocking that shit and has some really interesting pieces on him. But yeah, obviously everybody isn't into that 🤷‍♂️. But as far as what goes through their heads when they get these, it's usually "wow i love this artists work, i want that on me" or "this piece really encapsulates where I'm at in life right now" or "this will balance out the tat i have on my left side" and stuff like that. If you had any genuine curiosity for what goes into tattoo thought process. Yeah i messaged him earlier to see if he has any near future travel plans to my city and the first thing i got was an auto reply with his OnlyFans link in it. Though, he later did reply and confirmed he'll be in my city eventually. His number was in the auto-reply, but i can't say if he's down to actually meet and do stuff till he's in my city. Hopefully you or someone else can confirm for us 🙏

Guys like this make me want to move to San Jose 🥵

Confirmed! Two of my favorite regular providers are Filipinos and they indeed consistently have the cleanest holes I've ever rimmed. 🤣