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Not to be trite, nor am I trying to be flip or fresh, but one makes do. Or one waits until a provider that one likes visits your area. It helps if you have friends or acquaintances who also hire as they might be able to refer you to men who do not post on RM or RMass. (I had a friend who was a wiz at procuring providers and he regularly sent these guys my way. Alas, he moved.) I’m curious as to what others have to say.

G*ddamn, Daddy! Give me a whiff of that manscent!!!

Santa? In my bedroom? Merry Christmas to me!!!

This also reminds me of what I think is one of the best “Will & Grace” lines ever: ”It’s Christmas! Think about the baby Jesus! Up there in his tower … waiting to let his hair down … so the three Wise Men can climb up to spin the dreidel and see if there’s six more weeks of winter.”

Had to think about that one for a minute …

I think we can all see why and how dude needs the support.

I have one (1) regular provider whom I see at my home. I had one (1) provider whom I saw at my home but I won’t be asking him back anytime soon. (Sexy SOB, though.) Otherwise it’s always at a hotel. Most of the providers I see, I see on the road. @nomad said it best about simplicity and the fact that you don’t have to clean up afterwards when using a hotel. (I always leave at least five bucks for housekeeping.)

… and a soft place upon which to lay my head …

ohmyGodohmyGodohmyGodohmyGod!!! CHEST CURLS!!!

Thank you, YES, that is some meaty man-ass!!!

@BCMan thank you for that follow up. Working in reverse, do not be shy about asking for what you want. I want to believe that most of these guys are pros and they have heard it all before. When I struggled once to ask for what I wanted my provider said to me, “Michael - a closed mouth does not get fed.” Solved that problem. And it gave me a great deal of confidence to ask for what I want. From him and from others. Moving on, you provided your provider with a comfortable, clean hotel room and stocked it with drinks & snacks. I feel safe in saying that - most likely - they ARE enjoying themselves. Don’t worry about it - and don’t feel like you have to do more. From my own life I can tell you that I spent years making “grand gestures” only to discover that it was the smaller ones that meant the most to the recipient. You are kind to consider your provider’s preferences and tastes when choosing restaurants, but do not lose sight that the provider wants YOU to be happy, also. (Case in point - I was once accompanied by a vegetarian to a steakhouse.) I think you’re a very kind person to be so gracious concerning your provider’s needs and wants. I hope your providers take care of you as well as you care for them.

@BCMan I’m not quite sure I understand your query … and I’ll freely admit I’m not the sharpest tool in the shed. Are you talking about offering your provider refreshment? Or are you referring to requests that you might make in the bedroom?

OMG! I’m amazed I never got busted doing this very thing in the health club locker room. I was very young and this was back in the 80’s when there weren’t cameras everywhere. I was 18/19 years old and I would boldly swipe the briefs and jocks of the hairy daddies I worked out next to. Then take them to my car and sniff them.

The airport viewing park at 40th Street and University Blvd on the Rio Salado bike trail next to the south runway (7R/25L) at Phoenix Sky Harbor. Those folks on the left side of the aircraft got a hell of a show as they were landing that night! Not to mention what the bike riders saw as they wizzed past!

The question - Is going to college still worth it? — the answer is YES. Anymore you’re gonna need that degree to get a job. ANY job. Even a job that might not necessarily need a degree? If you’ve got your degree it gives you an edge. But it’s more than that. You go to college, not to learn a trade but to be an educated person. Then there are the social and networking aspects. Socially? You’re supposed to be having fun! Networking? Someone said this earlier but you’d be amazed how the contacts you make at college can help you later. My greatest regret is that I did not allow myself the college experience. Other gay men I went to high school with left NM for their university studies; they’d return for holidays and regale me with tales of all the dick they were getting. “Mike, you have NO IDEA how much cock there is out there!” In addition to an education, I missed out on that. My friends all got degrees that helped put them on the path to their success. (I have hardly been unsuccessful, but I wish I had followed the advice of many a man and woman and gone to college right outta high school. And further gone to school in another state.)

This is SO true! When you have and exude confidence no one notices your bald spot.

My first hire had to have been in the 1st decade of this millennium; I couldn’t say exactly when. I do remember that it was at the Doubletree Hotel near Phoenix Sky Harbor. It did not go well; I had no idea how to go about it or what I was doing, really. I recall I paid $150 just for him to show up; once he got there the upsell began. Cute guy; I found him in Echo magazine’s porn/personal services supplement - was it called X-Factor? (Echo was the Phoenix-area gay magazine.) Anyway, again, it wasn’t a good 1st hire. The 2nd, 3rd and subsequent hires went much, much better. In the past 20 years I’ve had some great hires and some not-so-great hires. I recall a long weekend in Phoenix in 2011 that was an embarrassment of riches and a plethora of naked man flesh all fueled by Benjamins with all providers plucked from CL. 2012 was another bountiful year in Phoenix. Since then most of my hires are found in Dallas, Phoenix, Las Vegas and Los Angeles/Long Beach. Getting a waiter or bartender to allow me to hire him for dessert is a fantasy still unfulfilled.

I have picked up more than one discarded Speedo at the beach …

GASP! Not on the good china! And is that my Francis I silver?

Wow. Wow. Now THAT is a bulge! Damn!

Thank you! Very kind to send that along.

My God! That head of hair!

I’m kinda surprised no one has chimed in. Exhibitionism is NOT taking the opportunity to waggle cool air on your asshole … but I can understand the appeal. No, exhibitionism is when you get off on people looking at you. Watching you. Particularly when naked or when having sex. Exhibitionism is when several men gather outside my hotel room where I left the curtains open so that they could watch while my back door was being railed by a handsome muscle daddy. I couldn’t see them watching me and I didn’t care that they were watching me. In fact it AROUSED me no end to know that men were watching my fat ass getting fucked. Exhibitionism is swimming up to the man with his feet in the pool, spreading his legs apart and sucking his hard dick to completion in front of 20 other guys, most of whom start stroking their own cocks. It’s not the watching - that’s voyeurism - it’s performing, for wont of another word, performing an illicit act in front of others and it turns you on yet you don’t care that you’re being watched. I welcome other opinions but that’s exhibitionism to me. And yes, I’m a perv. 😛

Hey - you are neither ridiculous nor dense. And don’t let anyone tell you that you are. It’s better to ask questions and learn how to enjoy a butt plug safely and properly than doing it incorrectly and possibly injuring yourself. With that I will defer to others more informed than I to offer advice. I do not know what in what city you’re located, but if you’re in a bigger metropolitan you can probably get great advice and info at your local “gay store” or sex shop. Or, and don’t laugh, consult with your doctor or get a referral to a colorectal specialist. (I did and he was great!) If you’re anywhere near Phoenix go talk to Trey at Off Chute and he will take care of you. Happy Plugging!!

Yes. I think I see a way that you can be made part of the team, son.