Wings246

I live in the gayest city of the bluest state of the West Coast and my HMO devotes a ton of resources to preventive health so my access to sexual health care is not a problem.
I get all my testing done once every 3 months during one 15-minute visit (Syphilis + creatinine + HIV via blood tests, Chlamydia + Gonorrhea throat swab, Chlamydia + Gonorrhea rectal swab, Chlamydia + Gonorrhea urine test).  The results are available within 24 hours and they are all posted on my online medical record for me to see in about a day.  Then, my PrEP & DoxyPEP prescriptions will be refilled the next day.  Everything is pretty streamlined and “autopiloted.”  I suppose that’s the “advantage” of living in a major metropolitan area.

Oh, he certainly knew how to use his tongue.  Talking was by far the least stimulating & least creative skill facilitated by his tongue action.

I figure this much is true for me: the less pretense the person puts up and the more authentic the person is to himself, the more turned on I become.  Authenticity enhances my (probably delusional) imagination.  So when he speaks in his native tongue, I'm one step closer to his true self.  I guess that's partially where my arousal originates.

Oh, he certainly knew how to use his tongue.  Talking was by far the least stimulating & least creative skill facilitated by his tongue action.

I recently met with an irresistible Italian stud.  I didn’t know he had an Italian accent beforehand, but as soon as he started talking, I could feel something stirring in my big head and little head.
The Italian accent wasn’t too thick — something else down South TRULY was thick though.  As the activities intensified and the dirty talks ramped up, I melt into him and lost all senses of time and space. 
The ultimate KO: he fully switched over to Italian when we approached the finishing line.  I did NOT understand a single syllable he uttered and yet, somehow, that completely sent me to heaven.  I never realized I would respond to an accent this way.  I found it super sexy, arousing, mesmerizing, and hypnotizing.
Anybody had similar experiences?

I completely agree with your assessment on the toxicity of social media on our society, Mark_fl. “ Instant gratification and anonymity are causing a downward spiral.” Perfectly stated and accurate statement!
 
The anonymity and lack of respect for others, definitely plays a huge roll in many of the struggles that providers have to deal with. 
I have befriended two of my regular providers. The stories of cyber bullying, stalking and harassment that they have shared with me are frightening. One of the provders never hosts at his own home, due to safety and security issues. These providers are well established, and have numerous positive reviews on CoM and RM.   
In closing, I just want to thank all of the awesome providers who are working hard, being kind and caring to their clients, despite the barrage of negativity and toxicity. Your service to our community is greatly appreciated and valued. 
Being an eternal optimist, I believe we can do better with each other on this awesome platform. Showing kindness and respect for each other, is crucial to the future success of our community. As the world becomes more complicated and challenging, we as a gay community need to tolerate and accept and embrace each other, despite our differences. 

With Respect to all of the providers and clients in this community. 
 
Dave M. 

I figure this much is true for me: the less pretense the person puts up and the more authentic the person is to himself, the more turned on I become.  Authenticity enhances my (probably delusional) imagination.  So when he speaks in his native tongue, I'm one step closer to his true self.  I guess that's partially where my arousal originates.

I saw an ad for an escort who had attended culinary school.  For an extra fee, he’d include a dinner and drinks in his sessions.  I can’t remember where I saw that though.  It’s been a few years.

While I'm super-discreet about hiring, I never considered this before, mostly because my communications with providers are through my burner phone.  That being said, I like receiving a "thank you" text after a session, at least with a new hire.  I'm sure it's just marketing, but it does reenforce any positive feeling I may have had from the session.   After a session with a new hire, I decide whether the provider is someone I'd like to see regularly (most all of my hiring is of a regular).  Some clearly fit in that category, some clearly don't, but for some I'm not sure so I consider going back for a second session to make up my mind.  For those in the last category, a "thank you" could be enough to change the result in my thinking.  
With a regular hire, a "great seeing you again" text as opposed to a "thank you" text deepens the connection we've already established, though not getting a text afterwards isn't a big deal.  

I generally will reach out to a provider I enjoyed,  just to let them know I'm open to communicating. 
Just something like, "Thank you for the good time. Hope you made it home safely" or a comment about something we spoke about.  "Good luck in your new apartment."
They usually respond, and unless there is a question or something requiring a response, I let it go there.  I don’t want to be a pest, but want the communication door open.

Starting a session with a joint shower is hot AF, IMHO.  It achieves multiple purposes, including:
ensures you are BOTH as clean as possible allows you to explore each others bodies creates an ice-breaker gets you revved up for the apres-shower experience I love the process of getting someone all soapy!  Sliding my hands all over their body.
Hell, if the vibe is right you could complete your entire experience there (in the shower).
I do recommend letting your provider know that's how you'd like to start the session.
Jump in!
 

Good try.  I don't live there, but I can probably retire early there comfortably tomorrow, considering my current income and the cost of living in ID.   😆

I figure this much is true for me: the less pretense the person puts up and the more authentic the person is to himself, the more turned on I become.  Authenticity enhances my (probably delusional) imagination.  So when he speaks in his native tongue, I'm one step closer to his true self.  I guess that's partially where my arousal originates.

I live in the gayest city of the bluest state of the West Coast and my HMO devotes a ton of resources to preventive health so my access to sexual health care is not a problem.
I get all my testing done once every 3 months during one 15-minute visit (Syphilis + creatinine + HIV via blood tests, Chlamydia + Gonorrhea throat swab, Chlamydia + Gonorrhea rectal swab, Chlamydia + Gonorrhea urine test).  The results are available within 24 hours and they are all posted on my online medical record for me to see in about a day.  Then, my PrEP & DoxyPEP prescriptions will be refilled the next day.  Everything is pretty streamlined and “autopiloted.”  I suppose that’s the “advantage” of living in a major metropolitan area.

I live in the gayest city of the bluest state of the West Coast and my HMO devotes a ton of resources to preventive health so my access to sexual health care is not a problem.
I get all my testing done once every 3 months during one 15-minute visit (Syphilis + creatinine + HIV via blood tests, Chlamydia + Gonorrhea throat swab, Chlamydia + Gonorrhea rectal swab, Chlamydia + Gonorrhea urine test).  The results are available within 24 hours and they are all posted on my online medical record for me to see in about a day.  Then, my PrEP & DoxyPEP prescriptions will be refilled the next day.  Everything is pretty streamlined and “autopiloted.”  I suppose that’s the “advantage” of living in a major metropolitan area.

I have difficulty thinking of this as a fetish unless this would be a fixed requirement for sexual responsiveness from arousal to completion.  
I love how different languages sound.   Hearing someone speak in his/her language simply adds a layer of understanding and appreciation.  As a part of sexual activity, I could find it "super sexy, arousing, mesmerizing, and hypnotizing."  What a wonderful world we live in!

I recently met with an irresistible Italian stud.  I didn’t know he had an Italian accent beforehand, but as soon as he started talking, I could feel something stirring in my big head and little head.
The Italian accent wasn’t too thick — something else down South TRULY was thick though.  As the activities intensified and the dirty talks ramped up, I melt into him and lost all senses of time and space. 
The ultimate KO: he fully switched over to Italian when we approached the finishing line.  I did NOT understand a single syllable he uttered and yet, somehow, that completely sent me to heaven.  I never realized I would respond to an accent this way.  I found it super sexy, arousing, mesmerizing, and hypnotizing.
Anybody had similar experiences?

Depending on where you live (e.g. in major cities where cost of living is higher than the sky), hiring may actually be cheaper than a casual, sexless date night.  Meal + transportation + entertainment for 2 can easily go above the average rate of a provider.  And the worst part is: satisfaction is NOT always guaranteed on a casual, sexless date night.

I recently met with an irresistible Italian stud.  I didn’t know he had an Italian accent beforehand, but as soon as he started talking, I could feel something stirring in my big head and little head.
The Italian accent wasn’t too thick — something else down South TRULY was thick though.  As the activities intensified and the dirty talks ramped up, I melt into him and lost all senses of time and space. 
The ultimate KO: he fully switched over to Italian when we approached the finishing line.  I did NOT understand a single syllable he uttered and yet, somehow, that completely sent me to heaven.  I never realized I would respond to an accent this way.  I found it super sexy, arousing, mesmerizing, and hypnotizing.
Anybody had similar experiences?

I can't agree more.  Everybody (especially the young ones) is offended by just about everything every 15 minutes nowadays.  And when you attempt to rationalize normal human behaviors, you become the toxic villain, then you get labeled & cancelled & sent to HR for interrogations.  It is essentially psychological/social/cultural terrorism.  At the end, everyone is forced to blend in and play the fake-ass, politically correct game together just so that the fragile egos of the younglings (snowflakes???) can be preserved.

I share the same feelings.  I bet some of us here do as well.  That's probably why a few members here use the concept of "cheating" to describe seeing someone new.  I know the analogy is a joke, but loyalty / faithfulness is a very strange factor that can somehow influence the decision making process.   😅

Me three, and of course it's purely for the sake of psychology and sociology research.
All jokes aside, I recall reading this heartfelt, amazing story: 
 

I share the same feelings.  I bet some of us here do as well.  That's probably why a few members here use the concept of "cheating" to describe seeing someone new.  I know the analogy is a joke, but loyalty / faithfulness is a very strange factor that can somehow influence the decision making process.   😅

I share the same feelings.  I bet some of us here do as well.  That's probably why a few members here use the concept of "cheating" to describe seeing someone new.  I know the analogy is a joke, but loyalty / faithfulness is a very strange factor that can somehow influence the decision making process.   😅