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Absolutely agree with this.  I know many people only care about the STICK on the South Pole (length, girth, etc.).  To me, however, the face is more valuable.  In particular, the eyes are critical.  Nothing can provoke me more than an intense, suggestive, and lustful gaze.  There is a reason why they are window to the soul.  None of this is possible without a face pic.  For that, a face pic is more important than a dick pic.

These are perks that Sugar Babies expect of Sugar Daddies. I am neither but wonder whether something was inadvertently conveyed in your offers that lead to the confusion. In any event, they sound quite entitled. 

I wouldn’t even consider it.  If a regular provider grew a beard or shaved one off, I might comment on which looked better, but I would never suggest they shave their chest, get a nose job, or consider investing in a toupee.  Likewise I wouldn’t appreciate a provider who told me I should do any of those things unless we had transitioned from a business relationship to a close friend relationship.

Very important to me.  I’m not going to constantly sign in to RM to check for messages.  I prefer text 

Exactly! As a very short guy, if I came across a provider with a profile that says “tall guys only”, I would be completely turned off from hiring him because I would know for sure that my defining physical characteristic makes me the exact opposite of someone he would be attracted to. Even if he is amazing at his job and 100% capable of performing and faking attraction to me, I would feel “yucky” deep down because I would know there’s not a chance he’s genuinely enjoying my company.

Does he count as bald?

@DunwoodyGuy: Did it cross your mind that this could possibly be a police sting?  First, it was payment (i.e. deposit) to solicit sex.  Then, it became illegal drug procurement.  It sounds very much like a mousetrap to me.

I’ve only been in this world for a bit more than a year.  I did share similar sentiments with you when I first started.  I worried about this and that and questioned if I would be rejected for ABC and XYZ reasons.
Trust me, there is absolutely nothing that the providers haven’t heard or seen.  I’m very sure most, if not all, providers will welcome you with open arms (and many other body parts).
There’s too much fun to be had.  Don’t waste time and energy on second guessing yourself.

I’ve only been in this world for a bit more than a year.  I did share similar sentiments with you when I first started.  I worried about this and that and questioned if I would be rejected for ABC and XYZ reasons.
Trust me, there is absolutely nothing that the providers haven’t heard or seen.  I’m very sure most, if not all, providers will welcome you with open arms (and many other body parts).
There’s too much fun to be had.  Don’t waste time and energy on second guessing yourself.

Interesting topic.
I don’t think this is about whether providers are “allowed” to have preferences — of course they are. That part feels obvious.
What this situation highlights for me is something a bit deeper about how these bookings actually work.
When people hire, they’re not just paying for the physical act. Part of the value is the feeling of being wanted, or at least not being actively outside of someone’s type. It’s understood that it’s transactional, but there’s still a layer of perceived desire that makes the experience land differently.
Seeing a personal profile that’s very blunt or exclusionary doesn’t offend me — but it does change the framing. It introduces a gap between how someone presents professionally versus how they express themselves personally, and that gap can make the experience feel more transactional than immersive.
At that point, it’s not about judging him or taking it personally. It’s just a different risk profile as a client:
higher chance the vibe feels mechanical less confidence in genuine engagement harder to buy into the experience So for me, it’s less “he shouldn’t have preferences” and more “this specific signal lowers the value of the booking.”
Everyone’s threshold will be different, but I don’t think it’s unreasonable to factor that into a decision and just move on.

After looking at all these pictures, I’m drooling.  And erect.

As the cosmic energy of this world would have it, I ran into a random guy who fit all of these criteria flawlessly when I was shopping at Costco this morning.  I was paralyzed... hahahahaha!  Of course nothing happened, but for a second, I thought he caught me staring at him.  Too bad I didn't take a picture of him.  I get all excited just thinking about him right now.    😅   🤤

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Spot on.  I'm not offended or upset in any way.  The provider is entitled to his opinions and preferences and I wish him nothing but the best.  I just found it interesting and wondered how others felt about it.  
This is similar to why I wouldn't shop at Hobby Lobby because of their very public and open support of policies and practices I find offensive.   Viewed from that angle, the provider did me a favor.  I moved on to another provider and had a great time with zero knowledge of his personal quirks and idiosyncrasies.  

On the contrary, many of us here LOVE assholes!  💕 🍑 

It's pretty normal yeah. You are not messaging the wrong guys. Most you might get asked is what you like/want to do if you don't open with that yourself. How you want to pay. Whether you want to come to the provider or have the provider come to you if you don't make that clear yourself first. Some of the newer/younger provider guys actually will ask you for a photo to see if you're attractive or not, but that's actually very much not the norm for most male providers. Most are totally prepared to see you sight unseen.
They don't! But the odds are low. Female providers just are more likely targets for law enforcement, physical/sexual assault, human trafficking, and they are more at risk for STDs because women have less protections against them outside of vaccinations and condom use. So they have to put in more effort to protect themselves against all of that.
Male providers who see male clients and the male clients seeking them on the other hand are much smaller portion of the sex work industry and as such are less likely to be targeted by law enforcement. Male providers are less likely to be victims of assault by client (not to say it never happens, it's just less likely). Also, lots of gay/bi men are used to anonymous meetups or meeting total strangers for sex based on  none, one, or a few pics in the middle of the night at places they've never been via hookup apps like Grindr or Sniffies. So that same cavalierness transfers to this.
Not sure if you're just new to hiring male providers, or totally new to men in general...
But STDs are somewhat less of a concern because men who have sex with men specifically have access to medications like PrEP as well as Doxy Pep that drastically lower our risk of catching STDs. These medications are targeted at the the men who have sex with men community because we're a smaller community that is having more sex, so when STDs do go around they spread in the community much faster. So the focus on STD spread suppression and medical study and preventative treatment dissemination is generally focused on the LGBTQ+ community because we had the AIDS epidemic in the 80s/90s.
And simultaneously most of those medications are not tested on or approved for women yet. So with female providers, all the onus of STD mitigation is largely on the client. They have to trust you'll bring condoms or use the ones they give you or trust you on whatever your last test results you had that you tell them, with not much else to fall back on.
Male providers can take these medications on their own and be more in control of the amount of risk they're taking when they engage in sexual activity. PrEP is a pill you take once a day and is 99% effective against preventing HIV infection. And there are newly available injection versions. One is a once every 2 months shot and the other is a twice a year shot. Both with the same effectiveness as the once a day pill version.
Doxy Pep is a pill much like the morning after pill/Plan B that you take after a sexual encounter. You have up to 72 hours to take it but the closer you take it to when the sex happened the better it works. It lowers chances of getting syphilis, gonorrhea, and chlamydia by 50-80%. Those and most other STDs are curable or treatable or are something you won't get because you likely received a vaccine for it as a child, like HPV.
Gaining and keeping access to PrEP and Doxy Pep requires that you get tested for STDs every 3 months too. So people who do catch something are finding out quickly and getting treated sooner which ultimately lowers spread overall. So we're at a point where many male providers and men who have sex with men just in general feel ok to just take the pills/shot and have their fun/do their job with no questions asked. They accept the much reduced risk.
There are concerns that STDs are becoming resistant to these drugs (there's a particularly strain of gonorrhea that is becoming an issue, but also just last year a new highly effective treatment was FDA approved), but it's something the medical field is closely watching out for. Which is part of why access to PrEP/Doxy Pep requires you be tested regularly so they can keep track of infection spikes and such. Not much else to be done about it till it actually happens in a more serious way beyond that.
So, yeah male providers just don't really ask many questions. It just makes the initial interaction/setup way more efficient, but it probably feels sketchy as hell when you're new to this side of it as a client. That's absolutely how i felt when i was new to this.

I also need a face pic, both to see that the escort turns me on (and the face is the biggest driver of that) and that he's got something going on upstairs.  I don't mean that he's intelligent (we're not going to discuss economic theory) but that he has an active mind that's present and engaged.  A good face will make up for a good but not great body, while an awesome body won't make up for a vacant stare.  

I need to see a provider's face pics. This can sound shallow but if I'm spending a nice chunk of change to hire you I wanna make sure you turn me on. I had a friend for instance who had an amazing athletic sexy body but just not a good looking guy. Could have been one of those old school headless male underwear models.