Wings246

Personal experiences tell me that this is largely true. Just because someone has a lot of something (i.e. $$$) doesn't mean that he's interested in sharing it. Alternatively, some may argue that these people are wealthy because they are cheap.

Depending on where you live (e.g. in major cities where cost of living is higher than the sky), hiring may actually be cheaper than a casual, sexless date night. Meal + transportation + entertainment for 2 can easily go above the average rate of a provider. And the worst part is: satisfaction is NOT always guaranteed on a casual, sexless date night.

Another quick Google search yields some additional results, most of which are quite disappointing though: 1. https://www.gigolodirect.com/en/ There are a handful of gay/bisexual male escorts here. 2. https://www.gigolo-escort.co.uk/escortservice/escort-men/ All of them easily fit OP's requests; unfortunately, the target audience is female. 3. https://cowboys4angels.com/all-cowboys/ This is another site that is full of possibilities; however, again, it's for female only. If there are gay versions of #2 and #3 above, OP will be swimming in joy. 😉

I am a peasant and I'll never be able to afford what you describe unless I win the jackpot of the next lottery. But I just did a quick Google search by typing in "super high end male escorts for gay men" and I found: https://www.themaleescortagency.com/us/ Does this website fulfill your requirements?

Yes, it is not any different from accepting a less-than-desirable job offer while waiting for a better one tomorrow. The same is applicable to anyone in any occupation. This is the most basic economics concept of opportunity cost we learned in high school (or even younger than that).

Well, young ≠ fuckable. I am not 36, but I'm not fuckable at every age/stage of my life. So no matter how old I am, I would never be able to "get it for free." As a result, I am here. 😂

I cannot agree more. I'm still pretty new and inexperienced in all these. I need someone who knows exactly what he's doing so that he can take care of me, not the other way around.

I see that some US members still do not know how to use free VPN to gain access to read the written portion of RM reviews. I was clueless in the past as well. After much trial and error, I figure out this method. It’s totally free and I assume it is relatively safe and secure. Here is the step-by-step breakdown: 1. Go to: https://www.proxysite.com/ 2. In the middle of the page, choose a random EU Server, type in https://rentmen.eu/ and click GO 3. Keep choosing the RENTMEN.EU option on the pop-up screen(s) 4. On top of the page, type in the provider name you like (I’m using Dominus as an example only) and click Go 5. Scroll to the middle of the page and click on “Read All Reviews about Dominus” 6. You have arrived at the final destination. This method works for me every time. I hope it will work for you too! Disclaimer: I am NOT the most computer literate person. So if you see any problems with this method and/or if you have better suggestions, please feel free to enlighten me. Thanks in advance.

I’m surprised I’m not alone in this feeling, that I’m not the odd one out here. I’ve been operating under the (perhaps false) assumption that most people seek those in their 20’s. Personally, the emotional/psychological aspects are just as important as the physical ones in a BFE. It is probably dangerous to generalize, but I feel a 20-something cannot offer me that emotional/psychological satisfaction I need. I’d feel like I’m babysitting (or worse yet, taking advantage of) a child, which is the quickest boner killer for me.

The above being said, regardless of my response to your initial questions, I personally prefer men who are 35+. The smaller the age gap (between him and me), the better. It helps to improve the “realism” of my imagination, among many, many other additional reasons.

Age — even when you assume it’s reported accurately and truthfully, which is a big assumption to begin with — is not necessarily the best indicator of reliability or flakiness. I’d rather look at the longevity of the person’s career to gauge his trustworthiness. To me, for example, a 29-year-old who has been doing it since 18 is far more dependable than a 41-year-old who started 3 months ago. The duration of his on-the-job experiences indirectly tells me that he must be doing something right to have lasted this long. I imagine it would be tough for someone to keep scamming hundreds, if not thousands, of people for years and keep surviving in the same field. At the very least, he would’ve been slaughtered alive by the COM members here, right? 😁

I live in a city of the West Coast with unbearably high cost of living. Hence, the providers’ average hourly rates rival those of NYC. Regardless, I have been consistently tipping at least 20%. Here’s my rationale: I normally book 2-hour appointments. The providers almost always give a 15% to 20% discount when you book more than an hour. In my mind, the 20% tips more or less cancel out the discounts. It is essentially what they would’ve received had they not offered the discount. That said, my providers do look surprised and delighted when I include that 20% tips. It’s probably because they don’t expect anything on top of their higher-than-usual base rates.

Just out of curiosity, if and only if you don't mind sharing: what's the ballpark figure of this price tag?

Some people associate beard / facial hair with maturity. For those who are seeking the daddy types, beard / facial hair will be a stimulus.

I do see the frustrations when appearances deviate from what are advertised. It can directly influence someone's desirability. I do have a weird take on this though. A few providers asked me what I preferred (e.g. clean shaven vs bearded, hair style, wardrobe). To their surprises, my reply has been consistent: "I like you exactly the way you are. There is no need for you to make any changes for me." My rationale: the more real and authentic they are, the easier it is for me to fall under their illusions because their acting becomes more believable when they are true to themselves. That, in turn, enhances my imagination/fantasy of a BFE.

This seems like an eternal debate and there is no correct answer; I’m just trying to rationalize both perspectives. I personally believe both sides are valid. On one hand, it’s the principle of opportunity cost. It’s your time that’s being compensated, regardless of your expected labor output. On the other hand, the value/intensity/complexity of your labor output should be considered. For instance, providers with dual roles of escorts and masseurs typically charge lower rates for massages than for bedroom activities. Applying the same logic, wouldn’t companionship be less labor intensive than actual sexual activities and be priced at a reduced rate? Now, I can see some may argue that being emotionally and intelligently engaged in a companionship arrangement may be more exhausting than a hit-and-run quickie. Then, that will be another story……

Sometimes, I see them as magicians and myself as that audience member who volunteers to participate in their magic tricks on stage. I know it’s all fake, but I’m still amazed and amused by their skillfully staged illusions. Alternatively, they are award-winning method actors. They become the characters they play and I am cast as the opposing lead. I figure the key is to enjoy the magic shows and theatrical performances while they last and return to real life after the paid entertainment ends.

To a certain extent, posting here, even though anonymously, is a twisted form of coming out. At least that's how I feel about it. I know it sounds silly -- and maybe even laughable to some -- but it is somewhat cathartic and comforting at the same time. Interestingly, it is so much easier to tell strangers (e.g. my primary care doctor, all the providers I've met, and people here) than those you love/care the most.

You may also consider posting your interests and what you're looking for here (or on "The Deli" section) as a new topic to seek suggestions. The collaborative power on CoM is quite impressive.

The problem is: filters are useful if and only if the statistics and descriptors are accurately reported. We all know honesty and precision are not guaranteed on RM profiles. So to answer your question, probably < 5%.

I have no intention to derail the central subject of this thread, but here is a separate but related question: if an AI provider is available, would you consider hiring him/her/it (e.g. Dolores in Westworld, but turn her into him/her/it or whatever you desire)?

Yes, I feel that quality is going in the opposite direction of quantity. It takes more time to scroll/filter through the longer lists of RM profiles, but the end results are more or less the same as before.

I, too, often struggle with the balance between reality and illusion — I’d rephrase it as illusion and not delusion. On one hand, I need to be fooled by the illusion to enjoy the experience, but on the other hand, I have to constantly remind myself that none of it is real. Otherwise, the pitfall described by the OP will ensue. However, the problem is that the thought of reality is a major boner killer for me. I realize I must learn how to compartmentalize: let my brain be tricked for pleasure for the duration of the appointment but set an alarm to wake myself up to reality afterwards.

The question applies to both sides (clients & providers). And do you treat him any differently after achieving the "regular" status? If so, in what way(s)?

This situation is a mirror image of the age shaving "phenomenon," except that one is inflated whereas the other is deflated.