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I only do this for my favorites and of course there are good reasons why they become my favorites. For a few, I even get to know them well enough that I know the exact dates of their birthdays (and yes, that means I know their real ages). My rationale for gifts: oftentimes, I’m “socially coerced” into contributing to a coworker’s wedding / baby shower gift. It is considered impolite and/or socially inept to not participate even though I barely know this so-called coworker. If I am doing this for an almost stranger, why should I hesitate to do the same for someone who shares such unspeakably intimate moments with me? I am a lazy and uncreative gifter. So gift cards are the easiest solutions. That said, I do pay close attention to my favorites’ hobbies and likes/dislikes and pick the types of gift cards that suit their preferences (e.g. movies, music, sports, electronics). And when I run out of ideas, Amazon never fails!

I have -- maybe too many. Sometimes, I feel like I am too trusting and share too much about my personal life. Perhaps that's the reason why they respond in kind. Many providers tell me about their families, real-life jobs, dating histories, traumas, etc. I won't necessarily label the feeling as "guilty"; I'd rather call it empathetic. I often think: he's such an attractive person (physically) with such a gentle, kind, and lovely soul/personality. Why does he have to do this to earn some extra $$$? But then I'd wake up and realize that I, too, hate my job. The "job" is just a means to an end. So we are not necessarily any different in this respect. Yeah, so, no, you are absolutely not alone in this feeling & experience.

One of these 2 replies alone will immediately & completely shut me down. It's screaming: "I'll hijack the situation and blackmail you at the moment" when you are least likely to say no. Run -- don't walk -- away please.

Is SF more "affordable" in your personal experience? I'm looking really hard and I can hardly find people in the range that you mentioned. Can you send me some recommendations/examples? Please DM me if you want to remain discreet. Thanks in advance!

Is he an actual financial advisor/planner in his daily life?

Not identical at all. Quite different indeed.

And demand a price match if he/they insist(s) one is stealing the pic from the other? 😆

https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/insight/san-francisco-rent-soars-to-5-200-leading-2026-us-list/gm-GM7F157721?gemSnapshotKey=GM7F157721-snapshot-1&ocid=st I’m not sure how objectively accurate this article is, but all the news are pointing to the fact that every price tag is increasing. It seems the only number that is not rising is our wages. SF and NYC are neck and neck in most cost of living metrics. Just the other day, the news on TV states that there is a constant influx of high-tech companies and employees in SF. As a result, there is no shortage of tenant supply. In many cases, there is a bidding war among tenants, which, of course, ultimately drives up the rents. At the end, the cost will be transferred to the “consumers.” I know this sounds very cliché and borderline elementary school level economics, but it is the reality that we have to face every day now. I suppose if I don’t have extra $$$ to dine at The French Laundry, I’ll settle for the House of Prime Rib. And if fund is still short and I’m super hungry, I will consider Texas Roadhouse. When all else fails, I’ll simply get a piece of meat from the local supermarket and DIY at home myself. 😅 All jokes aside, I do agree that $400 is indeed a very heavy psychological barrier (at least to me, an average wage earner).

Yes, I ASS-U-ME there are 2 asses between u and me. There are just too many asses to have and to be had and too little time (and money)! What a tragedy!!!

I may still be too new to RM and this may actually be a very common phenomenon. Please take a look at these 2 RM profiles: https://rent.men/Daniel_martinez https://rent.men/JamesBrazilXL There seems to be an identical picture: hairy thighs with wet, white Calvin Klein underwear (and a see-through dick), sitting by the edge of a pool Who is stealing from whom? Or is it one single provider using 2 different profiles to attract more traffic? Is this common?

My assumption is that 99.99999% of clients only focus on the sex; I may belong to that 0.00001% group of people who care about the emotional & psychological aspects of the interactions. Therefore, whenever a provider presents himself with authenticity, the arousal factor for me will be multiplied infinitely. I figure if I want people to show me their true selves, I have to take the steps to be real myself first. That’s why I am no longer creating a make-belief identity when hiring.

This reminds me of the strategy of dining in a buffet. You initially have taste tests of the items that look appetizing during your first few rounds. Once you zero in on your favorites, you'll keep going back for a second, third, fourth, and nth round.

I notice this option is available on Dayuse for some hotels. You initiate and finalize all payments at the point of check-in or just pay a nominal reservation fee in advance online. The problem is: I am not a last-minute type of person, I cannot NOT plan ahead. So unfortunately, your smart approach of meeting in front of the hotel won't work for me.

Thank you for sharing your lovely story. I am quite fascinated by your experience: "Despite commonly-held beliefs, the majority of the clients were attractive and sexy, and the sex was good. Indeed, I often believed the sex was better than that I’d had with anonymous hook-ups, for reasons I didn’t entirely understand but was definitely aware of." You are not the only provider who has these sentiments; I have heard it from many different ones. TBH, I'm very amazed. I guess I need to expand my horizon and cast away my stereotypical views of this hobby.

That's one of the reasons why I'm usually more reluctant to choose providers who cannot host and state they can do out-calls only. Since I cannot host myself, it means I must book an overnight hotel room or find something on Dayuse, both of which become sunk costs. If it's the former, I will be more tolerant of any delays; if it's the latter, there is a time limit to my availability. Either way, it's a major psychological irritation and will likely reduce my inclination to repeat (even if the tardy provider eventually shows up and delivers as promised). I prefer to go to their places as I somewhat feel like I have more control over the arrangement this way. It's easier for me to bail out if I smell any irregularities. I hate to wait for people to show up. I'm more vulnerable to manipulations when I'm the one waiting. To answer OP's question: a 30-minute delay with a semi-legitimate excuse is acceptable. A 30-minute delay without any explanation is a true test of my patience and sanity -- I'll likely blacklist you for a very, very long time afterwards.

No matter how many times I do it in various different ways, it still feels very weird and awkward to me. I even told them directly this was one of the most uncomfortable aspects of the whole encounter. They just laughed and shrugged it off. I am probably the one who needs some attitude adjustments.

Thank you guys for offering this perspective, which I have never thought of before.

I know it’s 2026, but I still try to avoid electronic / traceable payment methods at all costs, especially when it comes to this hobby. I always put the Benjamins in a sealed envelope and hand it to the providers at the end before I leave. However, I notice that over 95% of the time, they signal me to just leave the envelope on the coffee table / nightstand / bed / sofa / massage table, evidently and intentionally dodging physical contact with the envelope even when I ask them to open it to make sure the amount is correct. All of them, without fail, decline and say something along the lines of “it’s OK, I trust you.” I am quite puzzled by this. So for those who prefer cash transactions: · Do you have similar experiences? · Are they afraid I’m some kind of undercover operations and they will be caught red-handed if they accept and open the envelope with their hands? · Do they really trust that I am putting the right amount inside? It could be a stack of monopoly money, you know. · Do you have any other ways to make cash payments (e.g. just the bills without the envelope)?

100% RentMasseur with cross reference on Rent.Men 😅

I'm sorry to say this, but I feel you got scammed big time. In my dictionary, $900 over the course of 3 nights is REALLY terrible pay, let alone the other ridiculous BS you had to put up with the whole trip. You should give yourself more credits for your time/value.

Did they expect full payments at the 15th minute mark? More importantly, did you comply? If you don't mind sharing, how did these 2 encounters conclude? Were they young/new or mature/experienced? Sorry for all these interrogations, but what you described were quite outlandish and I do not believe it's the new trend.

All of the above AND the hairy ass...

The rating system proposed by @Mark_fl would be very useful, assuming I have enough interest and time to read through each line item and description individually. However, it reminds me of a typical job performance evaluation in today's corporate world, which inevitably induces stress and anguish. For a 5-star rating system, my brain somehow translates a 5 into an A, a 4 into a B, and a 3 into a C. Anything below a 3 (aka C) will be unacceptable. In other words, to @SecretProvider's point, anything other than a 5 could potentially be damaging. For this reason, and to answer @RyanDean's question, I'd just ignore the request and let the provider stay at the "A" level.

Your statement reinforces my mantra: common sense is no longer common in this day and age. Everything must be spelled out explicitly with no room for (mis)interpretations. Otherwise, someone will get blamed and everyone will end up being bitter.

I have never booked a 1-hour session. All of my experiences have been at least 2-hour long. One hour is too short and too anxiety inducing to me. That said, a similar situation happened to me once before (around the midway, 1-hour mark). We went to shower together. The mutual touching, rubbing, in conjunction with the foams, wet body parts, and wet hair created a super erotic scene for both of us. It was probably because I have always had a penchant for shower/bathtub actions (in porn scenes and/or in real life). So before I realized it, the engine was started again……