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Just out of curiosity, if and only if you don't mind sharing: what's the ballpark figure of this price tag?

Some people associate beard / facial hair with maturity. For those who are seeking the daddy types, beard / facial hair will be a stimulus.

I do see the frustrations when appearances deviate from what are advertised. It can directly influence someone's desirability. I do have a weird take on this though. A few providers asked me what I preferred (e.g. clean shaven vs bearded, hair style, wardrobe). To their surprises, my reply has been consistent: "I like you exactly the way you are. There is no need for you to make any changes for me." My rationale: the more real and authentic they are, the easier it is for me to fall under their illusions because their acting becomes more believable when they are true to themselves. That, in turn, enhances my imagination/fantasy of a BFE.

This seems like an eternal debate and there is no correct answer; I’m just trying to rationalize both perspectives. I personally believe both sides are valid. On one hand, it’s the principle of opportunity cost. It’s your time that’s being compensated, regardless of your expected labor output. On the other hand, the value/intensity/complexity of your labor output should be considered. For instance, providers with dual roles of escorts and masseurs typically charge lower rates for massages than for bedroom activities. Applying the same logic, wouldn’t companionship be less labor intensive than actual sexual activities and be priced at a reduced rate? Now, I can see some may argue that being emotionally and intelligently engaged in a companionship arrangement may be more exhausting than a hit-and-run quickie. Then, that will be another story……

Sometimes, I see them as magicians and myself as that audience member who volunteers to participate in their magic tricks on stage. I know it’s all fake, but I’m still amazed and amused by their skillfully staged illusions. Alternatively, they are award-winning method actors. They become the characters they play and I am cast as the opposing lead. I figure the key is to enjoy the magic shows and theatrical performances while they last and return to real life after the paid entertainment ends.

To a certain extent, posting here, even though anonymously, is a twisted form of coming out. At least that's how I feel about it. I know it sounds silly -- and maybe even laughable to some -- but it is somewhat cathartic and comforting at the same time. Interestingly, it is so much easier to tell strangers (e.g. my primary care doctor, all the providers I've met, and people here) than those you love/care the most.

You may also consider posting your interests and what you're looking for here (or on "The Deli" section) as a new topic to seek suggestions. The collaborative power on CoM is quite impressive.

The problem is: filters are useful if and only if the statistics and descriptors are accurately reported. We all know honesty and precision are not guaranteed on RM profiles. So to answer your question, probably < 5%.

I have no intention to derail the central subject of this thread, but here is a separate but related question: if an AI provider is available, would you consider hiring him/her/it (e.g. Dolores in Westworld, but turn her into him/her/it or whatever you desire)?

Yes, I feel that quality is going in the opposite direction of quantity. It takes more time to scroll/filter through the longer lists of RM profiles, but the end results are more or less the same as before.

I, too, often struggle with the balance between reality and illusion — I’d rephrase it as illusion and not delusion. On one hand, I need to be fooled by the illusion to enjoy the experience, but on the other hand, I have to constantly remind myself that none of it is real. Otherwise, the pitfall described by the OP will ensue. However, the problem is that the thought of reality is a major boner killer for me. I realize I must learn how to compartmentalize: let my brain be tricked for pleasure for the duration of the appointment but set an alarm to wake myself up to reality afterwards.

The question applies to both sides (clients & providers). And do you treat him any differently after achieving the "regular" status? If so, in what way(s)?

This situation is a mirror image of the age shaving "phenomenon," except that one is inflated whereas the other is deflated.

What is the definition of average-sized though? Is it based on sociological statistics or is it a personalized standard?

On my Windows / desktop computer, I have to click on the video, then blow it up to full-screen mode (upper right hand corner button), then the volume button is on the lower left hand corner. Yes, it is defaulted to mute, so you have to unmute it first. I guess the setup is different, depending on which browser / OS you're using.

I totally agree. The finale, as well as the entire series, is decent. It is a bit too "positive" and politically correct for my taste though. There are too many heart-warming and feel-good closures, so much so that I don't even know how the writer can continue with a season 2. Did I miss something? Are there any cliffhangers or loose ends? Regardless, I'll probably watch S2 when it's released, which will likely be in 2026 or 2027. Like I said previously, despite my encouragements, many of my friends drop off after the first few episodes, all complaining that the story is too slow and too quiet. Nowadays, viewers need to be sucked in right from the get-go; otherwise, they'll move on to other options since there are so, so, so many alternatives on the streaming market. I hope S2 won't repeat the same pitfalls. I'll give the series a B/B+ rating overall.

I am fully aware that my I-don’t-know response is childish, unproductive, and toxic. Thank you to @purplekow, @Simon Suraci, and @jackcali for your suggestions. I will keep them in mind and be a more responsible person in the future. Ironically though, it seems like all of the providers that I have met understand me way better than I understand myself. They can deliver & perform miraculously without any explicit directions from me. Regardless, I do see why I need to be more vocal. Some of the ideas in this thread, albeit wild, are rather tantalizing.

Absolutely! I may be old-school, but that initial reply builds the foundation of first impression. You probably won't be rude to the hiring manager or recruiter who contacts you to set up an appointment for a job interview, or will you?

I'm still at the "infant/toddler" stage of this hobby. So I am currently at that early phase described by @purplekow and @soloyo215 above. More than once, the providers would ask me, "What do you want to do?" 10 times out of 10, my response was, "I don't know," which would be followed by a 5-second deadly awkward silence from both parties. Then, I would say, "Why don't you just do what you normally do or what you think I would want to do?" I know this is really stupid on my part, but I genuinely do not know what I want. I just hope I can evolve faster.

I'll have to agree that was quite a bonkers scene.

From a provider’s perspective, listing “daddy” as his “into” is a smart marketing strategy because it can easily be assumed that most clients are middle-aged to advance-aged (therefore, daddies). So he’s preaching to the right audience by saying that he’s interested in the right targets. Plus, common logic dictates that daddies usually fall into the “wealthier” category. Whether or not wealthier people are more generous is never a guarantee, but I bet it doesn’t hurt to appeal to those who tend to have more $$$. From a client’s perspective (I can only speak for myself), I do have a penchant for daddies as well — daddies not necessarily in terms of age, but mental and emotional maturity. I have always been drawn to boys/men who are slightly older than me ever since I was a child. Although some may consider me a daddy (age-wise), I crave for that feeling of security and protection — that I can let go of everything, drop the pretense and façade, unleash my inner child, and depend on that other person to take care of me, if just for a few moments in my life. Contrary to common (mis)assumptions, I don’t have daddy issues. In fact, my late father was a very loving, caring figure who had never been absent from my life. Thus, Freudian theories probably won’t be able to explain my personal desires.

"Which is the best AHS season?" is an eternal debate. I feel it's a matter of taste. To me, the earlier seasons are most memorable. My favorite is season 2 (asylum), followed closely by season 1 (murder house) and then season 8 (apocalypse). I like the OG actors/actresses.

The quality of the series, as well as my interest in it, has drastically declined after Apocalypse largely because the storytelling has become super sloppy and the actors/actresses have been quite disappointing. Now, with the return of almost all of the OG core players of the show, along with the recurring witchcraft / murder house / Antichrist themes, my hope is somewhat reignited for S13. If anything, I wish this will be the last season and please just wrap everything up nicely and end the series with a bang. A note regarding Ariana Grande: she is certainly an unexpected addition to the show. Can it possibly be another witch role after G(a)linda? Is there a typecasting trend here?

@ThrowawayAccount: your encounter deserves sympathy and empathy. Just out of curiosity though, what were your expectations from that meeting? Did you communicate those expectations with him beforehand? A picture is worth a thousand words. His pictures seem to be in alignment with his RM profile descriptions, which were more or less reflective of your experience. Unfortunately, this book can be judged by its cover. I hope you will recover from this horrendous experience soon.

I can't agree more with all those who express hatred/disgust/annoyance towards phone (voice) calls. It's intrusive to say the least. Phone/Voice call is like showing up at someone's home, ringing the doorbell without prior notice. It demands the receiver's immediately attention. In a way, the caller violently forces the receiver to drop everything he's doing and re-prioritize his daily tasks. It's not any different from cutting in line in a grocery store. Of course, there are exceptions to the rule (e.g. a true emergency such as 911). Otherwise, as others have pointed out already, isn't it more polite to send a text to make a phone/voice call appointment in advance?