Wings246

Oh, he certainly knew how to use his tongue. Talking was by far the least stimulating & least creative skill facilitated by his tongue action.

Good try. I don't live there, but I can probably retire early there comfortably tomorrow, considering my current income and the cost of living in ID. 😆

I figure this much is true for me: the less pretense the person puts up and the more authentic the person is to himself, the more turned on I become. Authenticity enhances my (probably delusional) imagination. So when he speaks in his native tongue, I'm one step closer to his true self. I guess that's partially where my arousal originates.

I live in the gayest city of the bluest state of the West Coast and my HMO devotes a ton of resources to preventive health so my access to sexual health care is not a problem. I get all my testing done once every 3 months during one 15-minute visit (Syphilis + creatinine + HIV via blood tests, Chlamydia + Gonorrhea throat swab, Chlamydia + Gonorrhea rectal swab, Chlamydia + Gonorrhea urine test). The results are available within 24 hours and they are all posted on my online medical record for me to see in about a day. Then, my PrEP & DoxyPEP prescriptions will be refilled the next day. Everything is pretty streamlined and “autopiloted.” I suppose that’s the “advantage” of living in a major metropolitan area.

I recently met with an irresistible Italian stud. I didn’t know he had an Italian accent beforehand, but as soon as he started talking, I could feel something stirring in my big head and little head. The Italian accent wasn’t too thick — something else down South TRULY was thick though. As the activities intensified and the dirty talks ramped up, I melt into him and lost all senses of time and space. The ultimate KO: he fully switched over to Italian when we approached the finishing line. I did NOT understand a single syllable he uttered and yet, somehow, that completely sent me to heaven. I never realized I would respond to an accent this way. I found it super sexy, arousing, mesmerizing, and hypnotizing. Anybody had similar experiences?

I share the same feelings. I bet some of us here do as well. That's probably why a few members here use the concept of "cheating" to describe seeing someone new. I know the analogy is a joke, but loyalty / faithfulness is a very strange factor that can somehow influence the decision making process. 😅

It largely depends on my mood and what kind of “flavors” (looks, skill sets, etc.) I desire at the moment. It’s very similar to deciding on what kind of restaurant to visit for dinner: do I want the comfort of a familiar taste from the restaurant that I know I love or do I feel adventurous for a new cuisine tonight? Since I’m still quite inexperienced in this, my safety net formula is: 80% regulars + 20% new guys. This has generated an acceptable risk-benefit ratio for me so far.

It wasn't until recently that I woke up to this realization -- I hope it's not too late. It's tough to change the world; it's tough to change the systems of the world; it's tough to change people around you; it's tough to change the people around you who manipulate the systems of the world to solely benefit themselves (possibly at your expenses). The easiest thing to change in this world: MYSELF. Therefore, I change myself.

Me three, and of course it's purely for the sake of psychology and sociology research. All jokes aside, I recall reading this heartfelt, amazing story:

Well, if you don't account for inflation, deflation of the cock will ensue.

But isn't it usually true that regulars will keep the same rate as the 1st visit?

Not necessarily pay more, but more likely to hire: just like @jackcali mentioned above, my local average rate is quite similar to that of NYC. So I stay within that reasonable, average market range. I won’t even bother with those who price themselves higher than the deities because they are marketed for the celebrities, filthy rich, and royalties — definitely NOT me. I’m neither a compulsive nor impulsive buyer. Whenever I see a tantalizing profile, I’ll add it to my buddy list. If I find myself revisiting the same profile again and again over a good/long period of time, it signals to me that there are certain qualities about this person that arouse me. That’s when I begin to make my move.

This part really irritates me. I'm still a very naive newbie in this activity. I'd have fallen exactly like the OP. And yes, the OP has my full sympathy. After all, I would tend to believe that since we have met a couple of times before, the trust level should have been somewhat established. I'd have been super pissed to have to pay that hefty price. Thanks for sharing your story. I'll remind myself to keep my guards up (even though I don't want to lose faith in mankind).

I can't agree more. Everybody (especially the young ones) is offended by just about everything every 15 minutes nowadays. And when you attempt to rationalize normal human behaviors, you become the toxic villain, then you get labeled & cancelled & sent to HR for interrogations. It is essentially psychological/social/cultural terrorism. At the end, everyone is forced to blend in and play the fake-ass, politically correct game together just so that the fragile egos of the younglings (snowflakes???) can be preserved.

Ironically and coincidentally, I met with one of my favorites recently and guess what? He showed up rocking a beard (new style) that I've never seen before (he has been clean shaven in all of our previous meetings). I was exceedingly and pleasantly surprised by the new look & style as if I was meeting with a different version of the same person. The kiss felt completely different (and stimulating) and I loved running my fingers over his bearded face, not to mention when other oral/facial/lips activities were involved. To me, it was a huge bonus. But I do understand if you hate a beard and that person shows up with a beard without prior notifications, it would be a serious turnoff.

May I ask why people prefer to wear socks? Is it for aesthetic or other functional reasons? I personally hate them and unfortunately, they are a major turn-off of mine both in porn and real-life scenarios.

My gut feeling is somehow telling me that you live (and play) in a major city. If so, $500 for each 2-hour rendezvous is quite a bargain. You sound like many of my friends who work in Silicon Valley, some of which are able to retire before they turn 40. Reading & hearing about these stories often makes me question my life decisions… 😁

I’m a middle-class commoner and I started this pastime last year. My 2025 total was just around $4000 because it was my trial-and-error phase. That said, for some strange reasons, 2026 feels very different to me. In roughly a month (end of January to now), I’ve already contributed more than my 2025 total to this activity. My spending largely depends on my vacation schedule and how much extra income I earn from my side jobs. It’s a balancing act between rewards (vacation & this hobby) and punishments (work).

Read and heard about people using Imodium. A quick technical/medical search shows that it "inhibits peristalsis and prolongs transit time, reduces fecal volume, increases viscosity, and diminishes fluid and electrolyte loss. It also demonstrates antisecretory activity. However, it will increase tone on the anal sphincter." Translation: the anal sphincter muscles will become abnormally tight, contracted, or in spasm. Isn't this counterproductive if you want to open up? Any real-life experiences to support this?

I agree with all of the parameters described by @Mark_fl above. Your intuition can give you some clues as to how compatible you are based on these indirect qualifiers. Unfortunately, just like buying new shoes online, sometimes, all the measurements look perfect, but the shoes still don't feel right when you try them on. At the end, you'll have to take a deep breath, hold it, and take the plunge to find out.

This is exactly how I feel. I have to deliver various degrees of Oscar winning performances (against my will) in my daily life (in order to keep my job, my human relationships, etc.). There are just way too many lies, fakeness, and deceits in this world. In today's ultra politically correct environment, someone gets offended / feels harassed / feels uncomfortable just about everything every 10 to 15 minutes. You have to tiptoe around everything and force yourself to be fake -- it's a survival skill. So to me, encounters with providers are the very rare moments in life where I can become uninhibited and free. That's when my true self and innermost child are unleashed. I suppose that is the main reason why I am very honest and direct when I meet with the providers.

You literally take the words out of my mouth. I truly feel that the providers have more to lose than me. Maturity, experiences, and positive reviews are also what I seek. Perhaps that is the strategy that has kept me "safe" so far.

How much personal real-life information do you share with your providers/clients? And when? I know anonymity and discretion are the cornerstones of this hobby. Perhaps I’m too new to all these, too naïve, too foolish, and too trusting too quickly, but I tend to tell my providers everything about myself truthfully the very first time I meet with them. Most of them know my real name, where I live/work, my real phone number (I don’t have a burner number), and many other personal details of my life. So far, they all seem to be very decent, upright people. That's why I’m not too worried about sharing my info with them. I’m a nobody, small potatoes, your run-of-the-mill peasant. I keep wondering, “What do I have to lose even if they know my personal info?” I guess I’m lucky in that I still haven’t been burned…… yet. Maybe I’m just too careless (or reckless even?)…… should I be more discreet? I’m interested in learning from your perspectives and experiences.

His reaction is purely irrational, to say the very least. If any of his assumptions/accusations were true, you wouldn't have offered to re-schedule; you would've simply blocked/ghosted him for good. You did absolutely nothing wrong and you shouldn't waste your time and energy on contemplating his personal insecurities. BTW, I took a look at your RM profile...... and OMFG...... I was stunned by your pics. It's too bad that you're nowhere near my area. Otherwise, I would've contacted you immediately...... 🤭

"Zilch" may not be the response you wish for, but truthfully, it's the best gift you can possibly receive. It affirms the fact that the relationship was purely transactional; it expedites your waking up to reality. If he were to lead you on by giving you some ambiguous signals, the final outcome would've been more painful. Ripping the bandaid off is the most ideal course of action here.