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I'd like to turn this dichotomous question into a multiple choice one, and my answer is: both of the above. I love to try new restaurants but also keep my comfort food within reach. 😜

I’m a very new & inexperienced bottom. The internet is flooded with endless information about douching. As a starter, some claim that it is not even necessary if the consistency & texture of the #2 is acceptable (with the right diet, fiber, exercise, regularity, etc.). Almost every anal specialist / expert / doctor states that you should not douche more than 2 to 3 times a week. I do have some questions for those who douche frequently: What do you do if you are a very sexually active bottom? Let’s say you bottom every day, then do you still douche 3 times a week only? Or do you do it every time beforehand? And what if you are having a nonstop anal marathon? Wouldn’t there be #2 being passed down the rectum constantly? How do you deal with this dilemma? Any advice will be much appreciated!

@Jack Vernon: in essence, this is reminiscent — or a modified version — of cancel culture. Are you going to contribute to someone’s financial wellbeing when he explicitly announces his aversion to a characteristic that you possess as a human being? Although some people see it as an expression of personal preferences, this honest truth will likely burst the imaginary bubbles of the clients’ fantasies, which can be an essential component of the transaction as @ApexNomad has pointed out upthread. Perhaps it’s easy for those who are solely seeking physical enjoyment to compartmentalize the providers’ work and personal lives (and preferences). Nonetheless, for those who place an emphasis on the emotional and psychological aspects of hiring (like myself), this kind of honesty will directly impact my decision-making process.

@DunwoodyGuy: Did it cross your mind that this could possibly be a police sting? First, it was payment (i.e. deposit) to solicit sex. Then, it became illegal drug procurement. It sounds very much like a mousetrap to me.

Absolutely agree with this. I know many people only care about the STICK on the South Pole (length, girth, etc.). To me, however, the face is more valuable. In particular, the eyes are critical. Nothing can provoke me more than an intense, suggestive, and lustful gaze. There is a reason why they are window to the soul. None of this is possible without a face pic. For that, a face pic is more important than a dick pic.

Yes for me. The combination of deposit and drug alone is a double jeopardy already. And now he's asking for more after you paid for his reactivation fee. That's 3 strikes and he's out for good.

I’ve only been in this world for a bit more than a year. I did share similar sentiments with you when I first started. I worried about this and that and questioned if I would be rejected for ABC and XYZ reasons. Trust me, there is absolutely nothing that the providers haven’t heard or seen. I’m very sure most, if not all, providers will welcome you with open arms (and many other body parts). There’s too much fun to be had. Don’t waste time and energy on second guessing yourself.

My dentist friends also say people tend to forget that cavities and tonsil stones are major culprits of bad breath. You can brush/floss your teeth and rinse your mouth all day long. If you neglect the qualities of your teeth and tonsils, that rotten smell will follow you to your grave.

I feel it comes down to the inequality and imbalance of the dynamics between the clients and providers here. Clients can post anonymously under aliases whereas providers -- at least the honest and sincere ones -- have to reveal their true identities. In turn, the clients have virtually nothing to lose and everything to gain by participation. On the contrary, the providers have more to lose than gain, for all the reasons that have already been described upthread. Cyberbullies and keyboard warriors, especially those with tons of free time, can be extremely exhausting.

While this is a real possibility, many long-time members here have taught us newbies (me at least) to glance at the longevity of the posters' accounts before making conclusions. You can quickly identify and dismiss those hit-and-run accounts & comments. Sometimes, a helpful member will bluntly point out negative comments from a new account by writing, "welcome to the forum" as a way to alert others of the potentially fraudulent nature of the posts.

Disclaimer: I have never been into younger guys. So luckily, underage concerns do not apply to me at all. Just brainstorming here: the next time you meet with someone who appears too young, would you consider asking him for an ID as a backhanded compliment by saying, "Oh, you look WAY younger than the age you claim, can I see your ID to confirm? I don't want to break any laws because our texts can all be used as evidence." If he refuses or reacts strangely, then you'd know what to do.

I don't disagree with this at all. 😅 I somewhat agree with you on this view, but not entirely. I suppose it is a difference in using different words to express the extent/intensity of the intended meanings. I'll just cordially agree to disagree. Like I've mentioned numerous times on CoM, I do find different viewpoints and opinions very eye-opening and enlightening. Your responses do let me see things from a different angle.

I’m not even sure if I’m still “officially” classified as closeted. I did tell my doctors, as well as all the providers I’ve met, that I’m gay. But I haven’t done so with my family, friends, coworkers, etc. So am I considered “partially” or “secretly” out of the closet? Is it strictly a binary, all-or-nothing deal? 😁 For the sake of this discussion, let’s just say that I’m still closeted. I do accept myself as being gay; in fact, I have accepted that ever since I was a teenager (maybe even younger than that). Yet, I don’t feel like I’m intolerant of myself as a human being just because I am not broadcasting my sexuality / sexual desires & orientation to the world. To me, the conclusion of being closeted = being intolerant of oneself is a very bold assumption. I don't doubt this possibility. Many of the providers I've met share their real-life, personal info with me and I am quite surprised by this. I may be delusional, but I feel some degrees of "human connections" do exist beyond the transactions.

It is reported that pea-size injection site lumps are very common (>60%) for Yeztugo and they can last for months. Other than cost, is that another deterrent to use?

Did you bump into him at work after the encounter? If so, was it awkward or did you guys simply pretend nothing had ever happened?

For some strange reasons, as I was typing, I already knew you would come back with a double entendre. And yes, I agree, the entry is one of the highlights, if not THE highlight.

I do know what being "gay" means. As a matter of fact, I knew I'm gay even before my pubertal years. I distinctly remember how my little man reacted when I saw naked men's bodies at the locker rooms of public swimming pools. In contrast, I had (and still have) absolutely no responses to any female body parts, naked or covered. So being "gay" is not a new discovery to me. I can now say that I'm "sexually experienced" as a gay man. But I'm still at the entry level if you ask me. 😆

Me too!!! Unlike you, however, it was a fairly recent event for me.

As the cosmic energy of this world would have it, I ran into a random guy who fit all of these criteria flawlessly when I was shopping at Costco this morning. I was paralyzed... hahahahaha! Of course nothing happened, but for a second, I thought he caught me staring at him. Too bad I didn't take a picture of him. I get all excited just thinking about him right now. 😅 🤤

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It's a recurring theme of CoM (or any other forum): a repeated topic (a horse that's been beaten to death) to the old timers may be news to the newbies. And sometimes, although rare, someone may be able to offer a new perspective on an old subject. So resurrecting an old thread can be of value occasionally.

It's rather pointless to ask because he can lie or worse yet, he doesn't know about it himself. Furthermore, even if he knew he was 100% disease free yesterday, as long as he engages in any sexual activities with someone else today prior to meeting you, the risk cannot be 100% ruled out. It's difficult, if not impossible, to take part in this if you expect 100% guaranteed safety.

Not sure if this has been addressed before or if this even qualifies as a “fetish”. Men who are completely bald (or with completely shaved heads) — not with patchy bald spots — have always been my major turn-on. The fire is amped up if the bald guys are muscular. Gasoline will be added to this firepit if they are hairy, especially on the chests. The combination of these 3 features is lethal to me. As an aside, do any RM profiles that fit this description exist? 😏

Not sure if this answers your questions directly, but I was in a somewhat similar situation last year and I started this thread (my first ever on CoM): Some of the comments / suggestions were very insightful, and even the sarcastic ones were super fun to read.

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