sam.fitzpatrick

On 4/20/2024 at 2:56 PM, hwic04 said:

info on Inndulge refers to “clothing optional resort” as to a clothing optional pool. Am I making too mischief of this distinction? (Clothing optional pool works just fine for me. Sorry if I’m being naive, but this experience in PS would be new to me.)

I think the reason that it is listed this way is the lobby area is largely windows and they do not permit nudity there.  But other than checking in and out of the resort, there is little use of the lobby unless walking through on your way out, in which case you would be clothed anyway.

Perhaps Rachel Bay Jones in the lead.  Jennifer Simard would be a great Vera Charles.  

Several years ago (possibly seven or eight), he was splitting time between Columbus and Kentucky.  I saw him then and I had a good, therapeutic massage.  And then lost track of him.  I would see him again for a massage.  

45 minutes ago, sf westcoaster said:

Will not be in PS for the Gathering, but am flying in on Monday the 15th and look forward to catching up with any of you who might be hanging around for a few days after the Sunday festivities.

Excellent news - I'm hanging around until Wednesday.

3 hours ago, Socalguy said:

Bummer, @Robster and I just checked out Inndulge because we thought it would be fun to hang with everyone but the 5 night minimum is a deal breaker for us since we live here in Palm Springs. I guess we'll just have to hope our friends there will invite us over. 😜

Of course!

Chicago in 2013.  Paige Davis (of Trading Spaces) was subbing in as Roxie and I enjoyed her performance.  And Christine Pedi was the Matron.

I had seen multiple touring musicals, but this was my first show on Broadway.  That week I also saw Nice Work If You Can Get It, Jekyll & Hyde, and Pippin.

Happy Birthday, Nate.  Wishing you the best of everything!

13 hours ago, TonyDown said:

May I ask how

Descanso 

Twin Palms

and Santiago resorts compare?

 

I see the pricing on their Websites and they have some kind of relationship.  Same owner?

What I'd be interested in hearing is any pluses and minuses for each and your recommendation.

Santiago is the oldest? They brand themselves as a luxury resort.

 

I realize rooms may not be available in some cases.  But I'd still like to know your opinion for these resorts.

 

Thank you!

Yes, these three resorts all have the same ownership.  Santiago was the first location.  I don't know if it is the oldest, as the other two were renovations of other places they acquired and converted.  I've visited Santiago and Descanso, but not stayed at either.  Both are nice and friends have given both of them nice reviews.   

4 hours ago, Vin_Marco said:

There's something I should add about this photo.... it was taken almost exactly one year ago, and this was my body as a result of sometimes swimming up to TEN miles without a pause and riding my bicycle 🚴 up to 100 miles in one shot...  this all was the result of staying fit during the pandemic... 

I will sign up to be your lap counter (and watch you do flip turns) when you are ready to return to that training!😉

I have only been asked for a deposit and a photo once.  The photo request is because I had told the provider that I we had met at a Palm Springs "event" and he indicated that he didn't remember me, but maybe a photo would trigger his memory.  In that light, I agreed to provide the photo and sure enough, he was able to recall some of our conversation.  As to the deposit, I also paid it and wouldn't you know, it was the only time I've ever had to cancel on a provider, and with less than 24 hours notice at that.

3 hours ago, Anthony said:

I was thinking that the provider would see me as outgoing that I found their address and might be impressed by it thus, leading me to a worship session.  

If I was the provider that received such a letter I would think that I had a stalker problem and need to be concerned about my safety.  I likely would contact either police or my attorney and request a restraining order.   

Also, what happens with this guy when he doesn't respond to your letter?  Not knowing the provider, I suspect he is under 40 years old.  If he is like my nephews, the letter will never be opened.  If the letter doesn't have a return address from a known individual or company, it isn't opened.

Perhaps a more prominent placement, such as in Daddy's Den, would garner more usage by providers and more responses from clients that would actually see new posts in that section.  Its current location may not draw sufficient attention to its existence.

1 hour ago, sf westcoaster said:

It saddens me to post this, but because of a "family obligation"I will not be able to attend the 2024 Gathering. Later today or tomorrow I will be cancelling my reservation at INNdulge.

Without you there, how will I know it is time to have breakfast?

When I am home, I may wake and get right out of bed or I may stay in bed listening to the local sports radio station while checking social media and reviewing prior nightmare sports scores.  In either case, once my feet hit the floor:

1 - piss, brush teeth, mouthwash, blow nose, and Qtip clean ears

2 - open dining room blinds as signal to neighbors that I am still alive

3 - take daily multi-vitamin and Truvada with a full 8 ounces of water   

And there any semblance of routine ends. 

19 hours ago, CHIberia said:

Surprised they don't go full nude in Wilton Manors instead of opening a location a few miles away. Is there a municipal restriction? Wilton Manors seems like the friendliest place for an all nude gay strip club

When they originally opened, Matt had intended to be able to do full nudity; however, he could not get a license approved for that and alcohol service.  

While I've frequently hosted in my home, I've only hosted five or six first-time providers.  I think it is no different than hosting someone in my hotel room when traveling and follow the same security standards as I would then.  Always use the peep hole or side window to make sure they match a photo before opening the door, make sure they are alone, and don't have valuables sitting out where they can be seen.  In addition, I don't drink any alcohol with this new person to help me remain alert to the situation.  

As to other things, I make sure my place is tidy, including the front porch.  (Since I go through the garage 99% of the time for my personal use, I've had guests arrive to find cobwebs across the front door, and they were not Halloween decorations.)   I also assume that he will want to use the bathroom before we meet to quickly freshen up.  Also I don't know that it is needed, but I always assume that the escort may want a shower afterwards and have fresh towels in the bathroom for him.  I also have bottled water on hand to offer after the session.

I've found that since retiring, this is a more frequent occurrence, usually once or twice a week.  I suspect that since I'm not thinking about work in my sleep, my thoughts can move to more enjoyable places.

For me, it makes a difference if the escort is staying overnight.  In those cases, I prefer a king.  Although I sleep better without body contact, there's just something special about knowing that it is possible.  And it makes things easier to helping your guest take care of his morning wood.  ☺️

Today on Facebook, Matt Colunga (owner of Johnson's in Wilton Manors and Tampa) teased that a Miami location with full nude will be coming this fall.

4 hours ago, Archangel said:

I believe you. But coming from a provider it also sounds like someone who’s afraid they may be expected to a mite more than they’re comped for. The reverse if you will…trying to wring every last drop of blood from a turnip.

I didn’t take the comment that way at all.  It wasn’t a matter of comp but of respecting an escort’s limits and trying to stretch those.  

I have twice bumped into providers in social settings.  In one case, I simply said "hi" as I walked by and he responded "hi" back.  A few minutes later, he came over to my table and we caught up for a couple of minutes.  He hadn't recognized me as I had shaved off my beard that we had when I had seen him three months before.

In the other case, I was in the wait area for my barber with my nose in my phone.  As the barber was checking out his previous client he called my name and I looked up.  Standing next to him was my masseur from the previous evening paying and scheduling his next appointment.  The massuer made eye contact with me and said "hi."  It appeared he was with a friend, so I simply responded with a "hi" and he left.  Fairly innocent that it allowed each of us to acknowledge recognition, but casual like saying "hi" to a stranger as we pass on a walk through the park.

I just watched Kelce, a documentary out today on Amazon Prime.  With Jason Kelce at the center, it was an enjoyable view about an offensive lineman's season.  The addition of his family as part of the story, especially the Super Bowl match up against his brother's Chiefs was nice.  Not much on football strategy or play calling, but a nice peak into the personal life of a football player.  

Isn't that Grindr?

Thanks for starting a conversation about this event @V_Marco. 

I will channel our dear departed friend Epigonos.  He was fond of stating that if you have an inkling that you would enjoy going, just make the plans and attend.  You never know when it will be the last year you can attend, and there are no guarantees that this private event will continue each year.  For those readers who are not familiar with the event, it is an event planned by one of our members who kindly invites members of this Forum to attend.  Although attendees usually have this website in common and Company of Men generously permits the event to be publicized here, it is not an event organized or sponsored by this site. 

So as soon as a date is announced, make your plans.  

3 hours ago, Unicorn said:

No, I've never served on a jury. Attorneys always want the biggest numbskulls they can find to put on their juries, since these are people they can persuade with fancy argument rather than hard facts. Ergo I'm always excused. As you pointed out, the verdict has to be unanimous, so each and every juror is personally responsible for the fate of the convict. A juror cannot simply declare that he was "simply going with the crowd" to absolve himself of his responsibility. I realize that judges put tremendous social and financial pressure on jurors (at least in the US), telling them (falsely) it's "their duty" to come to a unanimous decision, instead of coming to their own conclusions. In fact, they usually will force them into interminable involuntary servitude until the jurors have "done their duty," letting it be known that anything but a unanimous decision is unacceptable. That being said, I personally find it absolutely horrifying that a juror feels a lack of answerability to his decision, claiming "it's the other 11 people who made me do it." 

I also find it telling--and not at all surprising--that you're unwilling to reveal what iron-clad evidence was presented that led to your unassailable conclusion that there was no way she didn't just change her mind after the fact. Hopefully that iron-clad evidence didn't simply consist of the woman's tearful protestations. 

With your thoughts of the judicial system, I hope you are never the victim or a relative of one that is needs an independent jury to evaluate the evidence.   

You hadn't previously asked for the evidence of why I believed the victim did not change her mind.  Here it is:  (1) there were several witnesses that testified that she had declined his advances earlier in the evening, (2) both the victim and accused confirmed that the victim was asleep when the incident started, (3) the accused indicated that while they were long-time friends, she had said no when he had previously asked her out on dates nor had she expressed a desire for a sexual relationship with him, and (4) the accused admitted that he had never asked her to be physical with her, nor had the victim asked him to be physical with her.

I agree with you that every juror is responsible the verdict that was reached.  I used the full jury to demonstrate that when this jury was unanimous, it removed any doubt from my mind that the jury reached the correct verdicts. 

Lastly, I didn't mention the verdict on the rape charge.  You wrongly assumed that we found the defendant guilty of rape.  While the jurors believed that the contact between the victim and accused was non-consensual, we found the accused "not guilty" of the rape charge.  Our state law requires penile penetration in the vagina for it to be rape.  I didn't believe that there was any evidence of penetration as the rape kit only reflected the boyfriend's (not the accused) although the accused DNA did appear on the victim's bra and panties.  Again, I rest comfortable that the verdicts we reached on each count were correct according to the law, despite the law, in my opinion, being flawed in this case.