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Well said! That’s absolutely true when dealing with someone new. For a new provider, I don’t expect my availability to matter—they’re running a business, and I either make their schedule work or I look elsewhere. But with regulars, it’s a different story. My regulars always work around my schedule—they make the time, no matter what. I don’t expect it, but they just do. That kind of consideration is one of the reasons I stay loyal to them. Always.

Trust me, the provider will spot the envelope; I wouldn’t worry. But if it gives you peace of mind, especially with first-time providers, you can set it on a table, stand, or wherever you prefer. Look at him, smile, and step away. He’ll know! The best providers will keep their eyes on you the entire time. They’ll know it’s there and will take it at the end. After that, it’s your time to enjoy.

I always give money in an unsealed envelope, especially with first-time providers. I leave it on a desk where they can see it as soon as they walk in. They’ve never counted it in front of me, and I avoid handing it to them directly (only with first-time providers). They know it’s there and will take it when appropriate. Personally, handing someone the money to inspect and then taking it back until they fulfill their end of the agreement feels awkward and unprofessional. It’s better to establish trust and respect from the beginning by keeping the process smooth and discreet.

True! The Tony’s love Borle and Cerveris.

Notwithstanding all the divided opinions, how does a bottom really pull this off with a provider (assuming the provider is the top)? Practically speaking, how do they keep everything in place without awkward leaks? Is it all about next-level muscle control or strategic clenching? Gravity alone seems like a challenge—walking, sitting, or taking a car ride would make it tricky. Maybe they use a discreet plug or snug clothing, but even then, the timing has to be perfect. Do they lie down after the last encounter or just embrace some messiness?

Thank you for sharing something so deeply personal. Your words resonate with me. Many years ago, I lost someone who was more than just my partner—he was the one who taught me the depths of what love could mean. He was the first to make me believe in a future where love felt safe, certain, and lasting. When he passed, I fell into the same pattern you described, replaying all the “lasts.” The last time we laughed together. The last time he surprised me with something small but thoughtful—a flower he picked on his way home or a favorite bottle of wine. The last time he said my name. The last time he touched me. Those memories became sacred but also suffocating. One day, while going through some of his things, I came across an old note he had written to me. It wasn’t meant to be profound—it was just a grocery list with a little message scribbled at the bottom: “Let’s make this a good day.” That simple phrase stuck with me. I realized I had been focusing so much on what was gone that I had stopped allowing myself to create new moments, new memories, new beginnings. It wasn’t about replacing him or forgetting what we had. It was about honoring him by continuing to live in the way he had encouraged me to—with openness to joy and possibility. Now, when I think of him, I don’t just remember the endings. I celebrate the beginnings—the first time he made me feel seen, the first time I let my guard down and trusted someone completely, the first time I realized that love doesn’t need to be perfect to be real. Those firsts don’t take away from the love I’ve shared with others before or since—they’re a part of the larger tapestry of who I am and how I’ve loved. I hope, as you move through your grief, you’ll give yourself the grace to hold on to the past while also leaving space for new beginnings. Life may feel heavy now, but it’s still full of so much to discover and cherish. Even the smallest steps forward can remind us that love, in all its forms, is worth pursuing—until the very end.

Much love and blessings to you!

I hope so, because a hairy chest on a man is just… perfection. When his chest presses firmly against mine, the hair brushing and tickling my nipples, it sends little jolts of heat through me. My hands running over that warm, rugged hair, feeling every muscle shift beneath. And then, the softer, downy hair along his thighs or the rougher scruff at the curve of his ass when I grip him tight… Bring back the fur!

I also liked Angela Lansbury and Tyne Daly.

Tammy Faye announces closing - December 8 Broadway's Tammy Faye Abruptly Sets Final Performance PLAYBILL.COM The Elton John-Jake Shears musical opened at the Palace Theatre November 14.

A gorgeous production. Not sure we’ll see something like that again on that kind of scale.

I’m glad you saw the video - it was a beautiful performance.

I hear you. However, if I’m already attracted to you, then why lie about your age? The lie doesn’t change how I feel, so what’s the point? It seems like the lie might stem from insecurity or a desire to present a version of yourself that you think is more acceptable, but if I’m still interested regardless, it makes the deception seem unnecessary. So the real question becomes: What are you hoping to gain from the lie when it doesn’t impact my attraction?

Update: I recently had the chance to see Adam Lambert in Cabaret, and his performance completely blew me away. Unlike Eddie Redmayne, whose Emcee felt trapped in an abstract and overly cerebral interpretation, Lambert brought the character to life with vibrant energy and authenticity. He perfectly captured the balance between playful decadence and heartbreaking vulnerability, creating a performance that felt both grounded and electric. What truly set Lambert apart was his extraordinary voice (Side note: I became a huge fan when I saw his rendition of Cher’s Believe at the Kennedy Center.) He commanded every song with such power and emotion that it gave the numbers a whole new depth. But it wasn’t just about the vocals—Lambert understood the Emcee. He embodied the character as a fluid, ever-changing enigma: part entertainer, part provocateur, and part harbinger of the looming darkness. His Emcee didn’t just inhabit the stage; he owned it, pulling the audience into the cabaret’s chaotic and haunting world. This was a brilliant interpretation that should have opened this revival.

Try Rentmen for starters. They have international listings. Reach out to providers who match what you’re looking for and start from there. Good luck.

Agreed! Didn’t Elton John also do Lestat? That was a tragic evening at the theater. I do love Carolee Carmello, but… ouch. I think he peaked with Billy Elliott and hasn’t quite matched that magic since. I saw Ben Platt when he performed at the Palace and the bathrooms were exactly as you described.

I’m so glad you said that!! I had a few friends over for a watch party when it premiered on Netflix. We made it a whole thing—cocktails, champagne, and some very on-brand hors d’oeuvres: cucumber sandwiches, mini beef Wellingtons, and a “Crown Jewel” cheese platter. Every time a character dramatically said “the People,” we took a sip, which, in hindsight, explains why we ran out of Prosecco halfway through Act One. By the time they got to “This Is How Your People Dance,” we were choreographing our own royal routines in the living room, tiaras askew. Regal chaos.

Let the clock down begin.

True. He had top billing—his name came first. Bigger star. Neither received a Tony nomination, but Cerveris did. It played at the Marquis, which never seems able to hold down a musical for long. There’s just something about that location.

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Extending this string further afield, the reviews for Tammy Faye are in—Lord help them, because they’ll need a prayer to stay open. The consensus seems to be that the refurbished Palace Theatre is the real star of the show. On a related note, I bet Andrew Rannells is feeling pretty content that contract negotiations fell through and Christian Borle took over the role of Jim Bakker.

LCT would be a great home for Ragtime - smart move!