ApexNomad

I taught him everything he knows.

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/143945-dangarously-outstandarius/?do=findComment&comment=2153837 @azdr0710 are you proud? I’m getting the hang of this. 😂

You should absolutely prioritize your own needs. But I think kindness and avoiding time-consuming pen-pal situations aren’t mutually exclusive. One can be respectful and considerate without feeling obligated to engage in conversations that don’t align with one’s personal needs or boundaries. Both actions can coexist without having to sacrifice one for the other.

And if you’re the prosecution team, you’re exactly the person they want on the jury.

I agree with you. I think apps/hiding behind a screen do reveal aspects of who people truly are, especially when the accountability of in-person interaction is removed. In gay culture, this often exposes biases and insecurities, amplifying the focus on aesthetics and instant gratification. While apps don’t create these behaviors, they magnify them. In my opinion, the challenge for us as a community is to use these spaces to foster connection and kindness rather than letting them perpetuate division or superficiality.

You raise an important point about the optics surrounding the NYPD’s handling of the case. The manner in which they perp-walked the defendant, paired with the high-profile nature of the arrest, could be viewed as excessive and potentially prejudicial. The defense might argue that this treatment reflects an overzealous pursuit of the defendant, designed more for public spectacle than for the pursuit of justice. Furthermore, the additional charges and the disproportionate focus on the victim’s status could very well undermine the fairness of the legal process. While the jury must base their verdict on the law and evidence presented, these extraneous factors could influence their perception of the case’s integrity, making them crucial for the defense to address strategically. On the other hand, the prosecution might assert that the NYPD’s actions were warranted given the severity of the charges and the potential threat to public safety. They may argue that the aggressive approach was a necessary step to demonstrate the seriousness of the crime and ensure the defendant’s apprehension, especially considering the high-profile nature of the victim. The prosecution could further contend that the extra charges were justified based on the facts of the case and were meant to hold the defendant fully accountable. While the defense will likely challenge the fairness of the public perception, the prosecution will emphasize the need for an appropriate and visible response to a crime of such magnitude.

Agreed. Shift, yes. How big a shift? That’s a different story.

I wouldn’t call it a lack of self-confidence so much as a deep understanding of what truly makes you happy and fulfilled. There’s nothing wrong with valuing shared experiences with people who genuinely enjoy your company, and I think that clarity is something to celebrate. Whenever there’s a transactional component, it’s important to understand that providers are there because you’re paying them to be there. That doesn’t mean the connection can’t feel enjoyable or even meaningful in the moment, but the terms need to be clear. When it comes to mixing immersive travel with this dynamic, I think it becomes even more important to have those boundaries defined. Extended time together can blur lines, and while some people might enjoy that fantasy, it’s essential to keep expectations realistic to avoid disappointment. Great providers, however, will often sense any insecurities and make you feel like the king that you are. But again, it’s important to remember that this is a professional relationship. Wishing you all the happiness and confidence to keep exploring what works for you!

I think it also depends on when your appointment is scheduled. Many of mine are in the evening, so perhaps that puts me at the end of their schedule after seeing other clients that day.

A mix of exertion, yesterday’s cologne, and the unmistakable scent of someone else’s skin still clinging on for dear life.

That’s very sweet of you. Thank you—I really appreciate it. Wishing you so much joy and happiness.

Take your time to process everything you’re feeling right now. This has been a unique and emotional journey, and it’s okay to let it sink in. You both shared something special, and I think it’s important to give yourself space to reflect on it.