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This obsession over $1000 and a provider’s right to set his rate has consumed way too much of @PileDriver ‘s time. Two threads on the same topic? In a matter of 4 months? Very strange! Either he can’t afford it or just has a personal gripe and refuses to pay on principle. Either way, the choice still remains simple—pay it or don’t. Move on!

I don’t set the prices. If you don’t agree with them, don’t pay. It’s really that simple. Or is my response still too generic?

Pricing in any market often reflects a combination of factors—supply and demand, perceived exclusivity, and even how someone chooses to brand themselves. Some escorts have built such a strong reputation and developed such a loyal client base that they can set whatever price they want for new hires. In a city full of options, clients might be willing to pay more for someone they view as a “premium” even if the difference isn’t immediately obvious.

I wish I had my head on as straight at your age and been as open and communicative as you are. Good for you! The fact that you’re approaching this with such thoughtfulness speaks volumes about the strength of your relationship and the care you bring to it. Keep leaning into that love and curiosity, and I have no doubt you’ll continue to find ways to bridge that gap. Wishing you both much joy and happiness!

$500 is very common especially in NYC. Some require 2 hour min so the session is now $1000.

It sounds like you’ve built a beautiful, loving foundation with your husband, and that’s something truly worth celebrating. But I understand how a sexual disconnect can feel isolating, even in an otherwise perfect relationship. Love is about more than sex, but sex is still an important part of intimacy and it sounds like you’re seeking a deeper connection in that space. One thing I’ve learned with time is that desire and intimacy don’t always come naturally, even in great relationships; they often need to be cultivated, just like any other part of a partnership. You seem to have already made an effort to communicate your needs, which is huge. But here’s a gentle challenge: instead of just focusing on the mismatch, explore what new sexual experiences you both might discover together. Maybe try introducing a “date night” where sex is the playful focus, without pressure to get it perfect. Sometimes when we approach things from curiosity rather than expectation, magic can happen. If you’re open to it, seeing a counselor as another member mentioned, one who specializes in relationships, sex and intimacy, can help spark deeper conversations and solutions. And while I don’t know how old either of you are, different seasons of life sometimes bring different sexual dynamics, which a skilled professional can help navigate. There’s also the option of exploring ethical non-monogamy, if both of you are willing to have that conversation. Some couples find that an open relationship, built on trust and clear boundaries, can actually strengthen their connection. But that’s deeply personal and only works if both partners are fully on board. Whatever path you take, keep holding space for the love and laughter you share—it’s rare and beautiful. And don’t be afraid to keep advocating for your pleasure, gently but unapologetically. I’m rooting for you both.

An adult movie theater, where undercover police officers were also present. The incident would have gone completely unnoticed if it weren’t for Reubens’ fame as Pee-wee Herman, which led to intense media attention and public scrutiny. The publicity surrounding the arrest was more about his high-profile persona than the nature of the incident itself.

Show is moving to peacock.

@lostlonelysoul my humble opinion, this is who you hire!! You need a provider exactly like this! @Simon SuraciYou are the modern provider I had the first time. Bravo to you and thank you for what you do.

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I love your list. Check out old clips on YouTube with Craig Ferguson for both actresses on Late Show. You’ll get a laugh. (Craig is another good choice too.)

1. Shohreh Aghdashloo (love her voice; great actress) 2. Morgan Freeman (same as above; great actor) 3. Jennifer Tilly (she has great stories and makes me laugh when she tells them) 4. My brother

I don’t believe Pee Wee, as a character, would have had the same life back then if Paul Reubens was openly gay. Especially when his show took off, his appeal was centered on children. A career in Hollywood as a gay person, particularly during that time, was incredibly difficult.

Gorgeous cock… weird tattoo placement.

No one should ever feel ashamed for being a virgin. But I don’t think remaining a virgin automatically gives someone clarity or makes them immune to bad decisions. People mess up for all kinds of reasons, and that’s part of being human. Sex isn’t inherently the problem—it’s how people approach it that can be problematic. When done with the right mindset and respect for yourself and others, it can be one of the most fulfilling and meaningful experiences. It’s not about losing anything; it’s about gaining connection, confidence, and understanding. At the end of the day, it’s a personal decision. For some, staying a virgin feels right, and for others, exploring intimacy is part of their journey. What matters is making the choice on your terms, free from shame or pressure because that’s where real clarity and power come from. I lost my virginity to a provider well over 40 years ago—a very different time from the tools we have now. It was one of the best decisions I ever made. We spoke on the phone beforehand, and I even met him in person before going back to his place. He was incredibly kind, patient, and understanding. I’m not saying he wouldn’t have been any of those things if I hadn’t told him, but I can assure you, the fact that I did share that with him made him treat it as every bit as special as it was. In my opinion, it’s really important to be upfront about your needs and circumstances. While it might feel intimidating, honesty and transparency go a long way and it will also weed out the providers who don’t take the request seriously. I also think the advice about paying for a provider’s time as if it’s “date” is really solid. It can help calm your nerves and also give you a chance to see if this is someone you feel comfortable exploring your body with. What you want is a safe space, and I think finding that in today’s culture, and respectfully at your age, may prove difficult. There are many active providers here who can give you that safe space. If hiring a provider feels like too much right now, consider starting with an erotic massage as a stepping stone, as others have said. It’s a great way to get used to human touch in an intimate, safe, and professional setting. You might find it helps you feel more relaxed and in tune with what you want from future experiences. As for the idea that an escort will exacerbate your social issues by making it too easy, I disagree. A provider isn’t a permanent replacement for genuine social connection, but they can help you take an important first step. Building confidence and experiencing intimacy in a safe, judgment-free environment can be a stepping stone to opening yourself up to future experiences and relationships. For me, it was incredibly empowering and life-affirming. I was VERY lucky with the provider I met. A true professional will meet you halfway, but you also need to be willing to do the same. It’s all about finding someone who respects where you’re coming from and works with you. Best of luck to you!

I’m looking forward to it too! It does preview like it’ll be a fun, upbeat watch. And while I’m sure they’ll keep it positive, Liza’s life had some real lows, so it’ll be interesting to see how they cover it all. Enjoy your time in the City.

You’re not overreacting. Block.

I’m sure it’s not a typo. This is the same guy who sent me a private message after I called him out for talking like that about another similar looking provider. His message: “Face down ass up, that’s the way we like to fuck! Do better!” This guy is a punk and still hasn’t done better. Grow up and be a real man!

To be clear, are you saying the provider asked for money to cover their own random expenses before your scheduled meeting? And this is a provider you’ve never met before? And this is the third time this has happened to you (with three different providers)? Was it framed as a deposit or something more casual? Just trying to get a clearer picture since it seems like this is becoming a pattern.

I think there’s a difference in acknowledging someone’s enjoyment of the time together versus suggesting something outside the established dynamic. When a provider says something like, “I would have talked to you if circumstances were different,” it can be a bit misleading, especially when it implies that the interaction could have evolved into something more if the setting were altered. That’s where I’d want to draw a line—there’s a risk of blurring the professional boundaries, which can create confusion. You’re absolutely right that when hiring a provider, it’s essential to understand that you’re hiring a professional. And so with that professionalism comes the expectation that the boundaries of the paid encounter will be respected, without the suggestion of something more. A professional should be able to keep the experience grounded in the established dynamic, which is why it’s important for both the provider and client to maintain that clarity. The moment those boundaries start to blur like with hypothetical “what ifs” it can create confusion. Compliments are fine and enjoyable if they stay within the scope of the paid arrangement. I get the analogy about cases, but comparing that to a comment made after we’ve just had sex is a different ballgame. Once intimacy is involved, it’s about real emotions, and those boundaries need to be respected.

I’m gay, so that analogy if spoken to me in the moment does nothing for me. Honestly, it just makes me wonder if the guy has actually been with pussy (which is fine) BUT is not something I as a gay man want to be thinking about when he’s supposed to be focused on fucking my MOUTH! Do you want to be fucking a wet pussy right now or my wet mouth?

It seems odd to me that you would casually chat on Grindr with someone you hired professionally and then bring up hooking up with other providers. It feels like the roles of “client” and a “casual social contact” are getting muddled. The escort’s reaction may or may not be dramatic, but the whole scenario seems a bit strange to me.

He’s a real life werewolf. 😍

I find that so baffling!! How can someone be “nice in general,” but not want you to speak? Isn’t communication kind of the point during a PAID intimate session? As the client, shouldn’t YOU get to say what you want? When you want, however many times you want? Isn’t that the whole point?

It was hard to decipher Callas’s cons with all the emojis, let alone understand it. Most gay men are size queens—rarely do I read about a big dick being a con. Maybe. When someone says discreet, I think more about social interactions or public dealings, not hysteria in bed or Meg Ryan in When Harry Met Sally. But Callas would know best—he met him.