ApexNomad

How so?

Setting clear emotional boundaries is essential for your well-being, especially if you want to continue engaging in this “hobby.” If those lines have become unclear, taking a step away to gain perspective might be the best thing for you right now. Trust yourself to navigate this thoughtfully.

When you can’t decide, you take both. 😉

This was really beautiful and well said.

Looks like those credit card fees have really been bugging him.

1920s? You must be at least 100! Your typing skills are impressive—I can only hope to have the same mental sharpness and dexterity at your age.

Interesting alpha traits for a Libra.

I remember the OP’s plea quite vividly—preying on and profiting from a vulnerable population… one benevolent BJ at a time. The “lucky” provider will be compensated with a bus ticket or a new mobile device like the others.

I'm glad you didn't say, “… snips….”

Nothing makes me feel all warm and fuzzy than being flipped off in a provider ad—though I can think of much better uses for a provider’s fingers than that.

If the grief doesn’t kill you, the food will.

I can’t think of any providers to give or receive “benevolent BJs” for your exploitative website.

You’re right! My mistake. I meant to say Ms. Hussey. The thread was confusing. Thanks.

@marylander1940 @Luv2play Yes! Another reason is the cultural emphasis on portion control and slower-paced, more mindful eating in many European countries. Meals are often enjoyed in a social setting, where people tend to savor their food, eat more slowly, and have smaller portions. This contrasts with the fast-paced, larger portion sizes often seen in other countries (like here in the U.S.), which can contribute to overeating. Additionally, the focus on quality over quantity, with an emphasis on fresh, seasonal ingredients, also plays a role in healthier eating habits.

True. Yes, Dayle Haddon was indeed in Romeo and Juliet (1968) directed by Franco Zeffirelli.

Sadly the screen for some feels more real than in the flesh. Different generation.

It appears there were no carbon monoxide detectors in the old farmhouse — a senseless and preventable tragedy.

I relate to this juxtaposition and applaud you for finding those moments of vulnerability. My real life is similar: constantly assessing, high-pressure and very guarded. When I’m with a provider, I make a conscious effort to let that go and allow myself to be vulnerable. When it works, it’s very cathartic and, in my opinion, one of the greatest gifts a provider can offer—a space to truly be free.

Respectfully, I find this discussion to be vulgar. Who gives a shit!! Unless you’re considering becoming a provider yourself, this kind of speculation is unnecessary. If you’re curious, you can always consult someone in the field directly offline. Otherwise, it’s really none of anyone’s business—just like no one is asking you how much you make. As I understood Kevin Slater’s chart, it was simply a breakdown of client dynamics (new vs. regulars), not an invitation to calculate hypothetical earnings. When it comes to money, the only part of a provider’s finances that concerns me is what he’s charging me. How he spends it or how much he makes is none of my business.