ApexNomad

You raise an important point about the optics surrounding the NYPD’s handling of the case. The manner in which they perp-walked the defendant, paired with the high-profile nature of the arrest, could be viewed as excessive and potentially prejudicial. The defense might argue that this treatment reflects an overzealous pursuit of the defendant, designed more for public spectacle than for the pursuit of justice. Furthermore, the additional charges and the disproportionate focus on the victim’s status could very well undermine the fairness of the legal process. While the jury must base their verdict on the law and evidence presented, these extraneous factors could influence their perception of the case’s integrity, making them crucial for the defense to address strategically. On the other hand, the prosecution might assert that the NYPD’s actions were warranted given the severity of the charges and the potential threat to public safety. They may argue that the aggressive approach was a necessary step to demonstrate the seriousness of the crime and ensure the defendant’s apprehension, especially considering the high-profile nature of the victim. The prosecution could further contend that the extra charges were justified based on the facts of the case and were meant to hold the defendant fully accountable. While the defense will likely challenge the fairness of the public perception, the prosecution will emphasize the need for an appropriate and visible response to a crime of such magnitude.

Agreed. Shift, yes. How big a shift? That’s a different story.

I wouldn’t call it a lack of self-confidence so much as a deep understanding of what truly makes you happy and fulfilled. There’s nothing wrong with valuing shared experiences with people who genuinely enjoy your company, and I think that clarity is something to celebrate. Whenever there’s a transactional component, it’s important to understand that providers are there because you’re paying them to be there. That doesn’t mean the connection can’t feel enjoyable or even meaningful in the moment, but the terms need to be clear. When it comes to mixing immersive travel with this dynamic, I think it becomes even more important to have those boundaries defined. Extended time together can blur lines, and while some people might enjoy that fantasy, it’s essential to keep expectations realistic to avoid disappointment. Great providers, however, will often sense any insecurities and make you feel like the king that you are. But again, it’s important to remember that this is a professional relationship. Wishing you all the happiness and confidence to keep exploring what works for you!

I think it also depends on when your appointment is scheduled. Many of mine are in the evening, so perhaps that puts me at the end of their schedule after seeing other clients that day.

A mix of exertion, yesterday’s cologne, and the unmistakable scent of someone else’s skin still clinging on for dear life.

That’s very sweet of you. Thank you—I really appreciate it. Wishing you so much joy and happiness.

Take your time to process everything you’re feeling right now. This has been a unique and emotional journey, and it’s okay to let it sink in. You both shared something special, and I think it’s important to give yourself space to reflect on it.

The standard of male attractiveness, particularly within the gay community, has been shaped by a combination of cultural, historical, and media influences. Western media has long emphasized muscular, traditionally masculine looks, often depicted by white men in movies, advertisements, and fitness magazines. This standard became ingrained in societal ideals of beauty and sexuality, which were then reflected in gay culture, particularly through gay porn and platforms like Scruff. While these ideals are still prevalent, there has been a shift in recent years toward embracing a broader range of body types, ethnicities, and expressions of masculinity.

That SMILE!!!!!!!!! Oh how I wish I was that dog. Simply beautiful. ❤️

You’re absolutely correct. While jury nullification is not a formal legal defense and cannot be directly advocated for at trial, it remains an inherent power of the jury to acquit based on their own sense of justice, even in the face of clear evidence. This is likely a strategy Luigi Mangione’s attorneys will consider, especially if they can frame the application of the law in this case as unjust or disproportionate. Though unpredictable, such an approach could resonate with jurors on a moral level, making it a calculated, albeit risky, part of the defense’s overall strategy.

I, too, came of age in a pre-digital and pre-internet world. My work forced me to adapt to rapid changes, often with the help of younger assistants and nephews. I’ve never been on Grindr, though I know many who are, and I can’t imagine putting myself through that. I enjoy the comfort, convenience, and, for the most part, reliability of escorts. Your reflection captures a deeper truth about the evolution of social dynamics, particularly in queer spaces, from a time when mutual respect and a sense of shared community were more apparent. It’s not just about individual rejection—it’s about a cultural shift that, in many ways, feels less human. In the pre-digital world, face-to-face interactions demanded a level of accountability and empathy. Rejection, while still painful, often came with grace or at least an acknowledgment of shared humanity. That’s likely because personal connections weren’t as disposable as they often feel in today’s swipe-and-scroll culture. People understood that, regardless of attraction, there was value in kindness and maintaining a sense of community. It’s worth remembering that digital interactions don’t define your worth or the potential for meaningful connections—professional or otherwise. To return to your original post, and to approach this from a different angle, let’s take your chain of thought to its conclusion. If the providers had responded warmly to you on Grindr, what then would you seek in your professional interaction through a paid encounter? Would you be reaching out to them on RM purely for the service they offer, or would you also hope to cultivate something more intimate, personal, or authentic? What do you hope to gain from reaching out to a provider who was kind on Grindr? When someone engages with you on a personal platform like Grindr, it can feel, I imagine, more organic or reciprocal, which might create the hope of a genuine connection. But when that same person operates in a professional capacity on RM, their focus is on providing a specific service, irrespective of any prior engagement. If you’re hoping that their positive Grindr interaction might carry over into the professional realm—by that I mean mutual attraction or genuine deeper interest—this is where disappointment becomes likely. Do not confuse the two. It’s natural to want the fantasy of mutual attraction to blend seamlessly with the reality of a professional arrangement. However, it’s important to recognize that even a friendly or flirtatious interaction on Grindr doesn’t necessarily translate to deeper personal interest. Escorts, like anyone else, may enjoy friendly banter or casual engagement without intending for it to evolve further. Reaching out on RM with expectations tied to a Grindr interaction could create a mismatch between what you want and what they’re offering. If your goal is a fulfilling, professional interaction, approach providers solely within the context of RM. This helps maintain clear boundaries and avoids letting personal interactions influence your expectations of the professional experience.

You are the perfect example of what an exemplary provider should be—someone who creates a safe space, understands the weight of unspoken insecurities, and facilitates a sense of comfort and freedom. Truly, this is eloquent in its own right.

I loved reading your story - I wish you had more time together. Great memory to have. Thank you for sharing.

You’ll definitely get different answers to this, as you know. Speaking as a bottom, I’ve tried it all—but I stick with sugaring now because I feel it’s the nicest all around. I’m smooth, but I’ve had a few regulars over the years, interestingly enough, mention they wouldn’t mind if I grew it out. At the end of the day, tastes vary. What matters most is working with what you have, feeling confident, and above all, enjoying the connection with your partner. The hair (or lack thereof) is just one detail. It’s the moment you create together that counts.

We all know what happened to Veruca…

Anita Bryant’s legacy is a complex one—she caused real harm to LGBTQ people by campaigning against their basic rights, so it’s not surprising that many view her downfall as a form of poetic justice. But framing this as gays hating Christianity feels reductive. I would argue that the LGBTQ community doesn’t oppose Christianity itself; they oppose the weaponization of faith to justify discrimination. Christianity, like any belief system, can be practiced in ways that are inclusive and compassionate, or in ways that marginalize others. The backlash is against the latter—not the faith itself.

His tuxedo was literally on fire from all the flaming, and Kris was attending a chambers concert with his mother—that’s how they knew they were gay!!

Barbra’s memoir was overly curated, focusing on control and perfection, while Cher’s was raw, unapologetic, and full of vibrant anecdotes that captured her larger-than-life personality. Looking forward to part two.

My bottom ass enjoys watching two tops fight. 🔥😘

In another time, Barbara Stanwyck would have been a fascinating choice for Mame. While Mame is often portrayed with a certain whimsical flair, Stanwyck’s ability to balance humor with deeper emotional resonance could have infused Mame with a unique blend of warmth, strength, and depth, making her not only vivacious but also more grounded and poignant. She would have created a version of Mame that was both fiercely independent and deeply caring, with a complexity that reflected the resilience of the character, while still embracing Mame’s spirited joy and defiance.

I agree with the sentiment that it’s best not to be the one to initiate this conversation. If your masseur’s husband wants a threesome, it should come from him—it’s his relationship, and he knows how to navigate those dynamics better than anyone else. Another thing to consider is that you’ve already been with your masseur’s husband, presumably, without his knowledge. Even in an open relationship, that dynamic can get tricky. It’s one thing for them not to share details about what they do separately, but if you initiate the threesome conversation without that being disclosed, it could feel like you’re keeping a secret, and that might create unnecessary tension. This is why I’d suggest letting the husband take the lead if this is something he wants to pursue. It keeps you out of the middle and avoids any potential fallout that could harm your relationship with your masseur. Sometimes, leaving well enough alone really is the smartest move.