ApexNomad

No one should ever feel ashamed for being a virgin. But I don’t think remaining a virgin automatically gives someone clarity or makes them immune to bad decisions. People mess up for all kinds of reasons, and that’s part of being human. Sex isn’t inherently the problem—it’s how people approach it that can be problematic. When done with the right mindset and respect for yourself and others, it can be one of the most fulfilling and meaningful experiences. It’s not about losing anything; it’s about gaining connection, confidence, and understanding. At the end of the day, it’s a personal decision. For some, staying a virgin feels right, and for others, exploring intimacy is part of their journey. What matters is making the choice on your terms, free from shame or pressure because that’s where real clarity and power come from. I lost my virginity to a provider well over 40 years ago—a very different time from the tools we have now. It was one of the best decisions I ever made. We spoke on the phone beforehand, and I even met him in person before going back to his place. He was incredibly kind, patient, and understanding. I’m not saying he wouldn’t have been any of those things if I hadn’t told him, but I can assure you, the fact that I did share that with him made him treat it as every bit as special as it was. In my opinion, it’s really important to be upfront about your needs and circumstances. While it might feel intimidating, honesty and transparency go a long way and it will also weed out the providers who don’t take the request seriously. I also think the advice about paying for a provider’s time as if it’s “date” is really solid. It can help calm your nerves and also give you a chance to see if this is someone you feel comfortable exploring your body with. What you want is a safe space, and I think finding that in today’s culture, and respectfully at your age, may prove difficult. There are many active providers here who can give you that safe space. If hiring a provider feels like too much right now, consider starting with an erotic massage as a stepping stone, as others have said. It’s a great way to get used to human touch in an intimate, safe, and professional setting. You might find it helps you feel more relaxed and in tune with what you want from future experiences. As for the idea that an escort will exacerbate your social issues by making it too easy, I disagree. A provider isn’t a permanent replacement for genuine social connection, but they can help you take an important first step. Building confidence and experiencing intimacy in a safe, judgment-free environment can be a stepping stone to opening yourself up to future experiences and relationships. For me, it was incredibly empowering and life-affirming. I was VERY lucky with the provider I met. A true professional will meet you halfway, but you also need to be willing to do the same. It’s all about finding someone who respects where you’re coming from and works with you. Best of luck to you!

I’m looking forward to it too! It does preview like it’ll be a fun, upbeat watch. And while I’m sure they’ll keep it positive, Liza’s life had some real lows, so it’ll be interesting to see how they cover it all. Enjoy your time in the City.

You’re not overreacting. Block.

I’m sure it’s not a typo. This is the same guy who sent me a private message after I called him out for talking like that about another similar looking provider. His message: “Face down ass up, that’s the way we like to fuck! Do better!” This guy is a punk and still hasn’t done better. Grow up and be a real man!

To be clear, are you saying the provider asked for money to cover their own random expenses before your scheduled meeting? And this is a provider you’ve never met before? And this is the third time this has happened to you (with three different providers)? Was it framed as a deposit or something more casual? Just trying to get a clearer picture since it seems like this is becoming a pattern.

I think there’s a difference in acknowledging someone’s enjoyment of the time together versus suggesting something outside the established dynamic. When a provider says something like, “I would have talked to you if circumstances were different,” it can be a bit misleading, especially when it implies that the interaction could have evolved into something more if the setting were altered. That’s where I’d want to draw a line—there’s a risk of blurring the professional boundaries, which can create confusion. You’re absolutely right that when hiring a provider, it’s essential to understand that you’re hiring a professional. And so with that professionalism comes the expectation that the boundaries of the paid encounter will be respected, without the suggestion of something more. A professional should be able to keep the experience grounded in the established dynamic, which is why it’s important for both the provider and client to maintain that clarity. The moment those boundaries start to blur like with hypothetical “what ifs” it can create confusion. Compliments are fine and enjoyable if they stay within the scope of the paid arrangement. I get the analogy about cases, but comparing that to a comment made after we’ve just had sex is a different ballgame. Once intimacy is involved, it’s about real emotions, and those boundaries need to be respected.

I’m gay, so that analogy if spoken to me in the moment does nothing for me. Honestly, it just makes me wonder if the guy has actually been with pussy (which is fine) BUT is not something I as a gay man want to be thinking about when he’s supposed to be focused on fucking my MOUTH! Do you want to be fucking a wet pussy right now or my wet mouth?

It seems odd to me that you would casually chat on Grindr with someone you hired professionally and then bring up hooking up with other providers. It feels like the roles of “client” and a “casual social contact” are getting muddled. The escort’s reaction may or may not be dramatic, but the whole scenario seems a bit strange to me.

He’s a real life werewolf. 😍

I find that so baffling!! How can someone be “nice in general,” but not want you to speak? Isn’t communication kind of the point during a PAID intimate session? As the client, shouldn’t YOU get to say what you want? When you want, however many times you want? Isn’t that the whole point?

It was hard to decipher Callas’s cons with all the emojis, let alone understand it. Most gay men are size queens—rarely do I read about a big dick being a con. Maybe. When someone says discreet, I think more about social interactions or public dealings, not hysteria in bed or Meg Ryan in When Harry Met Sally. But Callas would know best—he met him.

So you couldn’t verbalize how he made you feel while he was fucking you? Or you couldn’t make any sounds? Were you saying anything at all that prompted him to pretty much say shut up? And you like him because? For the record, I never would have guessed your emojis and symbols.

But these were listed as his “cons.” I can’t imagine being discreet and having a big dick being a con. But first time for everything.

I didn’t know this review would be a rebus puzzle. I need more coffee this morning. I get the first two (his ad doesn’t list kissing, but he does list BFE which I always find odd - always best to ask in advance if kissing is important to you), but I’m not understanding your last two. He doesn’t speak much? And he’s a member of the royal family?

I expect nothing less from Liza.

Anyone watch Season 2 of Squid Game? I enjoyed it. Tough act to follow after season 1, but they managed to ramp up the stakes and deepen the story. It explores the game’s origins and the people behind it. The new players and games keep things fresh, with interesting twists. It doesn’t have the same shock factor as the first season, but the emotional depth and moral dilemmas keep it gripping. I’m curious to see where it goes next in the third and final season.

Title is a mouthful.

So true! 😂 I think they had no clue what they were witnessing.

Angelina Jolie’s performance felt polished but hollow, missing the emotional depth and authenticity needed to truly embody the legendary singer.

Ariana DeBose in talks to star in Evita at the London Palladium.

It’s always odd when a film racks up major Oscar nominations—like Wicked earning 10—but the director gets snubbed. It creates this strange disconnect, as if the movie directed itself. The Academy has a history of this, though (Argo and The Color Purple come to mind). Maybe they assume the magic just happened without someone at the helm.

This is an example of why swapping pictures is bullshit and a complete waste of time. If in doubt and serious, do a video call - SEE the person you’re about to drop hundreds of dollars for. If everyone’s good, schedule the appointment right there. Done.

We share the same type. 😍

Sir Peter won a few - well deserved in my book.