ApexNomad

I read your message twice, and to me, it seems to suggest that someone who isn’t having frequent sex doesn’t need to take PrEP and could instead use DoxyPep as an “as needed” approach. Am I understanding that correctly?

Smoking, straight, and only does BJs—how much more evidence do you need to rule this one out, Your Honor.

You could say something like: “Hey, I love animals, but I prefer a pet-free experience during our time together. Would it be possible to have them in another room? Also, I’m a bit sensitive to strong pet odors, so I just wanted to check in about that upfront. Thank you.” This keeps it respectful while making your needs clear. This is YOUR time. Most will and should understand, but if they get defensive, that’s a sign they’re probably not the right fit.

Hi, Simon: Did he just check out your profile, or did he actually engage? If you’re looking to connect for mutual fun or business and have interest, I’d ask for a FaceTime call to verify. Match the profile to the face.

Leaving a review of your experience is one thing, but the age-shaming at the end is both unnecessary and revealing. Attraction is subjective, but making broad, dismissive statements about older gay men has nothing to do with reviewing the provider. Reducing attraction to age and gym attendance is not only shallow but laughably naive—especially in a space where people also pay for chemistry. If you need to put others down to justify why you “clicked,” maybe the connection wasn’t as deep as you think.

I can’t believe this thread is 3 pages. Why don’t they pick up? BECAUSE THEY’RE BUSY! Either with a client, buying groceries, or taking a shit. If they don’t pick up and you feel so aggrieved, find another one.

If you haven’t established yourself with this provider before and are jumping straight into an overnight that is to occur months from now, he might be hesitant —justifiably so—about whether it will actually happen. Just ask! Ask directly for a quote so you can plan accordingly. Or, suggest a quick FaceTime call to confirm everything. That way, he can see you’re serious, and you can get a better read on whether he’s someone you want to spend an overnight with.

Why? I believe there are psychological and fantasy-driven elements as to why some clients seek out “straight” providers. There’s a perception (whether accurate or not) that straight men embody a more traditional, unfiltered masculinity. Some clients may see that as more attractive or dominant. There’s the taboo factor. The idea of “turning” a straight guy, or at least being desirable enough to make him cross a boundary, is a common fantasy. It plays into power dynamics and the thrill of the forbidden. There’s the ego boost and validation. Some clients may feel more validated if they can attract or seduce a straight man, as if it confirms their own desirability. I would surmise that for some clients, straight providers may bring a different vibe compared to openly gay providers, sometimes less performative or more detached, which can be appealing to certain clients. (Though I’ve had a few “gay” providers that were equally detached.) Clients who seek out straight providers may also do so to prevent any potential for emotional connection.

And straight providers are less reckless because?

If the experience was so disappointing, where they were disengaged, on their phones, and one even left to shower, why would the person still engage in a face fuck at the very end?

It’s a terrible and unconscionable thing if a provider lies about their health status (and vice versa). You could ask questions, but they might still deceive you and lie. What you can do is protect yourself with the tools available and think with the head above your neck.

And I hope she and her accent get better.

Not the first word that comes to mind when I see him. He seems to have a penchant for changing his name often—I wouldn’t get too attached to it.

Hard to justify locking in for longer when the yield curve is this inverted. It usually signals economic uncertainty or expectations that interest rates will decline in the future.

Was the name Jack Thick already taking?

Yes you do. You want to blame everyone but yourself. PS, you have the worst fucking therapist. Get a new one.

The writing here is just superb. The level of shade, as the young ones call it, is a different level. This scene never grows old.

Pluto TV has Dynasty.

You’re being kind.

You think you offer value, but clearly, something isn’t translating. Attraction and connection aren’t just about what you believe you bring to the table—it’s about how others perceive and experience you. If no one is sticking around, then either your self-perception isn’t matching reality, or you’re fixated on people who don’t want what you offer. Either way, the issue starts and ends with you.

Try some of these:

And why would someone come back? What are you offering that makes them want to? You keep talking about what you want, what you’re not getting, but relationships—casual or serious—aren’t one-sided transactions. If no one is sticking around, maybe it’s time to stop asking “why won’t they come back?” and start asking “why would they?”

He also uses watches and quarters. Hopefully he cleans his dick too.

Even the opening theme music didn’t give me the White Lotus feel of the previous seasons—less chaotic cult vibes, more spa playlist at an overpriced wellness retreat. I’ll bet by episode six, Patrick will be doing his brother, much like when Leo Woodall was getting it on with the guy from the Pirates movie. Because if there’s one thing White Lotus loves more than luxury resorts, it’s an uncomfortable incest-adjacent subplot.

I’m flattered - thanks for thinking of me. I prefer older men though, not people who still get carded buying cough syrup.