ApexNomad

The Nathan Lane/Faith Prince/Peter Gallagher revival was pure magic!

Or compassion and emotional intelligence.

Australia — on my bucket list. Always wanted to go, but never been. Almost went a few times. The long flight really holds me back. I almost went — don’t laugh — so I could see Sarah Brightman perform in Sunset Blvd last year. Not the only reason, but I was going to schedule a trip around that. Glad I didn’t - heard she was awful.

For those that value intimacy, a deeper level of intimacy always makes it better. But that is very hard to get in a transactional relationship, especially as a first timer. A trusted regular yes, it’s possible—but that takes time.

Breath control, relaxation, gag reflex training, positioning, and communication. Before you start taking his cock, tell your husband to start slow and adjust to your comfort level when he face fucks you. That’s 101! Lightly brushing the back of your tongue with a toothbrush or finger can help reduce your gag reflex over time. Lying on your back with your head hanging slightly off the edge of the bed can straighten your throat, making things easier. Practice your breathing exercises. Training yourself with breath-holding techniques (like box breathing) may improve your ability to manage without panicking.

Imagine having one of your best experiences and still feeling the need to nitpick.

I’m actually starting to enjoy it now—I find it hysterical. Agree with you about Gaitok. Part of the enjoyment is also the vacation porn.

Best of luck to you!

Listing yourself as “straight” isn’t a get-out-of-jail-free card for not performing. Clients DO expect you to perform. If you have prerequisites to make that happen, then you need to be upfront about them in your ad. Require a FaceTime call, set specific criteria in advance—whatever you need to feel confident. But don’t waste people’s time by having a client show up, open the door, and then say, “Yeah, I can’t fuck that, but you can worship my muscles.” That’s not professionalism, that’s bait-and-switch. And a shitty thing to do to a client on the spot.

There’s a difference between setting expectations and micromanaging execution. If I book a provider and say I want a boyfriend experience or a dominant top, that’s me setting expectations. In my opinion, it’s not my job to tell him how to get and maintain an erection. With what I’m paying, I would hope he knows how to cross the finish line. How would I even know if a provider needs Trimix or Viagra? And if I start insisting they take it, does that mean I’m responsible for providing or paying for it? That doesn’t make sense. If they need something to perform, that’s for them to figure out—not for me to manage or finance.

Oh no, not a child’s vocabulary! Next thing you know, they’ll be making up words like supercalifragilisticexpialidocious and society will crumble.

Respectfully, I don’t think a client should have to tell a provider how to do his job. Once I’ve communicated what I hope to get from the experience—whether it’s a boyfriend experience, a hard fuck, or something else—it’s on the provider to handle the rest. I’m a bottom, so I make sure I’m fully clean and prepped—that’s my responsibility. I don’t expect a provider to tell me that, just like I wouldn’t expect to have to tell a top that he needs Viagra or Trimix. How would I even know? That’s on him to manage. Beyond that, even asking could be insulting or set the wrong tone before we’ve even met. I don’t want to start things off by implying I doubt his ability to perform. If a provider needs something to stay hard, that’s his responsibility to figure out—not mine.

I couldn’t get into The Bear either. It wins lots of awards for best comedy. Not a show I would first categorize as a “comedy” either.

I’m sorry for your experience. At the end of the day, you’re paying for their time, not a guaranteed experience. You could try to rationalize your position and express your disappointment, but since you mentioned they were high, I’m not sure how far that conversation will go in the moment. That might have to be a separate conversation, which at that point, you have to question whether or not it’s even worth your time. Sometimes, it’s best to just take the loss and move on.

Season 3 is leaning into its usual mix of uncomfortable family dynamics, social satire, and slow-burn psychological unraveling. The Ratliff family, in particular, feels like they’re going to be at the center of some major dysfunction. As for the Lochlan and Saxon situation, there’s definitely something off about their relationship. White Lotus loves to push boundaries, especially when it comes to wealth, power, and privilege warping interpersonal relationships. The incest vibes could be more about toxic sibling dynamics—dominance, control, and blurred boundaries—rather than a literal sexual relationship. That being said, Mike White could take it to a dark and twisted place, and nothing would surprise me at this point. The show thrives on delayed consequences. One review I read said it’s not until episode 6 that shit really hits the fan. (The critic did not have access to the final episodes.)

I just couldn’t buy into this movie. For a more compelling look at an Anna Wintour-inspired character, The September Issue does it better—especially since it features Wintour herself.

I love your little birdie. Thank you for sharing this wonderful news. I adore Heather Headley - she was the best thing about Aida. Her voice is amazing. (My guilty pleasure is Sweet Magnolias - she’s terrific in that and has sung a few times.)

Me too!! 😂

Where it often dovetails is that it’s never just an agree to disagree, is it? It’s the cheap shots and throwaway lines—“So gross to treat human beings with such disdain” or alleging emotional triggers. I’m going by the evidence presented by the poster. We have different views. We expressed them. I agree with him on a lot, and I disagree with him on some things. Absolutely fair! But honesty, directness, and conviction aren’t inherently admirable when they cover for condescension and cheap shots. But if that’s what you value, carry on.

Feel free to address me directly the next time you’re concerned about my emotional well-being. Odd that you have so much to say on this topic when you’ve admitted you don’t do overnights. What’s telling is that whenever a conversation challenges you, you fall back on your classic playbook of deflection and snide attacks. Such disdain.

If we’re going to use your analogy, am I expected to guide the inexperienced restaurant on how much to charge for catering my wedding? Based on what—my status as a regular customer? This is about a professional service, where there’s an existing relationship between provider and client. While it’s understandable if a provider is uncertain about rates for a new service, the expectation should still be that they can engage in a straightforward, professional conversation about pricing. Especially when it’s a regular client—my expectation is that pricing should be discussed openly instead of letting the client walk.

Too much responsibility on the provider to expect them to know their rates for their own business? This is fundamental to any professional service—knowing your worth and being able to discuss it confidently with clients. And not just a new client—a regular client! It doesn’t get any more basic than that.

So as mature, reasonable adults, have the discussion together. Don’t laugh at the client and let him walk—he’s a regular. Talk it out like professionals in real time. I’m sure they can come to a mutually agreeable resolution.

This isn’t about treating anyone with disdain—it’s about the basic expectation that if you’re offering a professional service, you should be prepared to discuss your rates. That’s not unreasonable, especially with a regular client. But if you want to talk about disdain, perhaps we should take a moment to audit your own responses—particularly how you refer to out-of-shape gay men.

Cyndi Lauper in Threepenny—even the chairs were trying to leave the theater!