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Political differences can override professionalism and skill if you believe they conflict with your values or threaten your way of life—but that’s on you, not the provider. A true professional won’t let personal beliefs interfere with their work. And if you do know their political beliefs, and they’ve done nothing but treat you with respect and professionalism—never compromising your safety or dignity—then choosing to disengage is, in my view, driven by fear or prejudice, not principle.

That’s a really thoughtful—and honestly, complicated—question. I believe that in a professional context, especially when it comes to hiring or evaluating someone’s work, the focus should remain on merit: their competence, integrity, professionalism, and how they treat others. If someone does their job well, respects boundaries, and maintains a neutral space free from ideological imposition, then I don’t see political affiliation as a relevant metric—just as I wouldn’t judge someone’s qualifications based on their favorite football team or preferred coffee order. That said, I also recognize we live in an increasingly polarized world, and political affiliation today can feel personal to many people. It’s often tied to values, identity, and how we see the world—not just policy positions. So I understand the emotional impulse to withdraw support if someone’s political stance feels threatening to your sense of self or community. But here’s the thing: once we start judging each other solely through the lens of tribal affiliations, we risk missing out on meaningful human interactions and even unexpected moments of growth. I don’t want to live in a world where everyone I hire, befriend, or engage with must reflect my worldview exactly. That seems like a recipe for stagnation. So, assuming the provider keeps politics out of the room and shows respect for all clients, I personally wouldn’t let political differences override professionalism and skill. To do so feels like making a decision out of fear or prejudice, not principle. In the end, we can’t control what others believe—but we can control how we respond. And maybe the most radical act today is to choose understanding over assumption.

I went to see Redwood on Broadway because, well, Idina Menzel. I figured even if the story didn’t land, her voice would carry the show. Not even she could save it. The plot—a grieving woman climbing a tree to find herself—felt thin and forced, like a Hallmark card stretched into two hours. The music blurred together, and by the third power ballad, I was ready to leaf. It was visually pretty—if you like a massive tree trunk in the center of the stage—but emotionally? Totally sappy. I went in hoping to be moved and left stuck in the branches of a show that just didn’t grow. (That’s all the puns I have folks.) Redwood Sets Early Closing Date on Broadway PLAYBILL.COM Idina Menzel stars in the musical at the Nederlander Theatre.

Time’s a luxury we all can’t afford to waste, so why keep engaging with someone who doesn’t seem to value it? It’s like giving your energy to something that’s never going to give back.

This is not a common trait with providers.

I think these are the categories to watch. There was an incident with Nicole some months back about a tweet or something I recall reading about. I think it ruffled some feathers. If voters want an excuse, they will use that. I thought she gave a brilliant performance. Absolutely stunning. Audra was electrifying! Also terrific. She’s a beloved figure in the community. Will voters extend her record or give another woman her first Tony? I think the roles are very different and demanding in their own right. In a perfect world, Megan Hilty should have won a Tony by now. And Helen J Shen should have been nominated.

I predict Smash will be the first to close. It needed Tony love and didn’t get it. Maybe Happy Ending is the little engine that could. I see this show really benefiting from today’s nominations. It has great word of mouth already (as it should - great show). And I think Darren Criss could pull an upset over Jonathan Groff for best actor.

I’m sorry for your loss my friend. What a blessing to have 42 years though. I like your idea. Crazy, yes. LOL but we’re entitled at our age.

What a fantastic show. Jonathan Groff delivered a truly mesmerizing performance—raw, nuanced, and magnetic from start to finish. Coming off the heels of last year’s triumph in Merrily We Roll Along, it’s remarkable to see him bring such a different kind of brilliance to the stage once again. A back-to-back Tony win wouldn’t surprise me in the least. I have always loved the music of Bobby Darin, and Just in Time honors it with both reverence and freshness. The arrangements are lush, the storytelling personal, and the entire production just glides. This show is a love letter to Darin’s legacy—and with Groff at the center, it’s unforgettable.

For me, a total top in bed is someone who exclusively takes the penetrative or dominant role during anal sex—they don’t bottom. But beyond that, it’s also an attitude. A total top takes charge, sets the tone, and leads both the physical and emotional energy of the encounter. They often enjoy being in control. That can show up in different ways—sometimes tender and attentive, other times rough and commanding. But the best ones understand it’s not just about getting off; it’s about making their partner feel wanted, desired, and cared for.

Take everything with a grain of salt. Have your own interactions with the provider and go with your gut and what feels right.

Because there’s a ton of pressure to look a certain way in our culture—especially in gay culture. And when you can’t change the size of your dick, you change the size of your muscles.

Agreed! I watched two episodes of MCM and couldn’t get into it. I fell asleep during the second episode. I thought the show was trying too hard to get those laughs in every minute.

Doesn’t matter how it’s prepped—I’m a meat lover. I’ll take any kind—every juicy inch. 😉

It’s not uncommon for providers to have multiple clients per day. I’ve been one of those multiple clients in a day. And it showed. (I mostly hire in the evening.) For me, it’s about the quality of each encounter that would be a concern.

Another option to consider is traveling to the provider’s city. If you’ve found someone you really like and they’re based in a city you’ve never explored, that could be a fun opportunity. You could have them show you around a bit—maybe start with dinner or a show (depending on the location and what they’re into)—and stay in a hotel of your choosing so it feels more neutral and comfortable for you. Do a little research on the city ahead of time and plan something that feels easy and enjoyable. Sometimes being in their comfort zone helps create a more relaxed, natural vibe too.

Totally normal! Especially if one is newer to it or it was a longer session. Your body’s adjusting, and soreness can happen just like after a workout. That said, it shouldn’t feel like sharp pain or last too long—if it does, that could be a sign to take it slower next time, use more lube, or focus more on relaxation and communication with your partner. Listen to your body and don’t be afraid to take breaks. I still feel a little ache or “soreness” sometimes after—but in a nice, “I had a good time” kind of way. And it never lasts long.

Crap. I must have taken a wrong turn. I’m looking for “Big Dick’s Alltheway Inn.”

Hey @Whitman hope you’re doing well! 😊 would you happen to know if this is a porn video?

I completely understand your perspective, and thank you for sharing. For me, especially when it comes to regulars, I’ve found that it takes a certain level of compartmentalizing. Otherwise, I can absolutely see how it becomes easy to get enamored or emotionally invested in the provider. There’s something about the intimacy—even if it’s transactional—that can blur the lines. The body might understand its business, but the heart doesn’t always get the memo. We’re human! And without veering too far off topic, I can also understand the appeal of hiring straight providers. There’s sometimes an emotional detachment there that, paradoxically, makes the experience feel safer for some. Less performance, less pretense. Maybe even a sense of mystery or unattainability that makes the dynamic feel more grounded in reality, oddly enough. Everyone comes to this space with different needs, histories, and expectations. And at the end of the day, I think it’s okay to want what you want—so long as it’s respectful, honest, and clear-eyed.

Love this story. Between Gypsy and that fuck, can’t get any better than that. 👏

The current trend of referring to prostitution as trafficking isn’t without basis; it reflects an evolving understanding of how power imbalances, economic desperation, and systemic exploitation shape the choices people make. That doesn’t mean every instance of consensual sex work is trafficking, but when celebrities or industry figures wield disproportionate power, the question isn’t just whether someone agreed to sex—it’s whether that agreement was truly voluntary. I think it’s important to distinguish between legal nuance and societal cynicism. And we’re seeing that play out in the Combs case. The criminal justice system is tasked with determining guilt beyond a reasonable doubt, which necessarily involves evaluating the credibility of witnesses, the presence (or absence) of consent, and the broader dynamics of power. Reducing allegations of sexual assault to a transactional lens—asking whether someone would “do it for money”—overlooks the legal and ethical reality that consent cannot be freely given when there’s coercion, manipulation, or abuse of power. And you’re exactly right to reference the “price of admission” mindset—that’s precisely what allowed predators like Cosby to operate unchecked for so long. It normalized coercion and blurred the line between opportunity and exploitation. Legally and morally, we need to ask harder, more honest questions about consent, pressure, and power—not just what someone may have been willing to do for a check.

I recently saw this and completely agree with your review—it was a lot of fun. It had a different feel from the movie, which is a classic in its own right. I saw Simard, who was terrific. The only weak link for me was Michelle Williams—she lacked the spark the rest of the cast had and didn’t quite gel in the same way. Still, all in all, great fun! And yes, the staircase scene was fantastic. Thank you Sam for the early review!

He looks amazing! I hope he’s doing well. His absence has been missed here.