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For me, a great top isn’t just about physicality—it’s about presence, awareness, and connection. It’s someone who understands that control isn’t about domination but about responsibility. A great top listens—not just to words but to breath, body language, and the subtleties of hesitation or eagerness. It’s about knowing when to push and when to pull back, when to lead and when to follow. Confidence is key, but so is humility—the understanding that power is given, not taken, and that trust is something earned, not assumed. A great top creates an experience, shaping a space where both partners feel seen, safe, and free to surrender to the moment.

Gilbert and Sullivan’s operettas are such a brilliant mix of sharp satire and infectious melodies—I can see how they’d be a joy to perform. Your mention of Evita brings back memories of hearing Julie Covington’s recording—her voice had such an emotional clarity. Did you ever get to see a production with Patti LuPone or Elaine Paige?

He’s a great guy. You’ll have a really nice time. You’re in good hands - literally and figuratively.

That was really nice of him - I’m happy you had a nice time!

I think this was him too: https://rent.men/bigcokforu

He’s very talented and has a bright future ahead of him. Come on—an actor at a televised awards show absolutely knows when a camera is on him. There’s a blinking red light and a countdown clock telling them when to get off stage. He’s also dating a Kardashian - experts at self promotion and cameras. He’s young, not stupid.

There’s definitely been more skin of Alan this season and it’s only been 3 episodes..… which makes me very happy. 😊

That was nice. A man who knows how to screw… a light fixture is definitely a bright spot.

It’s not arrogant to want to achieve greatness; it’s arrogant to think I care about the aspirations of a young millionaire playing in a creative sandbox, especially when Los Angeles firefighters and first responders were just a few feet away. Aspire / compare = semantics.

Re: Chalamet — his speech just came off as arrogant and self-indulgent. Instead of the usual humility or gratitude, he focused on his own pursuit of greatness, comparing himself to legends like Daniel Day-Lewis and Marlon Brando. It felt less like an acceptance speech and more like a personal manifesto. It was a tone-deaf and a bit self-congratulatory. Re: Anderson — she still looked great!

I recently saw the new Gypsy with Audra McDonald and was thoroughly impressed. The supporting cast was terrific, bringing great energy and nuance to their roles. Audra delivered a powerful performance—an interesting take on Rose that was both fresh and deeply felt. As always, she gave it her all, commanding the stage with her extraordinary presence and vocal prowess. A bold, compelling revival. The orchestra was gorgeous! And the newly refurbished Majestic was beautiful.

I thought episode 2 was much better than the first. Exposition and enough backstory is being further fleshed out. And we’re getting peaks of the awkward (funny) dialogue exchanges that White is known for. The scene with the three girlfriends was hilarious, as was the scene with Parker Posey and the blond haired woman whose name is escaping me at the breakfast table. And they even sprinkled the theme music from the previous seasons into the episode as well.

My friends ordered pizza through an app for the Super Bowl - seemed pretty easy and convenient.

I applaud any woman in Hollywood who dares to go makeup-free. Pamela has been doing that for a while now, both in interviews and on the red carpet.

Excuse me, waiter? I’ll have what Max is giving. Thank you.

Doesn’t a user have to reach out to a moderator and specifically request their account be deactivated/deleted? There’s no option for the user to do that themself.

Looks fake to me.

I don’t share your view, but I respect your opinion too.

There’s a lot of assumption here about what masculinity is and how it “belongs”to straight men. The idea that most gay men can be “identified” within 30 seconds relies on stereotypes that don’t account for the diversity within the community. Sure, some gay men might have mannerisms or traits that people associate with queerness, but many don’t—it’s not a rule, just social perception shaped by exposure and bias. And attraction isn’t just about some rigid idea of masculinity. Plenty of gay men are attracted to other gay men, whether they’re rugged, soft-spoken, muscular, or nerdy. Same goes for lesbians—reducing them to “bull dykes pushing strollers” ignores the full spectrum of their identities. At the end of the day, people are complex, and sexuality isn’t just a game of mimicking straight people’s preferences. Everyone’s into what they’re into, but it’s good to ask—are those preferences shaped by personal experience, or by societal messaging about what’s “real” masculinity and femininity?

A cocktail of hubris, ego, and status anxiety. People who feel entitled often do so because their sense of self-worth is tied to being right or feeling superior. It’s that fear of losing relevance that fuels their insistence on control.

I hear you, and I’m not saying your attraction isn’t real or valid—people are drawn to what they’re drawn to. But I think it’s worth examining why masculinity is often seen as more “authentic” in straight men versus gay men. Masculinity isn’t something that only straight men inherently possess, nor is it something that gay men have to perform or belong to as part of a “subculture.” There are plenty of gay men who are naturally masculine without it being a “show.” I think the bigger issue is how society conditions us to view certain traits as more desirable when they’re associated with straightness. But at the end of the day, attraction is personal, and as long as it’s not rooted in shame or invalidating others, people are free to have their preferences. I just think it’s important to question where those preferences come from sometimes.

I hope you feel better!❤️‍🩹

There’s a lot to unpack here, but the core issue seems to be the idea that being attracted to “straight” men is somehow more natural or universal among gay men than being attracted to other gay men. That’s simply not true. Yes, many gay men have had crushes on unattainable straight guys growing up, but that’s often because we lacked representation and safe spaces to explore our desires. That doesn’t mean all of us fetishize straightness into adulthood or see it as an ideal. The real issue with “straight guy” fetishization isn’t about individual preference—people are attracted to different things, and that’s perfectly fine—but about the way it can reinforce internalized homophobia. Elevating straightness as the ultimate form of masculinity suggests that being openly gay makes someone less desirable, which is a toxic mindset rooted in shame. It also plays into a broader cultural problem where queer men are often expected to diminish or hide parts of themselves to be seen as attractive. As for the escort argument, marketing is about selling a fantasy, and “straight” sells because of lingering stigmas about gayness, not because it’s some universal truth about attraction. The idea that most gay men prefer “straight” men is a broad generalization that erases the many men who love and desire other gay men without apology. At the end of the day, everyone is entitled to their preferences, but it’s worth asking—do those preferences come from an authentic place, or are they shaped by cultural bias and internalized messaging?

I’m honestly not following the flow of this conversation based on what was previously said—it doesn’t quite make sense to me. Maybe I’m missing something, but that’s okay. Any health questions are best discussed with one’s medical professional.

You’re already a rockstar, Oakman!