Decatur Guy

Agreed. I'm strictly speaking from the selection of providers. Many more tops than bottoms. Really, I think a strict top could find a bottom for free in this city without a lot of effort! LOL. 

There are a lot of providers in Atlanta in quantity. Probably more than ever. And the numbers swell during certain weeks.

But what's different than 10 years ago to me are the number of reliable, regular ones who have built a solid reputation. Those numbers have diminished. There is a lot more transience, and I am less prone than I used to be about taking a chance on a newbie or someone with no reviews (though I still do that time to time).

If you're looking for a black top with an impressive tool, the city is a goldmine. I'm attracted to black men (among others) and to tops, so Atlanta is a good place in that way for me.

I have two regulars currently, and one of them is a black top. The other is Asian/Latino, and I have prospects for a third who is white. In that Atlanta provides some variety and that I like variety, it's also a good fit for me.

My problem in regard to the black tops is a good portion of them present themselves poorly in their RM ads (at least to me). They make me feel like they are sketchy. I have no idea if they are trying to give off a certain vibe or "hood" persona for business or if they really are sketchy. But if it's working for some clients, it's having the opposite effect on me.

Fortunately, that's not every ad. There are plenty of others who have inviting ads and who feel on the up and up. There are plenty of pickings in that "better ad" basket. 

If for some reason (just preferential or for other, more troubling reasons) you're not into black men and specifically black tops, your options go down around half. If you are a strict top, the pickings in Atlanta shrink a lot across the spectrum. Not a lot of bottom or bottom versatiles from which to choose. 

Overall, I'd say the scene is OK-to-good. I've never had a truly bad experience. The worst I've ever had in more than 10 years here is "disappointing." I've hired a variety of guys here -- white or black or Hispanic or Asian or other; ages from mid-20s to 50s; visitors and residents; tops to versatiles; muscular to twink-ish; edgy to BFE -- and I've never had a truly bad experience.

I just feel like the churn is so high here and that a good many providers are new, perhaps desperate, won't be sticking around long and just don't know how to market themselves well here.

 

Agreed. I'm strictly speaking from the selection of providers. Many more tops than bottoms. Really, I think a strict top could find a bottom for free in this city without a lot of effort! LOL. 

There are a lot of providers in Atlanta in quantity. Probably more than ever. And the numbers swell during certain weeks.

But what's different than 10 years ago to me are the number of reliable, regular ones who have built a solid reputation. Those numbers have diminished. There is a lot more transience, and I am less prone than I used to be about taking a chance on a newbie or someone with no reviews (though I still do that time to time).

If you're looking for a black top with an impressive tool, the city is a goldmine. I'm attracted to black men (among others) and to tops, so Atlanta is a good place in that way for me.

I have two regulars currently, and one of them is a black top. The other is Asian/Latino, and I have prospects for a third who is white. In that Atlanta provides some variety and that I like variety, it's also a good fit for me.

My problem in regard to the black tops is a good portion of them present themselves poorly in their RM ads (at least to me). They make me feel like they are sketchy. I have no idea if they are trying to give off a certain vibe or "hood" persona for business or if they really are sketchy. But if it's working for some clients, it's having the opposite effect on me.

Fortunately, that's not every ad. There are plenty of others who have inviting ads and who feel on the up and up. There are plenty of pickings in that "better ad" basket. 

If for some reason (just preferential or for other, more troubling reasons) you're not into black men and specifically black tops, your options go down around half. If you are a strict top, the pickings in Atlanta shrink a lot across the spectrum. Not a lot of bottom or bottom versatiles from which to choose. 

Overall, I'd say the scene is OK-to-good. I've never had a truly bad experience. The worst I've ever had in more than 10 years here is "disappointing." I've hired a variety of guys here -- white or black or Hispanic or Asian or other; ages from mid-20s to 50s; visitors and residents; tops to versatiles; muscular to twink-ish; edgy to BFE -- and I've never had a truly bad experience.

I just feel like the churn is so high here and that a good many providers are new, perhaps desperate, won't be sticking around long and just don't know how to market themselves well here.

 

Had a lot of bad experiences on that site in Atlanta that I don’t seem to have in other cities. Maybe that makes Conner stand out but he’s super professional, and witty, and I haven’t laughed so hard in a while. He also texted me throughout the following week to check in on me because my mom was ill……which is not something I expected from anyone. Very thoughtful

I'm not saying that bottoms cannot enjoy looking at, touching, or rimming a hot ass, but I'm amused that whenever Rafael Alencar is discussed the topic typically drifts to whether he's had butt implants.  As a nearly-100% bottom, I can tell you that I don't care whether his ass is due to exercise or surgical enhancement.  It's the rest of him that catches my interest -- the handsome face, the nice torso, the big dick, his ability to pound a bottom, and his seemingly "chill" attitude while still being dominant in bed. 

A smart provider brings the chat away from a third-party listing site with questionable encryption and onto a private email server-system than is discreet, safe and secure.
Not that RM has had issues (yet), but why would someone want to do all of their business discussion on their platform.  A simple introduction over their chat system works and then an escort can direct you to a telephone number or email address.

Agree 100% with @nate_sf. This is what I do too; I only log in a few times a day at most unless I have an active chat and expecting more back and forth. So much of our client communication now is typically by text, or through other platforms with reliable push notifications or email notifications.
I would use RM Messenger more frequently if I were able to get push notifications, but they don’t work no matter how many times and different ways I change the settings to allow push notifications. I get an email once in a while alerting me to a message someone sent months ago. Most of the time I get no notification at all, in any form, ever. The system is horrendously buggy and unreliable.
RM Messages are fine for clients who are booking days or more in advance. At the very least 24 hrs in advance. Someone contacting me for a time only hours away might not even get my attention and response until after the time they wanted has passed. Forget about “are you available now?” messages. The only way I will see and respond to that message is if I happen to log in at exactly the time the sender sends it.
I get why clients would want to use RM Messenger for initial (or all) communication and I’m fine with that. You just can’t reasonably expect a provider to constantly be logging into the RM Messenger app to check messages. Remember the days of AOL, when you would have to log in and it says “You’ve got mail!”? It’s basically that all over again but in app form. You have no way of knowing there is an urgent message unless you happen to log in.
RM Messenger is not my primary mode of communication, so I am not spending all day checking for messages. 9 times out of 10 that I check, there is no message. All that checking is wasted time, so I am unmotivated to constantly keep manually checking. Clients who really want to see me get no prompt response on there and figure out they just need to text and they do. Smooth sailing from there.
I wish RentMen would get their shit together and fix the messenger bugs. They spend way too much time finding ways to charge clients and advertisers more and more money and not enough time developing a good product.

RentMen offers a chat option under the different ways to contact a provider. Personally, I find it great way to make first contact, where I say hello, what I like about the ad and enquire about rates and basic info. I'm right there in the ad, and I'm not giving out my number right off the bat for initial contact. I usually offer to move to direct texts, if the provider prefers, after two or three back-and-forths. 

However, most providers state they prefer direct texts right from the start and that they do not use or seldom use the RM chat feature. Why is that? As a client/customer, I find it very convenient for initial contact. What is is about the chat option from the provider end that makes most providers not want to use it?

I'm just curious why the provider user experience is so different from the prospective client experience. 

Age isn't a big consideration for me -- minus I generally prefer someone in his mid 20s or older. I have made exceptions for guys say 25 to 21. I will not knowingly hire anyone 20 or younger. But an "ideal" age range to me would be early 30s to late 40s. And I would hire someone older than that and have.

But the 30s to 40s turn my crank the most -- and that was true in my own teens and 20s up to today.

Age isn't a big consideration for me -- minus I generally prefer someone in his mid 20s or older. I have made exceptions for guys say 25 to 21. I will not knowingly hire anyone 20 or younger. But an "ideal" age range to me would be early 30s to late 40s. And I would hire someone older than that and have.

But the 30s to 40s turn my crank the most -- and that was true in my own teens and 20s up to today.

Age isn't a big consideration for me -- minus I generally prefer someone in his mid 20s or older. I have made exceptions for guys say 25 to 21. I will not knowingly hire anyone 20 or younger. But an "ideal" age range to me would be early 30s to late 40s. And I would hire someone older than that and have.

But the 30s to 40s turn my crank the most -- and that was true in my own teens and 20s up to today.

Age isn't a big consideration for me -- minus I generally prefer someone in his mid 20s or older. I have made exceptions for guys say 25 to 21. I will not knowingly hire anyone 20 or younger. But an "ideal" age range to me would be early 30s to late 40s. And I would hire someone older than that and have.

But the 30s to 40s turn my crank the most -- and that was true in my own teens and 20s up to today.

I've often wondered about that myself. I was just looking at my reviews from 2023 and thought: "That many does not make me look so good!" LOL. 

RentMen offers a chat option under the different ways to contact a provider. Personally, I find it great way to make first contact, where I say hello, what I like about the ad and enquire about rates and basic info. I'm right there in the ad, and I'm not giving out my number right off the bat for initial contact. I usually offer to move to direct texts, if the provider prefers, after two or three back-and-forths. 

However, most providers state they prefer direct texts right from the start and that they do not use or seldom use the RM chat feature. Why is that? As a client/customer, I find it very convenient for initial contact. What is is about the chat option from the provider end that makes most providers not want to use it?

I'm just curious why the provider user experience is so different from the prospective client experience. 

I met him last evening. He's a good communicator, friendly, honest and organically dominant, which I liked. The first meeting wasn't everything I hoped for but there was enough there to want to set up a second meeting and see how that goes. 

I met him last evening. He's a good communicator, friendly, honest and organically dominant, which I liked. The first meeting wasn't everything I hoped for but there was enough there to want to set up a second meeting and see how that goes. 

I'm scheduled to meet him in next 30 minutes or so. I'll be report back on whether the meeting took place and how it. Great initial phone communication. 

I just got quoted $400 in call / $450 out call for an hour. He overshot my hourly budget by $100 (or $50 if I'm really horny and/or super into the guy). I know a great guy who'll do $360 for 90 minutes at my place. I'll just wait on him to get back to town! But if you gots the bucks, I think Thom would be worth a try. Instead, I'm meeting an f buddy for free.

I met him last evening. He's a good communicator, friendly, honest and organically dominant, which I liked. The first meeting wasn't everything I hoped for but there was enough there to want to set up a second meeting and see how that goes. 

I met him last evening. He's a good communicator, friendly, honest and organically dominant, which I liked. The first meeting wasn't everything I hoped for but there was enough there to want to set up a second meeting and see how that goes. 

I'm scheduled to meet him in next 30 minutes or so. I'll be report back on whether the meeting took place and how it. Great initial phone communication. 

I'm scheduled to meet him in next 30 minutes or so. I'll be report back on whether the meeting took place and how it. Great initial phone communication. 

I'm scheduled to meet him in next 30 minutes or so. I'll be report back on whether the meeting took place and how it. Great initial phone communication. 

I'm scheduled to meet him in next 30 minutes or so. I'll be report back on whether the meeting took place and how it. Great initial phone communication.