Decatur Guy

I met him a couple of weeks ago and enjoyed the encounter. He's a little on the quiet side but fun once you get going.

I've never had a session where WS was the main focus, but I've definitely had times where we discussed it as something to do at some point during the visit. I won't bring up WS unless it's listed in his profile already. I have a couple of regulars who really enjoy being WS givers, so it's now integrated into the planning. They hydrate ahead and I have plenty of water and/or beer on hand upon arrival. I can't do it unless the provider is well hydrated.

Yes, I like to chat afterward. If nothing else, I like to tell them what I liked about the encounter.

It's definitely not a selling point for me. If I like everything else about the profile and it's just in there one time, I usually let it slide. But if he's giving the finger in other pictures, too, and generally gives a sketchy vibe, I move on. I think some Tops do it because they think it makes them look tough. I think there are better poses to get that "service me vibe" across. For instance, of picture of him in a relaxed manspread while sitting in a chair with an erection and big grin on his face. Give me a couple of those and an easy-going Alpha vibe in the write-up, and I'm likely at least ask your rates.

I'm less likely to hire someone with no anal involved, but there are times, for sure, when I just do oral sessions. And sometimes that's my desire, not the provider's limits.

Red flags: Profiles with just a few pictures and just a few words in the descriptions. Providers asking for a deposit upfront. Profiles with pictures that I recognize from five or 10 years ago. Pro-active complaints about clients. Super vague descriptions. Name changers (I don't mind one name change, but when it becomes a habit).

Just saw this. I met with him once. I wouldn't suggest him if it's your first few times meeting up with a provider with his kind of Dom energy. But if you have even a little experience under your belt and are drawn to his type, you might have a good time. I'd meet with him again, but it didn't work out schedule-wise.

Adding my voice to the chorus of fans of Sherman Maus.

Tom Isern.

I tend to stay within a pretty set range per hour: $200 to $300 pre-pandemic. $250 to $350 post-pandemic. I can't of anyone who I was so interested in that was willing to do $500 an hour, etc. I find that the providers at the lower end of my range are often just as good or better than the ones at the higher end, and they are the ones who become regulars. I prefer to have around four (maybe five) providers to call upon regularly vs. always trying out new folks. I once got DP'd by Andrew Justice and Sean Xavier. I think that was $500 for an hour, but that broke down to just $250 per guy. And it was worth it.

I make an exchange after but I show them envelop at the start. I mostly meet with regulars, so it's no issue.

Some of us like to hire guys in their 40s and beyond.

They don't come better than NateSF. Absolutely top tier hire for me. I'm just sorry he's on the other side of the country from me.

I don't have an issue with "upcharges" as long as it doesn't become a long laundry list and I know about them upfront. But I can understand someone charging more for anal either way and more for bottoming than topping. Those are bigger asks, I think.

I once paid $200 each to four providers for a 90-minute session. It was big bargain for me but also the biggest outlay of money I've ever done of this type. They got along great and played with each other but kept the primary focus on me. This was about eight years ago. I could never re-create that.

I'm not necessarily looking for "nice," but I certainly want someone dependable about appointments, discreet about the arrangements and trustworthy no matter how animalistic the encounter might be. A "gentleman in the streets, a devil in the sheets" kind of situation. And if "nice" and "friendly" and "outgoing" are part of that package, so much the better.

He's unreliable. I once took a Lyft to see him and while I was on the way, he texted and said he couldn't make it. He came to my place the next day and I got a session with my Lyft ride there and back discounted. It was OK if I'm being generous. I had forgotten about him until I saw this post. Bottom line: I think he's a flake.

I don't, but it doesn't mean I'm not liking it. It's just I'm transferring my attention from my dick to my hole and his dick. If I'm hard, I also can't last as long on the bottom.

Master Tom Isern is your guy. While he likes to top, receiving oral is his thing. And by receiving, I mean he likes to face fuck.

I have never fallen for an escort beyond an unusual type friendship, and I don't think I ever would. I am pretty good about staying grounded in reality. And the reality is I'm paying big money (to me) to be physically intimate with someone who is willing to put aside our physical disparities for a relatively brief time. Again, that can be the basis of a type of unusual friendship that goes beyond the transactional when things click, but I think that's the full extent of it. And even that's been rare. Just a few times. It's been strictly business with the rest going on about 15 years now. All that said, there's a certain hottie in San Francisco who is a moderator on this board, and he is the total package. If I were to slip, he'd be the one. But I'm in Atlanta and he's in SF, so there's that. Even if we were in the same city, it would still be a friends situation at most. I'm sure he's had a few less emotionally disciplined clients fall head over heels for him though!

I like having a small circle of regulars (3 to 4), and I rarely have regulars that I actively drop. Various reasons why it ends: 1. Provider quits the business altogether. 2. Provider moves to another city. 3. Sadly, death one time. 4. Providers changes the parameters of meeting. (For instance, one guy I like a lot wants a week's notice. I'm just not in a position to offer that. Another's price doubled. I just couldn't afford that steep an increase). 5. Sometimes there's just a drifting away with no real reason. Now I have deliberately quit reaching out to a few who radically changed what's on offer or stood me up several times in a row or got mad because I met with other providers. But usually if I'm a regular with someone and then I'm not, it's usually a change on the provider's end, not mine.

My understanding is a bug allowed more than 500 words. But it's been fixed. So if someone tries to ever update or make change, they need to shorten to 500 or less.

I got a call a couple of nights ago from a provider. He said RentMen is limiting providers to 500 characters in their write-ups about themselves. Which I found odd and limiting -- I told him he might be misunderstanding. But his was not. RentMen told him that the site had always meant to do that but had a bug in that field that allowed more than that. Now it's 500 characters max. So I helped him cut his ad in about half without losing too much in the way of key info he wanted to provide. And then I looked at a string of ads. The text is indeed more limited now. Anytime anyone updates their info, the 500-limit goes into place.

Perhaps I've changed, but I tend to agree. Prices are up, service is down -- with NOTABLE exceptions, thank goodness, on the service end.

My usual procedure: First, I make the Initial booking. Let's say it's Wednesday night and the appointment is for 9 p.m. Friday night two days later at my place. I tell the provider that I'll reconfirm around noon Friday and then again one hour ahead. I do that for two reasons. One: If he's been burned by no-shows, this might make him feel better about my legitimacy. Reconfirmation usually involves one text: ("Hey, I'm still on for 9 tonight at my place if you are. Looking forward to meeting up."). Two: I've been burned by no shows or very late providers. Checking in one hour ahead usually helps in finding out if he's got it in gear to be on time or not. If I book same day: Let's say I book at noon Friday for 9 p.m. that night. I'll reconfirm around 5 to 6 p.m. and then again at 8 p.m. If I book at say 4 p.m. Friday for 9 p.m. Friday, I'll just reconfirm the hour before. I'll just reconfirm one time if it's seven hours or less.