PhileasFogg

No need to defend yourself to me. My comment is a general one

That was back when higher education taught you what you needed to know to think and not to just get a job. Having met you, I’d surmise that your school taught you well

As I think we’ve established, this post isn’t about relationship fidelity but rather provider honesty/integrity and the implication to clients who accept their representations at face value

I did not know that. Thank you! To clarify - you’re referring to ART effectiveness? If so, like birth control, cited effectiveness rates have to do with proper use (on time, daily, no antibiotics, etc). Might the lowered effectiveness of ART be based on similar careless administration by the patient? If so, I’d argue my stated concern is valid…if not, I need to research more to enhance my understanding.

If the real Elvis looked like that in the 70’s, he would have lived out the rest of the century

@SirBillybob, I agree. while we all acknowledge need to own our responsibility for our own health, there is still question that relates to all the “it’s #1” responses Assuming someone is Undetectable but not forthcoming: U=U until it doesn’t. We make a presumption that they are sticking with the protocols. Life style choices - including addiction or travel - may interfere and put uninfected partners at risk. While I’m protecting myself, if I have doubt about their adherence to protocols, that might affect my decision to engage IMO, this is multi dimensional and true ownership of self protection includes trust AND verification. I don’t add that in counterpoint, but to bring this back to my initial question.

So the implication is that the partner was not monogamous?

That’s outstanding insight! I’m fanning myself with all that dirty talk too🤓: I think vitiates just became my word of the day 😉

It’s not my thing…maybe google it?

Then that sounds awfully low

Is he quoting you for house cleaning?

Funny how human behavior conflicts with theory sometimes, right??? 🤪

I’m aware of a number who are just lying. But as I learn of substance abuse and addiction, I begin to wonder if they have capacity to stick with the protocols

I do. And I offer to show the results if they’d like.

Thank you to all for the thoughtful and well reasoned responses.

Regardless of the reason, the outcome is beyond horrific! Whats that autism variant that results in insatiable craving to eat?? If it’s the case, common practice is to lock up the food, not the kid!

It’s not demanded. Many don’t report. Or they say “ask me” And guys on RM are not “employed,” they are “engaged” as contractors. Labor laws do not apply to contractors. But I think the question here is “if they do report, should they be truthful” My interpretation of the consensus so far appears to be that “yes”

There are a couple of posts out there that touch the periphery of this question, but don’t hit it directly: In your opinion, when a provider specifically represents themselves as “Negative and on PReP” but is actually “Positive and Undetectable,” are they: blatantly lying playing the grey area since, IF they are sticking to the treatment protocol, there’s little difference ok and we shouldn’t worry about it since U=U something else And, is it your right to know and their responsibility to be transparent in disclosure

Kinda like some of the guys at the bars trying to look young 😂 Here’s what strikes me about the second picture - her smile looks unforced and sincere. I think she looks happy with the outcome.

Hahahaha. Yes! Typo! Correcting now !

try the presidential suite at The W in Times Square. I stayed there once and it was phenomenal. Several of you can chip in to split the cost. I’ll offer the courtyard at my house in the French Quarter 😉. There’s even an awesome local transman photographer who does outstanding work. I arranged shoots for two friends who needed content and a portfolio and he did a great job and showed amazing versatility to capitalize on their respective traits

He did this when, for the price of an iPad and a couple of websites, he could have had it without risk…

Interesting. I wouldn’t have guessed that Pride would be a big revenue moment since visitors tend to travel in groups.

My first wife’s maiden name was phonetically the singular version of mine. Spelled different but pronounced the same - just singular vs plural. 😉🤪 always interesting cocktail talk at parties. but this is a very sad situation. I hear of situations like this - akin to the elderly essentially staying stoically in place rather than seeking help and it makes me cry.

I’d say anything’s fair to ask for. But if you’re asking him to forgo compensation reserving himself for you, then he deserves fair compensation for the sacrifice.