Nightowl

I use my regular phone.  I have no illusions that it is secure so I try to avoid putting anything compromising in my texts.  I vet possible providers very carefully and only hire for incall, which ensures that both of us are discreet.  If I were hiring for meetups at a hotel, I would use some kind of anonymizer.

Maybe he read all of our comments!

I for one understand.  You’re in good company.

Start with a sensual massage rather than erotic and look for someone who has his own studio if you can find one near you.  That way you can bail if you don’t like the look of it or how the session goes (after paying, of course). 60 minutes is enough to start but it goes by fast, so even 90 isn’t too much.  I don’t recommend starting by hiring an escort.  That could be too much for your first experience.  Sensual massage differs by provider but you can usually expect him to touch intimate areas of your body (ass/asshole, balls, cock) and you will likely get a hard-on.  Don’t try to hide it; that tells the provider he’s hitting the right spots and giving you pleasure, so don’t be embarrassed.  If you’re uncomfortable with what’s happening, tell him.  If you like what he’s doing, tell him that too.  The most awkward moments for me my first time with a sensual massage were at the beginning.  I wanted sensual but didn’t know how to ask for it and wasn’t sure what was “allowed.” As a first-timer you might just want to tell  him “I’ve never done this before” and let him take the lead. With a sensual massage you’ll probably get a happy ending.  Whether that qualifies as losing your virginity is yours to determine.  Full-fledged sex is also available for hire with escorts and some erotic massages but I really wouldn’t recommend starting there.  I guarantee you that right after your first sensual massage you’ll be ready to schedule your next. As for telling him you’re a virgin, I personally don’t think he needs to know if you’re just getting a sensual massage but that’s your call.  If you’re booking someone with the intent of having full-blown sex, you probably do want to let him know…BTW, my thoughts are from the perspective of a client.  Providers will have another perspective that may differ.

I share your pain. I had one who told me that I have the biggest cock he’s ever seen but I’m pretty sure he says that to everybody. 

They both needed to pop a Viagra though 

I’m responding to @seattlebottom’s comment, not @Gar1eth

Sound choice, once a steady regular.

I had a ton of gay magazines acquired in the late 70s-80's. Eventually cut out all my favorite photos and used them to make gift tags and xmas tree ornaments for family. 

I use my regular phone.  I have no illusions that it is secure so I try to avoid putting anything compromising in my texts.  I vet possible providers very carefully and only hire for incall, which ensures that both of us are discreet.  If I were hiring for meetups at a hotel, I would use some kind of anonymizer.

I have a Lelo Hugo prostate massager, which has a hands-free option with multiple pulsating options that can be varied with a hand-held controller.  I love it.  The only problem I have is that it sometimes slips out at inopportune times.

With a masseur I ask for sensual when I schedule, then, when I’m on his table, I ask if he does erotic.  I figure that signals to him what I want.  What happens next is what he’s comfortable with.   If I hire an escort, the expectation of sex is pretty clear so being direct is easier.

The locker room at my HS had an off-limits-to-students coaches’ area that was elevated above the locker room and had a long window that overlooked the dressing area and showers.  The coaches/ PE teachers often stood in the windows and watched what was going on below.  In hindsight, it was a little creepy ….

The locker room at my HS had an off-limits-to-students coaches’ area that was elevated above the locker room and had a long window that overlooked the dressing area and showers.  The coaches/ PE teachers often stood in the windows and watched what was going on below.  In hindsight, it was a little creepy ….

My 10th grade PE teacher gave us instructions on how to shower (and showers were mandatory after PE in those days) - make sure to get the neck, pits and crotch.  He occasionally showered with us and it was no big deal.  FWIW, 50 years later, when someone from the community FB group asks about best/favorite teachers, he is always on the list. 
I was extremely unathletic in my youth (much to my mother's chagrin) and I only took PE because it was a required class.  The showers were the only part of PE that I liked. 

I will also add that sometimes a provider listing as versatile/top may say versatile, but they don’t necessarily mean that they will bottom. You have to talk with them to be sure. Because some will do something typically associated with versatility, like mutual kissing, or mutual oral or mutual rimming, but won’t bottom.
Otherwise, I’m in total agreement with what @DMonDude posted.

Yep, that’s what I meant by it’s assuming a “defensive posture.” 

The locker room at my HS had an off-limits-to-students coaches’ area that was elevated above the locker room and had a long window that overlooked the dressing area and showers.  The coaches/ PE teachers often stood in the windows and watched what was going on below.  In hindsight, it was a little creepy ….

I suspect that those who are saying “just my opinion” are trying to head off anticipated negative comments from self-proclaimed experts on CoM who delight in setting others straight with their vast knowledge.

The locker room at my HS had an off-limits-to-students coaches’ area that was elevated above the locker room and had a long window that overlooked the dressing area and showers.  The coaches/ PE teachers often stood in the windows and watched what was going on below.  In hindsight, it was a little creepy ….

Agree.  Some of the guys on Rentmasseur can be as much fun as those on RM.  It just may take a few meetings of assessing one another before play becomes the focus rather than massage.  

Once I find a few providers I like, I stick with them, and try to hire them wherever finances allow.  Every now and then I’ll try someone new but I always come back to my established regulars.  Right now I’ve got one gentleman whom I’ve hired about 15 times and another that I discovered here on CoM and have hired four times.  Unless one of them leaves the business, I probably won’t be shopping around anytime soon.  To me, hiring is very intimate, both physically and mentally, so once trust is established, I’ll hire the guys I’ve come to know.  My selfish hope is that I’ll help keep them in business…

I find that my ass likes a nice Eckrich polska kielbasa 

I find that my ass likes a nice Eckrich polska kielbasa 

Once I find a few providers I like, I stick with them, and try to hire them wherever finances allow.  Every now and then I’ll try someone new but I always come back to my established regulars.  Right now I’ve got one gentleman whom I’ve hired about 15 times and another that I discovered here on CoM and have hired four times.  Unless one of them leaves the business, I probably won’t be shopping around anytime soon.  To me, hiring is very intimate, both physically and mentally, so once trust is established, I’ll hire the guys I’ve come to know.  My selfish hope is that I’ll help keep them in business…