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There’s a lot of gay fiber gimmicks out there that are preying on body shame and half truths. A lot of them are selling gummies as a replacement to douching which simply isn’t true. And most of these products can be purchased way cheaper at a regular pharmacy.

I’m very much into joining, and this feels like ample heads up for planning. Just need to assess the actual business model here, if it’s just a single weekend. 😬 A Palm Springs jaunt from NYC is pricey enough, I wouldn’t expect it to be a moneymaker. But it would be nice if it could at least pay for itself. Any other providers with experience/insight feel free to DM me. 😇

Does anyone remember Philip Seymour Hoffman in the movie HAPPINESS? If not, do yourself a favor and watch it. It’s an amazing film. Literally every client who’s called me has been that dude. Full-on 100%. None of them has even been good at pretending they were serious about hiring.

I think both kinds of meetups have their place! I've found real value in getting to know other sex workers. You have moments where you realize how strange the provider life can be, so it can be really nice to get to meet guys who've had similar experiences. The provider/client meetup would be great too. A chance to get to get to know guys on both sides of the industry in a low pressure environment could be really nice! The Palm Springs meetup is a terrific ambitious event, and I hope I can make it someday. But a casual happy hour meetup is a great way to start.

A couple local provider friends and I were recently lamenting the lack of community among escorts. And how lovely it can be to meet up with guys who’ve had similar experiences. Do we feel like there’s an appetite out there for a NYC provider meet-up of some kind?

Have you looked yourself up on Mr Number? The providers may be seeing something you're not.

I’ve been flown in for sure. I have a client in Florida who flies guys in all the time. You get on a 6am flight to Florida and uber to the hotel. There’s a key waiting for you at the front desk. He arrives a bit later for a session. Then he goes back to work. You hang out in a hotel room alone for a couple hours. He returns for session #2. Repeat. He leaves. Uber to the airport and fly home that evening. It’s a long exhausting day, but lucrative. I don’t think his issue is lack of local talent. I think he specifically gets off on the FMTY aspect of it. It makes him feel like a high roller.

What makes someone a good piss top? Is it the ability to piss through a full upward erection? If so, I nominate myself! 💦 💦 💦

I would say definitely ask! My body hair situation for sure varies. And sometimes if the current situation isn't your preference, you just have to wait a week. Similarly, my haircut regularly varies, as does my facial hair. It's not unusual for my appearance around these things to vary slightly within a limited range. This is why I'll always send out recent selfies before a first meeting. If you have strong preferences in these areas, always best to just ask. I've postponed trimming my beard or my chest hair based on a client's preference. Or I've specifically trimmed to meet a client's preference. Upshot: if you have strong preferences about these details, just ask. Very often your provider can accommodate.

Private parties are some of the most fun I’ve had as a provider. A favorite of mine used to hire me twice annually - Christmas and his birthday - for sexy parties. It mostly involved serving drinks in skimpy costumes, and eventually nude. Also just helping to keep a light friendly atmosphere, flirting with party guests, etc. etc. etc. (Happy to explain “etc. etc. etc.” privately…)

I think you're getting at a similar question that I struggle with from the provider perspective: Is it worthwhile for providers to DM profiles they see as potential clients? When I first made my RM profile public, I got an unsolicited DM from a well known successful NYC provider that said (major paraphrase here): Welcome to RentMen. I'm a very successful escort. This is my only job. Happy to share the secrets to my success. I DM ever profile that views my profile and I attempt to engage. I took his advice early on. But it only took one or two unpleasant replies to see that this approach isn't universally well received. Potential clients view it like a telemarketer call. So I backed off that approach. But there are some scenarios that feel like an exception. If a client views my profile and has fleshed out the information in his profile and it appears we could be a good match, I'll send him a gentle hello. (Similarly, if his profile is all about searching for twinks - which I am not - I'll know to let him be.) Usually it's just hello and a profile compliment. Experience has taught me that the unprompted hard sell doesn't play out well. Similarly, there's a small handful of client profiles who view my profile almost daily and don't reply to a hello. It didn't take long to get that this was a mystery I'd have to learn to live with. Strong likelihood, the "hi" you're getting is a gentle invitation to interact from a provider who's careful of a hard sell. If I see a fleshed out profile that feels compatible, I'd do similar, though with slightly more than just hello.

Well, I’m on the au naturel end of the spectrum these days. And you’re absolutely right! You can’t know without testing. I’m in New York all weekend. And available for connoisseurs to test. 😏

I love this! It’s exciting to know that there ARE men out there who hire for Dom sub play. And it makes perfect sense that you don’t let your Dom flag fly fully right out of the gate. Even when expectations are fully spelled out, there are intangible nuances when it comes to consent and BDSM. Not to mention the comfort level of all involved.

It's funny on this kink... I see it listed on a LOT of guys profiles, including my own. Few things make me feel as submissive as a spanking scene. And am definitely not afraid to be reddened and bruised. But it's been a VERY long time since I've had any inquiries about it in either direction. Seems it's a very mainstream common kink on Recon, but not on RentMen. Am I wrong? Are there spanking top clients out there?

THIS is a situation I've never encountered before, but sounds super hot!