I ended up taking the plunge yesterday, and unfortunately had a similar experience as you. A lot of the session included trigger point therapy that on the one hand was welcome on my back (where I said I could handle deeper pressure) but painful anywhere else he applied it, which was everywhere. My main frustration was that he made it clear his clients know their bodies best and should speak up if something feels good or bad, but any time I said something didn't feel good or was hurting, he'd reply along the lines of "I know, because you're so tight" and ease up just the teeniest bit. When it ended he said "like many of my clients you may be mad at me for a day, but feel great the following day." It's too early to tell if this will be the case, but it emphasized for me that he feels he knows best what the body needs and not the other way around.
On the positive side, we did go 90 minutes and he only charged me for 60 because of "how badly my body needed it," but his rate for 60 minutes is $180. I had thought maybe the higher price point would include some sensual elements, but by the end I was grateful it didn't since his therapeutic massage was so uncomfortable. I suppose for the right client this type of session would be welcome, but I wish I'd spent that $180 elsewhere.