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This is a complaint? You can bring your shoots-too-much right here! 👄👅

I’m a regular at The Sugar Daddy and have been doing to Tom for a few years now. I heartily recommend. They’re great at creating a safe space. It feels very fresh and normal, like a gay barber shop but with more privacy. In fact you walk through a podiatrist’s office to get there. Not shady feeing at all. And they’re really good about guiding first timers step-by-step through what to expect along the way. And buy the products! Your skin might freak out, and they’re great for easing any issues.

Valid correction! Something to aspire to! 🙏🏻

I’ve tried some of the herbal volume enhancers and they really do work. But some of them require an unsustainable number of daily pills. 4 pills 4 times a day with food is something I could only sustain during Covid. I’ve had some luck with a product off amazon called Popstar. 4 pills once a day, manageable. Seconding what King Benjamin says about the gym. No better way to keep the plumbing strong.

If only because you didn’t enter! 🏋🏼‍♀️

How is it I nearly missed a chance to post a bunch of ass shots?? I must be slowing down. Keeping these PG13. I guess…

This kind of thing never ceases to amaze me. As gay men in the dating world, we all stress about our insecurities.. Is he into me? Am I hot enough for him? Am I doing it right? Do I live up to his other sex partners? Hiring a provider is the one scenario where you can - at long last - unburden yourself of all that bullshit. And if you're hiring the right provider, and he cares about your experience, he knows it's his job to create a safe space and to facilitate that unburdening. The lengths that we'll go to to sabotage that unburdening really speak to how deep these insecurities cut. Give yourself a break from worrying about the bullshit! Let yourself enjoy the purity of the actual situation you have available to you. Let your provider be the one to worry if you like him. Let him be the one to worry if you'll hire him again. And let him have the freedom to compartmentalize his private sex life the way he pleases.

Okay, well, open curtains is just basic generosity!

Agreed! Consent is an important part of exhibitionism. I want to be watched, yes. But only by people who want to watch! Otherwise it’s an actual sex crime!

General aesthetic poll here. Hopefully any associated controversy will be lighthearted. As a vers/often-bottom provider I’ve been maintaining a fully sugared ass for a few years now, with the help of @thesugardaddy.bsky.social. (Highly recommended if you go for that kind of thing.) But lately I’ve been getting some feedback that something more natural is preferred, so I’ve let it grow back in. Is there a consensus for how a provider maintains the bullseye when it comes to hair?

Same! I definitely get off on the public aspect, the audience etc. But the actual legal risk is real for some of these things. That's a great way to get the same kind of experience but in a safe space. Some of us get off on the audience but not the actual risk!

I think this is a struggle that goes both ways too. Telegram has always been my preferred platform for the nitty gritty client chats. (Maybe I should be using Signal?) But getting clients to chat there is often like pulling teeth. Very few seem willing to use it. WhatsApp is an acceptable alternative, but it requires sharing my phone number. Which I’m certainly not squeamish about. Until guys instead invite themselves to use iMessage instead… 🤦🏼‍♂️ It would seem that if you’re a sex work enthusiast on either side of it, you’d value the discretion. I’m not sure if the issue is a convenience issue? Or not understanding the value of encrypted chat?

I did a duo photo shoot with him a couple of years back, and got to know him pretty well. One of the most genuinely decent, thoughtful, and caring people I’ve met. Truly vers, great at sex, and physically hotter in person. That and he smells amazing. If you can connect with him, you’ll find nobody better!

Marcus Mojo was for sure my porn crush in a different life! And I had the privilege of doing an erotic duo shoot 📸 with Aiden Ward, and he's everything you'd imagine.

I know him in person fairly well and have collabed for clients. He's amazing. Hotter than his photos. Boundless sexual energy. Very vers. And I've only ever seen him freshly shaven.

I’m working on making this happen! Thankfully I have a friend who lives nearby I can crash with, cause InnDulge looks full. 😫 Fingers crossed, this sounds like an amazing time.

A little late to the game on this, but this seems like an amazing time. And it looks like InnDulge may still be booked, though the site suggests I call the property to inquire. I'm guessing I could only do Thursday or Friday through Monday. Is it still worth it if I can only do a limited time? Or if I can't manage a room at InnDulge?

Seasonal smooth bottom provider here! I retain a tiny bit of au naturel this time of year to please the naturalists. 😏 Find me in the spring! 🤣

This question is bonkers to me. As a provider, I can’t imagine wanting to show up to a new client without them seeing everything they need to see to know they like me. Granted, this feeling may be tied to having grown comfortable being widely naked on the internet. But so much of my comfort showing up for a new client is tied to them knowing everything they need to know in advance.

Yeah, this is the takeaway here, and maybe a necessary reminder. Stop running at the mouth about yourself to new clients.

Worth addressing: the difficulty of assigning a number to the intangibles of cock size. There are so many other qualities to a dick than just what the ruler says that impact your perception of size. I prefer to say 7 and let my photos do the talking. Mine stands up straight and gets super hard - careful it'll break before it bends! - so it's visually impressive and looks bigger. I'd rather have guys gush, That's gotta be more than seven! than turn skeptical Is that really eight?? This is when I miss cable TV. The old Spectrum remote was a great visual frame of reference for photos!

Sent you a DM. 😇

These kinds of questions are ideal. It’s so helpful knowing what turns a client on when you arrive.

I love these posts that basically invite bottom providers to brag. How can I not pile on? Agreed that every situation is different. Some situations are so ass-focused that nobody in the room cares about your cock, and it just makes a quiet exit. But not gonna lie ... nothing beats working my rock hard cock - or getting it worked - while pleasing a man with my ass. Usually accompanied by a steady flow of pre-cum. Learned my lesson about sharing visual evidence here, but happy to send privately! 😇