JamesB

I would never click on a link sent by someone I don’t know. In fact, even if I know the person, I’d still be hesitant to do so without taking the proper precautions.  My advice would be to describe what you want your session to be like and let the provider do his job. If, by the end of the session, you’re satisfied with the interaction and are considering hiring the provider again but feel there’s room for improvement, you could view the video together, so he´ll have a better understanding of what you would like.

Amway isn't a fly-by-night scam, it survived FTC scrutiny (ruled not a pyramid in 1979 because it emphasizes product sales over pure recruitment) and has an A+ BBB rating (accredited since 1991).
Amway's legit as a product company, but the opportunity? It's a grind disguised as a shortcut to freedom. The couple seems nice because that's the hook. MLMs thrive on personal rapport. Your suspicion isn't paranoia; it's pattern recognition. The "sweet" bonuses are real if you crack the top, but for most (including that mentor?) It's more of a hobby than an empire.
Curiosity's free; regret isn't. You've already done the homework most don't, so trust that gut.
This is just my opinion and it’s worth exactly what you are paying for it.

Amway isn't a fly-by-night scam, it survived FTC scrutiny (ruled not a pyramid in 1979 because it emphasizes product sales over pure recruitment) and has an A+ BBB rating (accredited since 1991).
Amway's legit as a product company, but the opportunity? It's a grind disguised as a shortcut to freedom. The couple seems nice because that's the hook. MLMs thrive on personal rapport. Your suspicion isn't paranoia; it's pattern recognition. The "sweet" bonuses are real if you crack the top, but for most (including that mentor?) It's more of a hobby than an empire.
Curiosity's free; regret isn't. You've already done the homework most don't, so trust that gut.
This is just my opinion and it’s worth exactly what you are paying for it.

I don’t know where he is from. Definitely some red flags. 

I saw Stivenm for the first time. I would not repeat or recommend. The entire massage lasted about 10 minutes followed by about 5 minutes of play. The whole thing was a mess. He does not speak much, if any, English. We agreed to a time the previous day and I assured him that I would confirm an hour before—which I did. He responded about 5 minutes later saying that he was at the gym and asked me if I could come later. I was irritated, but gave him grace and agreed.
When I arrived at the address he provided, I texted him and he told me to come in. When I knocked on the door, I was startled by a woman’s voice who did not open the door but asked who I was. That’s never a good sign! She told me I was at the wrong place. Just as I was walking back to my car, Stivenm peeked out from the bushes and guided me to another unit attached to the same dwelling. Starting to realize he doesn’t speak English AT ALL and getting very frustrated that he’s playing these types of games.
His place was okay, but I was surprised that he didn’t have a massage table out. He guided me back to his bedroom. I asked if I could wash my hands before we got started. He showed me to a VERY dirty, grimy bathroom. I washed my hands, but there were no towels or anything to dry my hands with—so I used my shirt. Back to the bedroom. He is obviously not a trained masseur. He used some sort of lotion and mostly just rubbed my neck and then my calves. He then signaled for me to turn over at which point the play commenced and he did everything in his power to ensure it ended just as quickly. Badda-bing, badda-bam! I paid him and left. Such an all-around disappointment. I hope others are spared the same experience.

Also, after checking out his reviews again, it appears that his 8 reviews come from 4 accounts—3 of which appear to be fake. I’m not sure how he has so many positive reviews on the other platform, but I suspect he’s using fake accounts to post them. He does look like his photos, but he does not meet the description he provided BY A LONG SHOT! I am a fit, attractive Daddy, and he seemed very “into” that, but the way he rushed through everything was very off-putting. YMMV

In the USA is it common, yes (a large percent of gay men are on prep). Do they allow the top to breed them? Yes. Do escorts charge extra for both of these actions? In my experience no, but I suppose a few do.

Proton VPN, which I consider one of the best VPN services, offers a free tier. While the options are limited, it should be more than enough for what you need.

Swiss Navy one of the easiest, TSA sized, in a Ziploc bag. I’ve also used Uber Lube, a “not messy” silicon lube, the pic is their travel size, very clean to travel with.
 

I always give at least a 24 hour notice and send $100 deposit. Any reputable provider will honor the commitment or reimburse you if he cannot accommodate.

I’m not a IOS user so I may be wrong but as far as I know:
Blue: When both sender and recipient use Apple devices (iPhone, iPad, Mac) with iMessage enabled and an internet connection (Wi-Fi or cellular data).
Green: When messaging non-Apple devices (e.g., Android), iMessage is off, or there's no internet (falls back to carrier SMS).

I’m not a IOS user so I may be wrong but as far as I know:
Blue: When both sender and recipient use Apple devices (iPhone, iPad, Mac) with iMessage enabled and an internet connection (Wi-Fi or cellular data).
Green: When messaging non-Apple devices (e.g., Android), iMessage is off, or there's no internet (falls back to carrier SMS).

this crook is not holding himself "to a high standard" (his words) when he continues to post a fraudulent travel schedule......his May post (upthread) defends the practice as promoting "visibility" and I understand his marketing effort, but it remains entirely deceptive and deceitful.......

I will next time I'm pregnant.

I have a NO deposit rule. My concern with deposits is that they solely benefit the provider and offer no protection to the client. Additionally, there's a privacy risk and the possibility of creating a paper trail that could come back to bite you later. Since most providers don't require a deposit, I prefer not to pay one.

When a family member takes on the role of executor or trustee, they’re usually paid 0.5% to 1% of the estate or trust each year, or about $30 to $75 per hour. That’s quite a bit less than what professional fiduciaries charge, often 1% to 2%, or $100 to $175 per hour. These fees come out of the estate or trust itself. Executors typically need court approval to get paid, while trustees can pay themselves directly, following the instructions in the will, trust, or state law.
From real-life experiences, one key lesson is clear: spell out fees clearly, keep good records, and communicate openly with other family members to avoid misunderstandings. If you're planning your own estate, it's smart to set clear pay guidelines (like 0.5% or $50/hour), choose a family member who's financially savvy, and consider setting aside money for professional help if needed. It can save everyone stress down the road.

In my opinion, Las Vegas has managed to price itself right out of being a fun destination. Between the endless resort fees, parking charges, and cocktails that cost as much as a car payment, it feels less like a vacation and more like a slow motion pickpocketing. At this point, the only gamble in Vegas is whether you’ll make it home without maxing out your credit card.

When a family member takes on the role of executor or trustee, they’re usually paid 0.5% to 1% of the estate or trust each year, or about $30 to $75 per hour. That’s quite a bit less than what professional fiduciaries charge, often 1% to 2%, or $100 to $175 per hour. These fees come out of the estate or trust itself. Executors typically need court approval to get paid, while trustees can pay themselves directly, following the instructions in the will, trust, or state law.
From real-life experiences, one key lesson is clear: spell out fees clearly, keep good records, and communicate openly with other family members to avoid misunderstandings. If you're planning your own estate, it's smart to set clear pay guidelines (like 0.5% or $50/hour), choose a family member who's financially savvy, and consider setting aside money for professional help if needed. It can save everyone stress down the road.

I used to pay for RM and only bothered writing reviews when things were either amazing or a total disaster. I finally canceled after one of my honest, 100% accurate bad reviews got deleted at the provider's request. No reason for me to pay or trust RM reviews anymore.

Your mention of hiring an escort was part of sharing your story after your wife’s passing, not something you meant to linger on. So it makes sense that his repeated references to it felt off, especially since they seemed to overshadow the rest of your connection and left you uncomfortable.
People react to this kind of information differently. His comments might have come from curiosity, insecurity, or even judgment but it’s hard to know without more context. Sometimes when something is outside someone’s own experience, they fixate on it, like with him saying: “never having hired anyone.” The fact that he brought it up during and after intimate moments probably made it feel even more intrusive.
If those remarks felt like a red flag, it’s completely fine to trust your gut and reconsider whether you want to see him again. Ask yourself whether his tone came across as judgmental or just awkward curiosity, and whether talking it through could help clear things up.
For what it’s worth, I don’t usually mention hiring unless someone asks me directly. It’s not exactly common small talk material.