JamesB

I’d like to think I still treat providers with the same respect and kindness as I always have. But I have to admit, after quite a few less than professional experiences over the last year, my expectations have definitely lowered. Maybe those lowered expectations are starting to show in a way that’s not very appealing?

If I understand your post correctly, you’re trying to regain access to your social media accounts (Facebook, X, Instagram, etc.). I’m assuming you no longer remember the passwords for those accounts. If that’s the case, each platform has a recovery process for forgotten passwords, have you tried following those steps?

I had a regular provider who announced his retirement in an unexpected way. As he was leaving my place, right at the front door, he hugged me, kissed me goodbye, and said, “By the way, I just started a new job, so I won’t be doing this anymore” and then walked out. I was completely speechless. A couple of days later, I texted him wishing him luck with his new career, and he replied saying he could still see me on weekends. I did book him once more, but the vibe felt off, so I never hired him again. We still exchange messages a couple of times a year, usually for birthdays or holidays.

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Also here for cross reference. https://rentmasseur.com/CaioBra I met Caio recently. His photos are a bit outdated, but still quite accurate. He’s definitely handsome and fit. He says he’s from Brazil, though he speaks fluent English with a noticeable German accent. Make of that what you will. His place is clean but located well outside the usual visitor areas, so keep that in mind if you’re planning an incall. As for the massage, I’m not exactly sure how to rate it, let’s just say it’s… different. Not bad, just not what I’m used to. The session takes place on a bed rather than a table. He begins fully dressed and only gets nude toward the end. The extras are solid, and he’s polite and easy to talk to. We had a pleasant conversation, but there was zero connection. I did get a bit of a gay4pay vibe. While I wouldn’t personally repeat, I wouldn’t discourage anyone from giving him a try.

I don’t believe in ghosting. If I’m not interested in hiring someone again, I make sure to communicate that clearly. And if I might be interested in the future but not at the moment, I let them know as well. It takes less than a minute to respond, and I believe it’s simply a matter of courtesy.

Yes, you are!! And don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. 😂😂

Nope, very happy with my new Pixel 10 Pro XL

I have to disagree with some of the generalizations in your post. It's true that Latin America has a painful history tied to slavery and colonialism, but painting the entire region with a broad brush of "denial" overlooks the many ways countries actively embrace and celebrate their Afro-Latino heritage. On the terms like "mulatto," "indio," or "moreno": These aren't just evasive labels to dodge "Black" or "African." In Latin America, race isn't the binary black-and-white it's a spectrum shaped by centuries of mestizaje. "Moreno" can affectionately describe someone with darker skin without the loaded connotations you imply, and "mulatto" while rooted in colonial degradation, has evolved in everyday use for some as a neutral descriptor of mixed heritage. I have to specifically call out the part where you suggest that only BIPOC opinions should carry weight here, and that white or Caucasian folks should "take care" because we might lack knowledge on ethnicity, race, or colorism. Are you even serious?. Dismissing contributions based on skin color alone is its own form of prejudice; it implies that empathy, education, and direct immersion count for nothing if you're not a "minority." As a white Hispanic man who's spent nearly half my life living in various Latin American countries, how does my opinion measure in your validity scale?. Am I minority enough or the fact that I’m white sets the scale back to zero?.

The argument that seeking a professional service, such as hiring a clown or meeting a "dreamy guy," requires agreeing to the provider’s terms, including a deposit, oversimplifies the dynamics of professional engagements and unfairly prioritizes the provider’s interests. The claim that this is solely a "professional service" and not a relationship dismisses the mutual respect inherent in any professional interaction. Even in service based engagements, both parties, client and provider, have valid needs. My concern with deposits is that they solely benefit the provider and offer no protection to the client. A deposit secures the provider’s time but leaves the client vulnerable if the provider cancels, underperforms, or fails to deliver as promised. Additionally, there’s a privacy risk and the possibility of creating a paper trail that could come back to bite you later. The assertion that deposits are standard, like for a clown, ignores that most providers do not require them. Comparing a provider to a clown and arguing they deserve the same respect overlooks that respect is mutual. A clown’s deposit is part of a structured agreement, often backed by contracts or booking platforms, ensuring accountability. In contrast, a vague demand for $100 to “hold a spot” lacks transparency and accountability. Respect is earned through clear communication and fair terms, not blind compliance with one party’s demands. While providers can set terms, clients are not obligated to accept them unquestioningly. A professional service should involve negotiation and transparency, ensuring both parties’ needs are met. Deposits may be reasonable in some very specific cases but since most providers operate without requiring one, clients should feel empowered to seek those who prioritize mutual trust over rigid demands.

While it’s reasonable to consider a provider’s terms when seeking their services, your statement is overly rigid and ignores the mutual nature of professional relationships. Meeting a provider should involve mutual agreement, not unilateral demands. Both parties have needs, clients seek services, but providers benefit from the engagement too. Insisting on only the provider’s terms dismisses the client’s side. A fair arrangement balances both sides, fostering respect and collaboration rather than one party dictating terms.

His last login was 10 months ago.

I would have assumed that common sense would prevent people from sharing private messages. I guess I was wrong.

Sensual in NY for $60???

That number traces back to a burner app (TextNow). Almost all of those numbers tend to show up as Suspected Spam.

It’s interesting that you pointed out the two accounts responsible for 6 of the 8 positive reviews. Neither of them has any profile information, all their reviews are in Spanish, and both accounts were created on the exact same day. Do you happen to know if Steavenm is from Venezuela?

Amway isn't a fly-by-night scam, it survived FTC scrutiny (ruled not a pyramid in 1979 because it emphasizes product sales over pure recruitment) and has an A+ BBB rating (accredited since 1991). Amway's legit as a product company, but the opportunity? It's a grind disguised as a shortcut to freedom. The couple seems nice because that's the hook. MLMs thrive on personal rapport. Your suspicion isn't paranoia; it's pattern recognition. The "sweet" bonuses are real if you crack the top, but for most (including that mentor?) It's more of a hobby than an empire. Curiosity's free; regret isn't. You've already done the homework most don't, so trust that gut. This is just my opinion and it’s worth exactly what you are paying for it.

I’m not a IOS user so I may be wrong but as far as I know: Blue: When both sender and recipient use Apple devices (iPhone, iPad, Mac) with iMessage enabled and an internet connection (Wi-Fi or cellular data). Green: When messaging non-Apple devices (e.g., Android), iMessage is off, or there's no internet (falls back to carrier SMS).

Your mention of hiring an escort was part of sharing your story after your wife’s passing, not something you meant to linger on. So it makes sense that his repeated references to it felt off, especially since they seemed to overshadow the rest of your connection and left you uncomfortable. People react to this kind of information differently. His comments might have come from curiosity, insecurity, or even judgment but it’s hard to know without more context. Sometimes when something is outside someone’s own experience, they fixate on it, like with him saying: “never having hired anyone.” The fact that he brought it up during and after intimate moments probably made it feel even more intrusive. If those remarks felt like a red flag, it’s completely fine to trust your gut and reconsider whether you want to see him again. Ask yourself whether his tone came across as judgmental or just awkward curiosity, and whether talking it through could help clear things up. For what it’s worth, I don’t usually mention hiring unless someone asks me directly. It’s not exactly common small talk material.

Try this: Open Outlook and create a new email (click the compose button) or open an existing one by double-clicking it. Click inside the email body (important, this enables the menu; if you don't, options will be grayed out). Go to the top menu bar: Format > Zoom (or look for the Options tab in the ribbon toolbar at the top of the window. If missing, right-click the toolbar > Customize Toolbar > drag "Zoom" to add it). In the Zoom dialog: Set the percentage to 100% (or your preferred size, like 125%). Check the box for "Remember my preference" if available. Click OK. Close the email without sending (just hit Cmd+W or the X button). Test by opening/creating another email. It should now display at normal size.

With today’s tools, editing photos is easier than ever. People can smooth skin, slim figures, tweak lighting, or even swap out entire backgrounds. Professional edits can be almost invisible, but quick or amateur ones usually leave traces. Look closely for inconsistencies like mismatched shadows and lighting, warped backgrounds, blurry edges, or unnatural smoothness. There are also AI tools available that can help spot these edits.

Communication, communication, communication! Don’t be shy, tell him what you like, steer him in the right direction, guide him and let him know what’s working (and what’s not). Think of it as giving him the cheat codes to make the session a win-win.

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/147679-asking-a-client-for-a-face-pic/#comment-2226502 https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/159381-is-it-common-for-providers-to-ask-for-a-client’s-pic/#comment-2438970 https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/130968-providers-asking-for-clients-pic/#comment-1929709

Sounds like your big head knows advancing the money is a bad idea, but your little head is whispering, “C’mon, what could go wrong?” Trust me, we’ve all been there and we all know how that story ends; usually it’s with your wallet a lot lighter and a lesson you didn’t really want to learn.