JamesB

The OP is talking about a domestic destination.

Another new RMen profile, same old pics: https://rent.men/UrRicanKing

First, you need to decide what “safe” and “worth it” mean to you. If you’re not comfortable giving your credit card information to RM, you can always pay with crypto. As for whether it’s worth it, only you can answer that for yourself. The main advantages are access to private galleries and in my experience, providers tend to take premium members a bit more seriously.

Just like with any other “intos” that are important to me, I always ask them to confirm they’re okay with it. With Latin providers, I make a point of confirming in Spanish so there’s no room for the usual “no hablo” excuse.

I met Joao two, maybe three years ago. At the time he was based in Orlando, though I don’t believe that’s still the case. He’s a super nice guy from Brazil, and his English is very good. His photos are accurate, and he gives a decent massage, though as FLJock mentioned, it’s on the shorter side. MT and HE are included, and the extras are very good. If the massage itself is a priority for you, he may not be the best fit. But if you’re looking for a brief, solid massage followed by play, I can recommend him.

This is the one I use. Works like a charm. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09321LDK8?th=1

Are you sure the urge to disclose isn’t coming from a less flattering place? He wronged you by taking your money, and even if it’s unconscious, there’s a real risk that this disclosure is about moral positioning, controlling the narrative, or preemptively absolving yourself. Ask yourself this: if no money had changed hands, would the same urgency still be there? If the answer is no, then this isn’t really about transparency. It’s about discomfort with unresolved moral business. Just make sure you’re not telling yourself a cleaner story than the one that’s actually driving the impulse.

Why? I really fail to see any upside to this.

Very common. It’s just the provider keeping you engaged, so don’t overthink it.

I don’t bring new providers into my home. The first meeting is always at their place or at a hotel. I also make sure one person knows where I am, who I’m with, and for how long.

As part of my research when considering a new (to me) provider, I usually reach out to other clients on RMass and RMen. I don’t get a 100 percent response rate, but I’d estimate around 60 to 70% from recent clients. Some take the time to provide detailed feedback, while others offer only brief, general responses. I’ve been doing this for quite a while, and over time I’ve connected with a couple of local clients who share similar tastes as mine. We now exchange information regularly. As for DMs here on COM, my response will depend on how long the person has been a member and how much information they’ve shared publicly.

As far as I know, Colombia is on a restricted list for certain types of visas, but not for the visitor visa (B1/B2) you’re asking about. That said, these lists change frequently, so I could be mistaken. In general, as long as you can demonstrate strong ties to Colombia, such as stable employment, assets, family connections, and financial stability, you should be fine. Just keep in mind that the final decision always rests with the consular officer’s discretion on the day of the interview

Also here for cross reference. https://rent.men/gabnogueira

I’d just be upfront and ask if they’re okay with it. Most of the time the answer will be yes. To be safe, start by asking the one you think might be less comfortable with the idea. If he says no, there’s no need to approach the second person.

This statement is mostly true but there are some important legal nuances depending on where you live. In some states the law defines "Massage and Bodywork" as the same thing. In states like Delaware or North Carolina, you cannot use the word "bodywork" in your advertising unless you are a licensed massage therapist. There is also the "Scope of Practice" trap. Even if a state doesn't protect the word "bodywork," it usually protects the action of manipulating soft tissue. If an unlicensed "bodyworker" starts kneading muscles like a massage therapist, they can be prosecuted for practicing massage without a license, regardless of what they call it.

To be honest, I tend to pay more attention to selfies than to professional photos. In my experience, they’re usually closer to what someone actually looks like and are often more up to date than polished shots. That said, I don’t see anything wrong with having both types of photos in a profile.

I clearly need new glasses. I read, “I went all the way to Key West. This was well over a century ago,” and my only thought was, “Holy crap, how old are you?” 😂

I don’t see anything wrong with confirming rates or any other details listed in an ad. Expecting prospective clients to behave exactly the way you want is a great way to collect disappointment and frustration as a hobby.

In my opinion, Scott Adams was not assigning moral guilt to every black individual. He was reacting to a reported polling result. Group level data is routinely used to inform behavior. People adjust where they live, travel, or work based on crime statistics, political hostility, or social trust, even though those statistics never describe every individual. Saying that is always illegitimate when race is involved creates a special exemption that does not exist anywhere else. It is inconsistent to say patterns can be discussed until the moment they become uncomfortable. “Judge individuals” is a good moral principle but it is not how humans navigate the world at scale. We constantly rely on generalizations to manage uncertainty. Calling that racism in every case collapses an important distinction between prejudice and pragmatic caution, even when the caution is poorly worded. The claim is not that all racial generalizations are equally bad, but that responding to open expressions of hostility by advising distance is not the same thing as advocating dominance or exclusion. You can say the advice was crude or counterproductive without pretending it is equivalent to historical racism. If it is 2026, we should be able to talk honestly about data, incentives, and social breakdowns without declaring that any uncomfortable inference is automatically bigotry.

Given how much information about this person is readily available online, I’d think it wouldn’t be very difficult to persuade him to do the right thing and return the money. Just saying.

I have a strong preference for clean shaved providers, though I’m also fine with a well groomed, trimmed beard. Long, bushy beards are a no go for me. That said, I would never ask a provider to shave his beard for me.

I have a very strict rule: No Deposits, No pre-pay. It has worked for me.

In my experience, it can go either way. With some providers, each session improves as you learn each other’s likes and dislikes and become more comfortable together. With others, familiarity can lead to complacency, and they stop putting in the effort to make each encounter better.