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I've had a number of clients tell me they would like a "BFE" and I always ask them to define what they mean.   I've heard a lot of different descriptions.   I largely view it as being open and flexible,  including things like kissing and cuddling  (but not always).  Also there can be some "implied"  things there,   like  tenderness,  good communication and even  (gasp)  acting like a gentleman.    A good provider will take the time to find out what a client expects before agreeing to provide the service.

I've had a number of clients tell me they would like a "BFE" and I always ask them to define what they mean.   I've heard a lot of different descriptions.   I largely view it as being open and flexible,  including things like kissing and cuddling  (but not always).  Also there can be some "implied"  things there,   like  tenderness,  good communication and even  (gasp)  acting like a gentleman.    A good provider will take the time to find out what a client expects before agreeing to provide the service.

I've had a number of clients tell me they would like a "BFE" and I always ask them to define what they mean.   I've heard a lot of different descriptions.   I largely view it as being open and flexible,  including things like kissing and cuddling  (but not always).  Also there can be some "implied"  things there,   like  tenderness,  good communication and even  (gasp)  acting like a gentleman.    A good provider will take the time to find out what a client expects before agreeing to provide the service.

I've had a number of clients tell me they would like a "BFE" and I always ask them to define what they mean.   I've heard a lot of different descriptions.   I largely view it as being open and flexible,  including things like kissing and cuddling  (but not always).  Also there can be some "implied"  things there,   like  tenderness,  good communication and even  (gasp)  acting like a gentleman.    A good provider will take the time to find out what a client expects before agreeing to provide the service.

I've had a number of clients tell me they would like a "BFE" and I always ask them to define what they mean.   I've heard a lot of different descriptions.   I largely view it as being open and flexible,  including things like kissing and cuddling  (but not always).  Also there can be some "implied"  things there,   like  tenderness,  good communication and even  (gasp)  acting like a gentleman.    A good provider will take the time to find out what a client expects before agreeing to provide the service.

I've had a number of clients tell me they would like a "BFE" and I always ask them to define what they mean.   I've heard a lot of different descriptions.   I largely view it as being open and flexible,  including things like kissing and cuddling  (but not always).  Also there can be some "implied"  things there,   like  tenderness,  good communication and even  (gasp)  acting like a gentleman.    A good provider will take the time to find out what a client expects before agreeing to provide the service.

I've had a number of clients tell me they would like a "BFE" and I always ask them to define what they mean.   I've heard a lot of different descriptions.   I largely view it as being open and flexible,  including things like kissing and cuddling  (but not always).  Also there can be some "implied"  things there,   like  tenderness,  good communication and even  (gasp)  acting like a gentleman.    A good provider will take the time to find out what a client expects before agreeing to provide the service.

I've had a number of clients tell me they would like a "BFE" and I always ask them to define what they mean.   I've heard a lot of different descriptions.   I largely view it as being open and flexible,  including things like kissing and cuddling  (but not always).  Also there can be some "implied"  things there,   like  tenderness,  good communication and even  (gasp)  acting like a gentleman.    A good provider will take the time to find out what a client expects before agreeing to provide the service.

I've had a number of clients tell me they would like a "BFE" and I always ask them to define what they mean.   I've heard a lot of different descriptions.   I largely view it as being open and flexible,  including things like kissing and cuddling  (but not always).  Also there can be some "implied"  things there,   like  tenderness,  good communication and even  (gasp)  acting like a gentleman.    A good provider will take the time to find out what a client expects before agreeing to provide the service.

I've had a number of clients tell me they would like a "BFE" and I always ask them to define what they mean.   I've heard a lot of different descriptions.   I largely view it as being open and flexible,  including things like kissing and cuddling  (but not always).  Also there can be some "implied"  things there,   like  tenderness,  good communication and even  (gasp)  acting like a gentleman.    A good provider will take the time to find out what a client expects before agreeing to provide the service.

Well you sound like a very kind and generous man.    It sounds like you went into with your eyes open.     I certainly am not going to be the least bit critical,  but to say I hope the provider  knows what a favor you had done him and  takes steps to  recognize it by showing his appreciation by repaying some of what you loaned him.    
 
You are a good man,  but please take care and don't put yourself at risk.

Well you sound like a very kind and generous man.    It sounds like you went into with your eyes open.     I certainly am not going to be the least bit critical,  but to say I hope the provider  knows what a favor you had done him and  takes steps to  recognize it by showing his appreciation by repaying some of what you loaned him.    
 
You are a good man,  but please take care and don't put yourself at risk.

I hesitate to post this in case the subject recognizes me and takes umbrage, but to him I reiterate I do not hold him responsible, and in fact, I still trust him.
A while back I engaged a provider several times. We seemed to get along well, and when he revealed he was in financial difficulty, I offered to bail him out of debt. I drew up some papers to formalize the transaction, and went to the bank with him to oversee a transfer of funds. I will not cite the exact amount, but it was a considerable sum. There is no hard due date on repayment.
He left town the week after, and I asked him to stay in touch. This is the disturbing part: whether he is embarrassed to acknowledge his reliance on my generosity, or if he is simply scamming me (though I know his debt was real and he needed help), he has refused to reply to any message I send him. I don't want to exert pressure on him, but I do have an ongoing interest in his well-being, and wish to support him emotionally if he would allow it.
I now attempt to write him twice a year. Each time I reaffirm that I am not looking for reimbursement. I hope some day he takes my earnestness to heart and writes back even it's to say "I'm doing okay."

Feel free to chuckle.  I've found it an interesting conversation as I've never discussed it previously with anyone..   If you think I created it as an "attempt"  at anything,  your sadly mistaken.    I've been asked,  I have views and like anything else here,   worthy of conversation.

I have my views,  others have theirs.    It is healthful conversation and I like to hear what others have to say.  Pretty simple.

I suppose anything is possible,  but for a provider not to kiss or provide oral is like an attorney going into court with the plaintiff asserting a cause of action without evidence.    Kind of lame.    Both could be "laughed out"....

I think it all depends on how well you get to know him.   In the beginning,   I wouldn't feel any need to bring it up.     If you get to know him and develop a friendship and a certain amount of trust  (and talk about a variety of personal things),    I'd probably mention that you saw his photos.   As a provider,   I don't have a problem talking with friends who ask about my escorting.    I think it all depends on you and the kind of friendship you may have with this individual.

Looks like I didn't see this earlier.    I totally understand where you are coming from.   I lost my first beagle in April, 2016 after a bout with an aggressive form of Cancer.   It was a difficult process of loss for me as I loved that dog dearly.   He will always hold a special place in my heart and he's with me every day.    I wouldn't have my 3 beagles now if it wasn't  for him.    I'm certainly very sorry for your loss!

I think it all depends on how well you get to know him.   In the beginning,   I wouldn't feel any need to bring it up.     If you get to know him and develop a friendship and a certain amount of trust  (and talk about a variety of personal things),    I'd probably mention that you saw his photos.   As a provider,   I don't have a problem talking with friends who ask about my escorting.    I think it all depends on you and the kind of friendship you may have with this individual.

Late last year one of my regular clients was chatting with me about my clothes and started quizzing me about my daytime professional job and what clothes I wear.
I responded that I mostly wear athletic dress shirts and Ralph Lauren custom fit polo shirts and typically Ralph Lauren chinos and suits during the winter.
He tends to be very trendy and suggested an overhaul.     Told me to forgo the older Ralph Lauren chinos and consider something like slim fitting Banana Republic  Chinos or even American Eagle.     They are much trimmer and tend to show off my ass and body in a way the Ralph Lauren chinos did not.     This was a bit of an educaiton for me.    A couple of things he stressed:
1.  Dress for success in a professional  setting means showing off your bod and showing what you have.     Marketing yourself all the time can be a good thing.
2. Be willing to change things up and keep a new and fresh appearance,  whether it be for casual clothes or work.
 
I did make some major changes.    I do like the refresher.    Comments on this client's thoughts and his thoughts of "marketing yourself"    no matter what the venue?

So I have been a member of this site for 3 months now.    I believe some thoughts,  ideas and feedback are in order.
 
When I first arrived here,  I wasn't sure what the site really was.   When I discovered the forums,  it really is much like the fitness site  "Realjock", where I have been a member for years.
I was intrigued and to be honest,  quite fascinated something like this even existed.    Very positive initial impression.    Now on my 3 month anniversary,  there are a few of my thoughts:
 
1.  SITE AMONG THE BEST AND WELL RUN:    My initial impression was correct.   I like the site,  most of the discussions and dialogue.   I appreciate the moderators (and approach taken).  Never have seen moderators in action before.    Some of the extras,   the "points"  the categories are kind of interesting.     I'm still waiting for my Christmas gift for all the participation....jk.
2.   MEMBERS LARGELY FRIENDLY,  OUTGOING AND ACCEPTING:    There are really good men here.   Sure,   I heard initially there would be a few exceptions  (and I've now seen that in action).   A number have reached out to me,  welcomed me and have been very supportive and friendly.    Those very few that are petty,  are largely ignored and ultimately blocked if warranted.     I'm someone who wants to learn from those you respect and appreciate.   That is by far the majority here.
3.  DIVERSE FORUM DISCUSSION:   I'm an educated professional person.   I really like being able to discuss  "shop talk"  conversation,  but also engage those who talk about legal issues,  finance and a whole host of other things,  including various parks and museums.     There are things discussed that are new to me as well.    You never know what you'll find.
This was indeed the "gem"  here.    I never would have guessed.
4:  TO THOSE WHO RUN AND MODERATE THE SITE:   Just know the larger picture.   You have provided a place for men to come and share,  to feel involved and learn.   Those who have been members for years  clearly show they have a stake in the site,  the quality of association and participation.    Friendships,  mentoring,  so many things happen here every day.   Just know I'm pleased to be associated and I look forward to gaining more insight as time goes on.   I'm an optimist by nature and generally run my life in a positive way.   This site seems to follow the same basic principles.
 
Thank you for all your work,  time and effort.   You definitely get an "A".   

My rate is slightly higher than that.   At $200.00,  you are doing well,  especially if the reviews are supportive.    I'd pay the parking and not say anything.   If the time is well spent,  it will be worth it.

My rate is slightly higher than that.   At $200.00,  you are doing well,  especially if the reviews are supportive.    I'd pay the parking and not say anything.   If the time is well spent,  it will be worth it.

Ready for spring annuals.   It has been a busy spring with non escort clients and tax season for sure.    Ready to get out and with it with both annual planting and perennials.  I not only have a green thumb,  but a green hand as well.

My rate is slightly higher than that.   At $200.00,  you are doing well,  especially if the reviews are supportive.    I'd pay the parking and not say anything.   If the time is well spent,  it will be worth it.