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I'm sure it can be a challenge finding the right kind of guy no matter whether one is in NY or in Kansas. I think the answer is the same no matter what kind of provider is sought. Look through Rent.Men in the NYC area and take the time to talk to them and assess what is important. I definitely would look for one who is experienced, professional, and you click on a personal level.

Sorry for such a tough experience. I do like how you put it in "investment terms". I guess it is up to the clients as to whether a "risky investment" is the order or a lower cost, stable approach. I do agree, we all are stupid occasionally!

I would hope not. I liked part of what you expressed as you talked about the "experience". A good escort should always be concerned about the client and the kind of experience he is having. It can be a challenge when you don't know the client, but adequate texting in advance should yield a clue. My only suggestion (as I 'm sure you already know) is to evaluate whether the provider has an understanding of what you really want and are on the same wavelength.

I actually did do something like this, during the past week. It was the client I talked about on the thread I started on "nervous clients". We chatted, I kissed him and got him undressed and had what I call an "introductory session". It was a little less than what I charge for an hour, but I know he considered it an awesome experience and loved the blowjob. I'm trying to create a long term client here and for me, the positive nature of the experience was the single most important thing. He won't be nervous next time.

Well said, I've had a friend of mine remind me of that again and again. Thanks for the reminder.

Both of my parent's have had their own unique commentary at times. My mother bringing up "Judas" during moments of discomfort or irritation. Dad much the same. I grew up in a household where some curse words were acceptable, "damn" and "hell" were used by them, but "fuck" would never be uttered. Even if I use it today, I'd be reminded I'm not too old to have my mouth washed out with soap.

I've actually never been to a "bathouse" before. One in Toronto was pointed out to me during one of my visits, but have never been in one. Interesting thread. Good information for those who enjoy them.

Interesting experience. Glad it made you think and you talked about it here. I have seen several men transitioning to women, the last being at Petsmart. I always make never to stare and never act like anything is out of the ordinary in any way. I always tell myself that I need to improve my understanding and never to react in any way, except in an open and friendly way.

Very sad to hear the news that Jimmy Buffett has passed at 76. 9/1/23 Several good friends are "Parrotheads" and I tend to hear the music quite frequently. Always enjoy it. Always will think of him and the "Endless summer" poster I have up in my bar area in his honor. RIP Jimmy!

Sounds like a fantastic time, I'm sure he will appreciate it. A happy weekend.

That's crazy and totally unprofessional. I talk about the need for professionalism at every level. You were a very able, very capable client who could have walked away an advocate for these two ungrateful men. Instead, a bad experience to report. I don't ask for photos from perspective clients, its always nice, but not required and I certainly don't need to know your age. You are hiring the escort, it isn't an approval process by them!

Whatever you elect to do, enjoy and have a fantastic weekend!

Haven't been in Vegas for some time, but know right where you are at! I was at the Bellagio, which was a blast. Have a fun time and a blast!

I raised my rates $50 an hour in the spring, but I hadn't raised pricing since I first started. I actually had a client ask me why I hadn't.

So keeping a healthful "balance" in ones life between work, exercise, family and friends and that which is important to you can be hard enough with a traditional job. For those who escort, how do you keep yours and how do you deal with some of the challenges with an environment that seems to provide anything, but.....balance. How about you clients. Being a fitness advocate at all levels, this is something I strive for in achieving excellent as much as possible. I like to quiz others on what works for them. One thing I've learned, ignore those little things that can cause irritation during the day. There are enough big things to work about in life than worry about things that really have no real importance in the scheme of things.

I hope you continue to improve on your way to fantastic heath and you are able to enjoy time in the gym!

Can't believe the Labor Day weekend is upon us! I always enjoy the summer months, but fall can be pretty awesome as well. Looking forward to a mix of work and some relaxation, time by the pool and work, both in the yard and client related work. Had been invited out of town with friends, but opted out this time. What plans for your weekend?

I’ve discovered that the conversation is part of the “experience “ and it turns them on. Doesn’t mean they won’t book you, butI kind of wonder. I usually curtail the conversation at some logical point. The other reason is they are inexperienced and uncertain. I’d rather pass at some point.

We have a number of family owned funeral homes here in Kansas. I see them all the time and have had family members a part of one. Interesting, but I would agree, I can see why this tradition would also be in decline.

I just chuckled at JT's comments. I haven't been here long enough to know who favors what topic. I've only been since 8/4. No reason to get upset here either. We all have different views, its about sharing ours and respect others. Thanks Benjamin.

I have my views, others have theirs. It is healthful conversation and I like to hear what others have to say. Pretty simple.

Dude, I don’t preach. I do things a certain way as a health and fitness advocate. If you do them differently, be my guest!

That’s awesome, I hope you had a great time

Interesting isn't it, a very personal and deep discussion about something very important to many of us (and finding it on a forum like this). Thank to all of you for sharing. Really awesome.

I will see what is offered. Yeah the one you purchased is a bit premature for me at this stage! LOL