
Gandalf
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Gandalf got a reaction from FaustOust in Asking a client for a face pic.
If they're screening on looks, they should have the balls to just say so and describe in their ad who is good enough for them to fuck.
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Gandalf reacted to Becket in The Commonplace Expectation of $100 Massage/$200 Escort?
You must be very frustrated. Not sure what you expect to change with this rant. You're probably a nice fellow in real life. Can't imagine that this will help your business. I've asked you this before, but why do you continue in a business that seems to bring you such unhappiness?
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Gandalf reacted to + sync in The Commonplace Expectation of $100 Massage/$200 Escort?
Just to clarify, all or most of your posts consist of incessant rantings concerning the negotiating of your fees with potential clients. Any small business person will tell you that is a downside that comes with the territory.
You go on to state that you have budget concerns then go on to state that you are doing well financially.
It is your struggle with consumer relations that prompted me to suggest considering an alternative career path.
The decision, of course, is yours alone. If I may be so bold, I suggest you compose a standard, brief, non-toxic refusal, as some other providers have done, which will quickly end the conversation.
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Gandalf reacted to TorontoDrew in 411: ItalianStallyn (Toronto)
My experience with him was not great. He was 15 minutes late and we were meeting at his place. He made me wait outside while he had a shower. I should have left at that point.
We talked for a bit and he does seem like a nice guy. We started having fun and then he told me he only kisses with his mouth closed (no tongue). Then he said he doesn't fuck on the first meeting. He should have told me that before we met.
I won't repeat but YMMV.
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Gandalf reacted to Simon Suraci in How to politely "fire" a masseur?
I believe the question was: how to politely “fire” a masseur?
Here are a bunch of impolite suggestions I’ve heard so far:
Lie
Block
Ignore
Joke about STIs
The polite, mature thing to do is tell him directly in your own words that you are not interested in hiring him anymore. Most masseurs will get it and stop contacting you. Only a small minority of guys will fail to respect your wishes, in which case it makes sense to block or ignore.
The roundabout suggestions offered here only invite drama, resentment, confusion, and disrespect from both sides.
Personally I hope you all take a moment to consider how to better treat your fellow humans. You are all adults, many with 1.5x, 2x, or more years under your belt than the men you hire. You should all know better by now. Use your words, fellow adults. It’s not difficult.
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Gandalf reacted to + nycman in Providers: have you ever been unable to get it up for a client?
Same goes for clients. I recently had a hire that was boring as fuck. Beautiful Brazilian body, cock, and ass. Unfortunately his "let’s get this over with" attitude was a total dick killer. I plowed ahead, for the love of Queen and country, of course. But he was such a lousy lay that I should have been the one getting paid to keep it up.
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Gandalf reacted to BonVivant in Escorts and PNP
This is why I stick to good 420. I like to stay alive. The 420 does the trick. It is satisfying.
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Gandalf reacted to TorontoDrew in Escorts and PNP
My experience with PNP is limited to two friends. It is not a good experience as both have become HIV positive due to risky behavior while high.
So any time I see PNP, it's a hard pass.
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Gandalf got a reaction from Dr.KNYC in Do most clients hiring masseurs expect a happy ending?
That's why I've got that poster on block. It's ugly, unnecessary and on its face anyway, purposely cruel. It would be just as easy to say "but then I'm quite specific about the type of guy I will have sex with."
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Gandalf reacted to + APPLE1 in Is there recourse for getting back a deposit from a provider?
What is this "lengthy chat" bullshit? I hope that was the second lesson you learned. Both parties here have the same mission: ask and answer a FEW questions and make an appointment.
A provider is not your friend, your bud, or your pal. Certainly not an initial hire. The time for chit chat is after loads are shot and you're eating up the end of the session laying bed. MAYBE, after the appointment has been made in the initial conversation.
Lenghty chat, ie. gaining your "confidence, " is a time tested con man technique.
We repeatedly hear providers refer to chatty clients as time wasters, and say it's a red flag. This holds true in both sides of the equation. If a provider engages in chat vs getting down to scheduling, it's a big red flag, and I'm moving on!
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Gandalf reacted to Lohengrin1979 in Unwritten "roommate" rule?
If I went to someone’s home, expecting to be alone with the person and see that other people are in the house without being told, I too would leave. It would not feel safe. It’s weird that you wouldn’t tell the therapist that you had a roommate or think that you should’ve. Would you have appreciated walking in to the masseur’s studio and encountering a roommate or spouse he failed to mention?
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Gandalf got a reaction from musclestuduws in "The Gilded Age" on HBO
Shooting confirmed to start June/July.
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Gandalf got a reaction from harlow in "The Gilded Age" on HBO
Shooting confirmed to start June/July.
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Gandalf got a reaction from + BenjaminNicholas in "The Gilded Age" on HBO
Shooting confirmed to start June/July.
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Gandalf got a reaction from thomas in "The Gilded Age" on HBO
Shooting confirmed to start June/July.
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Gandalf got a reaction from pubic_assistance in Is there a subtext difference based on different sites?
I'm getting an impression masseurfinder is for finding masseurs. Rent Masseur is more freestyle. Fair?
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Gandalf reacted to Shoedog112 in Let's Talk Massages: Keepin' It Real!
Well this topic thread took a turn. It kinda stinks.
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Gandalf reacted to relax man in Let's Talk Massages: Keepin' It Real!
If you have time to casually announce that you’re going to cut the stilton, you have time to get up and use the restroom. Nobody’s saying people don’t fart; just be respectful of other people. It’s not your place to decide for others whether they should be ok with having to smell your rank internal organ odor. Massage therapists didn’t sign up for that.
I’m still in total disbelief that the OP thinks it was the masseur’s reaction that killed the mood, and not his proclamation of flatulence.
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Gandalf reacted to relax man in Let's Talk Massages: Keepin' It Real!
I have no words. No wait, yes I do.
You nasty. You nasty and you lazy. You could have just excused yourself and gone to the restroom, but you’re so entitled that you expected the masseur to just be totally ok with having to smell your fart. And then you have the nerve to act like you’re the one who’s been wronged.
Seriously, you nasty.
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Gandalf got a reaction from lerbut23 in Is there a subtext difference based on different sites?
I'm getting an impression masseurfinder is for finding masseurs. Rent Masseur is more freestyle. Fair?
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Gandalf reacted to Trick in Hotels are wearing me out…does it take the fun out of touring for you?
More like a CC. Several copies have been floating around for years, from the same sender.
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Gandalf reacted to SouthOfTheBorder in Hotels are wearing me out…does it take the fun out of touring for you?
not cyber-bullying
the OP comes here regularly posting his ongoing complaints about his chosen profession & he knows the type of responses he will get. My sense is at this point is he wants attention, not a solution to his issues.
the other members continue to post mostly helpful suggestions, but also know that the OP won’t take any of their suggestions. they are participants in the back/forth that they know will go nowhere.
you guys may as well just go back to the deposit thing again and beat that dead horse one more time.
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Gandalf reacted to Simon Suraci in Hotels are wearing me out…does it take the fun out of touring for you?
Something that truly mystifies us all.
It’s tough love.
See you next thread, Jarrod 👋
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Gandalf reacted to + Jamie21 in Hotels are wearing me out…does it take the fun out of touring for you?
No, I said “it appears that your operating model doesn’t work”, based on your own comments. I’m suggesting that using hotels as a venue is a fundamental flaw. Hotels aren’t going to change their operating model because the check out time clearly works for them (as in their whole operating model makes them money). But I guess most of their clients are using the hotel for the main purpose it’s intended rather than using it to host clients. I don’t think they’ll change how they operate to appeal to the travelling escort market so you have to adjust your expectations around what’s possible within their model unfortunately.
Also I didn’t offer any solution because I know you don’t want suggestions (that’s based on experience).