AngusStevensxxx

Can anyone recommend a good NYC bottom provider who's into breeding?
I've had such a frustrating search for something that now seems like a straightforward cornerstone of modern gay sex.  I'm a top who loves to finish the way god intended.  But every provider I meet or talk to either:
Won't bottom Will bottom but requires condoms or won't let you breed Will let you breed but just lays there and waits for it to be over Won't kiss What ever happened to enthusiastic breeding bottoms?? 
So I figured I'd solicit recommendations from experts.  Would love to hear your experiences, here or by DM. 

One possibility is that they left the glowing review after their first appointment, and then subsequent appointments left the client feeling less than satisfied.  The only reason I raise this as a possibility is that I have had that happen to me but did not leave second, downgraded reviews because (in almost all cases) I couldn't really lay blame for my diminishing satisfaction solely on the providers. 

I must say to everyone on the forum, since I published my post yesterday evening, your thoughts and empathy have been very cathartic for me. I was told while on the call they will call me this week to start the dispute process. To be honest, my hopes are not high about getting my money back, but, this forum is where I thought sharing my experience to protect others would give me some reprieve. I was disappointed when the post was just deleted without the moderator in question not reaching and asking to at least remove the personal information. So, I guess if he chopped me up with a machete I should still protect him, too. The screenshots help build and confirm my truth about what happened. Don't protect criminals, because it looks bad on the forum in general.
 

I’ve been getting a lot of PMs recently about our encounter. Rentmen can not publish my 1 star review because Leo and me did not have any communication through rentmen (now I know why many escorts prefer text over e-mail?). Therefore, I will just mention it here. So he quoted me 350 for an hour and requested the money upfront. Before we get into anything serious, his “bf” FaceTimed him and he started to chat with his “bf”. After he was done with the call, he insisted that I should leave because he needed to poop. I drove like 40 minutes to his hotel and the whole process took about 10 minutes. I am still shocked about what happened to me till today. I sincerely hope he can treat his business more professionally in the future. Regardless, I am not gonna see him ever again.

Generally, I don't ask guys for more photos than they have in their profile.  I'll ask to see private photos if I'm seriously considering hiring, but I don't request they send anything that's not already posted.

I have had an instance where 7 bookings in a row were canceled last minute - from plain ghosting to medical emergencies, my girlfriend stole my bank card- someone even said their dog ran away at the dog park that morning.  A big red flag would be the amount of time this 'client' has spent talking to you adn sexting you -  Serious clients do not do that. 
Because of this:
 if i have not met you before and you want to book in advance, I need a deposit. I have both Venmo and cashapp set up in private and anonymous settings -  nickname rather than real name, so very secure. They can send a deposit as little as $20, just *something* to show me they are serious.  I have almost 50 5-star reviews, and have given them photos of my face, my very butthole, my dick, my address - if they can't send me even $10 to lock an appointment down they are not serious.  I can understand some guys are on the DL or just nervous about deposits (which is why I set up non-traceable and private methods to do so) and if they are still nervous that is totally OK - if clients do not want to send small deposits, they can contact me on the day -  and if I am still available we can make it work!
I know it can be disheartening when you put so much of yourself out there and are a genuine guy and you get treated like this.  It's not fair, but don't be discouraged. 
I encourage you to download the app "mr.number' and search for every number that contacts you - as well as leave reviews on that app for clients who do this to you also.  I wish sites like COM would allow us to have a feature like this for usernames on RM but they don't.
The sheer volume of guys who contact providers to string them along and waste their time is staggering - I almost left the business as a result when I had 7 in a row - had book hotels and extended my stay and everything- luckily I got an overnight and they covered my costs - but i left even.  
Since my 'deposit for future bookings policy' that issue has dropped for me significantly and it hasn't hindered my bookings. ( I had a recent trip to Austin where I let the policy slide and what do you know? every day I had no show/cancelations!) 
You will learn to pick the scammers too - which is a DAILY occurrence - We unfortunately MUST engage with these people as when they first reach out we can;t distinguish whether they are real or not - but just have some vetting set up.  it ruins it for everyone as it can come across rude or unwelcomeing, finding the right balance can be tricky! 
For the pople who are antideposit : Clients on these boards complain about scammers setting up ads- they are able to quickly remove them and I always say -
use common sense never send a deposit to a new profile with no or few reviews! never send a large amount. I hope my advice helps!

I don't think the OP was referring to real cancelations - life does happen - but people who are contacting with zero intention of making it to a booking - essentially leading him on with sex talk with the promise of a booking that is never going to eventuate.   

I will be coming to Austin very soon! ( 10th - 14th of August) 
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Sorry if this is the wrong forum…Feel free to relocate it! 
I have a regular who’s spooked me. We were discussing plans for January at the cabin. All normal. I was going to book his flight yesterday but then he said he wanted to wait because he had a fight with his boyfriend and wants to make sure it’s okay before booking. Well, I don’t want to pay the flight and Mr. Boyfriend decides down Mr. Escort isn’t going…I’m torn if I should trust him if he says his BF is good with it that it’s good or if I should trust my anxiety – something that never really works out…
So…Operation Second Option…
Can anyone recommend anyone reasonably priced for a BFE for three nights who can be “dominant” but not get carried away? Like assertive? Also not much older than like 35…Someone who can hold a conversation but isn’t super needy as far as attention. Extra points if he’s twinky or a muscle guy…

Looking at the three sites (RM, Mint, and Friend) not many profiles in ATX  keep my my attention.  I must be missing something.  Any recommendations or  non-recommendations?

Hope everyone is doing well  I don't post very often.  After reading this, I thought I would let you know my personal opinion about Gabriel.
I met Gabriel a few years ago, right before Covid hit.  To get right to the point, He was/is very handsome, beautiful features!!!  nice guy.  I had a lot of fun and would recommend.  
xoxox

exactly -to my earlier point -  you are very proud to post as a gutless faceless anonymous profile.  So brave you are. Providers would only know who you are if Gab was kind enough as you to post your rentmen name and number on a public forum - just like Gab's name face and number are available. ( I really think COM should allow posts of a thread for providers to share details like rentmen profiles and numbers to protect themselves from people like you. )
 
Whether you have the right to post it or not is not the point. The point is - he asked you (if he is Tom like you believe ) to take it down. I believe that if YOU believe Gab is Tom, and he asked you to remove a private conversation from a public platform - it is good manners at the least to comply with that request.
Gab has suffered quite a bit from this thread, despite being nothing but polite, charming, and courteous in his replies. Whereas you seem perfectly fine adding to the pile-on. If you were sincere with your 'I wish you well in your endeavors' (so condescending btw)  why not be polite and edit your post to simply say 'he was out of my budget' instead of acting all butt hurt about your "rights"?
You are trying to be witty and clever - but it just comes across as gross.  So with the same energy, I say - Enjoy your day. 

I couldn't disagree with your take more.  As the old saying goes - Don't try to teach a pig to sing. It doesn't work,  and it only annoys the pig. 
He said what he said, and has nothing else to prove with faceless gutless posters.   He owes you nothing. 
 
I think he did well and I would encourage him to not feed the trolls more - he is beautiful and I will be looking him up when I am in LA. 
 
 

The reply from Gabriel_Top seemed sincere and heart felt, replies which point to very attractive qualities. I posted a comment, trying to be clever. It came out snarky and mean so I deleted it. A thousand pardons. 

I just had a conversation with a prospective client over the phone today. He wants to book me for a weekend in his city a few months from now. I have family there and was already considering a work trip in his city, so I plan to coordinate around that knowing it won’t be a total loss should anything not work out, and a big plus if all does work out.
I mentioned my “sleeping habits” and not-so-great sides of myself, emphasizing my value is in my waking hours. He didn’t care. I communicated expectations for having an hour or two to myself per day for working out and taking a break. Travel costs are to be reimbursed. All good there. We covered all of his wants and needs and preferences too. All good there. He still wants to book me for the whole weekend. I think the key is being upfront and open in your communication. Phone conversations help. Sometimes clients want you for you, no matter the hassle or cost.
It’s worth taking risks, as @big-n-tallmentioned. 

hello everyone 
asking for a friend
any recommendations for a top notch patient provider in NYC (of nationwide if the provider is highly recommended) for  1st time middle aged man who wants to try bottoming? Would really like some advice. 
Have a wonderful weekend

Yesterday I received enquires via text from 13 people, and 8 others through the rentmen website - texting back and forth for varying amounts of time.  There was 3 bookings made as a result of this - one which never showed up, and then the other two cancelled within 30 minutes of their arrival time, after I had showered prepared for them. 
One message conversation was  "hi are you available" I replied within 3 minutes "hi! thanks for reaching out. yes I am available today." That was the end of the conversation no other message was sent.
However, most conversations are longer -  One client today had a long chat (over 57 text messages confirming address, availability, rates, a video chat to confirm I had sent real photos, discussion of wants/needs/desires for bookings, locations, payment types etc. this started at 10am and went off and on all day until This client then cancelled the booking 30 minutes before he was due to arrive and he said he was in another state and now not coming to NYC for another month. 
So that is roughly 20 enquires a day - which means I average I am chatting with roughly 140 people a week - MOST of whom have zero interest in making bookings, but instead get pleasure from simply engaging with providers. (This also does not include the amount of scammers that contact us DAILY as well.)

I think distinguishing who is genuine and who is not is probably the hardest part of this job. connecting with people and having sensual encounters are the easy and fun part. 
What happened to me today is not unusual - it is the norm, so I guess it makes us wary of who we can give our energy too until we meet, I know for sure the original poster would find that when clients and provider meet - every text after is fine! 
yeah Rentmen has had an issue with this that has been effecting both provider and clients- and it sounds like the issue has 'driven you crazy too!'. I think when we list the dates of travel as say for eg 1/12 - 1/15, it goes by Hamburg time, not the local time that is in that particular city the provider is in, as the rentmen website is based from there.  So we set the travel dates , and then the site is not reflecting that date in  real time - adding to the amount of 'double questions' we receive I guess.  
I agree  the reply you have written is much much better than the one you were sent. 
Apparently the new version of the website will be more clear and not leave profiles listed up in cities once the provider has left that city. I'm sorry that the providers you have dealt with have been so short and rude with you. Hopefully this particular issue is rectified now the site has been updated to minis that! 
I probably shouldn't have answered in this thread - I had just been advised of this forum and wanted to make a few posts so no one uses my name has a handle - and my comments were meant as friendly advice to get better results for you guys (and us)!   

Yesterday I received enquires via text from 13 people, and 8 others through the rentmen website - texting back and forth for varying amounts of time.  There was 3 bookings made as a result of this - one which never showed up, and then the other two cancelled within 30 minutes of their arrival time, after I had showered prepared for them. 
One message conversation was  "hi are you available" I replied within 3 minutes "hi! thanks for reaching out. yes I am available today." That was the end of the conversation no other message was sent.
However, most conversations are longer -  One client today had a long chat (over 57 text messages confirming address, availability, rates, a video chat to confirm I had sent real photos, discussion of wants/needs/desires for bookings, locations, payment types etc. this started at 10am and went off and on all day until This client then cancelled the booking 30 minutes before he was due to arrive and he said he was in another state and now not coming to NYC for another month. 
So that is roughly 20 enquires a day - which means I average I am chatting with roughly 140 people a week - MOST of whom have zero interest in making bookings, but instead get pleasure from simply engaging with providers. (This also does not include the amount of scammers that contact us DAILY as well.)

I think distinguishing who is genuine and who is not is probably the hardest part of this job. connecting with people and having sensual encounters are the easy and fun part. 
What happened to me today is not unusual - it is the norm, so I guess it makes us wary of who we can give our energy too until we meet, I know for sure the original poster would find that when clients and provider meet - every text after is fine! 
yeah Rentmen has had an issue with this that has been effecting both provider and clients- and it sounds like the issue has 'driven you crazy too!'. I think when we list the dates of travel as say for eg 1/12 - 1/15, it goes by Hamburg time, not the local time that is in that particular city the provider is in, as the rentmen website is based from there.  So we set the travel dates , and then the site is not reflecting that date in  real time - adding to the amount of 'double questions' we receive I guess.  
I agree  the reply you have written is much much better than the one you were sent. 
Apparently the new version of the website will be more clear and not leave profiles listed up in cities once the provider has left that city. I'm sorry that the providers you have dealt with have been so short and rude with you. Hopefully this particular issue is rectified now the site has been updated to minis that! 
I probably shouldn't have answered in this thread - I had just been advised of this forum and wanted to make a few posts so no one uses my name has a handle - and my comments were meant as friendly advice to get better results for you guys (and us)!   

Yesterday I received enquires via text from 13 people, and 8 others through the rentmen website - texting back and forth for varying amounts of time.  There was 3 bookings made as a result of this - one which never showed up, and then the other two cancelled within 30 minutes of their arrival time, after I had showered prepared for them. 
One message conversation was  "hi are you available" I replied within 3 minutes "hi! thanks for reaching out. yes I am available today." That was the end of the conversation no other message was sent.
However, most conversations are longer -  One client today had a long chat (over 57 text messages confirming address, availability, rates, a video chat to confirm I had sent real photos, discussion of wants/needs/desires for bookings, locations, payment types etc. this started at 10am and went off and on all day until This client then cancelled the booking 30 minutes before he was due to arrive and he said he was in another state and now not coming to NYC for another month. 
So that is roughly 20 enquires a day - which means I average I am chatting with roughly 140 people a week - MOST of whom have zero interest in making bookings, but instead get pleasure from simply engaging with providers. (This also does not include the amount of scammers that contact us DAILY as well.)

I think distinguishing who is genuine and who is not is probably the hardest part of this job. connecting with people and having sensual encounters are the easy and fun part. 
What happened to me today is not unusual - it is the norm, so I guess it makes us wary of who we can give our energy too until we meet, I know for sure the original poster would find that when clients and provider meet - every text after is fine! 
yeah Rentmen has had an issue with this that has been effecting both provider and clients- and it sounds like the issue has 'driven you crazy too!'. I think when we list the dates of travel as say for eg 1/12 - 1/15, it goes by Hamburg time, not the local time that is in that particular city the provider is in, as the rentmen website is based from there.  So we set the travel dates , and then the site is not reflecting that date in  real time - adding to the amount of 'double questions' we receive I guess.  
I agree  the reply you have written is much much better than the one you were sent. 
Apparently the new version of the website will be more clear and not leave profiles listed up in cities once the provider has left that city. I'm sorry that the providers you have dealt with have been so short and rude with you. Hopefully this particular issue is rectified now the site has been updated to minis that! 
I probably shouldn't have answered in this thread - I had just been advised of this forum and wanted to make a few posts so no one uses my name has a handle - and my comments were meant as friendly advice to get better results for you guys (and us)!   

Yesterday I received enquires via text from 13 people, and 8 others through the rentmen website - texting back and forth for varying amounts of time.  There was 3 bookings made as a result of this - one which never showed up, and then the other two cancelled within 30 minutes of their arrival time, after I had showered prepared for them. 
One message conversation was  "hi are you available" I replied within 3 minutes "hi! thanks for reaching out. yes I am available today." That was the end of the conversation no other message was sent.
However, most conversations are longer -  One client today had a long chat (over 57 text messages confirming address, availability, rates, a video chat to confirm I had sent real photos, discussion of wants/needs/desires for bookings, locations, payment types etc. this started at 10am and went off and on all day until This client then cancelled the booking 30 minutes before he was due to arrive and he said he was in another state and now not coming to NYC for another month. 
So that is roughly 20 enquires a day - which means I average I am chatting with roughly 140 people a week - MOST of whom have zero interest in making bookings, but instead get pleasure from simply engaging with providers. (This also does not include the amount of scammers that contact us DAILY as well.)

I think distinguishing who is genuine and who is not is probably the hardest part of this job. connecting with people and having sensual encounters are the easy and fun part. 
What happened to me today is not unusual - it is the norm, so I guess it makes us wary of who we can give our energy too until we meet, I know for sure the original poster would find that when clients and provider meet - every text after is fine! 
yeah Rentmen has had an issue with this that has been effecting both provider and clients- and it sounds like the issue has 'driven you crazy too!'. I think when we list the dates of travel as say for eg 1/12 - 1/15, it goes by Hamburg time, not the local time that is in that particular city the provider is in, as the rentmen website is based from there.  So we set the travel dates , and then the site is not reflecting that date in  real time - adding to the amount of 'double questions' we receive I guess.  
I agree  the reply you have written is much much better than the one you were sent. 
Apparently the new version of the website will be more clear and not leave profiles listed up in cities once the provider has left that city. I'm sorry that the providers you have dealt with have been so short and rude with you. Hopefully this particular issue is rectified now the site has been updated to minis that! 
I probably shouldn't have answered in this thread - I had just been advised of this forum and wanted to make a few posts so no one uses my name has a handle - and my comments were meant as friendly advice to get better results for you guys (and us)!   

Yesterday I received enquires via text from 13 people, and 8 others through the rentmen website - texting back and forth for varying amounts of time.  There was 3 bookings made as a result of this - one which never showed up, and then the other two cancelled within 30 minutes of their arrival time, after I had showered prepared for them. 
One message conversation was  "hi are you available" I replied within 3 minutes "hi! thanks for reaching out. yes I am available today." That was the end of the conversation no other message was sent.
However, most conversations are longer -  One client today had a long chat (over 57 text messages confirming address, availability, rates, a video chat to confirm I had sent real photos, discussion of wants/needs/desires for bookings, locations, payment types etc. this started at 10am and went off and on all day until This client then cancelled the booking 30 minutes before he was due to arrive and he said he was in another state and now not coming to NYC for another month. 
So that is roughly 20 enquires a day - which means I average I am chatting with roughly 140 people a week - MOST of whom have zero interest in making bookings, but instead get pleasure from simply engaging with providers. (This also does not include the amount of scammers that contact us DAILY as well.)

I think distinguishing who is genuine and who is not is probably the hardest part of this job. connecting with people and having sensual encounters are the easy and fun part. 
What happened to me today is not unusual - it is the norm, so I guess it makes us wary of who we can give our energy too until we meet, I know for sure the original poster would find that when clients and provider meet - every text after is fine! 
yeah Rentmen has had an issue with this that has been effecting both provider and clients- and it sounds like the issue has 'driven you crazy too!'. I think when we list the dates of travel as say for eg 1/12 - 1/15, it goes by Hamburg time, not the local time that is in that particular city the provider is in, as the rentmen website is based from there.  So we set the travel dates , and then the site is not reflecting that date in  real time - adding to the amount of 'double questions' we receive I guess.  
I agree  the reply you have written is much much better than the one you were sent. 
Apparently the new version of the website will be more clear and not leave profiles listed up in cities once the provider has left that city. I'm sorry that the providers you have dealt with have been so short and rude with you. Hopefully this particular issue is rectified now the site has been updated to minis that! 
I probably shouldn't have answered in this thread - I had just been advised of this forum and wanted to make a few posts so no one uses my name has a handle - and my comments were meant as friendly advice to get better results for you guys (and us)!   

Yesterday I received enquires via text from 13 people, and 8 others through the rentmen website - texting back and forth for varying amounts of time.  There was 3 bookings made as a result of this - one which never showed up, and then the other two cancelled within 30 minutes of their arrival time, after I had showered prepared for them. 
One message conversation was  "hi are you available" I replied within 3 minutes "hi! thanks for reaching out. yes I am available today." That was the end of the conversation no other message was sent.
However, most conversations are longer -  One client today had a long chat (over 57 text messages confirming address, availability, rates, a video chat to confirm I had sent real photos, discussion of wants/needs/desires for bookings, locations, payment types etc. this started at 10am and went off and on all day until This client then cancelled the booking 30 minutes before he was due to arrive and he said he was in another state and now not coming to NYC for another month. 
So that is roughly 20 enquires a day - which means I average I am chatting with roughly 140 people a week - MOST of whom have zero interest in making bookings, but instead get pleasure from simply engaging with providers. (This also does not include the amount of scammers that contact us DAILY as well.)

I think distinguishing who is genuine and who is not is probably the hardest part of this job. connecting with people and having sensual encounters are the easy and fun part. 
What happened to me today is not unusual - it is the norm, so I guess it makes us wary of who we can give our energy too until we meet, I know for sure the original poster would find that when clients and provider meet - every text after is fine! 
yeah Rentmen has had an issue with this that has been effecting both provider and clients- and it sounds like the issue has 'driven you crazy too!'. I think when we list the dates of travel as say for eg 1/12 - 1/15, it goes by Hamburg time, not the local time that is in that particular city the provider is in, as the rentmen website is based from there.  So we set the travel dates , and then the site is not reflecting that date in  real time - adding to the amount of 'double questions' we receive I guess.  
I agree  the reply you have written is much much better than the one you were sent. 
Apparently the new version of the website will be more clear and not leave profiles listed up in cities once the provider has left that city. I'm sorry that the providers you have dealt with have been so short and rude with you. Hopefully this particular issue is rectified now the site has been updated to minis that! 
I probably shouldn't have answered in this thread - I had just been advised of this forum and wanted to make a few posts so no one uses my name has a handle - and my comments were meant as friendly advice to get better results for you guys (and us)!   

I understand the thought process for a lot of clients who want to do “research” before making a “commitment”. However, I personally don’t do it for several reasons. I have a general parameter of what I am looking for. I only contact a provider after screening for fake ads and safety checks. I only ask for availability for the time window that I am free. The satisfaction level of an encounter really depends on the chemistry, which no amount of “research” can truly predict. There are also more fun in exploring and experimenting.

As a provider I can say this - we receive MANY MANY MANY messages daily and very few from actual clients and there are a few ways for us to spot the time wasters and fakes - I have spent 8 hours in one day interacting with fakes. 
 
1. they have not read the stats in our profile.  "How big are you? Where in the city are you? Do you host or do in calls? Do you top?" 
All of this information is listed on my profile - by asking this it shows me you have not bothered to read it why means you are not serious. If I am spending this amounts of money I would read the profile.  its a HUGE red flag. you will get a short reply "Check the details on my profile!" 
 
2. Asking what city am I in.  This drives me crazy - when traveling the RM site LISTS THE DATES. I like to advertise 2 weeks before I travel to a city - but people do not bother to even look at the travel dates when clicking the profile.  often I will put "DC - 3rd/4th/5th" and people will message and then we go to lock in address and it is in DC and it is the 1st and I am in NYC. 
 
3. Messaging asking "What are you into?"   when you are contacting a provider and you are paying for a service - you should be telling us what YOU are into.  I enjoy a WIDE range of activities and am very sexual - that's why I do this job! I do not have the time to list *EVERY* thing that turns me on.  Tell us what you are looking for so we can save you time as well. 
 
4. Rates?  the amount if times you get a one two word message is really shocking.  you will get a more attentive reply with "Hi there- saw you add on RM, was wondering about your rates? Im interested!" instead of 'Rates?" 
 
The BEST first messages have a few things in them - 
 
 include your name. That you saw our add on rentmen. briefly say what you are looking for, and rough estimate of time you are looking for, where you are located if it is an incall you are wanting.  SIMPLE! 
 
For eg. Hello Angus, I hope you are well. I saw your profile on Rentmen. I am in lower east side, and am looking for a bottom who likes to kiss. Is there a time you are available tonight, and what are your outcall rates?
 
This shows me that you have seen are looking for something and it matches my profile. gives me a time, a place, and a name. It will grab my attention. 

As a provider I can say this - we receive MANY MANY MANY messages daily and very few from actual clients and there are a few ways for us to spot the time wasters and fakes - I have spent 8 hours in one day interacting with fakes. 
 
1. they have not read the stats in our profile.  "How big are you? Where in the city are you? Do you host or do in calls? Do you top?" 
All of this information is listed on my profile - by asking this it shows me you have not bothered to read it why means you are not serious. If I am spending this amounts of money I would read the profile.  its a HUGE red flag. you will get a short reply "Check the details on my profile!" 
 
2. Asking what city am I in.  This drives me crazy - when traveling the RM site LISTS THE DATES. I like to advertise 2 weeks before I travel to a city - but people do not bother to even look at the travel dates when clicking the profile.  often I will put "DC - 3rd/4th/5th" and people will message and then we go to lock in address and it is in DC and it is the 1st and I am in NYC. 
 
3. Messaging asking "What are you into?"   when you are contacting a provider and you are paying for a service - you should be telling us what YOU are into.  I enjoy a WIDE range of activities and am very sexual - that's why I do this job! I do not have the time to list *EVERY* thing that turns me on.  Tell us what you are looking for so we can save you time as well. 
 
4. Rates?  the amount if times you get a one two word message is really shocking.  you will get a more attentive reply with "Hi there- saw you add on RM, was wondering about your rates? Im interested!" instead of 'Rates?" 
 
The BEST first messages have a few things in them - 
 
 include your name. That you saw our add on rentmen. briefly say what you are looking for, and rough estimate of time you are looking for, where you are located if it is an incall you are wanting.  SIMPLE! 
 
For eg. Hello Angus, I hope you are well. I saw your profile on Rentmen. I am in lower east side, and am looking for a bottom who likes to kiss. Is there a time you are available tonight, and what are your outcall rates?
 
This shows me that you have seen are looking for something and it matches my profile. gives me a time, a place, and a name. It will grab my attention.