SouthOfTheBorder

it’s a very narrow point-of- view to think that the people you’re attracted to, are the only people that have value, or that others don’t find those same people very attractive/sexy/desirable. sometimes I have no idea what’s going to turn me on until it happens. and frequently, it’s completely unexpected. keeping an open mind & trying to stay out of judgment yields more opportunities for better outcomes - whatever the context

Island House is definitely fun & worth it. One of the better values in KW.

100% accurate. Plus, the thing w Key West & Ft Lauderdale is the taste level is very low. Lots of rich people & they don’t care what they spend or if there is any value - the point seems to be spending money in conspicuous ways. Miami has fantastic places if you can deal w the attitude & general rude vibe.

he is Brazilian - was working in São Paulo & then London. He won’t last lomg…..husband material.

the “provider” is providing a service. do you care if your dentist or mechanic is attracted to you ? no - it’s only about the job you hired them to do. if you’re getting the service you paid for, confused with feelings or attraction- than that’s on you.

the assumption is RM would be looking for duplicate CC transactions & they wouldn’t allow a card used by a provider to be used to create a client profile. doubtful RM cares, since they seem entirely focused on money. And accounts can created some as one-time transactions only. for a provider that understands the importance of reviews - it’s a very small price to pay for the ability to post positive reviews & drive client engagement. and there could be some providers splitting the cost to post positive reviews to several accounts there are definitely suspect reviews & patterns on RM - however it happens

I remember his old profile - there was an extensive dialogue about his rigid hygiene requirements & general bottom shaming. basically saying that any breach of his standards would result in immediate termination of appointment. it went on & on to the point of being ridiculous. there’s a way to make a point & that was not it that combined with his very inflated opinion of himself doesn’t usually mean a good client experience for guys that get off on his one physical attribute, perhaps all tolerable maybe he’s actually a nice person - but the profile(s) indicates otherwise

there are some legit prolific clients on RM who leave good & bad reviews - I’ve found several providers just by scanning their review history …..guys I would have overlooked otherwise. there are several ways to use the reviews. some providers on RM seem to be able to make poor reviews disappear- not sure how it happens.

in sexual context - “age-shaving” and dick size exaggeration now seems normalized among providers & app people. if it’s not a wildly off-base, then probably ok. if I know someone is lying outside of those two things - then it just creeps me out & I don’t want to be around that person. I don’t really need to know a lot about the providers personal story. the established guys I know keep it relatively focused & don’t really go there. so, if there’s an obvious lie involved, I’d question why that’s even a thing. if it’s an ongoing relationship, then that’s different

I’ve never been asked anything about sexual health by a provider - in 40 years. i assume whatever they do with me - they’re doing same exact thing with dozens of other people. And those other people are doing same thing too. I tend to hire guys who specify safe-only in profiles. Right or wrong, I assume that’s an indicator they are more health-conscious. And on the flip-side, never hiring a provider w “anything goes” or PNP in profile. I usually ask the provider if condoms are ok when booking just to confirm & let them know my expectations. It’s not foolproof & there’s always risk - but it’s about reducing the risk to something acceptable & then having a good time….its supposed to be fun & pleasurable.

big difference between randomly hitting on someone & being a serial predator who uses power & position to get sex. And it’s next level horrible when it’s targeted towards very young Spacey definitely appears predator. There are many more just like him - usually protected by enablers & hangers-on, dependent on the predator. Celeb predators very rarely act alone & in secret

lots of people have dietary restrictions for one reason or another. it’s how you handle it and communicate the restrictions only when necessary. it does seem like some people use it as an attention-seeking ploy & it gets blown wildly out of proportion. If someone really has a bunch of rigid requirements then they should 1)pick the restaurant 2)stay in a hotel 3)do their own grocery shopping 4)decline most dinner invitations at someones home having a guest for dinner or a brief stay is supposed to be enjoyable & not a ton of work for the host. when it turns into something else - that’s a no learning how to just say no - without any further explanation is a true life-hack. You don’t need a reason

most New Yorkers are not 100% tone-deaf & completely lacking self-awareness Im sure you’re charming at cocktail parties - doubtful that ever happens tho

check the reviews for patterns. frequently, there are many reviews by same person. also, look at when the reviewer became a member - lots of reviews by people who signed up same month. Or, if several reviews happen in a short period of time. there are definitely some guys gaming the system. not possible w hundreds of reviews tho

much better that way - a full block/ignore makes them invisible there are lots of guys here full of self-hatred and working out their issues….or not. the tone is telling. and then there are those living vicariously through others who never post anything about their own actual experiences - yet, live to pick apart details posted by others. typically, they populate this forum & similar forums 24/7. of course, the Karens are here too - feverishly working to control the narrative w frequent reports to the mods to censor & cancel people they don’t like. easily identified by their passive/aggressive tendencies and “ownership” of the space it takes a village

lots of red flags & they were ignored guys hire for many reasons - some are drawn to the risk & danger. if that is the reason, then you’re gonna find it.

this is accurate. those tropes indicate a certain self-loathing & their own struggles w getting older and/or hiring providers.

and then there is the weather - Miami just experienced its 2 hottest days ever recorded in May. the heat index was (heat & humidity) was 112 on both Saturday & Sunday. Key West was 115 on May 15. Those type temps are unusual even in August. Not going to be a good summer down there. ‘Insane’ Heat Has Been Scorching Miami. It’s Not Even June. Extreme Heat Scorches Miami in May, Worrying Experts About Summer - The New York Times WWW.NYTIMES.COM The hottest May on record for the city has experts worried about the summer — and hurricane season — to come.

the point was “rich” people can get away w things in countries where it’s illegal - not just prostitution, but homosexuality in general. then there was an Epstein reference yeah, billionaires can basically do whatever they want. average punters in a 4-star hotel, maybe if they’re lucky & nothing goes wrong. they can also be setup for extortion & worse - because any bargaining power is lost when you run into trouble. i get people on these forums are fantasizing about things they’ll never do. and some like the danger/risk of the fantasy. and then there are isolated & dated anecdotes creating false impressions about work arounds. Morocco as one example has changed dramatically in the last few years - how it is now is not as you have portrayed it. its a typical American tourist mentality to think money will get you want you want in any situation & when trouble arises it will get you out. also - that somehow the local laws will not be applied to Americans….its cultural arrogance & entitlement, exactly the thing the bad guys prey upon. while money may get you out in the end - the actual experience may be very different & very unpleasant. hiring providers always carry’s some risk - looking for it in countries where both prostitution & homosexuality is illegal is not wise. and, contrary to the magical thinking - everyone knows exactly what you’re doing. Older single white dude with a much younger local - not exactly a secret.

This is the part I’m always wondering about - getting treatment when something pops up. If you’re in your home city - not a big deal, other than time for providers & others that travel a lot - domestic & international, that can’t be so easy. finding a doctor & scheduling w potential language barriers, the appointment w testing, waiting for results (2-3 days), treatment, then being out of commission for 7-10 days. might take longer in other places. and some places charge insane fees for testing & treatment current gonorrhea protocol is the shot & then the pills for 7 days. the z-pack doesn’t cut it anymore. If it’s syphilis, then it’s the super painful shot intermuscular shot. I feel like some providers must travel w everything they need to self-treat, including the shots. That would make sense except perhaps self-treating for the wrong things. And over-treatment if it’s a false alarm. yup - access to treatment is key, but no guarantees unless you are very familiar with your destinations what a bummer for a provider to spend the money on international working travel - only to be sidelined by an STI.

thats pretty much unheard of - but not impossible. It doesn’t reflect current prices for sales of single-family homes or condos. A very low HOA means either no amenities or hundreds of apartments w few amenities. Probably also means an older building. Broward County (Ft Lauderdale) property taxes are about 1.985% of assessed value. Assessed value is depending on when you bought the property, at what price & whether it’s homestead or not. Median listing price for a condo in Ft L is $500,000. That means $9,928 in property taxes. There are a few coops in Florida and those may have much lower property taxes. At the end - it’s all about quality of life and what you’re willing to put up with & pay. FYI - you can browse property taxes at the Broward County Tax Assessor website with only an address - you’ll also get complete sales history with prices & ownership, same with any other county in Florida. They also have a tax calculator to show what your estimated property taxes will be on any new purchase w any deductions that may apply. google “Florida Zombie Condos” & see what comes up

this is really the thing nobody wants to talk about - the very real chain of partners you take on when having sex people like to think they are the exception - meaning what this person does with me, they probably don’t do with others or they don’t do it with any frequency. the person says, I don’t usually bareback - but with you, I will lots of magical thinking all around on this topic I still think reputable established providers are a much safer bet, in every way than anyone on the hookup apps. I’d gladly pay providers to avoid the Grindr/scruff cesspool.

perspective - to afford an $8M house, you have to be worth $30M in reality, an "ultra high net-worth" individual. And typically, these people own several homes. there are 129,750 people worth $30M in the US. Or, .00039% of the population - way beyond the 1%. I get Florida as a tax-haven if you really don't want to live there. As an investment- those days are over. i sold last year at a very good time for sellers. Between rising carrying costs, increase in equity & the general decline of quality of life - it was a very easy decision. Basically, take the money & run. The new buyer of my place will have $50,000 in HOA & property taxes in year 1, after a cash purchase - and it wasnt anything considered high-end. the buyer just wrote a blank check for spiraling fees & taxes owning real estate in Florida in Florida is like owning a boat - there are 2 good days, the day you buy it & the day you sell it.

true - there are lots of stupid people the only people who think Florida is great are people who have never lived in Florida lots of places other than California, Florida & Texas - that don't have the same problems when insurance is no longer available and/or cost-prohibitive - the bottom drops out on housing that is based upon bank lending.

agree - the problem is most people aren't honest w themselves. a real conversation w a potential partner is definitely helpful in context of making decisions. working with known & established people also helpful. trust is something that's earned - not automatic. and I don't think that is cynical at all.