SouthOfTheBorder

we’re looking for different things & then your comment makes sense. I don’t hire guys less than 9”, so that’s the baseline low end when I filter. Several in that category showing no actual dick. And most of the providers are less than advertised. one guy who is 100% legit at 10” is MegaXXL who isn’t in NY very often anymore. He’s also super handsome & a very nice human. He’s by far my favorite of all time

if you mean provider profiles - well, exaggerating comes with the territory & is expected. its smoke & mirrors on a good day notice many of the provider profiles that claim a big dick, dont show any dick at all. odd given it’s often the main selling point. it’s an automatic no for me - not even worth asking for pics. they either don’t have it or not smart enough to post it

when I say big dick - I mean a real 9.5”+ that’s super power territory nothing wrong w big dick adjacent re; Big Dick Energy - you either have it or you don’t. A telltale sign someone has it is they never have to boast about anything - because they walk around every day with that big heavy dick that opens almost every door. You won’t hear them name-dropping, vying for status or fantasizing about buying Bentleys. It’s not necessary - they own what money can’t buy. Truth and then there’s Small Dick Behavior or SDB - which means overcompensating usually by way of cars, guns or constant need to mention expensive brand names or what they paid for something - usually talking about paying way more for something than necessary bc it’s an essential part of their status-seeking

the trolling via fakes is one of two things A) jealousy B) gassing up providers (by providers) pick your poison

Reality

most guys have small dicks - and most guys lie about their dick size almost all guys are insecure about their dicks - thus, acquiring certain typical things to compensate when you have a big dick, you can pretty much do whatever you want, whenever you want - like a superpower it’s called BDE for a reason

that will probably change soon here’s how it works - the unknown provider loads up his new online profile w fake reviews, often posted by a fake client name that leaves several reviews & in a short period of time. then new provider comes to COM & creates fake client profile which promotes the new unknown provider scammers are everywhere in this business - but the fake client profiles on COM seem to be a NYC thing because there is so much money here & competition is fierce among providers. It’s not a thing among the established long-term known providers in NY. It seems to be new arrivals in the last 4 years, since 2020. I’d say the chances of encountering a scammer are at least 50% or more in NY these days. It was not this bad before. Buyer beware

some of the deceptions are really well done & not easy to spot the guy I’m referencing was spotted a few years ago by several long-term members when he created a COM client profile & Rentmasseur provider profile on the same day - then immediately started hyping his provider profile here. It was obvious they were the same two people. When discovered early on - he went silent allowing enough time to pass for people to forget. Now he’s back - hyping same provider profile and other engaging w others in a deceptive ways the mods seems more interested in keeping a lid on vitriol & off-topic rants vs sussing out the imposters that are really pretty good with a lot of time & energy put into the effort. is it in anyone’s interest to have a fake client profile (who is an active provider) reviewing providers & talking about rates while trying to downplay real negative reviews ? btw - according to COM member posts - this one fake client profile is operating as multiple provider profiles these sort of deceptions add to the narrative of providers being dishonest & scammers. scammers in online anonymous forums are impossible to eliminate - it is possible to expose them tho & let people draw their own conclusions

recently discovered one member profile who posts as a client, but appears to be a provider I think everybody know it happens occasionally aside from hyping themselves and their provider friends - they’re trying to change perceptions of normal rates, deposit policies & rant about negative provider reviews by members here. when real clients disagree or have a different opinion, then the insults start a tad ironic to be debating typical pricing with a provider who is just trying to raise his own rates no problem with providers here making their points however they want to do it. But when assuming identity of a client then that seems to be a problem when discovered - should they be banned ?

and more rain & flooding in Florida

several of the gay guesthouses offer day passes w access to pool, etc. they all cater to a slightly different clientele. Cabanas near Wilton Manors is popular & very cruisy daytime. Agree, Haulover is great if weather cooperates. Club Ft Lauderdale is the biggest gay men’s sauna in US & open 24/7. the bars in Wilton Manors start to get busy early afternoon - depends on the crowd you want. Ramrod opens in the morning & very cruisy

while the African countries offer much in terms of general tourism - they’re not known for being destinations for gay sex-tourism. Morocco was many years ago, but its completely changed now. sure, you can still go & risk arrest/harassment/extortion/imprisonment if that’s your thing you have to wonder why some want to choose the more difficult and/or dangerous options when there are other places welcoming & set-up for this kind of thing. Brazil & Thailand come to mind.

it’s Miami & Ft Lauderdale too: 10” of rain, waist deep water, interstates closed, do not travel bulletins, flights cancelled, Governor has declared disaster area - so, that’s two highly unusual rain events in Ft Lauderdale less than 15 months apart. more rain forecast for today this is mid June & typically the rainy season doesn’t start until later it’s all over the news - see for yourself Heavy Rain Causes Devastating Flooding in Florida https://www.nytimes.com/2024/06/13/us/florida-photos-floods-storms-miami.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare&sgrp=c-cb

this sounds smart & responsible for a provider - I really don’t see how 3 months could possibly work given the number of partners a provider could have during that time everyone says you’re only ok at the moment that last test was done & that’s true. but w more frequent testing, the probability decreases of unknowingly passing on an STI if asymptomatic

Here’s Sarasota today - another Once in a Thousand Year flood. The last Once in a Thousand Year flood was Ft Lauderdale April 2023

that seems to be the point

a business plan is just that - and should be altered when necessary. not wise to make wholesale adjustments tho based on one unfortunate event. the easiest way to succeed at anything is look at what very successful people do in that field & copy them. don’t reinvent the wheel or try to change an entire industry or culture bc it won’t happen. in this business, a demand for money upon arrival is crass & immediately sets up the appointment awkwardly. I would not call that person again. the custom is payment at the end & I expect providers to be able to screen enough that this should not be an issue. that said, I usually offer payment at the beginning w a new provider so they don’t have to worry about it if a provider is constantly experiencing problematic clients & situations , then it would be helpful to look at the way the services are being advertised because it’s not happening randomly.

Pineapple Point in Ft L seems to get best reviews. I stayed there once many years ago - not sure how it is now. Be careful tho bc a lot of the gay accommodations in Ft L are sketchy & not well maintained.

learning to walk-away from stupid people or situations is worthwhile

any of those areas in Florida are fine as a gay couple. the question is what else are you looking for in the environment ? the Florida keys aren’t known for the beaches. Pensacola & Amelia Island tend to draw more redneck types. Miami & Ft Lauderdale if you don’t mind an urban beach & want more gay specific options. The Florida beaches become much more tropical looking south of West Palm Beach w coconut palms & different foliage. Ft Lauderdale probably best overall and easy access to a major airport w good connections

re; “rape”, sending someone to “collect” the unpaid fee & driving 10 hours for an appointment - none of these ideas or actions make sense in context of the simple act of hiring a provider once you’ve been scammed by either provider or client - chalk it up to a learning experience & don’t do the same thing again. if you lost $200-$400 then you got off easy the vast majority of appointments & transactions happen without any trouble at all. don’t make it complicated unless you want a complicated situation

keeping expectations low & reasonable makes for better outcomes. providers aren’t machines & I don’t expect them to cum. and, I don’t need to cum to be satisfied. I usually tell the provider at the start that I don’t need to cum & here is what I enjoy, xxxxx for an erotic/sexual experience - takes all the pressure off & they seem to appreciate clear direction the best providers are intuitive & can read the body language - they’re not mindreaders tho, so if you want something specific, then say it

at this point - if someone demands upfront payment, I’d leave immediately. It hasn’t happened much, but when it does, it usually means mediocrity since payment after services rendered is the norm, it should be noted in profile if they want payment in advance - of course, the scammers won’t reveal themselves that way. always cash - no electronic trail or names

https://www.vox.com/culture/24087565/princess-kate-middleton-disappearance-rumors-explained-abdominal-surgery-kensington-palace

keep in mid the two youngest children haven’t been seen or photographed since Christmas - why ? P George only photographed twice since Christmas w William Middletons mother in a severe car accident in March & was listed in “critical condition” - not seen since. and then there was the mysterious shooting of Thomas Kingston (married to a Royal) in January & a close pal of William’s. William shows up publicly days later w bruises. Meanwhile, the rumored mistress Rose Hanbury is making public appearances w Camilla. Coincidences ? The Middletons are being erased - all of them