SouthOfTheBorder

LOL - much prefer someone with a strong opinion vs the passive/aggressive types. and prefer those who speak to the subject - at least they’re contributing whether others agree or not. the worst are the passive/aggressive who lurk around (several forums - not just this one) and live to pick apart opinions or real experiences posted by others, while offering none of their own. the constant negativity appears fueled by jealousy as they often target those who are well-traveled & having fun, then posting about it. perhaps Pride events or something similar would be helpful for those caught in a cycle of depression - to actually experience something in the real world vs just reading about it here. the internet, unfortunately provides ample outlets for negativity and further decline. very sad indeed for those afflicted

these type events used to be free-spirited & fun, before crystal meth took over. after crystal use was normalized & went mainstream- the vibe became super aggressive, bitchy & 100% sex. And that was on Day 1. After a few days of “partying” it just gets exponentially worse & no fun to be around whatsoever btw - the insatiable desire for sex created by crystal never actually gets satisfied, no matter how much sex the user has. it can never be enough. almost every person I’ve known using it has told me they know how to handle it - and inevitably gets messy - they're just not aware if you can tolerate hundreds of rude drugged-out zombies - then maybe the parties would be fun. there seems to less of it during day parties tho

agree re; the screenshots I posted - one “client” left 34 reviews from a total of about 40 reviews that are visible. It could be one enthusiastic client. It could also be someone who has figured out how to game it. if one client is leaving vast majority of reviews, it really doesn’t mean anything anyway I definitely look at # of reviews first and do a quick check for any pattern of bad reviews. If they make that cut, then go deeper into the patterns to see if the reviews look fake these days - if anything looks suspect at all, it’s a no

yes - that was his name !

this reasoning could be used to exclude any group from any public venue. let’s say a fancy public restaurant (not a private club) decides that their core rich white customer won’t come if they let in any other minority groups. does that make any sense ? NO & it would violate several laws in practice, this still actually happens - although they try to hide their discrimination by saying the restaurant is “booked” or other excuses. Foolish indeed because they’re asking for a lawsuit. Exclusion of women during Pride events or in other traditional gay public places (bars, restaurants, etc) seems to be the opposite of the inclusiveness that Pride is trying to promote. Go figure - the gays want to discriminate when it might be a little uncomfortable to some.

learn some basic Spanish & fly business

interesting thread with different views - some advocating “live & let live” aka sex in public at Pride type events and those who don’t want women in traditional gay spaces for sexual freedom which is it - you want everyone to see in public or you want privacy in certain spaces open only to a select few ? being gay means equal treatment- not special treatment with everything exactly how you want it to be in every space according to your exact desires & wishes

patterns like this

it does feel like many of these Pride “events” are hyper-sexualized & pushing an agenda vs the original intent I don’t think it’s productive to have sex openly in public spaces as some sort of a statement. It becomes a spectacle and works against the community. rampant drug use & alcohol at these events doesn’t help either. it’s a perfect storm for the backlash we are experiencing now

where are tickets available now ?

this is my opinion only based on alot of experience in Ft Lauderdale & Miami - both cities tend to be very transient in terms of providers, but for different reasons. Miami gets a lot of providers that travel extensively around the world and those guys have already left Miami for the season. They probably wont be in Miami for next several months. My two favorites that fall into that category are Marco_XL and MGXXL (formerly MegaXXL) on RM. A reputable guy that is in Miami most of the year is Derick_XXL - he has tons of great reviews & I’ve met him. As for Ft Lauderdale - well, it just tends to be transient with lots of providers moving in/out for whatever reason. Lots of guys dabbling for awhile in the business and they’re gone. One guy that has been around a long time w lots of reviews is ScottB on RM. All the others I knew personally are no longer working in Ft L. I’d suggest being very careful in S Florida in general and only going with guys that are very well-reviewed and/or referrals. Florida draws the very best providers and the very worst. Summer months will make it a bit more difficult than in the high-season in winter.

certainly ! next up, deposits & condoms

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first - there is a big difference between Ft Lauderdale & Miami. Most of the guys on RM list under both cities, but they really won’t travel between the two cities unless you’re paying a premium - and some just won’t travel at all. I-95 connecting Miami & Ft Lauderdale has some of the worst traffic in the country. I’d decide where you’ll be staying first and then focus on guys in that city. It can be difficult to figure out who is really based on Ft L & who is in Miami. Miami tends to have more of the providers that travel internationally & more expensive. Ft Lauderdale tends to have more providers that cater to a mature clientele. Both cities have extensive choices and some of the best.

I doubt there is much, if any crossover between IML crowd & strip bars. At least in Ft Lauderdale - it’s very separate between leather community & Johnsons crowd. Johnsons seems to go younger or much older. Leather guys typically more middle age. Not all, but most. And the leather guys want real action & they have several venues - they don’t seem interested in a tease in a strip club.

agree. and play frequent enough, well - it’s pretty much a certainty current terminology is STI, not STD

this is correct & defines what is considered the “American Dream” - children are no longer doing better than their parents. And that’s for the middle class with access to education & other resources. For the poor, it’s even worse. We are now at the tail end of a 40 year experiment of “trickle-down” tax policy that has largely shifted vast wealth to the already wealthy - the creation of a super rich class while wages for the middle class & poor have woefully lagged behind. All you need to do is look at America’s crumbling infrastructure and increasingly lawlessness among the poor to see the deterioration of the country. Other rich developed countries do not have these same problems as the US - not even close. Some of them have similar issues brewing on a much smaller & less visible scale - but none have the vast wealth inequality as compared to the US. When people see the system as systemically rigged and lose hope - then all options are on the table. Really, I’m surprised this has happened sooner than the past couple of years. There is little choice but to employ more aggressive policing and hardline policies - otherwise the cities which are the economic drivers in the country become unsustainable, affecting the greater US economy overall. Re: the “smash & grab” organized crime wave: where do all those stolen products go ? the stolen merchandise is resold online to very middle class people looking for a bargain. Above all - Americans want to buy at lowest possible price no matter where the goods come from. They love to be bemoan China trade issues but then they flock to Walmart & Amazon buying cheap Chinese produced products. Moving manufacturing jobs offshore & destruction of American Main streets is the direct result of the American insatiable desire for low priced products (Chinese) sold at mass retailers at the lowest possible price. This was not hard to predict, yet most don’t connect the dots.

Folsom always seemed a little desperate to me for whatever reason. Dore Alley in SF was more fun - smaller & more local. Agree w @BenjaminNicholas - Black Party and other similar have turned into crystal meth events. Not everyone, but enough that there is a very different energy & it’s not nice.

so many things in NYC stores behind locked glass cases. I had to wait yesterday at CVS for someone to unlock the case for ice cream. a friend who works in a retail clothing chain in Manhattan tells of multiple walk-in gangs stealing everything in sight. Staff is told to stand-down and it happens even with security people there. I don’t think police bother to come anymore. Not sure if that’s still happening, but it was last year. no excuse for any of it. I do think the root cause is rising income inequality and people thinking there is no way to better their lives. when people can’t meet basic survival needs & lose hope, then everything is on the table. the people on this forum, including me have no idea what that’s like. San Francisco is ground zero for extreme income inequality and now it’s like a futuristic dystopian movie from 30 yrs ago with driverless cars, gleaming glass towers w extreme wealth and masses of homeless & drug addict zombies at street level.

people do lots of things that aren’t logical, aren’t good for them & known to cause health problems. - terrible diets/obesity, crystal meth & other drugs, unprotected sex & the list goes on. I get smoking can be annoying for a non-smoker interesting to note that in Japan & Spain they smoke like chimneys. Those two countries also have the longest average life-spans in the world. Of course smoking is bad for health - yet, it sure looks like a diet with real food & much less additives, preservatives & junk food has more to do with living a longer & healthier life than not smoking. being in a casino doesn’t exactly make sense either - the house always wins, eventually

the thing with making provider appointments weeks in advance is the very high-probability of cancellations. Appointments w providers typically aren’t given same priority as doctor/dentist/attorney appointments- things that have to get done. Provider appointments are entirely elective & it’s the first thing cancelled when travel plans change, family commitments come-up, job requirements, unforeseen emergencies or the time just becomes inconvenient. Many clients don’t have long-term relationships w the providers so they will cancel without the same courtesies they give to doctors/dentists/lawyers, etc it’s just someone they don’t know - not all of course, but many. To each their own - I just don’t like to waste anyone’s time, including mine until I know nothing will get in the way either same day or day before. I really can’t plan weeks ahead on being horny at a specific day & time, nor do I know my body will cooperate either. Plus, when making same day or day before - the provider knows you’re more likely serious. Thats just the way it works. Scheduling travel with a provider for several days or maybe booking a weekend would be the only time I’d contact weeks in advance.

this the key - not setting things up too far in advance. same day or day before at the most. and limit contact with provider to things only necessary for appointment. OP story sounds cumbersome for a simple appointment. no excuse for the ghosting tho

lots of hires from Hunqz in EU. All good & I prefer over RM. reviews are all over the place & the reviews can by anonymous, meaning without username. providers can also link to provider “friends” which seems to adds some legitimacy. Hunqz doesn’t have all the various filters as RM, but not much of an issue. Rates are much lower compared to RM.

contact a lawyer first. dont listen to any advice here.

the most important thing - a clean hole top or bottom - eventually, someone goes there for something