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stay very far away - lovebombing/stalking certain to follow whether or not AI wrote it - he thought it was a good idea to post it. just no

doubtful this is the real story. a biopsy or similar doesn't require hospitalization. they're putting out this story because they can't hide the hospital stay. plus, they've made a huge deal about who acts in his absence. same with Middleton - they claim a "planned procedure" but yet she abruptly cancelled all engagements until Easter. Why plan engagements when you know about the procedure ?? you'd think with the dozens of flacks they employ, the lies would at least be believable.

yup - an STI will completely ruin a vacation and put you out-of-commission sexually. While easier to see a doctor & get treated at home, still a major pain & not worth the risk in my view. I think there are alot of people here expressing opinions on the subject that either don't hire often, aren't very sexually active or delusional about the actual STI prevalence & risk. Not to mention, some STI strains are becoming resistant to existing treatments. Nobody likes talking about STIs or acknowledging the real situation. Way easier to talk about PREP and think everything else is curable.

imagine if you want to quit your job, marry the person you love & move to another country - and then your family & former employer want to destroy your life because of it. same exact thing except on a scale none of us can imagine btw - if Harry didn't need to self-fund the massive security costs, then perhaps he wouldn't have needed to write the book or do Netflix. BRF made a strategic blunder that will come back to haunt them. Bet on it. I see the OP is back posting about things where he knows the types of comments he will get, doesn't like them & proceeds to denigrate. Very tired

This is a matter of perspective & individual risk tolerance. Also, very dependent on how active someone is with this hobby. if someone hires providers rarely or few times a year - then I get it, go for & deal with the consequences. I'm talking about STIs, not HIV....assuming most are on Prep or HIV meds. If someone travels extensively and engages providers frequently on those travels, then I just don't see BB as a practical option. Unless you want to always be going to the doctor in foreign countries, getting multiple tests done, waiting for the results and then taking medication for a week. It's not a moral issue - it's just not practical. And yes - there are so many STIs out there among sexually active men that it will happen if routinely engaging in bb sex. The only question is how many times does it need to happen for someone to learn the lesson ?? And yup - this would be precisely why I wouldn't hire an active OF creator...because no condoms on-screen and that likely means no condoms off-screen either. Nobody likes condoms - they're not fun & not sexy. Dealing with an STI is worse imo

wrong - most of the negative stories about them are planted by un-named sources, meaning Palace insiders. While they don't comment officially - it's an ongoing effort to destroy them, exactly like they did to Diana. It's true - no outsider knows what really happened. Except that H&M wanted to leave & then he was financially cut-off & security removed. Thats been reported by several legitimate sources with no pushback from Palace....just because it couldn't be covered up with British official agencies involved. Who cuts off security protection from a globally known person & family with credible threats on their lives ???? Truly awful corrupt evil people that's who. The bottom line is they are terrified H&M will eclipse the boring lot left in London and/or spill the real juicy stuff. He's got way more to tell if he so chooses. Lots of skeletons in those closets & Harry knows where they are. The British Royal Family is on borrowed time anyway. Unlike the Scandinavian monarchies that enjoy wide support & popularity - nobody cares about Charles & Camilla.

On any given day - there are at least a dozen new stories about Harry & Meghan. Overwhelmingly negative and not something they are seeking out. The latest one is the Queen didn’t like H&M naming their daughter after her….the story is from a new book by a former Palace aide. Any remotely positive story about them is challenged or denigrated by “unnamed palace sources” where do all these stories come from & what is the purpose ? Well, when you have an outdated hereditary monarchy built upon centuries of looting former colonies & slavery, along with a relatively unpopular & temperamental new King - then it’s much easier to divert the public attention on Harry & Meghan. That’s the game. I feel sorry for Harry - he had no choice in being born a Prince & was used as a prop for Day 1. There is no escape for him in this lifetime. When he tried to walk away, they’ve done everything in their power to destroy him - including abruptly removing his security when they knew there were credible threats against the lives of him & his family. They are out to destroy him just like they did to his mother. What a bunch of truly awful people.

I agree with your statement above - but the income calculation is off. A successful creator needs new & fresh content to keep subscribers on OF and the corresponding revenue stream A successful creator can make more with new content than a couple of hours with a client. And if it’s a situation where many OF creators are in one city at a particular time then forget trying to schedule with them - they will be otherwise occupied filming. I see almost no overlap between successful OF creators & real providers who do this for a living and meet with clients regularly. There are alot of very young guys who do OF as primary work and then try to dabble as providers. The two different paths do not seem to mix well. Yes, there are a few exceptions- but not many. Ive subscribed to some OF creators who advertise as providers to get a better sense before hiring - in every case their OF worked against them and I decided not to pursue. Plus, OF content is almost exclusively bareback with lots of different people - no thanks.

I’ve met him. He was pleasant & showed up on time. Looks like his pictures. Nothing remarkable or outstanding- he seemed to be going through the motions. He’s been around NY for years.

I’d steer clear of any significant OF creator - why would they meet average people when they make more money filming with other hot people ? If it looks like someone just dabbles in OF, then that’s different i continue to be surprised at some here that set themselves up for obvious impending disappointment. Take the easier & proven option - hires guys that meet with average type clients & make a living doing so. Not complicated.

if you're looking for someone to take to your hotel - RM is a better option. the dancers/strippers are sometimes available, but requires a lot more work & probably more money too - the strippers will make more money in the bar than going off with one person for one hour. In the bar - it really depends on your appearance, how much they like you & the cash you're willing to spend. With RM - it's a cleaner/less complicated transaction.

Check Spunk nights at the Monster in West Village - usually Thursdays & other nights too. Spunk also does parties at Pieces W Village. The Spunk parties are $10 cover or close. W Village is 10-15 minute max subway ride south of HK to Christopher Street (1/2/3 trains). Very easy & worth it. Monster venue is bigger than Fairytale & Spunk parties have been running there forever. Strippers and private lap dance facilities if that’s your thing. The area where they do private dances is a bit more private than Fairytale too. Boxers in HK has shirtless staff - but no actual strippers as I recall.

there's an updated report New York Times this morning saying the victim knew the suspect and had "spent time" with him last summer. this does not appear to be someone the victim just met or was random just goes to show - you do not know who you're dealing with when you think you do. RIP Brazilian Police Make Arrest in Killing of New York Art Dealer Brazilian Police Make Arrest in Killing of Brent Sikkema - The New York Times WWW.NYTIMES.COM The suspect knew Brent Sikkema, according to the police, and was arrested at a gas station about 600...

you’re right on all of the above. But, I think for most it’s a risk calculation to get what you want without going through massage process. for zero risk, then go the massage route & take it from there. If booking with a known or referred provider, then probably almost zero risk. For unknowns, then I suppose there is some small risk depending on location and if this is on someone’s radar…..probably not. while the subject of recordings & blackmail comes up from time to time here - overall, the chances are very low to zero that would happen. Again, this goes to how you select people to hire. Always do some sort of vetting - either very well reviewed, direct referrals, a known person on OF/Twitter/IG or similar. The real risk is hiring unknown people with no reviews or vetting & allowing them into your home. Letting any stranger know where you live is kind of nuts these days. I wouldn’t do it

Of the very few times a provider has requested/demanded payment before service - it’s always been lackluster service. In my view, it’s a sign that things aren’t going to be great. The real pros in the business do not operate that way. At the same time, if I’m meeting someone new, I make the payment in advance so there is no confusion about the fee, especially if there is a language barrier. There’s a big difference between a provider demanding pay in advance & a client offering. at the core of this business is a financial transaction- but, it can be handled with dignity, grace & kindness by all parties. If that is the case, then similarly the session should good as well. there’s also a degree of trust required by both parties - when one is so suspicious of the other that the financial transaction becomes the main focus, then it’s just not going to be good. I tend to always tip & very generously when traveling abroad where rates are low and it makes a much bigger difference in providers compensation. In New York at $350-$400 per hour - no.

this could happen to any visitor to Rio - “lifestyle” or not. It’s a sad & tragic story in any context. the thing that everyone forgets is there are so many desperate people in Rio & when that meets wealthy tourists, then anything can happen. I don’t remember these same type stories from 10-15 years ago - robberies & muggings yes, murder no. The same type crimes are happening to tourists that understand Rio well & Brazilians too.

there is a luxurious gay guesthouse in Barrio Alto - The Late Birds. It’s basically a small gay design hotel. Exceptionally well done & not typical of gay guesthouses/hotels. That would be my first choice in Lisbon for sure. https://www.thelatebirdslisbon.com/homepage

New York Times, January 16 Brent Sikkema, Influential Gallerist, Is Found Dead in His Rio Apartment https://www.nytimes.com/2024/01/16/arts/design/brent-sikkema-gallerist-dead-rio.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare

multiple user names & imposters are nothing new here and are to be expected in an “anonymous” forum like this there are multiple members using different user names & sometimes talk to each other and about each other - why they play these games is beyond me its usually obvious because the writing style eventually gives them away.

For those in search of a real massage & more by handsome masculine guys in Bangkok - Arena is the place for you. Upon entering, you will be greeted by the lineup from which to choose. It can feel pressured the first time, but doesn't need to be that way. You can take a seat, chat with the manager who speaks English and weigh the options. the guys are working out in a basic gym setup that looks a little like a prison yard. Just the right amount of dirty & sexy. The rooms are private & with showers. After 5 visits - highly recommend. They deliver. Walkable from most hotels near Silom.

I think it’s a mistake to interpret “regularly tested” or similar with any qualifiers as any sort of indicator about someone’s sexual health. STIs can be asymptomatic for some & still contagious. And it’s a numbers game - the more partners or encounters, the more likely STI. That said, vast majority of providers I’ve encountered are more fastidious about their sexual health than people on the apps. Which makes sense given their income will be affected if they are out of commission for a week or more. As a rule, I do not select providers who say “anything goes” and rarely select the “ask me”. We’ve all been seduced by porn images showing wild bb sex & that somehow gets translated in our brains that’s how it is. It’s a fantasy and isn’t realistic in todays environments. Ive had lots of peer pressure for bb sex and even some guys insist with all sorts of justifications & distorted logic. It’s not rocket science - at some point an STI will arrive and it will be uncomfortable & inconvenient. Not a life-changing event, but not something that’s worth the risk imo. Regular testing is important and should be routine for all who are sexually active - but that test is only valid on the day it was done. And fyi - the testing is not 100% accurate - things can be missed on routine testing if swabbing is not done everywhere. Condoms are not a big deal and easy to incorporate into a routine where it’s not even a question whether to use or not. Ultimately we are responsible for our own sexual health & choices - I like to think I make choices that are better for others too.

I see all the comments here about coed parties at Thermas - yet, I’ve never experienced it not being open due to these events….and I go there a lot. No way this happens with any frequency. No mention of it on their website - just says open 24/7

I’ve been asked to film many times - usually when I’m getting my dick sucked bc I’m well-endowed. No bigger turn-off in the moment, yet some insist. It’s so fucking boring it’s beyond words. If I wanted to film, I’d have OF. I’ve also had people film me without my consent - yes, it can be done if the person is clever & deceitful.

political corruption & inevitable political instability by those seeking to retain power and influence at all costs are the undoing of many countries. Categorizing it as left or right is just lazy - it's seldom about ideology, although that is what they feed the masses to justify their actions.

the concept of tipping is wildly out-of-control in the US. for professional services, tipping was always a discretionary add-on for someone that did not get compensated for the full fee paid. example - I go to a barber who doesn’t own the shop. The shop takes a cut of the service fee paid & my tip brings the compensation in line within the total fee paid. It was not customary to tip the owner of the shop because they get the full fee paid. Servers in restaurants is something different altogether because they typically make hourly wages far below minimum wage and it is customary to always tip 15-20% for satisfactory service in the US - more than 20% if the service is outstanding. for US based providers where they are running their own business and realize all of the fee in cash and charge $250-$350 per hour, I’m not sure where the expectation of tips comes in. I frequently tip providers if the service is outstanding, or they come short-notice or they stay beyond the booked time. I don’t normally tip if the time is one-hour and the service is basic or average. If a provider needs more money to make the transaction worthwhile, then just charge a higher hourly rate. Much better to be straightforward and transparent vs some unwritten vague rule/expectation that may lead to disappointment. Europe & Japan are much more civilized where tipping is not a thing and the prices are based upon wages that fairly compensate the workers. Tipping there is the exception rather than the rule.