Simon Suraci

It’s 111* F at noon in San Diego today. Supposedly we have the best (or among the best) weather in the United States. Just walking outside for a few minutes has me drenched and irritable. Be kind to your providers. If they are decent, they will not take forever and won’t take any time away from your session to shower before and/or after. I show the same courtesy to my incall massage clients. A lot of them are coming from, or going to, work in the same heat.

It’s arbitrary. On RentMen, I intentionally put all my pics in my public gallery, including explicit full frontal erect ones, and ass pics too. Two of those pics featuring me wearing a leather jockstrap, gag, and blindfold RM forced me put in my private gallery. Apparently those are too racy, but erections are not. I think it’s arbitrary, like they just want something in the “premium” gallery to motivate client members to spend more to access. It’s lame. It makes me look like I’m intentionally setting up my galleries that way, but really RM forces me. On RentMasseur, I intentionally keep all my more explicit photos in the private gallery. I don’t believe they will allow the explicit stuff in public galleries. I share private photos with any client who asks. They don’t have to spend money or risk sharing their information to view my private pics.

^Considering all the so-so and bad masseurs out there, I don’t mind paying a premium for a high quality experience. I’m glad to hear your time with Brady is worthwhile. Thanks for posting. ^I’m sorry to hear about this. It wasn’t me. I gave him a window of literally six days, and any time on those days to choose from. I was the least fussy, and most accommodating client possible in that regard. And no, I showed up 5 mins early exactly where he instructed. I truly sympathize with Brady because clients no-show on me, especially when I travel. It’s so frustrating regarding the lack of income but also the inability to make or proceed with alternate plans. This is undoubtedly why he requires deposits. I too get clients being demanding about getting exactly the time they want, rearranging my life to accommodate them, and the client making a big deal about it…and then that client no-shows. I truly get it. Those are really horrible clients. In private messages, others have confirmed that Brady has skipped out on many appointments with them - even regular clients! You have to keep booking multiple appointments in the hopes that one of them eventually materializes. Hot tip from you all: book with less notice, like maybe the day before, to minimize your risk of him no-showing. What a bummer having to clear so many hours in your schedule only to be disappointed time and time again. Some of you told me that Brady makes fan site content. If anyone has a link to his fan page, please reference it here. And yet, you keep booking. This is what still puzzles me. While some of you mention here and in PMs YMMV “extras”, I can’t imagine what he could possibly do with his body - therapeutically or otherwise - to make someone waste so many hours of their life dealing with no-shows. It truly boggles my mind. Guys in the deli section don’t get that much patience from their clients. When someone ghosts or no shows, clients move on. And that’s for guys in prime condition meeting all the most stringent client criteria for looks, personality, fame/following, and sexual offerings. I don’t understand why clients are extending many times more patience for Brady. Sure, maybe it’s an excellent deep massage, but I can’t imagine anyone justifying the hoops they have to jump through to get it. I’m only making assumptions, but fan site content creators spend many hours a week on their work. It’s not just the time on screen. It’s promoting, it’s planning, traveling, and dealing with other young, flaky collaborators and turning on a dime to accommodate everyone’s shifting schedules (including his own). Fan site content creation is a full time job, and quite unpredictable. No wonder he is changing last minute all the time. It’s just unfortunate he doesn’t embody the professionalism to communicate when things pop up. Sure, it may be annoying that he cancels on you half the time or more, but at least a decent masseur will communicate a cancellation (even last minute!) rather than making you lose half your day driving somewhere and being stood up in 105+ degree desert heat. Others say he easily gets overwhelmed. I feel for the guy. Whatever personal problems he is experiencing though, that doesn’t excuse his lack of professionalism. I won’t be trying Brady again for a few reasons: 1) I’m only in the Phoenix metro a couple times a year. I have to book ahead because clients tend to start filling my calendar in the days prior to arrival. That leaves odd times available, perhaps not a large enough block of time to travel from wherever I am in the metro to see Brady, have a two hour appointment, and get back in time to prep for my next client…that’s basically half a day wasted! 2) I’m there for work. Any time wasted on flaky masseurs is time I am not earning enough money to justify the trip in the first place. Having to book multiple “backup” masseurs compounds this problem. 3) I do not trust or respect people that operate the way Brady does. His behavior is unacceptable; it’s utterly disrespectful, and rude. We should not be rewarding people like Brady with our business. Period. No reasonable client should be expected to book multiple times on short notice in the hopes that eventually Brady may deign to follow through. That’s crazy! I feel for the guy because I am assuming he just has some personal issues keeping him from behaving professionally, but still, that’s not ok. If he’s making big money doing fan site content, good for him. Then maybe he should stick to that. For the rest of you willing to be put through the run-around over and over again…more power to you. If I were retired, living in the Phoenix metro and had nothing better to do, I could put up with this. That’s just not me though.

In this case, it’s a ‘level of effort’ issue, not a risk tolerance issue. It’s more difficult for many providers to get and stay hard using a latex sheath dulling whatever sensation that may have otherwise helped them perform. Maybe your guy can do it, maybe he can’t. I disagree with charging differently for bb/safe (either one), especially after the appointment starts. It’s an unfair bait-and-switch tactic. Anal sex is a fundamental level of service for an escort session, be it with or without condoms.

I run a snake charming school…😆 In all seriousness, I continue to learn every month, every year. I am happy to share my journey and lessons learned with those who want to grow. Big ask since the youngest among us think they know everything, and the older ones think the same, but for very different reasons. Technology and culture are in constant flux. Nothing is exactly the same as it was five years ago, and nothing will be exactly the same five years from now. A few core tenets are exactly the same because they are rooted in human nature. Unabashedly, I don’t know everything. I aim with an open mind to keep growing and learning from both those older and younger than myself, peers, and clients alike. That’s one of the main reasons why I’m here. Plenty of providers know about this site yet see no value in engaging with it. I do. Accommodation selection is one of many hiring topics. To any provider that wants my input, I’m an open book. ^Understandable. Be kind and patient with your providers speaking English as a second (or third) language. Anyone offering services in a culture different from their own should take it upon himself to use whatever tools available to communicate as clearly as he can. Some things, however, get lost in translation no matter the level of effort. That’s just the way it goes.

^I go out of my way to figure out if the listing is an ADU or if the host is onsite or has a property that they occupy on site or a property adjacent to the unit or in view of the unit, such as a house across the street. These are a non-starter for me. I won’t rent these units because I value privacy for myself and for my clients. It’s not always clear in the listing that you’re going to be monitored in such ways. That’s one of many reasons I prefer to rent a whole stand-alone single family house. ^This is usually cost prohibitive to have such a feature, at least for me, for business trips, but it’s nice to enjoy private amenities wherever possible. ^You just have to be good at searching, and select cities that offer competitive Airbnb rates. Some cities are prohibitively expensive and/or the options are more limited. For some cities, hotels are the same or better in terms of price. Many of them, including mid-size cities are actually a considerable savings compared to hotels. Hotels may be convenient for the person staying at the hotel, but often not for the person visiting. Parking fees in downtown locations and having to hike a ways with a massage table are two big ones. I consistently hear clients complain about providers hosting in downtown locations and that they won’t consider a incall in a downtown location. That’s why it behooves providers to host in AirBnBs. They’re convenient. They’re safe, depending on the neighborhood. Parking is free, close, and right next to, or on site with the unit, assuming the provider is discerning about choosing the right listing. ^Absolutely. Family or group vacations are much more cost effective this way, and arguably more fun having everyone under the same roof. It’s cozier, and offers more space and you get a full kitchen, among other amenities.

Then you have clients not using a phone number at all, only using exclusively RentMasseur messenger, RentMen messenger, and other app messages to communicate. One client arranged a two hour meeting with me yesterday after confirming details the day before. He deleted his profile and so when I was going to ask if he was still coming, it says the profile is no longer available. What a jerk. I wish people would just cancel instead of ghost/delete/block whatever. It’s so childish. At least a real phone number has nominal stakes, even if only a burner. That’s why some of my peers won’t book an appointment without a phone number, and refuse to book with numbers they can tell are burners.

^Knowing this from others’ comments, I scheduled WEEKS in advance to make sure I can follow up as many times as necessary to get an appointment scheduled on his books. I was prepared for slow and inconsistent communication knowing it would probably be worth the extra effort and patience. Many of you know I am generally a pretty patient guy anyway. While not great, communication with Brady actually wasn’t as bad as others say. Scheduling wasn’t my issue though. My issue is he stood me up. I’m not that guy who asks for a massage on very short notice like in 1-2 hours. I’m intentional. I plan. Especially in this case when I knew I would only be in the masseur’s area for a week. ^It sounds to me like his skills and him as a person are worthwhile when you actually get to see him. That’s why I went out of my way to try him, on his own terms, by being: 1) Prepared to pay more than I would normally be willing to pay for a massage 2) Really flexible with scheduling 3) Proactive 4) Not pushy 5) Mindful of scheduling a long session to make it worth his time (and mine!) The only thing I didn’t do on his terms was pay a deposit, but he agreed to waive it. Maybe he saw me as a less reliable client because of that, but if he didn’t want to see me because of the deposit issue, he could have just said no. I don’t get it. ^While the fun aspect is intriguing, I had no expectations that any extras would be part of my session. I really just wanted to try his therapeutic work. I know so many clients are pushy or creepy about ‘extras’. Being a masseur myself, I witness it every day, so when I get a massage myself, I show as much respect as I possibly can. That was my goal here when I contacted Brady. ^ @PaulM, by this are you referring to the effort of communication in scheduling an appointment? Has he ever stood you up? How many times are you willing to be stood up before you feel he’s not worth the effort anymore? Has Brady stood anyone else here up? I get that communication with him can be patchy and frustrating, but I knew that going in and braced myself for it. How many of you has he confirmed an appointment with and just not showed up? That’s my issue here. Is this behavior acceptable to you? Would you still see him again if he stood you up one or more times? Brady can walk on water once you’re in the room together, and maybe he does, but is that worth coming back multiple times, being stood up again and again, and scammed out of deposit money before you can see him? That’s a big ask. Clients here are way more critical about way more petty things. I’m just wondering what is so amazing that so many of you are willing to put up with so much unprofessionalism.

Yes, it should be obvious to program time between one appointment end time and the next appointment start time. Not factoring in this time is unprofessional provider behavior. I would be mortified if I made two clients pass one another on the way in/out. You need space for the unexpected. At least 30 minutes between clients. Say a client arrives 5-10 mins late and the next one arrives 5-10 mins early. That leaves you with barely 10 minutes to take care of all cleaning, communications, and rest. There’s no flexibility for chit chat, something taking longer than expected (like the client taking forever to cum!) or a technology delay when paying, or what have you. If not for client comfort and discretion, do it for the sake of taking time to clean (yourself, your place), food/drink breaks, rest, and importantly, time to respond to texts that a true professional would not be paying any attention to during the last appointment. Sometimes you only have time to respond to a question and say “I’m starting my next appointment in 10 mins. If I miss your reply while I’m working, I’ll get back to you after I free up.” A lot of times the client texts 15 mins later but it’s ok because they know to expect a reply after you finish your current meeting.

No, that’s a good sign. You should only see comments if a provider left one. Again, this platform is NOT for clients. It is NOT designed to establish, build, or maintain client reputations, so please do not read into it. It is only for warning other escorts of problem behavior, and reporting other general spam/scams. Honestly you’re better off not seeing anything that has been written about you (if there is anything at all). Some providers are really immature and post bogus comments. Imagine that: 20 year olds without life experience and sometimes using English as a secondary language blasting off with no spelling or grammar skills about some normal situation like a client asking for rates and not booking, saying the client is a “time waster” (or time “waiste”, etc), or someone is “creepy” simply because he is over 60 ie a normal common client age range. I wouldn’t want to put any of that garbage into your head and let it bother you. The good, mature, experienced escorts look right past that crap and disregard it anyway. If you’re doing a good job at picking the right guys, it won’t matter if you have these types of common comments on your number. Follow the advice on CoM about how to communicate with providers and you will be just FINE!!!

Whew! Glad the Spanish speakers are not a bunch of necrophiles.

Since he clearly doesn’t need the business, a few dozen people viewing this won’t make a difference, but it will save some clients some time and hassle.

So weird. Yes, this was today. I thought by posting I would see if this is a fluke or an ongoing problem. Sounds like I’m not alone. I could never stay in business operating this way. More power to him if he can. I think others should know what they’re getting into, that he can’t be relied upon to fulfill his commitments, or at the very least, cancel them. I would have been fine with a message saying he couldn’t make it. Or even a message after the fact saying he was hung over and slept in or whatever, but crickets. Barring some extreme circumstance, he clearly doesn’t care about his clients. Worse yet, I would have been scammed had I sent a deposit. I think others should be on watch for scam potential, and that potential is high in this case.

Not worth it on the provider side either. They won’t let me delete my ad, so it sits there with all content and photos removed. Waste of time. They don’t charge to place an ad, and the only way to upgrade is with cryptocurrency. Hard pass. To be fair, clients have hired me from MB but it’s rare.

MasseurFinder I was curious to try Brady after all the lively previous discussions on him (linking that thread below for reference). I requested an appointment about three weeks in advance. He asked for a 25% deposit, which I refused saying as a masseur myself I understand why he requires deposits, but I’m sorry I wouldn’t be getting to see him while I was visiting Phoenix since that is a dealbreaker for me. I sent him my ads for reference so he could see who I am, and hopefully recognize that I’m reliable. He said it’s ok he still wants to see me because I look normal (? 🤷‍♂️). I was very flexible about day and time, gave a week timespan saying I can plan around any time he prefers. It was crickets after that. Followed up a week and a half later and he confirmed his *high* pricing which I agreed to, and then he asked for a deposit again, same runaround, and then agreed I can pay his full rate in cash. All good. Morning of: messaged an hour before. Arrived promptly per his instructions, messaged. Nothing. Waited at the door 5-10 mins, then messaged saying I would wait in my Jeep with the AC. A good 20 mins goes by and I call it. No response… Man, oh man, am I glad I did NOT send a deposit. Clients, I feel your pain. I’m bummed out I won’t get to try his skills this trip and I could really use a break. That’s ok. I already booked another local masseur for later in the week. Any others have recent experiences since the last slew of commentary?

Veruca Salt energy!

Posts about providers based outside the US belong in their respective areas of the site designed to organize information about providers in other countries. That’s where it makes sense to look, and it’s inclusive. Why would you want a bunch of eyes on a post that US users are least likely to have experience with? You want relevant impressions, not number of impressions. Asking a moderator directly in the appropriate ask a moderator forum is the right way to go about this. Not passive-aggressively posting this here. It’s whiny. The site mods are doing us all a service by hosting this content at all, and doing a fine job at it, I might add - by working tirelessly to keep the problem posters and terms violating content at bay, proactively shutting down dumpster fire personal attack focused threads, and so on. It’s a lot to manage. Without all that work, the site would be unusable. I’m taking a wild guess that they won’t reorganize the site (also a lot of work) based on this complaint. Also, it doesn’t make sense. Like it or not, this site is US centric, and the majority of users hire primarily in the US. Use the Europe sections to post relevant topics about European providers. Makes sense to me!

On a related note: CashApp no longer supports business accounts, according to a notice I received today. Strictly peer-to-peer now. I guess I have to strike that off my list of accepted payments since I have to report my earnings via payment processors as business income. CashApp is one example of industry wide shifts in policy and regulations. It won’t be long before Venmo and others do the same. Apple Cash (aka Apple Pay) now imposes stricter limits on transactions. More lax if you register (10k/week), or $500/week if you don’t register. Register, meaning: tie your social security number to your account so the IRS and other agencies can monitor you more closely, which puts you more at risk of audits and criminal investigations. Any payments tied to your personal payment processing accounts are subject to investigation since they look like (and ARE) business income. Business accounts you pay taxes on payments received. All above board. Even my Apple Cash payments transfer to my business checking account, which I then pay taxes on. Since they’re limiting our options and preventing us from processing payments legitimately, they’re effectively pushing us more and more toward using cash, of which anyone might only report a portion (or none!). I don’t like that. You can’t legislate our industry away. It exists. Might as well let us pay taxes on our incomes, which benefits everyone in the end. Enforce human trafficking laws. Do not enforce moral attitudes regarding what consenting adults do privately.

As of today, the Visa option is still unavailable. One of my clients confirmed on his end. If the Visa option comes back online at all, it will probably be a while. Some users are able to still use Visa, but I’m guessing those are one off exceptions. Who on earth could deny our boy, Danny? 🤣

MasseurFinder RentMasseur Any experiences?

He DID book, and by some miracle he actually showed up when he said he would, we had the session, and he paid my rate. He was happy and plans to book again when I am in his city. That was that. Almost never do these end well, but this one did.

1) You could request to schedule a brief phone call to discuss all your questions, concerns, and to get a feel for the guy. 5 mins tops. Typically free, but do not expect your provider to pick up a random unannounced call from you any time, anywhere. Schedule the call, or ask if it’s ok to call. This minimizes the time your provider is spending seeing an alert from you, giving you his attention, then seeing another alert, stopping what he is doing to respond again, and so on. That process can drag on for hours, days, or even weeks if we don’t put boundaries around it. That process of setting boundaries is tricky because we have to strike a delicate balance between being firm, direct, honest, and polite. A lot of clients get butt hurt when we politely set a boundary instead of simply caving to their constant niggling one liner texts, demands for attention, and random half sentence questions / statements. Sometimes I get irritated and impatient and don’t handle it as well as I usually do. A succinct few paragraph messages back and forth will cover everything you and he need. A brief phone call respects his time. If you’re not calling: Summarize all your questions, scenarios, requirements, wants and needs into one or just a few text messages. I appreciate these because I can answer them all in one shot. The guys who keep asking one question, then another, and then half another, and then re-ask the same questions…these are the time wasters, the people we want to block. Here is a recent RentMen messenger exchange as an example of what NOT to do. Keep in mind the client waits a while between messages before sending another demand for attention. It’s really strung out over many hours at a stretch.

It’s a huge turn off for me. A massage gun displayed prominently in an ad communicates that this masseur uses the gun regularly as part of his routine, and that he doesn’t have a plan for how he uses the full time using only his body. Almost like it’s a crutch, or a way to fill time not actually massaging. I know one masseur who told me he uses it for that exact purpose. One of my worst massage experiences was with a guy who used a massage gun. He told me his hands were too tired from texting clients all day. I call BS. I want a real person to use their body - hands, arms, etc to massage me. Not turn on a device to substitute for what only a real, live human can do - a human I am paying quite a bit of money to do. Also there’s the human contact, the physical touch (especially from a man) you just can’t substitute. Massage guns have their purpose. I just find those situations better suited outside the context of a pricey session with a masseur. Now, sex toys, on the other hand…those can be fun. Best used in the context of an escort session though. Or a combo massage/escort session.

^Yes, this. I do not ask for Ubers but reliability and accountability is what providers are after, not simply to “expense” travel directly to the client. Just the other night I agreed to an outcall for a client 10 miles away. After agreeing on a rate for services, location, and what I should wear, I drove to his hotel, telling him right when I left that I am on my way and gave a precise ETA. I messaged when I arrived, saying I parked. He then read my latest message and immediately blocked me on the app. Such a waste of time. We never know with a new client if he’s serious or just playing games. It’s almost like this client deliberately wanted to waste my time and gas. He could have just said never mind before I left, or even on the way. Christ, he could have said anything at all after I arrived if he was a decent human being. Just blocking me is such a dick move. Coward. I’m not saying asking for an Uber is right or the way I personally do business, but I understand why some providers prefer an Uber. Not to make the client pay the travel expense, so much as it gives the provider greater confidence that the client will actually follow through, and if he doesn’t, the cost is on the client, not the provider. Requesting an Uber is another form of requesting a deposit. We’re not making money on deposits. We are making money on time spent with serious clients. This is one of many ways to identify more serious clients.