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Where was that scientific theory published?

I find that statement to be true most of the time. I have typically found it beneficial for any relationship to let the other party know that my impression of them isn't based on the specific factors of A and B, etc. For example, if someone starts in on an explanation of "why" they were late, I usually interrupt with "the why isn't important. You were delayed, but you are here now. That's all that is important." My experience has been that when people know I am not judging them on EVERYTHING, they are more relaxed, and consequently more honest about true details of themselves.

Given the number that don't kiss, thank god current guidelines only call for chest compressions!

One of the valuable things I learned here (I believe in a post from @Jamie21) was that profiles on websites aren't just for providers. MY client profile is a great place to share what I think is important about me and our potential encounter. I list right up front what activities I am looking for. It's been great for efficiency! Often with initial communication the provider immediately opens the topic to "I can do X," OR "I do not do X."

So, today is nearly a month since you posted here about HPV, and your lesion was removed the week before your post. In all that time you still don't even know what the cost would be to pay for vaccination YOURSELF??? I am not sure what you think we are going to conclude from that, but to be very frank, going through my mind is: -maybe he's not serious about not spreading HPV -maybe he'd rather chat here than resume an active sex life -maybe he just wants pitty -maybe he's just not that bright For fucks sake, piss or get off the pot man!

While never having children, I have seen my share raised by family, friends, and peers. I've witnessed children of the same generation behave very differently. I think @DWnyc and @DrownedBoy both hit the nail on the head. Empathy is certainly the skill that allows people to be respectful and understanding of other's differences and sacrifices. But lack of empathy is far from simply "generational" or a "symptom" of youth. Like most everything in life, empathy is learned skill. Children who are raised poorly are going to take most things for granted when they leave the home they were raised in. I assume it will take another 10 to 20 years for them to learn that skill. While children who are raised well have a good foundation for empathy, and they continue to further develop that skill for a long time.

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I was very glad I read your ENTIRE post. After reading other posts of yours on here and learning your proclivities, I was taken aback by the first 4 words. They immediately made me wonder if there was a crisis, and you were using some secret code asking us to send HELP! 😉

I automatically changed "weary" to "wary" in my mind, because "cautious" seems to fit much better than "tired" in that sentence. Seems worth pointing out, that if there was any question of context or intent, the last paragraph of @urbanfetish post makes it fundamentaly obvious he has no problem having sex with bi guys. "Outside of hiring, wouldn't think twice. If we're going to hook up and no money is involved, there's no issue." The only logical observation after reading the last paragraph is to assume that his experience with guys stating "bi" in a profile, when the reality was "gay for pay, " hasn't worked well for him. I think most of us would agree that the potential for perceived dishonesty in a profile makes us cautious.

I should have said above, they really do honor their no risk trial statement: "you’ll discover in the first fifteen minutes that it is BETTER than promised, or conclude without obligation" I decided it wasn't what I was looking for, and I gave them a partial payment for their time. They thanked me, but they made it very clear that I was not expected to give them any compensation for the 15 min I was there.

Often, MONEY speaks louder than anything else, and by the same token, so does lack of money. Stop paying, or at least tipping, in advance. My assumption is that if you fail to tip when he doesn't respect your boundaries, he will quickly commit your boundaries to memory.

I have never cared how tall or short a provider was. The only reason I have ever looked was to make a body type/shape estimate (i.e. 170lbs at 6'3 vs 5'3). Surrounded by a bunch of burly men 6'4 - 6'7 is just another Sunday dinner at Grandma's. And surrounded by a bunch of skinny men 5'3 - 5'8 is just another Sunday dinner at the other Grandma's.

I think I phrased my question poorly. I completely understand the concepts of making sure they look like what they say the look like, and they they provide a good experience. What I don't understand is how or why I would put a huge effort into trying to determine if they were somehow dangerous simply because I met them ONLINE. When guys reference things like hurting, killing, blackmailing, etc., I don't understand why the online introduction puts me in any more danger than taking home a guy I met 10 mins ago in a bar or any other in person setting.

What is your "vetting" process before meeting up with a guy? When I read comments here, I get the impression some guys go through a labored scrutiny, and I am unclear what exactly is being scrutinized. I certainly understand that if someone is being paid, there is obviously the question of "am I really getting what I paid for, " or "am I actually going to get paid" but beyond that, I am a bit mystified. Is there something inherently dangerous that I am missing about an introduction via a hiring website, or grindr, or any other app?

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I guess I didn't read the post to mean "I am on vacation, and it's always miserable UNLESS I arrange a meeting with a provider." I read it to mean "I am stuck on vacation with my insufferable in-laws. They're driving me nuts and ruining vacation. Can anyone suggest a provider here so I can escape for a few hours and enjoy myself?"

Regardless of who I reach out to with a friendly piece of information, I will do it few times. Then, I wait for them to reach out to me in a similar spontaneous manner. I always assume that if I never get a similar reach out, they have no interest in any relationship beyond the one we already have.

My assumption is that it's not based on how old a message is. Perhaps it only holds a certain number of messages, and once that number is hit, it starts to delete the oldest messages first. I say this because I have reached out to providers more than 6 months ago and still have those messages for my next trip to that area. I will also say that, I have deleted many messages from the interim that I no longer need.

Isn't that false advertising?? Why should I have to wait until my 6th or 7th time visiting to discover his place isn't impeccably clean, and he's a bit of a slob? I'd rather see the horrors up front to know if it's beyond what I can deal with, and then I cut and run early on in the relationship.

🤷🏻 C and E Catholic or sheigetz, as long as the ham doesn't come from a can, and the gefilte fish doesn't come from a jar, I can't imagine really caring.

Based on the penalties I know of for purposefully spreading HIV, I was surprised by the teaser and the article. And that is not a judgement by any means. I dug more. Spreading of the HIV fluid is only punishable by a 15 year max in Idaho. ID Stats 39-601 and 39-608 outline this. The individual was also found guilty of 2 additional felonies: sexual battery of a minor, and enticing a child through the internet. In ID, sexual battery of a minor is a 15 year max, and child enticement via the internet is a 15 year max. Most articles I read indicated that the convicted individual admitted to having sex with 30 to 50 different men and teenage boys. The prosecutor called his behavior “egregious.” I think some might find the judge's sentence “egregious” for someone who engaged in said behavior 30-50 times.

I hope the counterpoint affects you more than the original post. And don't get me wrong, I am not saying that you should go forward giving away money willy nilly. I can say though, that the money, influence, and time I've given/lent to those I cared about in my life has rewarded me. The times I have been burned on the deal aren't significant enough to overshadow the times it worked out well.

Spontaneous excited utterances are accurate indicators of character. So much so in fact, it's the very reason they are exceptions to the hearsay rule in court. I wouldn't believe an apology.

I went back and forth on some of your definitions of a "regular," but I certainly appreciate and agree with the one I quoted directly above.

My biggest concern at this point is for the speed at which the DoxyPREP regimen may accelerate the resistance of chlamydia and syphilis. Obviously, it is a bit of a summary article and not a not a journal article on the research data, but I am gathering that while chlamydia remained relatively constant, starting at 88% with the initial DoxyPREP trial and 89% a year in, syphilis was initially 87% and fell to 79% a year in. If the big picture observations are that: - DoxyPREP only reduces gonorrhea infection rate by 33%; -studies show evidence that vaccination with meningococcal B by itself reduce gonorrhea by 30 - 50%; -current scientific theory tells us that short bursts of antibiotics contribute resistance; -antibiotics take a toll on body systems; and -we already know that Benzathine Penicillin G is already a better treatment for syphilis than doxycycline I would place my faith in vaccination for gonorrhea, treat syphilis with the superior antibiotic, and treat both gonorrhea and chlamydia with a FULL course of Doxycycline as needed. And of course, pray to the pharmaceutical and profit gods for vaccines specific for all three!