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God I LOVE that story! It illustrates a simple easy blueprint: I've gone this far, I may as well just go all in. It is JUST SEX, after all.

The potty rules seem very difficult to migrate. 1) Do I clench my pearls if I think there is sex afoot? 2) Do I clench my pearls if I think a FTM is next to me? 3) Both? 4) Am I ever allowed to do my business and just leave, regardless of who is next to me, or what I think is afoot?

Did you all read the last 3 paragraphs of that article ??? Seems to me the only thing allowing these tactics to proceed is that the 2022 court case was against state actors.

EXACTLY!!! And if you read the whole story linked above it references the 2022 court settlement where the Port Authority "used discriminatory practices with plainclothes officers, falsely arresting and accusing gay, bisexual and gender nonconforming people of public lewdness and exposure in the terminal’s men’s restrooms because of their actual or perceived sexual orientation. The settlement suspended the practice, required LGBTQ+ sensitivity training and found multiple officers and the Port Authority liable for violating the Fourth and 14th Amendments."

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If you're so damn fragile that you need tranquility to take a shit, get yourself a cheap hotel room nearby, or schedule a visit with a gastroentrologist. If 600,000 people go through Penn Station each day, I can't imagine the public bathroom at Penn Station is a tranquil, relaxing, spa like experience. When a commuter needs to use a public bathroom, he is likely headed to a dirty, crowded space, with lots of people coming and going. A commuter should be entitled to decide who he exposes his naughty bits to inside a stall and not be exposed to federal authorities sneaking a peak through cracks and crevices. Let's hope these arrests result in voyeurism lawsuits and the government pays out and gets the message.

Typically when I know someone well enough to share personal details about my life, I know them well enough to ask their thoughts on what I shared. Especially if it's my BF, or if I get a response from anyone else that I didn't expect or understand.

It would be a beautiful world if my definitions of too aggressive or too timid were adopted by all. Even better if my mannerisms, expressions, and moods were universally understood. In the mean time, I'd likely have to stop the guy trying to finger bang me on the dance floor, and then create one of those mental pro/con lists to see if, or where, the interaction would go. And, because I remember the "affirmative consent" movement, I'd throw the finger banger a certain appreciation for being on that end of the spectrum. If a boy at the other end of the spectrum looked up at me doe-eyed at the end of the night and asked if he could kiss me, or hold my hand, I know there wouldn't be a snow ball's chance in hell he would get a second bite at the apple. We are clearly not a match!

I've found it to be a double edged sword. @purplekow I am by no means accusing you of this, but I think the ideal would be to find a doctor who doesn't assume my sexual orientation is the most likely cause of any complaint. If I present with stomach issues, "giardia" may belong on the possible list of causes, but it's not quite an Occam's razor simply because I am gay. I really wish the doctor's online profile told me THEIR sexual orientation. It might give me the best prediction for a doctor who is more "aware" of the possibilities, but not so prejudiced as to assume it was the root cause of every ailment.

Some of my favorite pieces have both cymbal crashes and triangle tingles. Sometimes one really makes me appreciate the other. But typically, one directs me to contemplate if the other truly is preferable.

After years heartburn issues, somone recommended I try Keifer as a proactive solution before eating known culprits. It has worked wonderfully for me. As added benefits, the once or twice year, I do still get heartburn, Keifer is like an organic pepto bismal. I can keep swallowing gulps until the cool, thick texture coats my esophagus and the discomfort disappears because there is no "maximum" daily dose. It's also a great source of calcium and Vit K2.

I am going to do the best I can to stay on the side of being transparent, while not endangering anyone's license. Beforehand we discussed attire and what I expected in a sensual or erotic massage. He agreed to both. I will not say I used the phrase MT, but it'd be impossible to accomplish what I wanted , and he agreed to, without MT.

I am not criticizing Orlando's ability to communicate clearly. I'm faulting him for his ability to to follow thru on what he communicates. If I had hired for a therapeutic massage, and if the style wasn't what worked for me and my body, I pretty much would have left the review at that. I have had plenty of those experiences, and I just continued looking for a therapist who's style did work for me. BUT, I didn't hire for a therapeutic experience, we didn't communicate about a therapeutic session, and I didn't pay the therapeutic base rate. I fully support every provider's right to their own boundaries. Unfortunately, those boundaries aren't clearly in black and white with Orlando. Even based upon your own review statement and then looking at the ad. We can debate all day about the meaning of the terms "sensual" and "erotic," and we may even be able to chalk up individual communications to misunderstandings and language barriers. However, when you say "I'd like to see him in jocks," haven't you ever asked yourself why you don't get that when the pictures in the ad clearly indicate that option is on the table? If anyone wants to see Orlando for a completely therapeutic experience, go for it! Recognize ahead of time your likely not getting more than that, and my experience is that there is far better therapeutic sessions out there for a much better price.

https://rentmasseur.com/orlandott In the top 5 for the worst massage I have ever had. Apt was clean, he was clean, and on time. That ends the positives. It was neither sensual nor erotic, and wasn't even quality therapeutic. His manipulations of the erogenous areas on the front and back were rough and uncomfortable. Fully dressed, no MT, or HE. He spent about half the session steaming or wetting towels and then using them to scrap oil off my skin. Never asked about pressure, and the motions were simply repetitive strokes.

So. . . like no stray bullets floating around in your luggage? 😉

Glad to hear that you post good comments about clients when others providers comments have been negative. I must say though, I was surprised to hear that you don't post positive comments if there is nothing about your client there already. I feel like it would be an added service I'd welcome from a provider, especially if he were a regular. More importantly, it would seem to be a plus in helping ensure sane piece of mind and safety for other providers. When a provider sees a new client, I assume there's always at least a bit of anxiety about who is showing up at their door. I also assume that the anxiety would be at least a little less if they see that 1 other provider had a safe experience with the client. Not to mention, if a provider has 2 offers for Sun afternoon. Client A has put a provider(s) at risk in the past, but has no reviews because they change their number or their previous providers didn't use MN. Client B has no reviews because they've only been a great client. Wouldn't it be prudent to write that client B was "good" in order to keep another provider from choosing client A?

1) plenty of non bears there looking for bears, if that's your thing 2) skimming the ads will show you that "bear" is a very relative term

A little more than 50% of the time, I hire when I am am traveling, so hotel cost is irrelevant to me. I also have no issues scheduling incalls when I am traveling. When I hire at "home," I have never picked incall or outcall based on concern for my person or possessions. Personally, I have never had a negative experience in those regards. I will say that no matter if decide to host or travel, be certain YOU are truly comfortable. If I spent the session with safety lingering in the back of my mind, it just wouldn't be an exceptionally enjoyable experience for me. And I am certainly not criticizing his choices on this, or insinuating that he would make other choices if he were single, but I hope you caught that @KensingtonHomo said WE. IF safety is in fact a concern for YOU, you need to be sure you are comfortable with inviting someone over if you're home alone.

Oh god no! I'd kill those little bastards if I had to spend an entire day with them.

There's been a lot of discussion here about negative comments on MN. 1) Are you able to leave positive reviews that contradict the comments of others? 2) Do you, if in fact you have a good experience with the person? The question is really open to anyone using MN, but, I'm going to tag you @Simon Suraci since I believe you indicated that you take some reviews with a grain of salt, and had good experiences with clients who had poor reviews on MN.

I once had a regular provider suggest his "friend" join our session for our standard fee. It was a bad experience/dynamic. The provider obviously knew, it wasn't great for me. When the friend went to clean up, the regular started to whisper an apology. I simply said, "we can have a brief discussion on the next visit." I wanted to make it clear that he was still going to be a regular of mine. At the next visit he insisted the session was "on him," and even protested, but finally accepted, a tip. It was the catalyst for me to never just accept a providers' recommendation alone on who a 3rd should be.

Therein lies the risk of acting as a contractor. You need to choose quality subcontractors. I pay, pay extra, and tip based on experience, attributes, skill, travel/host, and familiarity. Regular, or not, a provider who admonished me for what I paid another would recieve stern words back, and likely find himself no longer a repeat hire. As a cautionary tale: I did have a threesome once with a regular who was acquainted with the other provider. On a subsequent visit my regular commented that "X said he only got $Y." I didn't ask more about their conversation, relationship, or if money was exchanged between them. But my regular did seem pretty dejected when I told him I paid them each a total that was within $50 of one another.

Really??? "All-inclusive??? " If I counted correctly, RM has 23 "into's." I am going to go out on a limb and assume that your sessions don't include all 23 of those activities, and if you contacted a provider and requested all 23 of those activities in your appointment, it would likely be a higher price. I feel like your mindset is the ol' "my sex life is completely normal, so anyone doing more, or less, is weird, repulsive, and kinky."

EXACTLY!!! We are individuals with varied likes and dislikes. Why engage in, and pay for, the fru fru of kissing and BJ's, when all I really desire is the fuck! In every business transaction, there are customers who welcome the a la carte and ones who welcome the package deal.

Seriously?!?!? First things first, WHENEVER you start a conversation with a "goal" beyond filling time, it's not small talk. Your approach to "small talk, " as you lay it out above, reads like a get to know your group members/ice breakers dreamed up by some HR bitch at a work seminar. I know of know one who likes those activities. They coerce people into talking about themselves and sharing things they may not want to with strangers. People who have a gift for small talk begin by sharing their thoughts and opinions on benign topics. It allows the other person to share similar trivial opinions and broach topics of their own. Mastering how and when to invite the conversation to deeper levels is very much a learned skill.