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No, I really wouldn't have inferred any other meaning. I am pretty pragmatic and direct. I would have taken the provider's statement at face value. I honestly would have seen only 2 possible paths for the meaning. Then, I would have asked questions to figure out if he wanted to be 1) fuck buddies, or 2) something "more." And, in the back of MY mind, I would have been planning for the polite rebuff if he wanted to go down path 2. I also say that coming from a place where, I have a good handle on which regulars I have just a business relationship, and which ones I have a business and friend level relationship with. While those relationships may have had a budding period as the friendship piece developed, I've never experienced radical ambiguity in defining those relationships at any stage along the way.

I typically pay doctors and lawyers with a card, but I have no doubt that if I paid my co-pay with a stack of $1's and $5's the receptionist would both count it and hand me a receipt for it.

If someone expressed to me, “I don’t think of you as a client anymore,” I don't think I would have believed them if it wasn't followed by "so I can't take your money anymore." I also try to remind myself that any relationship involves give and take. I shouldn't be the one always giving, or taking. If every activity we do socially is dependent on my means, it's not a good start for a relationship. It's not always easy to do when you are "established." However, for the value I place on a good relationship, eating baloney sandwiches from a paper bag after a walk through the park seems a small sacrifice if that's all the other one can afford on the dates they pay for.

I never use an envelope. I try to use large bills. I never leave the cash in a tight neat stack. I feel like leaving a few large bills, somewhat splayed on a dresser or table, allows the provider to eyeball it quickly and mentally confirm that the amount is correct. Alternatively, if they still choose to count it in front of me, I am not bothered in the least.

I can't be the only who doesn't remember his first hire, right??? I am not trying to diminishing anyone's experience, but it was long ago, and it just wasn't really that significant for me. PLEASE, someone tell me they are in the same boat! Reading first time stories, with none to really recall myself, is beginning to make me feel a little like cruel, heartless, old bastard.

I have never fallen for a provider. After reading stories here, I will be the first to say that I am lucky. One thing that I wonder about your provider experiences is, how long are you engaging with them? Overnights, weekend, or vacations with a provider aren't MY thing for a number of reasons. I have to believe though, that longer hires create a greater risk of falling for a provider. If you are hiring for longer periods, maybe hiring for shorter periods will allow you to still enjoy the hobby a bit, and not become quite so emotionally involved.

Verifying funds, given and recieved, is simply good business practice. It also heads off a lot potential proplems that can easily end a business relationship in the future.

Lysander (NYC) Chad Brock

It was all very civilized. The police were called but didn't show up. They told the store to call the secret service. The grocery store manager, myself, and the credit union manager did a conference call with the secret service. I gave the store a different $20. The Secret Service had taken down my name and information and allowed me to walk the $20 back to the credit union. The credit union gave me a different $20, and before I left the credit union, one of the employees had returned from the Staples in the strip mall with bag of counterfeit markers, and they checked the rest of the $20s they had given me thst morning before I left.

Just a heads up, even when you become an old timer here (more than 30 days LOL), I believe your ability to "edit" a posting is limited to 24 hours after you "submit reply." Another point of clarification, "locking" a topic is an action reserved for moderators. Typically used for comments swaying too far off topic, religion, politics, personal attacks between members, etc. Everyone can still read it, but no further written comments are allowed. If you start a topic and you loose the argument, or are embarrassed about things you wrote, etc, as the creator of the topic you have the option to "hide" or "delete" the topic and then no one can even read it anymore.

I inadvertently passed a counterfeit bill ONCE at the grocery store, after having recieved that bill from a teller at the credit union in the same strip mall minutes before.

Learned years ago from a friend that the best response is: That's an odd question to ask someone your barely know. Why on earth would you ask?

Can you imagine getting a jury panel to convict on that unanimously? Certainly not if I was on that panel.

The discussion of whether or not "rape" occurs through "fraud" actually falls under the umbrella of "conditional consent." When it comes to sex and conditional consent, courts are working on sorting out many specifics. However, people offering legal opinions and potential strategy, as well as contrary opinion and strategy, are a dime a dozen. When goods and services are exchanged for something of value, that is CONTRACT LAW. Until I see a judiciary, and its higher controlling authority rule otherwise, it will always be contract law. I have yet to see a case ruling stand where calling simple sex for money, when no money gets paid, rape. If I agree to do Only Fans, and I don't get paid what I agreed to, I get to sue for breach of contract, not rape. Just like if I sell 10 trees to a lumber yard, and they come in and cut 20, I get to sue for breach of contract, not trespassing.

I completely understand archetypes based on observations. However, I don't think personal oservations shouldn't limit or prohibit possibilities, expansion, or change. To maintain that words are limitted to specific archetypes, is akin to denying that English is a living language. As someone who has experienced rigid, stoic, stigmatized words that applied to myself, I strive to try accept changes in descriptors so others have a better experience as they go forward. I will echo what @Manhattan said about it not being easy, and I will admit to some mistakes and failure on that front. I strive not to be my grandparents, who limited gay to mean men who were feminine, soft, sissies, and who walked around behind closed doors in bras and panties. Or my parents who defined trick as the guy a prostitute took home.

I'm not sure there is much a purpose analyzing one dictionary definition vs another, or the history and root of a particular gay descriptor. Let's call a spade a spade - we all know what they mean. The real difference is the connotations associated with the specific words, and connotations are important. Hell if they weren't, it's likely a thesaurus wouldn't exist. I think connotations grow their roots both in society's culture, and our individual history and experiences. I also think they change their direction through both of those things. In terms of the first, society's culture, certain words have a history of being considered low brow, or impolite, and know one used to speak them in "polite" society. Like myself, I am sure some of you may remember when it was considered, by many, inappropriate to talk about cancer. In a highly progressive crowd, you MAY have been able to openly use the words "cancer" or "breast cancer." But, come hell or high water, you deffinetly wouldn't have said "uterine" or "ovarian" or "cancer" in the same sentence. Saying them in "mixed" company would have earned you a one way ticket to hell for sure! Then, as more people spoke those words freely, it became completely natural and acceptable behavior. It was a trend likely precipitad by younger folks and people fed up with the stigma. When we can freely use stigmatized words to apply to ourselves and others without malice, it pushes those words into a commonplace arena for usage, and it decreases some of the stigma. In terms of the second, our individual history and experiences, there are certainly words that cut deep when we hear them. I am not advocating for anyone to ignore or dismiss our own or another's history, and I am certainly not saying anyone has to fully embrace or use any word they find painful. But, if there are words WE saw used to degrade or bully every single kid like us when we were growing up, and a few generations later, if there are kids who saw only 75%, or 50%, or 25% of their peers bullied with those words, that generation may likely be in a different mindset. If that mindset allows them to use those words freely or proudly, even when others use them as a pejorative, isn't that at a small victory for us all?

1) I think I would have been happy I was texting with him at that point. In person, I probably would have blurted out "what the fuck does that mean?" 2) My written response would likely have been, "I am looking for a session that consists of . . ."

Clear, open, direct communication??? What a novel, yet seemingly very effective, type of communication.

I generally use the term gay to describe myself. However, if someone refers to me by any other "gay" descriptor, without malice, I am pretty indifferent. Others have alluded to this, and I think that malice is a key factor. After all, whether someone stands on the street with a sign that says "homosexuals should die," or "queers should die," neither fills my heart with warm fuzzies. And, likewise, neither is more palatable than the other. I also have a few gay friends who make specific word choices to describe specific subsets of people. If one of them said "my friends are joining us for dinner. John is gay, Bob is queer, and David is a f-g-t," I'd likely know who was who based solely on the demeanor my friends associate with the gay descriptors.

"A," "Columbian," and "Fraud" all denote singularity. It seems fundamentally obvious that if anyone wanted to include a whole group, they would have chosen words like "All," "Columbians," and "Frauds."

I assume you are asking about the case linked below. Looks like the last 2 entries on the court docket were on 01/08/24 when a pretrial conference was set for 10/04/24, and a trial was set for 11/04/24, and an entry on 03/27/24 when a judge was assigned. https://www.courts.mo.gov/cnet/cases/newHeader.do?inputVO.caseNumber=23CY-CR00900-01&inputVO.courtId=SMPDB0001_CT07#docket

I will confess that there' is one regular that I pay upfront, but it's more for his discretion requirements. Per his request, I only text him things like "are you available tonight at 7?" Then when I arrive, he sees how much cash I put on the table, and he knows what I want for that session. BUT, the tip depends on his performance, and that is left on the table as I leave.

I saw him last summer. Okay massage. Nothing to write home about. Extras were OK. He was charging much less last summer. If it matters, I would say he's not 6'1 or 6'2. Maybe around 5'11 or 6'. Wasn't a bad experience, but I wouldn't repeat and certainly not at his current rate. There was no experience with the BF.

Rebrand. Unfortunately, I don't remember the prior name, and have never experienced him, but I distinclty remember pic 4.

Glad to hear that you are finding value in this site. I am assuming that you may not have come across the discussions on using a VPN. They typically allow you to see the actual written portion of the rentmen reviews when you use a location outside the US. Given the propensity for providers to come on here and tout themselves, I hope you can understand that when @azdr0710 or other longer term members point out that reviews are written by very new members, IMO, it's not a red flag automatically defining a new member as disingenuous. It's more of what I call a yellow post-it note indicating that maybe I should give the review a little more scrutiny. Like @crazyivan indicated, 5 months from now, if someone looks at your profile and it's active, contributing regularly, or logging in regularly, your post will likely have just as much credence as other reviews. And, after 5 months of reading reviews on here, you may come to appreciate it when members throw that post-it note out on someone's review to give you a heads up regarding scrutiny.