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Yeah, but those damn ethics get in the way. I mean if we could have a control group and an experimental group where we locked them in cages and kept everything the same besides the pot, we would have our definitive answers. Until then, we will have to speculate if it's the pot or possibly things like lifestyle changes that may accompany it, i.e., I'd rather sit around all day and get high instead of using my mind and body.

Thank you. I am being sincere. The other letters in that alphabet certainly can bring a host of feelings and issues other than who one is sleeping with. They can be complex issues, and I appreciate the response letting me know a little more of the specifics.

In the past 50 years, the world has changed in terms of the manner and speed that information is spread. It's hard to cite specific actions that cause backlash now, and then say backlash was minimal 50 years ago because the action was more civil. If Stonewall riots happened today, I assume the backlash would be much different than when they happened originally. Are there specific actions or ideas that you see happening now that you feel shouldn't be included in the perserverence for sexual freedom?

That's often a catch 22 in high profile cases. Specifically for the reason of appeals. When you assume, as most do with a high profile case, that the case details are going to be gone over with a fine tooth comb looking for appeal grounds, being thorough is often a significant priority. It's therefore prudent for the defense and prosecution to make sure jury instructions are clear and specific, and that you don't have the court's most novice judge making rulings that run afoul of precedent.

That's not correct. While the term "convicted felon" may be removed by the legal process, as the process drudges along, the term is still valid and official. Now when it comes to punishments or sanctions, sometimes those are withheld during certain appeals.

I think that is a common trend among most groups fighting for change. We start with a subtle expression that the new idea, and the people embracing it do so as "every day folks," pretty similar to their neighbors. Then, as acceptance grows even slightly, we see people who feel like calling for change shouldn't be subtle. It should bold. There are always people who call for subtle change and those who call for radical change. Some believe it to be a natural flow. Once the subtlety has softened the idea, it then awakens more people. People who support the idea in the same or different manner, or people who now have a somewhat safer culture for the bolder to call for change.

That's a significant statement. Marriages, and their terms, are a state controlled contracts. Likewise, the dissolution of those contract terms (divorce) are also state controlled. I would ask a lot of questions about the effects if both of us, or one of us, moves to another state and how it may affect the prenup. Especially if I live in a small state, or on the boarder. It certainly isn't unheard of for spouses to separate, then one moves just a little ways to another jurisdiction, establishes residency, and ends up filing for divorce.

Have your visits in past years been over Memorial Day weekend also? As I understand, IML is in Chicago on Memorial Day weekend. I am not diminishing your review, or the Lucky Horseshoe Lounge. I'm just wondering if the influx of gay tourism over the weekend caused them to up their game for the weekend?

Good god man! $100 discount - - - - share his name! Let's not be keeping secrets. 😉

Other than the Black Party, I have been to all of them mentioned here, and then some. They've included lots of men, sex, socialization, and drugs. My experiences/observations have been that "sex" is going to include aggression and sex you personally may not find appealing. "Socialization" is going to include strangers brazenly propositioning you for sex and drugs. "Drugs" is going to include open use, sale, and overindulgance. If any of those extremes being included is going to completely ruin your experience, do not go. If you can walk past the turn-offs hardly batting an eye, and simply enjoy the parts that do appeal to you, go and savor the good parts.

At my job, when a client is unpleasant or difficult or I dislike dealing with him, the price goes up and my availability decreases. If neither of those happen with the masseur, I would take it as at least a partial sign that "OK" truly meant it was "OK. "

Thank you. I have never had a particularly "bad" experience with a hookup or a hire. I'm guilty of forgetting my privilege in this regard, and working to keep reminding myself that other's haven't been as fortune.

I think a lot of the distinction between aversion and preference rests on decorum. I am a big supporter of expressing, exploring, and discussing opinions and preferences. However, when engaging in debates with adults about differences, in order to keep those discussions fruitful, thought provoking, and thought challenging, they need to be logical and appropriate. If a discussion shifted to say clean shaven/facial hair, like most topics, expression of support for either is easy. Expressing dislike can always be a little dicier. It wouldn't be a worthwhile discussion if all I hear are things like bearded men, and the guys who like them, are unclean and akin to dirty homeless guys who are hiding their face from me, and are too lazy and poor to afford and use a razor. OR, clean shaven men, and the guys who like them, are really just shallow men who lead vapid lives without enough to do, and are really just deluding themselves into believing they're not pedophiles who secretly desire boys not old enough to grow facial hair. Ridiculing another's choice in a vicious manner is NOT a DISCUSSION or a DEBATE. If I wanted venemous thoughts thrown at me for my sex choices, instead of coming to CoM nightly, I could find myself an ultra conservative church to go to every night. Hell, they would even eliminate any debate for me on which man was most attractive! It'd all be a disgusting, dirty obomination.

The above seems very significant in this situation. We can certainly debate all day about which providers prefer advanced notice and how much, or which providers prefer same day meet ups, and which is more likely to come to fruition. Provider and client lives vary a lot, and the scheduling protocols that work for one, may not work for another. BUT, when you have an appointment scheduled in advance, AND you confirm that appointment a few hours before the meeting, you've really accomplished the best of both worlds. There's plenty of notice, and you should be able to assume that everyone is still serious and ready to make it happen. There are very few good reasons to miss an appointment that was confirmed just a few hours prior. And almost no good reasons to not communicate why you failed show up for the meeting.

I wasn't trying to label the session as "perfect." I frequently see things in ads about preferring phone or video calls, times to reach out, chats about getting to know one another, etc. I am not making judgements about any of those preferences. It was a big picture comment on simply and clearly expressing preferences for communication.

I understand it may be a bug. I hope it really is a bug, and not the result of an added algorithm that modifies the list of nearby providers based on other criteria.

A perfect example of "the easiest way to get what you want is to let people know what you want." It wasn't bitchy, rude, or demeaning. It was simple. 'Reach out to me when ready to book.' That happened, and an appointment was set.

Not impressed with the set up so far. Deffinetly disappointed in the proximatey search feature. Either the system has some bugs, or it's only identifying providers willing to travel to the area I am currently in, and ignoring that I may be willing to travel to them.

In regard to anyone feeling hideous: Too tall, too short, too fat, too thin, too masc, too fem , too young, too old, too slutty, too chaste, and the list goes on. There's always a reason someone out there doesn't , or does, want to sleep with you. Do your best to move on and find the latter guy.

If it were my dearest straight friend, I would ask them about the gift. Having had a significant gap between my own graduation, and the time I was invited friends kids' and relatives' graduations, and then another significant second gap before my next round, I simply asked my friends and siblings what the "going rate" was. My guess is that your close friend knows a bit of your financial situation. Seems likely that if you're close, that they will neither put you in a financial bind, nor will they fleece you on behalf of their kid when they throw out numbers.

I think as long as everyone understands it's "monogamish, " it's all good. I am not sure from the article, that was the understanding though. I agree that, while personally, I wouldn't want all the details, I would at least want to know that it's "monogamish" vs monogamous. Likewise, in a dating relationship, there is a lot less dishonesty and ommission that I would put up with than in other relationships. I would certainly do the tactical and tactful dance much less often with someone I was dating than I would with friends, family, and coworkers. Honestly, most of the time, he's getting it hard, fast, and raw. With the heteronormative slant, extrapolating my experience to the article is difficult, even beyond the concept of monogamy. I mean, can you imagine being with a man who let you go out in public looking like tragedy, simply because he didn't want to let you take time to fix yourself? He'd find himself single in a hot minute!

There MAY have been room to cut her some slack BEFORE the pharmacy issue. But alas, she is just an absolute attention whore. Amazing thing about pharmacies is 2024 is that they have phones and computers, and last week was not the first time patients traveled or used controlled substances. If meds, and the specific brands, are actually important to someone, pharmacies can transfer the Rx ahead of time, or a provider can send it in ahead of time to have a it filled on X day.

And that is why, I would much rather donate funds here. I feel like keeping this site alive and solvent, is a much better return on my investment.

You can game the system indefinitely, especially if you pool resources. I mean really, we have many posts here about the " Murray Hill Gang." How difficult would it be for several providers to kick money into a pool and fund memberships for people who do nothing but write great reviews.

That article is pathetic road map for people to rationalize their poor behavior when they lack the balls to, or are too lazy to put forth the effort to, be honest. The only key point that has any validity, and supports your statement on UNMITIGATED Truth, is "speaking tactically and tactfully to another is both polite and strategically beneficial in relationships." Even then, it bears pointing out that, softening the truth is dependent on the type of relationship you want to maintain.