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I guess I didn't read the post to mean "I am on vacation, and it's always miserable UNLESS I arrange a meeting with a provider."

I read it to mean "I am stuck on vacation with my insufferable in-laws. They're driving me nuts and ruining vacation. Can anyone suggest a provider here so I can escape for a few hours and enjoy myself?"

Regardless of who I reach out to with a friendly piece of information, I will do it few times. Then, I wait for them to reach out to me in a similar spontaneous manner. I always assume that if I never get a similar reach out, they have no interest in any relationship beyond the one we already have.

My assumption is that it's not based on how old a message is. Perhaps it only holds a certain number of messages, and once that number is hit, it starts to delete the oldest messages first.

I say this because I have reached out to providers more than 6 months ago and still have those messages for my next trip to that area. I will also say that, I have deleted many messages from the interim that I no longer need.

On 5/12/2024 at 1:16 AM, Monarchy79 said:

Can you provide these preparation tips to guys in the regular dating world? They really need help in this area. I can’t tell you the number of times some guy invites me over to his place, and it’s not up to standard for any visitors…. 

Isn't that false advertising?? Why should I have to wait until my 6th or 7th time visiting to discover his place isn't impeccably clean, and he's a bit of a slob? I'd rather see the horrors up front to know if it's beyond what I can deal with, and then I cut and run early on in the relationship.

🤷🏻 C and E Catholic or  sheigetz, as long as the ham doesn't come from a can, and the gefilte fish doesn't come from a jar, I can't imagine really caring.

Based on the penalties I know of for purposefully spreading HIV, I was surprised by the teaser and the article. And that is not a judgement by any means.

I dug more. Spreading of the HIV fluid is only punishable by a 15 year max in Idaho. ID Stats 39-601 and 39-608 outline this. The individual was also found guilty of 2 additional felonies:  sexual battery of a minor, and enticing a child through the internet.

In ID, sexual battery of a minor is a 15 year max, and child enticement via the internet is a 15 year max.

Most articles I read indicated that the convicted individual admitted to having sex  with 30 to 50 different men and teenage boys. The prosecutor called his behavior “egregious.”

I think some might find the judge's sentence   “egregious” for someone who engaged in said behavior 30-50 times.

On 5/1/2024 at 7:45 PM, Rick M said:

As counterpoint to my original story, I should add that I have given smaller, short-term loans to another provider, which he paid back faithfully. I have also paid off the automobile loans of two different boyfriends and allowed them to repay me in installments with lower interest rates. The success of these exercises may have influenced my attitude in the present case. 

I hope the counterpoint affects you more than the original post. And don't get me wrong, I am not saying that you should go forward giving away money willy nilly.

I can say though, that the money, influence, and time I've given/lent to those I cared about in my life has rewarded me. The times I have been burned on the deal aren't significant enough to overshadow the times it worked out well.

Spontaneous excited  utterances are accurate indicators of character. So much so in fact, it's the very reason they are exceptions to the hearsay rule in court.

I wouldn't believe an apology.

7 hours ago, Simon Suraci said:

Sometimes considering someone a regular is less about how frequently he sees you, and more about how much he values your work, your time together, your mutual connection, and you as a person. 

I went back and forth on some of your definitions of a "regular," but I certainly appreciate and agree with the one I quoted directly above.

My biggest concern at this point is for the speed at which the DoxyPREP regimen may accelerate the resistance of chlamydia and syphilis.

Obviously, it is a bit of a summary article and not a not a journal article on the research data, but I am gathering that while chlamydia remained relatively constant, starting at 88% with the initial DoxyPREP trial and 89% a year in, syphilis was initially 87% and fell to 79% a year in.

If the big picture observations are that:

- DoxyPREP only reduces gonorrhea infection rate by 33%;

-studies show evidence that vaccination with meningococcal B by itself reduce gonorrhea by 30 - 50%;

-current scientific theory tells us that short bursts of antibiotics contribute resistance;

-antibiotics take a toll on body systems; and

-we already know that Benzathine Penicillin G is already a better treatment for syphilis than doxycycline

I would place my faith in vaccination for gonorrhea, treat syphilis with the superior antibiotic, and treat both gonorrhea and chlamydia with a FULL course of Doxycycline as needed.

And of course, pray to the pharmaceutical and profit gods for vaccines specific for all three!

1 minute ago, Boaxxx said:

But have you had any experience with him?

None. I was simply defining the term abandon as it was used here.

On 4/11/2024 at 8:44 AM, steve said:

Oh and for those of us in our 50's and older who don't have a partner, it is easy to let your guard down when you are being worked by someone who is very good at the long con game.  

@steve thank you. I should have posted this right after I read the above, but I guess, better late than never. 

The above statement gave me an additional perspective on tolerance and empathy, both as it relates to this forum, and life in general. I can't remember the last time I said to myself "I'm bored," or "I wish I had someone to talk to." Sometimes I am greatful for that, and sometimes I wish my life had a slower pace.

So now, in addition to differences in age, experiences, and income, I add "social activity" to the list of things I try to remind myself of when I make statements, or take issue with others statements and other's responses to my statements.

You have a mouth, 2 hands, and 2 feet. If something isn't working, or is working too well, REARRANGE! Any GOOD activity partner will read the cues and rearrange with you.

14 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

Can we please avoid using the W word?

I dont think we can. People are certainly going to have individualized objections to any number of words. However, restricting the cultural voice of others here is unnecessary. 

When your sexuality is the stand out factor that makes you divergent from the norm, it becomes an important part of your culture. It's a culture steeped in a rich tradition of freedom and expression regarding sex. That culture, and the freedoms that come with it, were fiercely fought for by many.

It typically allows us to freely have discussions about sex, and use any number of sexual terms, without shame or embarrassment. And while still in some ways, we may not be able to have those discussions, and use those terms, in "polite" society at large, there is absolutely no reason we shouldn't embrace and celebrate the tolerance to have those discussions, and use those terms, within our own community.   

To act with abandon = wildly, without restraint, carefree

On 11/8/2023 at 1:33 AM, Simon Suraci said:

Plumbing tape is handy too, to get a good seal.

Don't fuck around with teflon tape. There's a right and wrong direction to apply it to threads, and it can bunch. Buy a tube of TFE paste and simplify your life!

WM Harvey 023015-48 Harvey Pipe Thread Compound, 1 Oz, Tube, Liquid Paste, White https://a.co/d/ebRJkBn

If all else fails, he should also call the hospital billing directly. Being accepted by a hospital subsidy program, or working out a payment plan with the hospital, is much easier than negotiating with a debt collector or migrating through a civil action in court for unpaid debt.

On 4/25/2024 at 12:54 AM, Jamie21 said:

Here’s my take as a masseur. I get a lot of enquiries that go nowhere (although I do respond to all enquiries!). Many potential clients appear to be just browsing and from experience I get to know the likelihood of a booking from the tone and content of their first message.

If they open with “hi” or “hey” it’s 99% certain they’ll never book. 100% certain if they open the conversation with a dick pic (in fact I lied, I don’t reply to dick pics, or ass pics etc). So if you’re getting lots of messages from clients, and perhaps you’re treating this work in a slightly casual way (as many do) and you have an Onlyfans that makes plenty in a passive income way (as many do) then how motivated are you to reply to someone who’s unlikely to turn into a client? Especially if he’s asking very open ended questions.

I find it difficult to answer a question like “can you tell me about your service?” without writing a long response including the style, content, rates, availability, experience level, location etc. Often all of that is on my profile somewhere or on my website, which the enquirer may or may not have seen. 

In those open ended questions I usually just refer the client to my website if they have questions, which might come across as dismissive but all the info is there! 

The best way to maximise chances of a reply is to approach professional looking guys (don’t be taken in by thirst trap pics), look at the spelling and grammar on his profile, look at how long he’s been around, consider the reviews, look at the quality of the pics more than the content. Then ask direct questions: Hello, I saw you in RentMasseur (or wherever ) I’d like to book for x time on y day, please let me know your availability. If he responds then you can ask other questions. 
 

 

I would like a little clarity on that please. I am assuming when you talk about opening with "hi" or "hey, " and 99% certain they'll never book, you mean those words alone in a message.  As opposed to "hey [or hi], I saw you in RentMasseur (or wherever ) I’d like...."

Correct?
 

10 hours ago, samhexum said:

why bother dirtying a knife at all?

👍 Surrounding yourself with those big beefy butch guys who can pick up a whole sandwich will solve many of life's problems! 😂

Adding a non traditional spice to a dish is a cheap and easy way to make it unique and create a niche market. Unique and niche are always easier tools to use when appealing to the masses. Subtle flavor changes often go unnoticed and under appreciated by the masses.

Add chili pepper to mac n cheese, and most people will recognize it as bold, spicy, and unique. Make Mac n cheese with butter and cheese from grass fed cattle, and very few people will realize, or appreciate, the subtle flavor difference.

Locally for me, the first vaccination involved jumping through some hoops. For the second dose, it was seamless. An email saying "time to schedule your 2nd dose. Click here for appt times."

If my memory is correct, I recall cities or states in the US where, because of the shortage, the controlling health dept opted to ONLY give one dose to most people.

2 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

o we know each other?

Exactly! If I can text you requesting an appointment for Sat afternoon, and really the only details we need to iron out are the specific time, I consider:

1) you a quality provider that remembers me and my needs; and

2) myself a "regular" who has seen you enough, that you remember me.

On 4/23/2024 at 10:51 AM, CuriousCubMSP said:

Saw them a few years back.  Interesting experience.  They have a whole setup in their basement with a custom massage table made for men.  There was kind of a bait and switch in my opinion.  I texted the number but when I got there, it was an older guy that greeted me. Since it was my first time, they gave me a 4 handed massage.  The older guy started, and then the pictured guy came in and joined.  It was a very erotic experience, not much of a massage.  Haven’t thought of going back, but if you’re into that could be worth it. 

Thanks for the recap! I couldn't quite identify why the pic was familiar, but when you described the experience, I immediately recalled that same situation.

I have hired him. Met all the minimum expextations: easy communication, clean, prepared, on time.

Okay massage. Good extras.

I hired him as 'Redneck.' It seems like he is migrating away from that image, and I would say that's a plus in terms of his personality.

Conversation was a bit stiffled at first, BUT, I didn't hire him as a conversation partner. Once things moved onto relaxing on the table as he worked, things went well.