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7 hours ago, Simon Suraci said:

Sometimes considering someone a regular is less about how frequently he sees you, and more about how much he values your work, your time together, your mutual connection, and you as a person. 

I went back and forth on some of your definitions of a "regular," but I certainly appreciate and agree with the one I quoted directly above.

My biggest concern at this point is for the speed at which the DoxyPREP regimen may accelerate the resistance of chlamydia and syphilis.

Obviously, it is a bit of a summary article and not a not a journal article on the research data, but I am gathering that while chlamydia remained relatively constant, starting at 88% with the initial DoxyPREP trial and 89% a year in, syphilis was initially 87% and fell to 79% a year in.

If the big picture observations are that:

- DoxyPREP only reduces gonorrhea infection rate by 33%;

-studies show evidence that vaccination with meningococcal B by itself reduce gonorrhea by 30 - 50%;

-current scientific theory tells us that short bursts of antibiotics contribute resistance;

-antibiotics take a toll on body systems; and

-we already know that Benzathine Penicillin G is already a better treatment for syphilis than doxycycline

I would place my faith in vaccination for gonorrhea, treat syphilis with the superior antibiotic, and treat both gonorrhea and chlamydia with a FULL course of Doxycycline as needed.

And of course, pray to the pharmaceutical and profit gods for vaccines specific for all three!

1 minute ago, Boaxxx said:

But have you had any experience with him?

None. I was simply defining the term abandon as it was used here.

On 4/11/2024 at 8:44 AM, steve said:

Oh and for those of us in our 50's and older who don't have a partner, it is easy to let your guard down when you are being worked by someone who is very good at the long con game.  

@steve thank you. I should have posted this right after I read the above, but I guess, better late than never. 

The above statement gave me an additional perspective on tolerance and empathy, both as it relates to this forum, and life in general. I can't remember the last time I said to myself "I'm bored," or "I wish I had someone to talk to." Sometimes I am greatful for that, and sometimes I wish my life had a slower pace.

So now, in addition to differences in age, experiences, and income, I add "social activity" to the list of things I try to remind myself of when I make statements, or take issue with others statements and other's responses to my statements.

You have a mouth, 2 hands, and 2 feet. If something isn't working, or is working too well, REARRANGE! Any GOOD activity partner will read the cues and rearrange with you.

14 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

Can we please avoid using the W word?

I dont think we can. People are certainly going to have individualized objections to any number of words. However, restricting the cultural voice of others here is unnecessary. 

When your sexuality is the stand out factor that makes you divergent from the norm, it becomes an important part of your culture. It's a culture steeped in a rich tradition of freedom and expression regarding sex. That culture, and the freedoms that come with it, were fiercely fought for by many.

It typically allows us to freely have discussions about sex, and use any number of sexual terms, without shame or embarrassment. And while still in some ways, we may not be able to have those discussions, and use those terms, in "polite" society at large, there is absolutely no reason we shouldn't embrace and celebrate the tolerance to have those discussions, and use those terms, within our own community.   

To act with abandon = wildly, without restraint, carefree

On 11/8/2023 at 1:33 AM, Simon Suraci said:

Plumbing tape is handy too, to get a good seal.

Don't fuck around with teflon tape. There's a right and wrong direction to apply it to threads, and it can bunch. Buy a tube of TFE paste and simplify your life!

WM Harvey 023015-48 Harvey Pipe Thread Compound, 1 Oz, Tube, Liquid Paste, White https://a.co/d/ebRJkBn

If all else fails, he should also call the hospital billing directly. Being accepted by a hospital subsidy program, or working out a payment plan with the hospital, is much easier than negotiating with a debt collector or migrating through a civil action in court for unpaid debt.

On 4/25/2024 at 12:54 AM, Jamie21 said:

Here’s my take as a masseur. I get a lot of enquiries that go nowhere (although I do respond to all enquiries!). Many potential clients appear to be just browsing and from experience I get to know the likelihood of a booking from the tone and content of their first message.

If they open with “hi” or “hey” it’s 99% certain they’ll never book. 100% certain if they open the conversation with a dick pic (in fact I lied, I don’t reply to dick pics, or ass pics etc). So if you’re getting lots of messages from clients, and perhaps you’re treating this work in a slightly casual way (as many do) and you have an Onlyfans that makes plenty in a passive income way (as many do) then how motivated are you to reply to someone who’s unlikely to turn into a client? Especially if he’s asking very open ended questions.

I find it difficult to answer a question like “can you tell me about your service?” without writing a long response including the style, content, rates, availability, experience level, location etc. Often all of that is on my profile somewhere or on my website, which the enquirer may or may not have seen. 

In those open ended questions I usually just refer the client to my website if they have questions, which might come across as dismissive but all the info is there! 

The best way to maximise chances of a reply is to approach professional looking guys (don’t be taken in by thirst trap pics), look at the spelling and grammar on his profile, look at how long he’s been around, consider the reviews, look at the quality of the pics more than the content. Then ask direct questions: Hello, I saw you in RentMasseur (or wherever ) I’d like to book for x time on y day, please let me know your availability. If he responds then you can ask other questions. 
 

 

I would like a little clarity on that please. I am assuming when you talk about opening with "hi" or "hey, " and 99% certain they'll never book, you mean those words alone in a message.  As opposed to "hey [or hi], I saw you in RentMasseur (or wherever ) I’d like...."

Correct?
 

10 hours ago, samhexum said:

why bother dirtying a knife at all?

👍 Surrounding yourself with those big beefy butch guys who can pick up a whole sandwich will solve many of life's problems! 😂

Adding a non traditional spice to a dish is a cheap and easy way to make it unique and create a niche market. Unique and niche are always easier tools to use when appealing to the masses. Subtle flavor changes often go unnoticed and under appreciated by the masses.

Add chili pepper to mac n cheese, and most people will recognize it as bold, spicy, and unique. Make Mac n cheese with butter and cheese from grass fed cattle, and very few people will realize, or appreciate, the subtle flavor difference.

Locally for me, the first vaccination involved jumping through some hoops. For the second dose, it was seamless. An email saying "time to schedule your 2nd dose. Click here for appt times."

If my memory is correct, I recall cities or states in the US where, because of the shortage, the controlling health dept opted to ONLY give one dose to most people.

2 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

o we know each other?

Exactly! If I can text you requesting an appointment for Sat afternoon, and really the only details we need to iron out are the specific time, I consider:

1) you a quality provider that remembers me and my needs; and

2) myself a "regular" who has seen you enough, that you remember me.

On 4/23/2024 at 10:51 AM, CuriousCubMSP said:

Saw them a few years back.  Interesting experience.  They have a whole setup in their basement with a custom massage table made for men.  There was kind of a bait and switch in my opinion.  I texted the number but when I got there, it was an older guy that greeted me. Since it was my first time, they gave me a 4 handed massage.  The older guy started, and then the pictured guy came in and joined.  It was a very erotic experience, not much of a massage.  Haven’t thought of going back, but if you’re into that could be worth it. 

Thanks for the recap! I couldn't quite identify why the pic was familiar, but when you described the experience, I immediately recalled that same situation.

I have hired him. Met all the minimum expextations: easy communication, clean, prepared, on time.

Okay massage. Good extras.

I hired him as 'Redneck.' It seems like he is migrating away from that image, and I would say that's a plus in terms of his personality.

Conversation was a bit stiffled at first, BUT, I didn't hire him as a conversation partner. Once things moved onto relaxing on the table as he worked, things went well.

Seems like between yourself, and the response here, you have all the pertinent answers.

1) Knowing the HPV strain you have likely doesn't help with your health or with determining any abstinence period you choose. So why waste the time and money.

2) After you clear HPV, with no vaccination, you're at the same level of health risk for reinfection.

3) Choosing the local clinic that specializes in sexuality transmitted infections is always your best bet for knowledge, off-label treatment, and acceptance of any patient's desire to pursue added care or testing. Even in a in a third party payment system, not every provider is willing to pursue issues like a specialty clinic may.

4) At least find out the fee from your local specialty clinic. If it's unaffordable, I would reach out to THT. They may have a lower cost clinic, a subsidy program, or at the very least, a list of providers who do it off-label.

https://www.tht.org.uk/

What the nurse didn't say, is likely more important than what she did say. She DID NOT say "as soon as the wart is gone, you can't spread HPV to others."

Like many surface contact viruses, you're contagious until your body is rid of the virus(es) . While it varies greatly by the specific strain(s) of HPV virus(es) you have. The clinic likely didn't test to determine which strain(s) you have. They took, and you should take, some comfort in the fact that the strain(s) produced warts.  Most, of the strains that cause warts, don't cause cancers.

In general, 2-3 years of abstinence, and most immune systems clear the HPV viruses from the body. At that point, you'd likely have little worry of exposing others to HPV, at least until you come in contact again with someone else who has a virus (notice I DID NOT say, someone else who has warts).

If it's possible for you, I will certainly echo what others said: get the vaccination! Besides abstinence, it the best way to protect yourself, and certainly the only way that allows you to go forward with confidence thst your likely aren't spreading HPV to others.

On 4/19/2024 at 7:26 AM, DrownedBoy said:

looking for straight and "straight acting" men was a sign of internalized homophobia.

In order to accept the concept of "straight acting" translating into internalized homophobia, I feel like a definition is required for "straight acting."

For example, if the term is simply applied to gay men who engage in what society has traditionally regarded as "manly pursuits," and gay man #1 may prefer to watch football and surround himself with other guys who have the same interest, I see no issues.

On the other hand, if gay man #2 enjoys the traditional "manly pursuits," AND is vehemently opposed to gay men watching Drag Race, or traditional "feminine pursuits" because it somehow tarnishes the world view of gay men, that's a problem.

I can certainly accept the idea the #2 may have internalized homophobia. However, I see no evidence of internalized homophobia with #1.

I am not saying anyone here defines "straight acting" based on the above example, but I do think some basic parameters of the phrase's definition are important if "straight acting" is to be linked to "internal homophobia."

1 hour ago, Jamie21 said:

if the client is a regular that the timing becomes fluid

As a client, that's the experience I have found to hold true most often.

Most people would be more comfortable with vaccinations if the medical community gave us honest expectations and said right up front:
It's likely going to make you feel a little sick, and it's supposed to. That means you immune system is working and reacting to it.

Pain, fever, runny nose, etc are all your body saying "there's a pathogen here. We need to activate systems to kill it, and get it out of here."

Giving a false sense of "you'll feel just fine," makes many people believe that any discomfort is a "reaction" to a vaccine. The reality is that symptoms less than the full blow disease are normal.

1 hour ago, Becket said:

straight acting

It's a dirty prejudice that no one seems to really want to own up to, or change.

Most any profile can freely write words equating to effininate, and virtually not a single word is said. But, write words equating to masculine, and let the crucification begin!

On 4/15/2024 at 8:33 PM, Vegas_Millennial said:

For my safety, I like having them think someone else is in the house.

I guess I should count myself lucky, because I have never had a fear for my safety with a provider, or a trick. I understand that some may say I am simply naive.

I certainly am not diminishing anyone's concerns or actions in regard to safety. But I must say, walking into a situation unencumbered, with only personal gratification on my mind, is a beautiful thing!

https://rentmasseur.com/MattAllyn

Any info? Looks familiar, and references past work in San Diego and Chicago. Is this maybe a name change?

My mistake. One Travis and the other Curtis.