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I somehow overlooked this thread until today. Wow @KrisParr, I want to be in your situation! Discovering that a major stud from the gym is available for sexy fun and games is a fantasy dream. It's unfortunate that your one date turned out to be a mindf—k, but for me, that would not be a reason to write him off altogether. Forgive me for using your situation to indulge my own wishful thinking, but here goes.
If it were me in your situation, I'd consider two possible courses of action.
1) Don't try to avoid him at the gym. Treat him like a casual friend. Be friendly but not solicitous. If he wants to advance a friendship, whether it be platonic or sexual without pay, let him do so. From what you've told us, he won't be shy about it if that’s what he wants. The fact that he's already asked you to have dinner means he wants to advance something. Maybe he wants something that doesn't involve compensation.  Or he may still view you as a potential client and dinner is another opportunity to tempt you with the merchandise. 
2) Decide if you want to hire him. If you do, tell him you’re interested and would like to discuss the terms.  If you can arrive at mutually agreeable terms, then go for it!  Why not indulge yourself as long as it's on agreeable terms?
Personally, I'd love for you to go with option #2 and then read about here! 

I somehow overlooked this thread until today. Wow @KrisParr, I want to be in your situation! Discovering that a major stud from the gym is available for sexy fun and games is a fantasy dream. It's unfortunate that your one date turned out to be a mindf—k, but for me, that would not be a reason to write him off altogether. Forgive me for using your situation to indulge my own wishful thinking, but here goes.
If it were me in your situation, I'd consider two possible courses of action.
1) Don't try to avoid him at the gym. Treat him like a casual friend. Be friendly but not solicitous. If he wants to advance a friendship, whether it be platonic or sexual without pay, let him do so. From what you've told us, he won't be shy about it if that’s what he wants. The fact that he's already asked you to have dinner means he wants to advance something. Maybe he wants something that doesn't involve compensation.  Or he may still view you as a potential client and dinner is another opportunity to tempt you with the merchandise. 
2) Decide if you want to hire him. If you do, tell him you’re interested and would like to discuss the terms.  If you can arrive at mutually agreeable terms, then go for it!  Why not indulge yourself as long as it's on agreeable terms?
Personally, I'd love for you to go with option #2 and then read about here! 

Well, it’s been a week since this adventure began and I want to thank everyone for their support, advice, comments and encouragement. Just got back from the gym, and HD wasn’t there. So I texted him - he’s with a client in Buckhead and said he’d probably see me tomorrow. He followed up with a “how about dinner soon?” And I replied sure. So will see where the goes. Have lots of “real work” mounting, and I think the marathon updates are about over. I’ve processed a lot of shit  and feel somewhat content.  Still - unanswered questions, though. Time will tell. At least the horniness level has been significantly lowered. For now.

I was able to search for a member by first clicking in the Search window.  A set of options popped up. I clicked on "More options..." which is toward the top, then clicked on "Members" and entered the member name in the search window.  

I was able to search for a member by first clicking in the Search window.  A set of options popped up. I clicked on "More options..." which is toward the top, then clicked on "Members" and entered the member name in the search window.  

I was able to search for a member by first clicking in the Search window.  A set of options popped up. I clicked on "More options..." which is toward the top, then clicked on "Members" and entered the member name in the search window.  

Although I've considered myself mostly a bottom, I've never enjoyed what some would call a "hard fuck". I've enjoyed taking dicks of all sizes, as long as he doesn't start vigorously pounding away. Unfortunately, there's the whole "yeah, fuck me harder.. deeper, faster" thing you sometimes see in porno. I suspect that's good in porno for some, but not so good in real life. Also, expecting a orgasm from anal penetration alone is not realistic.

Although I've considered myself mostly a bottom, I've never enjoyed what some would call a "hard fuck". I've enjoyed taking dicks of all sizes, as long as he doesn't start vigorously pounding away. Unfortunately, there's the whole "yeah, fuck me harder.. deeper, faster" thing you sometimes see in porno. I suspect that's good in porno for some, but not so good in real life. Also, expecting a orgasm from anal penetration alone is not realistic.

Although I've considered myself mostly a bottom, I've never enjoyed what some would call a "hard fuck". I've enjoyed taking dicks of all sizes, as long as he doesn't start vigorously pounding away. Unfortunately, there's the whole "yeah, fuck me harder.. deeper, faster" thing you sometimes see in porno. I suspect that's good in porno for some, but not so good in real life. Also, expecting a orgasm from anal penetration alone is not realistic.

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WHAT'S not realistic, the PRICE or the fact they dont do anal ? FYI, sex IS possible WITHOUT anal, and some people DONT want anal.

I mean, it's their prerogative, no?
 
Just as it's your choice to say no, thanks.
 
These guys did you the favor of being up front about what they do and don't do.
 
Where's the problem?

Attempting to determine someone's use of meth based upon stereotypical physical characteristics is as useless as was doing the same to determine someone's HIV status back in the 90's and 2000's.
 
A former friend is a meth addict. He does not have any wasting, has good teeth, and is a very muscular man. He was also arrested for trespassing and prowling on a neighbor's property when Ambien caused him to sleepwalk and look into and try the doors of a neighbor's home and the meth made him get belligerent to a San Diego police officer. Two other former friends had round faces, were somewhat overweight, and were regular meth users.
 
Behavioral characteristics are a better barometer of usage than physical appearance.

Yeah, my friend Richard was in LA on business and hired Jules to stay with him for the weekend. Jules was kind-of rough trade but Richard gave him his credit card to buy some new clothes and helped him blend into a more upscale crowd. They ended up falling in love and have been together every since.

Yeah, my friend Richard was in LA on business and hired Jules to stay with him for the weekend. Jules was kind-of rough trade but Richard gave him his credit card to buy some new clothes and helped him blend into a more upscale crowd. They ended up falling in love and have been together every since.

Yeah, my friend Richard was in LA on business and hired Jules to stay with him for the weekend. Jules was kind-of rough trade but Richard gave him his credit card to buy some new clothes and helped him blend into a more upscale crowd. They ended up falling in love and have been together every since.

Yeah, my friend Richard was in LA on business and hired Jules to stay with him for the weekend. Jules was kind-of rough trade but Richard gave him his credit card to buy some new clothes and helped him blend into a more upscale crowd. They ended up falling in love and have been together every since.

Yeah, my friend Richard was in LA on business and hired Jules to stay with him for the weekend. Jules was kind-of rough trade but Richard gave him his credit card to buy some new clothes and helped him blend into a more upscale crowd. They ended up falling in love and have been together every since.

Although I've considered myself mostly a bottom, I've never enjoyed what some would call a "hard fuck". I've enjoyed taking dicks of all sizes, as long as he doesn't start vigorously pounding away. Unfortunately, there's the whole "yeah, fuck me harder.. deeper, faster" thing you sometimes see in porno. I suspect that's good in porno for some, but not so good in real life. Also, expecting a orgasm from anal penetration alone is not realistic.

It helps to start with a patient, sensitive top who will enter you gently the first time to give your body a chance to stretch to accommodate him. Then he gradually increases the depth of penetration and the speed while paying close attention to your reactions. I was lucky to find such a sensitive mentor when I was young and just coming out. Once you relax into the feeling of being penetrated and connected to another man at the root of your body, the feeling is sublime.

Unfortunately, it would be best to let this issue go, as this falls under the “life isn’t fair”, category..... and EVERYONE falls under the lower end of some spectrum at some point.
1.) There are guys that will have smaller penises
2.) There are woman that will have smaller breasts
3.) There are people that will be born with disabilities.
4.) There are guys that will be born short
5.) There are people that will be born into poverty
6.) There will be people born into a caste, ethnicity, or race, that will place them at a societal disadvantage.
 
This is life and everyone has been given their hand.
Play your hand to a the max, and don’t concern yourself about the “blessings”, of others, because you might not even know their disadvantages.

Can't think of specific examples of bad camera work in porn videos, but I know I've seen it! What I find distracting is dubbed vocalizations in lots of BelAmi videos. There's very exaggerated moaning and grunting that doesn't even sound like it's coming from the actors. I visualize a couple of video production guys in a post-filming editing room, grunting and moaning into a microphone, trying (unsuccessfully) to sync their noises to the action.