SamSpring

As in…. he took the money and ran.
You got scammed. What don’t you understand?

(From an earlier thread:)
The likelihood of a new client actually panning out is inversely proportional to the amount of contact (and the amount of time) beforehand.  Especially in a highly visited place like NYC, we get a ton of guys wanting to set something up weeks away (unfortunately often accompanied by a daily text with a new question or request) just to find out, wouldn't you know it, the day of... the trip gets cancelled.  The less time out, the more serious I take the booking. 
If your constraints require you to lock things down weeks in advance, a deposit via Venmo goes a long way to reassuring me that this is actually going to go down.  And of course, once we've actually met, I'll take future bookings a lot more seriously. 
Kevin Slater

Nope, I'm not ditching condoms. STDs are largely curable, but I'm not looking to end up casually gobbling antibiotics like they're candy. 

My PCP told me even though I’m on PrEP I should still be using condoms with whoever I’m sexually active because you can still get other diseases. So there’s that.

I certainly agree that the guy has a great body and is drop dead good looking.  Unfortunately, he isn't into anal, kissing or oral BUT he is into PNP.  Strike FOUR and, at least for me, OUT!!!!

It’s very creditable that you are seeking to help him @7829V 
I’ve done this with models, but not an escort. I have 2 good friends, Brazilian, who worked in Europe as models and each stayed with me - like you, I have a guest bedroom & bathroom. Over the years, they introduced me to their friends as a ‘nice guy’  with whom visitors could stay. The result is that I had quite a few attractive young men as short-term guests, so I do have some observations to offer. 
 
1. Set the house rules in advance. Consider how you feel about smoking, drinking, overnight guests, playing loud music etc (including anything that really matters to you) and put them in writing - it helps to avoid conflict later.
2. Discuss sex. You find this guy attractive so speak your mind. I didn’t know about some guys who came to stay so I just said ‘I’m gay and I like young men, so I hope that’s not a problem for you?’. The usual response was Cool - often said with a smile. The guys were early 20s, fit and horny. Some were gay but the majority were str8, yet I ended up in bed with most of them. I prided myself at not initiating sex but they were generally very appreciative of all I did for them, so…
3. Charge the guy rent. You must have some idea what he’ll have to pay in rent when he moves to his own place. Treat the guy as an adult; he gets his own bedroom and bathroom. Soften the blow by saying you’ll pay all the bills and provide all the food etc. And if he proves to be a great house-guest, present him with the lump sum of rent as your house-warming gift - it will be a visible sign for him that watching his spending and saving money is worthwhile. 

Has he actually taken any steps to "turn his life around"? You may find yourself in a position of being an enabler to his bad habits.

I also factor in the city I'm visiting and the cost of living. For example, I pay a premium for dining and hotels when in NYC, and I expect that providers will also have a higher fee than I would expect to see in my home town.

Now has 11 reviews. 10 of them are 5-star reviews posted by 10 different accounts all made on the same day within an hour of each other. The 11th review is by a member who joined in 2018, and that one is a 2-star review. 

Before he leaves his country, you need to inject some direct reality into this situation.
Ask him, point-blank, if this is paid time or his vacation.  Ask if there will be intimacy involved.  Communicate everything you might be wondering as to avoid a potentially uncomfortable situation.
This is where 90% of problems start.  Avoid those issues now.

I agree with @mike carey. Don't make too many assumptions or try to overthink. Ask him instead of assuming.  If he questions why you are asking so many questions - tell him you want to make sure he has a good time while visiting. Explain that if he does not communicate his desires (does he want you to show him some of the local sights) you can't prepare (some spots require reservations).  It is okay to ask if he would be okay staying at your place. Be tactful but direct. Maintain a positive vibe and make it work!  😉

Go into it with your eyes open. Assume that he wants to engage you in another appointment and plan on that basis. If that's ok, do it (if you're happy with that). You could ask him what the ground rules are. If he just wants to meet, whether that involves sex or not, that's sort of a bonus. Don't assume he just wants a meeting off the clock.

Well, he "wrecked-it" alright!

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/131378-waayde-in-dc/
not much, but......

https://rent.men/ANGEXXL
That is some big piece of.... meat!
Anyone have any info?

Met with him last night. I’ve never seen a provider look so exactly like his pics. He’s not only tall, lean, and sexy, he’s incredibly nice and charming. One slight downside is the exaggeration of the, um, measurements on rentmen.
 
I messaged him inquiring about his rentmasseur ad (not rentmen) and he quoted me $200 for an erotic massage. You don’t get a massage at all, it just immediately turns into a full session, if you know what I mean. The charm turns into sexy aggressiveness (in the best way possible). Would recommend! 

Probably depends on where you're going and the cost of private dances, if that's what you're looking for. In a club like Swinging Richards, a lap dance out front is $10, in back (non private) $20, and getting into the back room will cost you a one time fee (prob $20-$30 or so, I forget). A 15 minute private dance will run you about $140...$40 to the house and $100 to the dancer. And don't forget cash to tip the guys on stage (a few bucks to show interest...a few more if you're really interested). Plus cash for the cover/door charge and drinks. In short, cash is king. Bring what you're comfortable spending (and stay away from the ATM!!!). If you're thinking about a few 15 minute private dances, you can easily spend $400 to $500 no problem...I"m sure much more. Some may think that's a lot. Some may think it's not enough.
 
My approach with dancers is generally to tip one I like on stage, wait for him to come by and maybe chat a while You'll get a feel for the guy that way. You might get a sense if he's straight or gay (which might matter later), and how aggressive he is. Remember, these guys are here to make money, and a big part of the game is flattery.
 
In a club like SR, on a busy (or not busy) night, guys will be working the floor, trying to drum up private dances. Most of them will ask you if you want to go in the back room for a private. I usually give them a "maybe later, I'm going to hang up front for a bit" Even If I like the guy, I might hang out for a while to get a feel of who's there, and who I might want to splash out cash for a private for. Some of them will be persistent...just be polite and stick to your guns.
 
Being respectful to the guys will go a long way, in my experience. Tip first, and the let the rest go from there. Don't get too handsy (especially if you haven't tipped) up front.
 
It's hard to give advice if you're going to go for a private dance. In my experience, if a guy is straight, or comes off as aloof or "macho" upfront, they're usually not much fun in the privates. The friendlier guys tend to be just that, but don't expect anything more than the dance going in, and don't go for an uncharge after the fact unless you're truly interested.
 
As always, buyer beware. Some guys will play games, especially if you're paying "by the song". If you agree to a lap dance, tell him you'd like 3 songs, or whatever, so he doesn't just keep going and tell you you owe him $100 when you thought you were in for $20.
 
In short...use your head, be nice, don't spend more than your comfortable with, and have fun!

Don't make the mistake I made. Posted in 2019:
Yes, but as I found out in April, don't just park in that shopping center lot & walk right to Johnson's. I had done that a couple of times previously when I couldn't find a metered parking spot near the club and it worked out fine. Then, one night in April, after spending only an hour at Johnson's I came back to the shopping center lot to find an empty spot where I'd left my car. That's a horrible feeling at 2:30 in the morning, in a city where you're a visitor. After looking around I found small signs stating that parking was for shopping center business patrons only & a number for the towing company. Had to take a cab & pay $130 to get my car back. The report stated "Walk off" as reason for towing, so I'm thinking they must have been there to see me park & not go into Georgie's which I think was the only business open at that hour in that lot. Ugh, not a fun way to end a Sat. night. 

A tall, good-looking Navy guy in his early 30s moved into the neighboring townhouse a few years ago....our bedrooms back thru the common party wall to each other......within weeks of his moving in, a steady stream of women were spending the evenings at Navy stud's place......at least a couple times, I was awakened to that familiar steady rhythmic thumping we've probably all heard at some point (our bed headboards were directly behind the other thru the wall)......pervert that I am, I'd put my ear to the wall and start, uhhhh, joining in myself.......the thumping would eventually get a bit quicker and then I'd hear a faint few seconds of moaning and groaning from our studly sailor......it didn't take long for me to, uhh, finish, too.....
 
other than this, construction of these townhouses is sturdy and, no, it isn't a noisy, cheap place.....I presume his headboard was pushed right against the wall (I leave a couple inches)......
 
he moved away and now rents the place to some very quiet people......

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