Choking-hot or scary?

[Walker1]

https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph562a9d4ee48e7

 

Saw this S &M video and towards the end has a choking scene. Considering the accidental deaths, just wondering anyone into this and can it be done safely?

[samhexum]

A Utah boy died over the weekend after he and his friends were playing the “fainting game,” which led to significant oxygen being cut off to his brain, his mother said.

 

Tua Muai and his friends had been playing the game Friday afternoon in hopes of cutting off oxygen to the brain to obtain a high or rush. His mother found the 12-year-old unconscious shortly after and called 911.

 

“He was just playing a game and he didn’t think things through,” Celestia Muai told FOX13 Salt Lake City.

 

Tua died at the hospital. Muai said it was a somber Mother’s Day.

 

“I spent Mother’s Day planning my son’s funeral, writing his obituary, instead of having breakfast or flowers or ‘I love you, Mom,’” Muai said. “Try to imagine what it would be like and multiply that by infinity and that’s kind of what it’s like … there’s no words.”

 

Tua, who was in sixth grade, was described as a child who loved football and had a “zeal for adventure.” His father had passed away a year and a half ago. He had six siblings.

 

Also known as the “choking game,” the dangerous stunt was generally spread through word of mouth and involved groups of two or three people participating. In the last few years, videos have been posted on the internet to show how children can choke themselves enough to get the “rush of euphoria” as they regain consciousness.

 

Muai said she wants to warn other parents about the dangers of the “fainting game.”

 

“There’s nothing that can take the pain away, but if it can save one child, one parent, one family … then it will make more sense,” Muai said.

 

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[pubic_assistance]

"Choking" or suffocation can definitely increase the intensity of an orgasm but is a technique best left to skilled practicioners. Done wrong, it can lead to a crushed tracea and yes even death.

Edited May 20, 2018 by pubic_assistance

[+ Keith30309]

That looks like an extraordinarily bad idea.

[KeepItReal]

A few years ago I had a partner who insisted on me choking him - he said it was hot. He was quite submissive but would move my hands to his throat and squeeze to encourage me. I did not enjoy it and never really 'committed'. Not my thing.

[pubic_assistance]

Of course it can be done safely.

[pubic_assistance]

I agree with public assistance that it is best to do it with an experienced guy. My 32 year old nephew hung himself to death presumably while home alone. It was classified as an accidental death because of the porn surrounding the death scene. He was extremely handsome and could have easily had a play buddy guard him. Left behind a beautiful wife and baby girl ... careless, stupid and selfish.

Auto erotic asphyxiation is not uncommon. Pity your nephew couldn't have found a friend to help him with his fetish . It's a great rush...but dangerous indeed to do it yourself. Always play with a skilled BDSM buddy.

[pubic_assistance]

Thanks for your thoughts - it seems like the community of men into kinks seem to be reminded of the risks often!

On a personal note and since I'm a new member to this site, can you contact another member privately and if so how? Or, is this just a bulletin board site? Hope nobody minds my posting this question!

Yes. Safety is important to all men who take their kink interests seriously. No one should play with a sloppy top.

As far as private messages....go to the person's profile and click on the left hand side - "start a conversation".

[whipped guy]

Thanks for your thoughts - it seems like the community of men into kinks seem to be reminded of the risks often!

Well responsible players always play safely and sanely. Of course we all have a different definition of what safely and sanely references. Given that premise, it is important for the dom and sub to be on the exact same wavelength.... with in the majority of situations the limits of the sub being the factor determining how far and how fast the action proceeds.

 

Unfortunately I have seen situations where the dom refused to respect the sub’s limits. Once I had to physically stop the self-proclaimed hotshot dom from causing injury to the sub who was a friend. In such situations the dom must remember that it is not all about his personal gratification. It is a two way commitment of mutual respect.

 

Of course I have seen situations where the dom has refused to go as far as the sub wishes to go and that’s not a bad thing. It is always obviously best to err on the side of caution. Still the bottom line is the same. The players must respect each others limits.

 

With experience and the use of safe words... and respecting those words... limits can be safely be pushed by degrees on both sides of the equation.

 

PS: incidentally I would never get involved with a choking scene or any situation where the airway or breathing might be obstructed.

[YOUNG_LA_DOM]

VERY BAD!

[YOUNG_LA_DOM]

VERY BAD!

[pubic_assistance]

I would beg to differ.

It's actually incredibly hot and produces incredible orgasms.

You think people risk death for no reason ?

Simply requires a trained partner.

Too risky by yourself ...which was the case with Michael .

[Rudynate]

"Choking" or suffocation can definitely increase the intensity of an orgasm but is a technique best left to skilled practicioners. Done wrong, it can lead to a crushed tracea and yes even death.

 

 

A fatal arrhythmia is a more likely possibility.

[pubic_assistance]

A fatal arrhythmia is a more likely possibility.

All a matter of skill.

A well trained BDSM top can take a man places in orgasm, never before ventured.

[Rudynate]

All a matter of skill.

A well trained BDSM top can take a man places in orgasm, never before ventured.

 

I don't doubt that it's an extremely erotic experience, but the practice carries a very high risk of potentially fatal arrhythmia. And I even recognize that a top's skill level may mitigate the risk. The problem is that I'm not aware of any certification programs that guarantee that a top has the skill level necessary to keep a bottom out of ventricular tachycardia.

 

So, unless the bottom knows his top pretty well, he's taking his life in his hands doing breath play.

[Rudynate]

Not long ago, a very sexy escort, a real sexual athlete, put his hand to my throat. For a split second, I was tempted but my instinct for self preservation took over and I said to him "no breath play."

[pubic_assistance]

Correct.

BDSM certification doesn't exist.

Reputation is everything.

but....NO ...breath play isn't all THAT dangerous.

To a degree you have to be pretty stupid to go beyond the obvious, limits...but then pushing limits are often what turns on a bottom....so a good BDSM top is self controlled and never steps beyond his skill.

[Rudynate]

Correct.

BDSM certification doesn't exist.

Reputation is everything.

but....NO ...breath play isn't all THAT dangerous.

To a degree you have to be pretty stupid to go beyond the obvious, limits...but then pushing limits are often what turns on a bottom....so a good BDSM top is self controlled and never steps beyond his skill.

 

Unfortunately, there is a point of no return, beyond which you are in the top's hands, or the paramedic's.

[Rudynate]

It's a very common practice for a cardiologist to use carotid pressure to modulate a patient's heart rhythm. I think I will leave it to the experts.

[pubic_assistance]

Unfortunately, there is a point of no return, beyond which you are in the top's hands, or the paramedic's.

Correct.

To be clear.....the entire *turn on* of BDSM work...is surrendering TRUST.

[Rudynate]

Correct.

To be clear.....the entire *turn on* of BDSM work...is surrendering TRUST.

 

Of course, I know that. Maybe it's just me, but even though I am placing myself in a top's hands, I want to be reasonably sure that I'm going to live through it.

[pubic_assistance]

Of course, I know that. Maybe it's just me, but even though I am placing myself in a top's hands, I want to be reasonably sure that I'm going to live through it.

TRUST

[Rudynate]

TRUST

 

but verify

[+ m_writer]

I can only speak of my experiences with several wonderful escorts who have trusted me, but I think it can be hot if done safely. However, for reasons like being afraid to permanently damage the person's voice box or larynx, I'd rather use a pillow for breath play.

 

A little story with one escort who agreed to my terms...

 

What I always do is first let the escort know what I would do for breath play, and inform them I know CPR. Any who are willing, I ask if they are allergic to any medications in case I need to resuscitate and call 911 and an ambulance (no close calls, so knock on wood). Surprisingly, the escort commented that was the first time a client ever asked that information of him (which surprised me; you'd think that would be a common question to ask a sub).

 

And I would never do it until an escort passes out. And I adamantly tell the escort to have a safety contact beforehand (likewise with me, I have a contact I text before and after the session).

 

This is the one time I did choking. The escort asked me to do it on him because he wanted to try it (in return for being smothered with a pillow). So what I did was after tying him spreadeagled on the bed, I gently placed my thumb across his throat and pressed down gently. Believe it or not, the escort was actually being choked despite such small pressure on his throat and he tapped out once he felt the high. I was surprised at how quick his face turned red, but we always took a break in between and I made sure to stop when he gave the signal.

 

So yes, choking can be hot, but you can do it without doing wrapping your hands around someone's entire neck extremely like Homer Simpson does to Bart. A simple thumb pressing gently on a certain area would do the trick.

 

And of course, for breath play, I'd prefer the pillow so after a few rounds of choking and me worshipping his bound body so he could get his heart rate down, I got the pillow.

 

With the escort who wanted to be choked, I held a pillow over his face and asked him to struggle and moan underneath the pillow (a sign he wasn't unconscious - otherwise if he went still and silent, that was a warning sign). What happened was the escort was a bit dubious that a pillow could even be used for breath play (he wouldn't be gagged so he could still use his nose and mouth), but he obliged and for several rounds, he did that, me pressing a pillow over his face for thirty seconds in intervals while he groaned and mock struggled as I sat on him.

 

Then something surprisingly happened on the third round.

 

After ten seconds of groaning and wiggling, he stopped suddenly. At first I was confused until the escort began writhing and moving his head hard against the pillow as if trying to free his face. I held the pillow firm and I could tell he began struggling for real, his body actually jerking up and down underneath me. It was at that moment I could tell the difference between his play struggling and panicking struggling as he made soft gasps under the pillow while he tried to writhe his head faster which encouraged me to press the pillow more against his face. He knew the safety signal, but he didn't tap out. Once the thirty seconds was done, I removed the pillow and the escort actually gasped in air. He asked to stop, and I did, but afterwards, the escort told me he had never been smothered like that before and he was surprised how effective the pillow was. After he left, the next day, I gave the obligatory text to check how he was feeling and if he had any chest pains or headaches which he told me he didn't and he was glad I was checking up on him.

 

So for escorts, trust and make sure you show them that you won't abuse that trust and take all precautions and don't do it alone.

[memphisdad]

I'm glad he didn't die because you'd be a murderer. A good orgasm is not much of a defense.