Escorts: Turn your fucking cell phone off

[BabyBoomer]

Lol! The oracle has spoken...

 

I must have missed Warren's post.

 

~Boomer ~

[MiamiLooker]

If someone told me:

 

 

 

I would thank him for his time and would walk away. You can keep your hundreds of dollars, thank you.

 

Respect goes both ways. Yes, I'd be more than happy to turn off my phone if for some reason I forgot to do it before the session, but anyone I spend time with has to talk to me politely, on the understanding that we are both two adults consensually enjoying one another.

 

My guess is that if you have no qualms about making a post in here using such language, your manners in person may bleed out the contempt you appear to feel towards escorts.

 

I feel for you, having had his phone ringing during your session. I feel for him for having experienced your contempt.

 

Ladies and gentlemen, today, nobody wins.

 

I didn’t take the OP’s post to necessarily mean he was pissed simply because the escort’s phone rang once during the session, but I suppose that’s one possibility. But it’s also possible the OP was pissed because the escort’s phone rang multiple times during the session, or that the escort answered his ringing phone during the session.

[Good Grief]

I always hire for weekends. I have to check my phone, he has to check his. Understood.

 

It's, of course, always been during a break from activities.

 

If I were in an hour or two session and the phone had to be checked I'd be unhappy.

[AdamSmith]

Lol! The oracle has spoken...

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[jawjateck]

we better get used to it.

 

Nah. And I don't bother imparting wisdom on basic decency either. Whether hobbying or in my other personal realms, folks who clearly don't care about me also don't continue in my life. It helps to have grown old enough, to be semi-retired, to be set in my ways (too), and not give a damn what other people think of me, nor feel like I have to explain who I am, what I do, or why I choose to associate (or not) with anyone else.

 

But yall have fun fucking between texts, tweets, and snaps. Sounds uber sexy........mmmmmhmmmmmm!

[rocky]

I'm paying you hundreds of dollars an hour. You can put your cell phone away for two hours!

Hundred dollars an hour, tell me where they are!! I agree particularly when I'm paying double that. Thanks for bringing this up as rude.

[rocky]

I think it is generational, guys. If you are not teaching or working with young people you may not noticed, but smart phones have become an extremely strong addiction. I am not making an analogy, young people are literally addicted to their phones, we better get used to it.

Hmm, how young is "generational"? I see someone who is 49 years old, we go to dinner, he's on

or texting, morning, on or texting, etc. While I understand the need to keep in business, it is rude.

[AdamSmith]

Nah. And I don't bother imparting wisdom on basic decency either. Whether hobbying or in my other personal realms, folks who clearly don't care about me also don't continue in my life. It helps to have grown old enough, to be semi-retired, to be set in my ways (too), and not give a damn what other people think of me, nor feel like I have to explain who I am, what I do, or why I choose to associate (or not) with anyone else.

 

But yall have fun fucking between texts, tweets, and snaps. Sounds uber sexy........mmmmmhmmmmmm!

Best statement of life I have ever seen in my 57 years on earth.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Hmm, how young is "generational"? I see someone who is 49 years old, we go to dinner, he's on

or texting, morning, on or texting, etc. While I understand the need to keep in business, it is rude.

 

Indeed. I was talking about guys in their early 20s or younger.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Nah. And I don't bother imparting wisdom on basic decency either. Whether hobbying or in my other personal realms, folks who clearly don't care about me also don't continue in my life. It helps to have grown old enough, to be semi-retired, to be set in my ways (too), and not give a damn what other people think of me, nor feel like I have to explain who I am, what I do, or why I choose to associate (or not) with anyone else.

 

But yall have fun fucking between texts, tweets, and snaps. Sounds uber sexy........mmmmmhmmmmmm!

 

I agree with your first paragraph, your last line is the kind of old timer philosophy I was referring to.

These new generations cannot relax and be without the phone in their palms. If you understand that as lack of caring or rudeness, you are not understanding their culture.

 

I guess we do not need to make clear we are not talking about checking the phone during fore playing or once the action began.

[loverboy95]

Both escorts and clients should turn their phones off during meetings. Give each other your undivided attention!

[+ José Soplanucas]

Instead of singling out providers, it should just be a common courtesy when you're in the presence of another human being. I've had several clients spend a good portion of their hour on their phone for various reasons. While I'm not going to complain in situations such as that, don't expect the clock to all of a sudden start and stop when you're able to break away from your phone. I'd rather have a client cancel the session than waste their money. Don't waste each other's time and all will be fine

 

Absolutely, my comments were not targeting providers but referring to a general trend I perceive in people below 25.

 

Ultimately, the quality of a conversation and of engagement does not depend on the absence or presence of a smart phone. I have amazing conversations with friends without turning off our phones. Perhaps we are finding a new function for smart phones here: scape goats for our lack of personal connection.

[Juan Vancouver]

I didn’t take the OP’s post to necessarily mean he was pissed simply because the escort’s phone rang once during the session, but I suppose that’s one possibility. But it’s also possible the OP was pissed because the escort’s phone rang multiple times during the session, or that the escort answered his ringing phone during the session.

 

Don't get me wrong; I don't fault anyone for being uncomfortable with anything. If you dislike something, you dislike it, and that's it. Whether once or 25 times during an hour, if you don't like my phone coming out of my pocket, you have every right to feel the way you feel.

 

All I am saying is that when someone feels comfortable writing in a public forum: "Put your fucking phone away, I am paying you hundreds of dollars for your time.", I would be uncomfortable even considering the possibility of meeting such a person.

 

Respect goes both ways. Often enough, it is people who are disrespectful the ones who complaint about being disrespected.

 

"Hey sexy, we are having a really nice, intimate time together... Would you mind turning your phone off so we can focus on one another?"

 

"Turn your fucking phone off... I m paying you hundreds of dollars for your time."

 

Some may be tempted to say that the client may have not said that to the escort's face. This may be true; just remember how easy it is to read each other's real thoughts during our human interactions. So many clients have noticed how certain escort seemed disgusted about them, or were derisive or annoyed. Reading other people is very easy for human beings... Escorts are human too. (I know, what a revolutionary concept!) If you show up to your session feeling this dull contempt for your past escorts or the interaction you're about to have, I am guessing it will be very easy for your partner to feel it and act accordingly.

 

Of course, I personally believe it is basic courtesy to turn off all phones while spending time with people in my life. I also know this is not necessarily something upon which everyone agrees.

[handiacefailure]

When I'm with a client at work I put my cell phone on vibrate and if it does vibrate while I'm with the client I don't look to see who texted me or who is calling. The client is paying for my time not for me to check messages and take calls and I expect the same when I hire an escort. What worse than them forgetting to turn the phone off is when they take a call or text.

 

I hope the only tip you gave him was to turn his cell phone off when with a client

[RandyC]

If someone told me:

 

 

 

I would thank him for his time and would walk away. You can keep your hundreds of dollars, thank you.

 

Respect goes both ways. Yes, I'd be more than happy to turn off my phone if for some reason I forgot to do it before the session, but anyone I spend time with has to talk to me politely, on the understanding that we are both two adults consensually enjoying one another.

 

My guess is that if you have no qualms about making a post in here using such language, your manners in person may bleed out the contempt you appear to feel towards escorts.

 

I feel for you, having had his phone ringing during your session. I feel for him for having experienced your contempt.

 

Ladies and gentlemen, today, nobody wins.

 

You don't know me but have felt quite free to make me the villain here as if I somehow brought this rude and disrespectful behavior on myself. Apparently it couldn't possibly have been the escort in your mind. So let me give you the scenario. I booked a two hour session. About 10 minutes in I hear the ding of his cell phone. He got up looked at the message, texted something and returned to bed. This happened repeatedly throughout the session, including answering a phone call about an hour in. This was not him mistakenly leaving the phone on. This was not him receiving an emergency call. This was him choosing to be engaged with his friends instead of being with me as a professional. This was him accepting my money and choosing not to spend time with me. This was him making dinner plans with a friend while I waited. I by the way have excellent manners, and chose to say nothing to him now or in the future. I am always completely respectful of others but was shown zero respect in this case. And quite frankly your posting has added insult to injury.

[gallahadesquire]

You don't know me but have felt quite free to make me the villain here as if I somehow brought this rude and disrespectful behavior on myself. Apparently it couldn't possibly have been the escort in your mind. So let me give you the scenario. I booked a two hour session. About 10 minutes in I hear the ding of his cell phone. He got up looked at the message, texted something and returned to bed. This happened repeatedly throughout the session, including answering a phone call about an hour in. This was not him mistakenly leaving the phone on. This was not him receiving an emergency call. This was him choosing to be engaged with his friends instead of being with me as a professional. This was him accepting my money and choosing not to spend time with me. This was him making dinner plans with a friend while I waited. I by the way have excellent manners, and chose to say nothing to him now or in the future. I am always completely respectful of others but was shown zero respect in this case. And quite frankly your posting has added insult to injury.

 

Regarding Juan's post (tl;dr), the tone of the "request" is what got his dander up.

 

I remember (with fondness) an escort who texted behind his back while we were at a science exhibit (the plasticized Body Wars, or whatever they call it. It's fascinating). I saw him, but he was otherwise completely "in the moment".

 

I spent a multi-day trip with someone, and never once saw him look at his phone. We had some alone time ... and, given the duration of the visit, he certainly deserved more time. But in all the days, his phone never interrupted our time together.

 

I'm finding the secret, at least for my tastes, and it's a hard one to find.

[Kody S]

I had a masseur answer the phone in the middle of a massage and he proceeded to get into a tiff with this guy with whom he was doing some business deal. Once he hung up, he started ranting about how unfair this guy was, trying to impress me with how much money he was going to make. That was it. Over. Done.

[+ purplekow]

I have had patients answer a phone during a physical examination. On these occasions, I have walked out and gone to see another patient and when done there, I returned. If the patient was still there, we continued. If the patient was gone, it was clear that the phone call was of dire importance.

The issue with phones and texts is everywhere. General courtesy and good manners are quickly becoming the appendix of the body of society.

[mike carey]

I would thank him for his time and would walk away. You can keep your hundreds of dollars, thank you.

Of course, I personally believe it is basic courtesy to turn off all phones while spending time with people in my life. I also know this is not necessarily something upon which everyone agrees.

Regarding Juan's post (tl;dr), the tone of the "request" is what got his dander up.

Juan, it seems to me that the second quote is the key to your first comment. Part 1 would never happen to you. To me the key to the tone of RandyC's 'I'm paying good money here' was the 'I'm a busy man' statement, not the fact that the escort took a call.

 

That said, 'I'm a busy man' was more likely a response to something that was said rather than an unprompted comment upon receiving a call. None of this matters now, the convo has moved on the the general etiquette of the situation, not the particular comments that started the thread. In any case, RandyC said that he thought but did not say those words. And yes, my impression was that it was the tone not the fact that a statement was made that set Juan off.

[instudiocity]

Instead of singling out providers, it should just be a common courtesy when you're in the presence of another human being. I've had several clients spend a good portion of their hour on their phone for various reasons. While I'm not going to complain in situations such as that, don't expect the clock to all of a sudden start and stop when you're able to break away from your phone. I'd rather have a client cancel the session than waste their money. Don't waste each other's time and all will be fine

If I was in a room with you, my iPhone, iPad and MacBook would all be off and packed in my computer case. Just saying. I have my priorities.

[jawjateck]

You don't know me but have felt quite free to make me the villain here as if I somehow brought this rude and disrespectful behavior on myself. Apparently it couldn't possibly have been the escort in your mind. So let me give you the scenario. I booked a two hour session. About 10 minutes in I hear the ding of his cell phone. He got up looked at the message, texted something and returned to bed. This happened repeatedly throughout the session, including answering a phone call about an hour in. This was not him mistakenly leaving the phone on. This was not him receiving an emergency call. This was him choosing to be engaged with his friends instead of being with me as a professional. This was him accepting my money and choosing not to spend time with me. This was him making dinner plans with a friend while I waited. I by the way have excellent manners, and chose to say nothing to him now or in the future. I am always completely respectful of others but was shown zero respect in this case. And quite frankly your posting has added insult to injury.

 

I accurately understood your initial post, even with its limited information. It felt good to vent your frustration here. As Count Smith noted, you should promptly arrange a provider who will pamper and respect you, tear up the sheets with him, and I expect the other guy will fade from your memory as waves of orgasmic pleasure roll through your body, and puddle on your tummy......or wherever!

 

I love the power of the purse. :D:rolleyes:

[AdamSmith]

I love the power of the purse. :D:rolleyes:

 

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[AdamSmith]

Bottom line: trying to change another person's behavior is always a fool's errand.

 

Move on.

[LookingAround]

I think it is generational, guys. If you are not teaching or working with young people you may not noticed, but smart phones have become an extremely strong addiction. I am not making an analogy, young people are literally addicted to their phones, we better get used to it.

Bingo. I had two Grindr buddies over one of whom was 20. He and my buddy were having sex and the 20 yo (as he was getting fucked) pulled out his cell phone and was opening different apps and even texting friends! While getting fucked! After he left I said to my other buddy "could you believe that?" Definitely generational.

[actor61]

I used to teach a dance class for students who want to become professionals in the theatre/tv/movies. We did an extensive warm up in bare feet and then took a 2 to 3 minute break to get some water and put on shoes to learn the combination being taught that week. Every single, fucking one of the kids in that class got out his/her phone during that time and I used to get red with rage. But I wanted the class to be a positive, energizing experience so I never said anything. I would just stand in front of the class and wait until the little darlings had finished their obviously very urgent phone tasks. Their parents used to sit in the hallway watching the class through a huge window and were invariably on their phones. I admit to overarching bitchiness but one day when I was particularly frustrated and insulted, I said to a group of dance moms in the hallway, "They say addiction is passed from generation to generation and I think the theory has been proved through your kids. Have you guys considered Phones Anonymous?" Of course they complained about me to management, and of course I was disciplined and then subsequently fired for rudeness - by text message!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!