Which is more important? Attitude or Physique

[Mydavid]

Actually, both are important, but maybe different people have different opinion.

 

For me, I can accept someone whose physique is below average but treats me like his bf.

 

But my friend, on the contrary, he prefers a hot boy even if he is treated just so so.

[+ Keith30309]

For me -> Absolutely Attitude

 

This past summer a met a new escort from Austin... he had an average, toned body but a wonderful attitude about what he was doing, why and the personal gratification he received from it. If he put on 40 pounds I'd hire him again.

A few weeks later I met a porn "star" in another Texas city. He has a great body and attractive look - and is still producing videos... and had a pretty poor attitude and wasn't the slightest bit interested in being with me. It was a throw-away 2-hours.

 

Before hiring I always ask myself "How am I likely to feel after spending time with this person". I don't remember the 6-packs and delts, but I do remember the empathy and kindness.

[happyguy2]

For me -> Absolutely Attitude

 

This past summer a met a new escort from Austin... he had an average, toned body but a wonderful attitude about what he was doing, why and the personal gratification he received from it. If he put on 40 pounds I'd hire him again.

A few weeks later I met a porn "star" in another Texas city. He has a great body and attractive look - and is still producing videos... and had a pretty poor attitude and wasn't the slightest bit interested in being with me. It was a throw-away 2-hours.

 

Before hiring I always ask myself "How am I likely to feel after spending time with this person". I don't remember the 6-packs and delts, but I do remember the empathy and kindness.

I agree with you completely!

[Mydavid]

For me -> Absolutely Attitude

 

This past summer a met a new escort from Austin... he had an average, toned body but a wonderful attitude about what he was doing, why and the personal gratification he received from it. If he put on 40 pounds I'd hire him again.

A few weeks later I met a porn "star" in another Texas city. He has a great body and attractive look - and is still producing videos... and had a pretty poor attitude and wasn't the slightest bit interested in being with me. It was a throw-away 2-hours.

 

Before hiring I always ask myself "How am I likely to feel after spending time with this person". I don't remember the 6-packs and delts, but I do remember the empathy and kindness.

I totally agree with you, but why did you say "If he put on 40 pounds I'd hire him again"? It seems that you will only go back for his physique even though his attitude is very good.

For me, if someone treats me very well, I will return definitely. I sex desire is often fulfilled by the attitude of my partner.

[+ Keith30309]

I totally agree with you, but why did you say "If he put on 40 pounds I'd hire him again"? It seems that you will only go back for his physique even though his attitude is very good.

For me, if someone treats me very well, I will return definitely. I sex desire is often fulfilled by the attitude of my partner.

 

What I meant was that his physique was "average" by the popular standards.

If it became "below-average" it would not make much difference to me because, presumably, his attitude would still be great.

 

Put another way, his attitude is much more important than his physique to me.

[down_to_business]

Physique for the initial hire and attitude if there would ever be a second hire.

[MscleLovr]

When looking for a boyfriend, I've always prized kindness and loyalty first but I consider a handsome face and a ripped, muscled physique to be very important. When hiring, however, I consider those physical characteristics to be of overwhelming importance.

 

But that changed 13 years ago when, newly-single and on vacation in San Francisco, I had a casual hook-up with a younger guy who was pleasant-looking but chubby. He was so passionate in bed, admiring of my looks and build and enthusiastic about my sexual prowess that I had a great time in his bed - a quick date that expanded to fill all afternoon and evening. On parting, he told me I was "every bottom's dream". His attitude was so alluring that it made me realise that attitude always outweighs looks.

[MiamiLooker]

"How am I likely to feel after spending time with this person"

+1

[marylander1940]

Actually, both are important, but maybe different people have different opinion.

 

For me, I can accept someone whose physique is below average but treats me like his bf.

 

But my friend, on the contrary, he prefers a hot boy even if he is treated just so so.

 

Great subject but depends... an escort who tops has to be more proactive directing the whole session, while an escort who bottoms will have to just take it and be more passive.

 

I think the 2 of them matter!

[marylander1940]

Physique for the initial hire and attitude if there would ever be a second hire.

 

Yes, attitude matters for a 2nd hire but also having your life together and a plan for the future. I wouldn't hire someone who is likely to blow the money in clothes or even worse he might use it for drugs.

I know so many escorts who retired with absolutely nothing but stories.

[+ OliverSaks]

Yes, attitude matters for a 2nd hire but also having your life together and a plan for the future. I wouldn't hire someone who is likely to blow the money in clothes or even worse he might use it for drugs.

I know so many escorts who retired with absolutely nothing but stories.

Opening a Fidelity account today.

 

SCARY.

[MikeBiDude]

Attitude....hands down for me.

[marylander1940]

Opening a Fidelity account today.

 

SCARY.

 

I'm glad you have your life together!

 

You're an example to be followed by other escorts!

[mike carey]

Opening a Fidelity account today.

You're 27 and you haven't done so already?

[bigvalboy]

Physique for the initial hire and attitude if there would ever be a second hire.

 

+1

[+ OliverSaks]

You're 27 and you haven't done so already?

I think you're being sarcastic, but I am not even sure... that's the hilarious part.

 

I grew up on the lower side of middle class, and these are pretty much uncharted waters for me.

 

Not that I'm complaining!

[+ sf westcoaster]

When hiring, the initial attraction is based more on physique than attitude, but any additional hires of that same individual will be based exclusively on attitude.

[BasketBaller]

Attitude/personality/demeanor are things I care most about. A great physique or handsome face will catch my eye in an ad, but if the text doesn't suggest an appealing personality, I'm not interested. That makes profiles that are terse or enigmatic frustrating, but if I reach out and the attitude feels right, I'll go for it.

[+ WmClarke]

Attitude. Always.

[mike carey]

For me, both are relevant, you can see physique in an ad, but attitude can only be implied. In the long term, for me attitude is the determinant but appearance may be what puts the man in question into consideration.

[whipped guy]

Attidude definitely and especially in the sense of having a good disposition regarding their personal temperment and outlook. One of my favorite guys is so not my physical type! However, he is so smart and so sweet that I don't care about his physique.

 

Still, in an ideal world the guy has both. One of my greatest disappointments have been meeting guys with the physique of a god who had no clue how to treat a client with respect. They thought that the body alone would sell... well no way!

 

Of course I have also been fortunate to have met guys who have both going for them. Meeting guys who have been blessed by the gods with good looks and a great body and are down to earth is such a turn on!

 

Remember it is not the size of a guy's pecs, but the quality of the heart that beats within those pecs!

[+ nycman]

Attitude is everything.

 

There are thousands of perfect specimens....that I will never hire again because their attidude sucked.

 

And there are many "not so perfect" specimens who were fun to be with...whom I will gladly hire over and over.

[big-n-tall]

In terms of hiring, it's initially the physique. Boyfriend/girlfriend or what have you, it's a bit of both initially. I mean it seems rare in this day and age that people get to know people first, i.e. Grindr and its ilk.

 

Long term though... attitude wins out always. I've hired some guys repeatedly because of their personalities and the fun we have. (Some aren't built at all.) If they have outstanding bodies, it's icing on the cake.

 

I've told many repeats that if their body changed, I wouldn't care. I'd still want to see them. If I've seen the person more than a few times my attraction to them becomes more than just their body. I talked about this before, but one guy I met was very muscled and beefy. He stopped juicing and become chubby. After his body changed, he was reluctant to see me. He thought I wouldn't like him physically anymore. Which couldn't be any further from the truth. I asked him did his voice change (he has an incredibly sexy deep raspy voice)? Was he still a great kisser? Was he still as responsive to touch or whatever I might do to him? Did he still have the upbeat personality that makes it fun to be around him? He responded that nothing changed except the muscles. And yes even being chubby he was still a handsome guy. Even though he retired some time ago, I still see him at least once a year for a weekend.

 

So ultimately if I enjoy your company... the physique eventually won't matter.

[mike carey]

In some ways this is a pointless question. You meet a guy because of what you can see about him. In rare occasions you are thrown together regardless of physical appearance. You stay together (or keep meeting an escort) because of their personality. This is not an absolute, but I suspect it is a fair rule of thumb.

[RandyC]

Attitude... Great attitude can make an average guy HOT... Bad attitude can make a hot guy downright ugly.