Cruising on Kapiolani park Honolulu...? Would you go?

[marylander1940]

I just got this email:

 

"When in Honolulu check out kapiolani park after dark, check from the big banyan tree to surrounding areas, 8-9 pm best time".

 

Should I go?

 

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

Why not? I think it is always fun to try something new.

[jimboivyo]

until you get busted by the hawaii pd for public lewdness

 

why risk the record?

[Lookin]

I just got this email:

"When in Honolulu check out kapiolani park after dark, check from the big banyan tree to surrounding areas, 8-9 pm best time".

 

Hopefully it's not a come-on for a ukulele concert. http://www.picgifs.com/smileys/smileys-and-emoticons/music/smileys-music-677003.gif http://www.picgifs.com/smileys/smileys-and-emoticons/music/smileys-music-677003.gif http://www.picgifs.com/smileys/smileys-and-emoticons/music/smileys-music-677003.gif http://www.picgifs.com/smileys/smileys-and-emoticons/music/smileys-music-677003.gif http://www.picgifs.com/smileys/smileys-and-emoticons/music/smileys-music-677003.gif

[+ glennnn]

Unless there is a curfew or posted closure time, I see no reason why you should not visit this area, just to check it out. Just be careful!

[+ sync]

If the email was from someone I know very well, I might, otherwise no.

[AdamSmith]

why risk the record?

Why would one care?

 

Many of my business colleagues know I hire escorts, having seen me with same at evenings leaving business conference hotel lobbies with gorgeous half-my-age guys on my arm. Nor have I been dishonest when queried.

 

Past a certain age (at least!) one owes it to oneself to construct your life so you can live as you like.

[marylander1940]

Hopefully it's not a come-on for a ukulele concert. http://www.picgifs.com/smileys/smileys-and-emoticons/music/smileys-music-677003.gif http://www.picgifs.com/smileys/smileys-and-emoticons/music/smileys-music-677003.gif http://www.picgifs.com/smileys/smileys-and-emoticons/music/smileys-music-677003.gif http://www.picgifs.com/smileys/smileys-and-emoticons/music/smileys-music-677003.gif http://www.picgifs.com/smileys/smileys-and-emoticons/music/smileys-music-677003.gif

 

that's on the Waikiki beach in front of the 2 towers of the Hyatt and Duke's statue.

[MscleLovr]

As a European, my understanding of US law may well be incorrect so please don't hesitate to put me right.

 

Obviously marylander1940 would be smart enough not to say anything too explicit in talking to a handsome stranger. And I doubt he would engage in sexual activity in public. But surely it would not constitute "public lewdness" if he visited the park, talked to an interested stranger and invited him for a drink elsewhere to get acquainted?

[JayCeeKy]

From Cruisingforsex: (I guess this is the place you are referring to? My main concern would be the Post of Oct. 19, 2010 and Dec.6, 2008)

 

Kapiolani Regional Park

 

Category: Cruisy park near the big Banyan tree in the middle of the park Directions: Located at the end of Waikiki towards the Gold Coast. Bounded by Monsarrat, Kalakaua and Paki Avenues.

 

Posted Jul 15 2015:

 

Place is hit-or-miss. I just got fucked big time by a hot tourist with a huge cock while others watched. Hot! All ages, shapes, and ethnicities. Go weeknights after 3 am, after 8 pm, and weekends after 10!

 

Posted Aug 15 2013:

 

Park is active just after dark in wooded area and open field near fenced goal posts. More oral and mutual jerking, sometimes anal sex on grass, tables, etc.

Problem is that many new to cruising don't know how to cruise, give off poor signals, or just don't know when someone is attracted to them or not.

Early mornings while still dark is also a good time. Catching people before they hit work or while running or swimming/surfing.

Tourists, marrieds and closet dudes show up. Good range of local mixed guys, it's hit and miss with regards to hot bodies. Best action of any place listed on this site. Get a fair amount of people at any given time.

 

Posted Feb 02 2011:

 

Still the best hook up spot, and it can happen in various areas within the park. Tourists and locals alike come here. Best times vary, but I have been lucky with hotties just after sunset and again closer to 10 pm and then again in the early morning hours, around 4 or 5 am. The time just past sunset gets my vote for hot salty surfers finishing up and getting ready to go eat after a sunset surf session.

 

Posted Oct 19 2010:

 

Head to the Banyan tree across from Diamond Head Tennis Center. If that tree could talk! Due to recent HPD patrols and sweeps, be careful. There might be a HPD patrol car parked in the dark by the other park building near Paki Hale. Some of the other trees nearby could have visitors, as well. Haunting could be anytime after 10 pm until about midnight, and then after 2 am when the bars close, up to 4 or 5 am. Technically, the park closes at midnight.

 

Posted Mar 08 2010:

 

Best time is just after dark, around 7 or 7:30 pm, mostly joggers and surfers cruising. New areas of the park are busy and active.

 

One of the hottest cruise areas in Honolulu. You just need to meet and move on to a hotel. Most tourist hotels are within walking distance.

 

Posted Dec 06 2008:

 

Large park area. the previous best sites included the large banyan tree, smaller fat banyan tree, and back tennis courts. These areas are watched by police these days and patrolled regularly with obese undercover agents. The area from the tennis courts to end of park can be very intense and group action is possible with more eyes to watch out. The best times are just after sunset, 6:30 to 7:30 pm, and early morning hours after the bars close. New sites include the open field near the baseball batter's fence/cage and in the wooded areas near the bandstand (not the shell). Also cruisy from parked vehicles and benches in the park.

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Hope this helps.

[rvwnsd]

Unless there is a curfew or posted closure time, I see no reason why you should not visit this area, just to check it out. Just be careful!

 

Why would one care?

 

Many of my business colleagues know I hire escorts, having seen me with same at evenings leaving business conference hotel lobbies with gorgeous half-my-age guys on my arm. Nor have I been dishonest when queried.

 

Past a certain age (at least!) one owes it to oneself to construct your life so you can live as you like.

 

I think @jimboivyo was referring to engaging in any kind of sexual acts in the public park. I'm guessing @marylander1940 would not start going at it under the banyan tree. However, there's a risk of getting caught up in a group that gets hauled down to a police station. Probably would not result in charges, but could put a damper on the rest of the vacation. Of course, it would make for a great story.

[AdamSmith]

I think @jimboivyo was referring to engaging in any kind of sexual acts in the public park. I'm guessing @marylander1940 would not start going at it under the banyan tree. However, there's a risk of getting caught up in a group that gets hauled down to a police station. Probably would not result in charges, but could put a damper on the rest of the vacation. Of course, it would make for a great story.

Very good point!

 

One time in Vegas I had to stop a bar pickup from going down on me in his car in an open parking lot in mid-day, from just that risk. (Not the worst problem to have! )

[marylander1940]

I think @jimboivyo was referring to engaging in any kind of sexual acts in the public park. I'm guessing @marylander1940 would not start going at it under the banyan tree. However, there's a risk of getting caught up in a group that gets hauled down to a police station. Probably would not result in charges, but could put a damper on the rest of the vacation. Of course, it would make for a great story.

 

So many of yinz talking about the times when Times Square was it perfect pickup place for runaway young men... I'm surprised non of yinz so far is bragging about getting laid for free in a park. LOL

[rvwnsd]

So many of you guys talking with nostalgic about the times when Times Square was it perfect pickup place

Parts of Balboa Park in San Diego are still pretty cruisy. I had a friend who would go down there and text me about his exploits. He happened to be a not-yet-tenured professor at San Diego State University. One day when he narrowly escaped the police I asked him what would happen to his chances for tenure were he to get arrested for public lewdness. This is the same person who claimed cocaine usage was better than crystal meth usage because cocaine was naturally-derived.

 

There's a reason I used past tense in referring to our friendship.

[marylander1940]

Parts of Balboa Park in San Diego are still pretty cruisy. I had a friend who would go down there and text me about his exploits. He happened to be a not-yet-tenured professor at San Diego State University. One day when he narrowly escaped the police I asked him what would happen to his chances for tenure were he to get arrested for public lewdness. This is the same person who claimed cocaine usage was better than crystal meth usage because cocaine was naturally-derived.

 

There's a reason I used past tense in referring to our friendship.

 

Let's say common sense (or the use of condoms) didn't apply to your "friend". LOL

[+ glennnn]

The August 15, 2013 entry above had an interesting sentence: "Problem is many new to cruising don't know how to cruise....". Yeah! I wouldn't have a clue, never having cruised before. But, how does one learn? I'm not sure I'm brave enough, but, of course, I have a lifelong fantasy of getting on my knees for a stranger and I would try with some support and guidance.. Is this a subject that my bros here would offer instruction on if I started a thread? Are there others who are innocent and inexperienced like me? Have you ever successfully cruised?

[rvwnsd]

Let's say common sense (or the use of condoms) didn't apply to your "friend". LOL

LOL, indeed. To the best of my knowledge, he used condoms when fucking. He only cruised to give blowjobs, you see.

 

Of course, I agree with you that he did not use common sense. Always wonder what happened to him.

[+ purplekow]

I have always been oblivious to the come ons of others when I pass through an area with cruising. I also tend to be a bit reticent to make the first move. Needless to say, my success rate with cruising is very low.

[Lookin]

One time in Vegas I had to stop a bar pickup from going down on me in his car in an open parking lot in mid-day, from just that risk.

 

I was not going down on you.

 

I thought I had dropped my lucky token. http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif

 

http://motorsblog-sandbox-yi7vl.ebayc3.com/motors/blog/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/floor-dimmer-600.jpg

 

"Problem is many new to cruising don't know how to cruise....". Yeah! I wouldn't have a clue, never having cruised before. But, how does one learn?

 

Can't speak for everyone, but a pair of faded tight cutoffs and a big smile always did the trick for me.

 

Of course, this was fifty years ago and things may have changed a bit since then. http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif

[jimboivyo]

Why would one care?

 

Many of my business colleagues know I hire escorts, having seen me with same at evenings leaving business conference hotel lobbies with gorgeous half-my-age guys on my arm. Nor have I been dishonest when queried.

 

Past a certain age (at least!) one owes it to oneself to construct your life so you can live as you like.

 

there's a big difference between a hotel meeting and hooking up in a park

 

yeah, live life. be auntie mame. until you get busted in a park for having your dick out and end up with that on your record

 

not saying to not have fun, just use your head if you have a lot to lose

[AdamSmith]

I was not going down on you.

 

I thought I had dropped my lucky token. http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif

 

http://motorsblog-sandbox-yi7vl.ebayc3.com/motors/blog/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/floor-dimmer-600.jpg

LMAO

 

You know how I jump to conclusions.

[Lookin]

You know how I jump to conclusions.

 

Among other things. http://www.boytoy.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

until you get busted by the hawaii pd for public lewdness

 

why risk the record?

 

The voyeur in me was posting, not a law-abiding citizen.

[JayCeeKy]

"Problem is many new to cruising don't know how to cruise....". Yeah! I wouldn't have a clue, never having cruised before. But, how does one learn?

From Actoronto.org (emphasis added)

 

Cruising 101: Some Tips

• You can tell a lot from someone’s stare or eye gazing. Look for gentle body contact when you walk past someone. When you walk past someone and if you’re interested, look back after a couple of seconds. If he looks back at you, he might be interested too!
  
• Don’t be overly aggressive. When someone tells you they’re not interested, just let it go. Don’t be pushy.
  
• Spend some time observing how others cruise in the space. This is the best way to learn.
  
• Know what you want and know your limits. Be clear in your mind of what you do and don’t want. Don’t feel pressured to do anything. You can stop sex at any time if you’re not feeling comfortable.
  
• Trust your instincts. If someone’s looking a little strange or out of place, it might be best to avoid them.
  
• Spend some time relaxing, and clear your mind. It’s important to be in the right frame of mind when cruising. If you’re feeling depressed or angry, it might not be a good idea to cruise – you may take risks you wouldn’t ordinarily take.
  
• Have fun – sex shouldn’t be too serious. For some guys, sex becomes so important that it becomes almost a chore. It can also create stress if you feel you’ve got to have it, or you have to perform for your partner.
  
• Don’t have unrealistic expectations. You might not always find sex when you want it. It’s okay if you don’t have sex when you cruise. If you get frustrated and depressed about not finding sex, you might be more willing to do things you wouldn’t normally do. Similarly, don’t have unrealistic expectations about meeting new friends through casual sex since many guys are looking for sex and nothing more.
  
• Practice safer sex. Protect yourself and others. Don’t let the adrenaline rush make you do something you wouldn’t normally do and then regret afterwards.
  

If you’re cruising in a public place such as a park or washroom, consider these additional tips:

• Know your rights.
  
• Be discrete. You’re simply putting yourself at risk of getting caught if you have full-out sex in busy public venues.
  
• Do your best to blend in to avoid unwanted attention – that includes the way you dress (sorry, no disco pants).
  
• If you’re in a public space, have an escape plan or route in advance. Know your surroundings well by checking out in advance the area around the location.
  
• Don’t leave a mess; don’t leave litter (condoms, used tissue) or cum shots on the wall/floor as this will only generate complaints. Complaints will generate police/security presence, putting your personal safety at greater risk. Remember, police are obliged to react to complaints.
  

I think the advice to "trust your instincts" is the most important. About 20 years ago I was going to cruise a local mall restroom that I had read was very cruisy. The restroom was at the end of a long hall near the Food Court. I spent about 20 minutes in the Food Court observing the comings and goings (no pun intended) and noticed that several nice-looking, early 30's guys were also seated in the Food Court (in different places) but would occasionally get up, confer, and then individually go down the hall to the restroom. It looked too suspicious and I left. I read in the newspaper a few days later that there was a "sex sweep" in that restroom and about a dozen guys were arrested (including school teachers, clergy, truck drivers) for "lewd conduct." Their careers were probably over since their names were published. Caution, caution, caution is rule #1.

[+ quoththeraven]

The second bullet point after "If you're cruising in a public place" should read "Be discreet," not "discrete."

 

Sorry. That is one of my biggest "words frequently confused" pet peeves.