I will speak my mind and let sh-t hit the fan

[Edward]

I am glad that on services such as Rentmen there is such diversity. What one man will call a hottie I would not even take a second look at. There seems to be someone for everyone. What I don't like it when I state my preference I a am called racist.

[big-n-tall]

Huhn? Did I miss something... a posted tyraid maybe... or did you just feel like sharing?

[CatnameFelix]

Are you a client or an escort? I don't know everyone on here, but if you're a client, you know you don't have to state all your preferences in your profile, just hire who you like.

[Edward]

Client. But I have been asked on this message center, when I ask recommendations. What I am looking for.

[big-n-tall]

Btw we all have our preferences and prejudices, for good and for bad. I don't know you or your history so I can't praise or fault you for your choices.

 

However, I'm going to bring up a story. I have a friend who has only dated Asian women his whole life. In this context, when someone tells me "it's my preference" it implies (to me anyway) that they tried something else and came to the conclusion that they preferred something particular over something else.

 

Anyway, my friend said it was his preference to date only Asian women. So I asked him has he ever dated any other race of woman? His answer was no. So I then asked him how can he quantify if he prefers one type over another if he's never tried the other type. He had no answer.

 

I can't fault him for his choices because I know he's a decent guy and not coming from a place of prejudice. It just made me wonder what happened/what did he encounter to color (no pun intended) his vision so.

 

And not that you asked, but my preference is dick, with an occasional splash of va-jay-jay. If I find the person attractive, no matter size, race, or what have you... If we click, we click all over the place.

[+ glennnn]

If you are not being called out in a public, reputation-hurting way, ignore it. Only you can know what is in your heart and mind, AND why it's there. We all have prejudices; unless they are leading you to hurt others, they are no body's business but yours.

[+ sync]

I am glad that on services such as Rentmen there is such diversity. What one man will call a hottie I would not even take a second look at. There seems to be someone for everyone. What I don't like it when I state my preference I a am called racist.

 

I think it's an unfair stretch to label a preference a prejudice or racism.

[caliguy]

Racism applies when you specifically exclude races with statements like "no blacks".

[CatnameFelix]

I think it's an unfair stretch to label a preference a prejudice or racism.

I think it comes down to what is meant by preference. If you prefer to date one race or another, I wouldn't call you racist, I think you're missing out, but that's that. Now do you also prefer to have friends that are all that same race,work with that same race, and live in a community that is made up of that race because it makes you comfortable, then I start to question what you mean by preference.

[+ sync]

I think it comes down to what is meant by preference. If you prefer to date one race or another, I wouldn't call you racist, I think you're missing out, but that's that. Now do you also prefer to have friends that are all that same race,work with that same race, and live in a community that is made up of that race because it makes you comfortable, then I start to question what you mean by preference.

 

I am referring to the OP's choice of escorts. I do not know the OP's everyday lifestyle choices.

[Guest RexB]

Edward, I know what you mean. I have learned to not express my racial preference on here because it seems that there are many preferences that are OK but there's just one which is not. There are people (and not just on here) who are looking for any little thing to justify screaming "Racist"! My observation has been that those who are seeing racism everywhere they look are actually seeing their own unacknowledged racism in others, but never in themselves: "Oh no, not me, it's them". It's the same with people who are always judging others and seeing others as guilty. One who believes he himself is guilty will see guilt in everyone else while he maintains his own "face of innocence". When I see anyone guilt-tripping others I know that it's not to be taken seriously---they're just projecting their own imagined guilt onto others because they think the way to get rid of it is to dump it onto someone else.

[+ goosh69]

It's our racist society and media that shapes our "preferences" from a very early age. Fact.

[+ sync]

It's our racist society and media that shapes our "preferences" from a very early age. Fact.

 

I understand the perception(s), but they are two different words that mean two different things, and we do ourselves a huge disservice by interpolating them:

 

preference

noun

1.

the act of preferring

2.

something or someone preferred

 

racism

noun

1.

a belief or doctrine that inherent differences among the various human racial groups determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one's own race is superior and has the right to dominate others or that a particular racial group is inferior to the others.

[Becket]

I do not date or hire men of color. That does not make me a racist. If you think it does, then go ahead. It doesn't affect me at all.

[Lab12]

As a man of color myself, I do not fault people over their preference of one race to the other, it is their choice to make and one has to respect that. Sexual attraction and sexuality is too complex to really sum up someone's preference in just one word. A lot of sociological and psychological variables go into informing someone's choice in this matter. However, if at all possible, I hope the world will one day be devoid of some of these choices based differences that people have no control over such as the color of their skin, gender and whom they chose to love.

[+ BOZO T CLOWN]

Edward, I know what you mean. I have learned to not express my racial preference on here because it seems that there are many preferences that are OK but there's just one which is not. There are people (and not just on here) who are looking for any little thing to justify screaming "Racist"! My observation has been that those who are seeing racism everywhere they look are actually seeing their own unacknowledged racism in others, but never in themselves: "Oh no, not me, it's them". It's the same with people who are always judging others and seeing others as guilty. One who believes he himself is guilty will see guilt in everyone else while he maintains his own "face of innocence". When I see anyone guilt-tripping others I know that it's not to be taken seriously---they're just projecting their own imagined guilt onto others because they think the way to get rid of of it is to dump it onto someone else.

 

Agreed. As an example, just peruse the Politics & Religion forum. Some of the forum members there demand pure leftist orthdoxy from posters. They scream "racist, racist, racist" at anyone who challenges Clinton's policies and rhetoric. Independent thinkers and conservatives are mocked and subjected to the old, tired, racist name-calling.. Sad but true.

 

Bozo

[Epigonos]

Society in the United States has become so dominated by political/social correctness that it would in many cases actually be funny if it weren’t so sad. Many people have come to see preference and prejudice as equivalent. Therefore if I prefer the color red I am obviously prejudiced against all other colors. Therefore if I prefer escorts who are bodybuilders I am obviously prejudiced again twinks. Recently a poster, on this site, was accused of using a racist expression when he used the cliche “call a spade a spade” without the accuser being aware that the expression did not relate to any ethnicity but rather to a garden implement. Frankly we all need to lighten up and stopping looking for and finding prejudice where it doesn’t exist.

[mattr]

Preferences can change over time so you can't ascribe racism to preferences. I was only attracted to white men until about 5 years ago... then Hispanic men caught my eye... now I am enamored by black men.

[rvwnsd]

...However, I'm going to bring up a story. I have a friend who has only dated Asian women his whole life. In this context, when someone tells me "it's my preference" it implies (to me anyway) that they tried something else and came to the conclusion that they preferred something particular over something else.

 

Anyway, my friend said it was his preference to date only Asian women. So I asked him has he ever dated any other race of woman? His answer was no. So I then asked him how can he quantify if he prefers one type over another if he's never tried the other type. He had no answer....

 

My first impression was "this interpretation of the word 'preference' is too narrow and literal." Being a word nerd myself, however, I thought better of that notion and realized that "preference" is truly the wrong word. You friend is stating what he likes. I do not think he is prejudiced against women who are not Asian nor do I think he is bigoted. Nonetheless, "preference" is the wrong word for the reasons you stated.

[+ José Soplanucas]

If I prefer darker skin men, that does not mean I am not going to date or hire lighter complexion guys. If I prefer athletic men, it does not mean I never feel attracted to other physical complexions. And the list can go on. Now if I say I prefer Black men, but I am actually meaning I do not want to date o hire a White man, so yes I would be a racist. I think.

[rvwnsd]

...Now if I say I prefer Black men, but I am actually meaning I do not want to date o hire a White man, so yes I would be a racist. I think.

 

I don't think that constitutes being a racist.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I don't think that constitutes being a racist.

 

You are actually right, that is not what I intended to say. You would not be a racist just because of that, but that one would be a racist behavior. We all have some.

[+ Truereview]

Ok! I'm a racist! I prefer dick over pussy. Now, will someone please come over and administer some sort of corporal punishment?

[Lab12]

Ok! I'm a racist! I prefer dick over pussy. Now, will someone please come over and administer some sort of corporal punishment?

Hahahahahaha I'd gladly do the honors!!!

[big-n-tall]

My first impression was "this interpretation of the word 'preference' is too narrow and literal." Being a word nerd myself, however, I thought better of that notion and realized that "preference" is truly the wrong word. You friend is stating what he likes. I do not think he is prejudiced against women who are not Asian nor do I think he is bigoted. Nonetheless, "preference" is the wrong word for the reasons you stated.

 

Word nerd!!!!